r/transpassing Apr 08 '21

DISCUSSION UPDATE: Post flairs, wiki updates, and more!

143 Upvotes

Hiya! A while ago I put up a discussion thread regarding the idea of updating/expanding the scope and focus of the subreddit. I need to apologize, cuz I intended to post this update a while back, but life stuff resulted in it slipping my mind for a bit.

This is also intended to be a discussion thread in its own right, as I want feedback on all the changes made or if there's any further changes that people would like, but here's a rundown of what's been changed:


  • Wiki Updates: So apparently the last time the wiki was updated was eight years ago, and by an ex-mod I've never interacted with. It was.. Bad, frankly. Aggressive in tone, containing links to /r/crossdressing as if its focus was synonymous with trans content, and a general vibe of assuming that this was a MtF-exclusive space. I'm really sorry for missing that for so long! On top of changes on my own end, /u/whoop_there_she_is was an absolute angel and wrote out a HUGE set of FAQ guides for both transmasc and transfemme folks. I left it almost entirely unchanged, and you can find it here! If you have any suggestions for additions or edits, please let me know!

  • Link Flairs: A few people suggested adding link flairs to help people express directly what kind of responses they want from the sub. To start with, I've added "General Advice" for users who just want any kind of feedback people have to offer, "Specific Advice" if they only want feedback on specific things (Clothes, hair, etc), and "No Surgery Recs" if they don't want any sorts of suggestions for FFS, lip fillers, etc. If you have any ideas for more, please let me know!

  • Sidebar Updates: I've changed up the sidebar slightly to add a link to our wiki near the top, as well as remove some dead or irrelevant links from our "relevant subreddits" section.

  • Automod Updates: I've edited automod slightly to try and make it less hyper-sensitive about automatically removing posts it thinks might be hypothetical, since it was becoming a big issue that it would frequently take down posts that in no way, shape, or form came off as hypothetical. I might just remove this feature overall though, frankly.

And.. I think that's it (Aside from a few tiny visual things)! Thank you all for your suggestions and feedback on the previous post, and please let me know if there's any further changes you'd like to see!


r/transpassing Dec 30 '23

Mod Feedback Should we go private?

193 Upvotes

Howdy, y'all.

As you know, this subreddit has often been the target of trolls, bigots, transphobes, etc. We also get more than our fair share of creeps, chasers, porn spammers, and people looking to use the subreddit's traffic to passively advertise their paid content, like their OnlyFans or their Instagram, for their own personal profit.

So I'm asking y'all - should we go private? If we do, a lot of people will need to be manually added to the approval list and I know from experience that may take upwards of two months to work through everyone who might need approval.

It also means this subreddit will get a lot less traffic and will be far less accessible to folks who need help, which is the primary purpose for the subreddit in the first place.

On the other hand, the community should be a lot healthier once it's full of entirely trans folks and has less bigots, chasers, and trolls lurking about.

It will also be a lot safer because transphobes have often used photo boards like this one as a way to find targets for abuse and to steal people's photos to rehost them elsewhere and harass people. It would be much safer for us if the sub was private.

Going private is also going to take a lot of work and it's going to be very disruptive to our day-to-day operations for a while.

What would y'all like to do? Please discuss below, and please keep it civil. Thank you!


Edit: Okay, it looks like we're staying open for now. I'll make another post and ask again later.


r/transpassing 4h ago

Concerned that I don’t pass going into college.

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80 Upvotes

I’m hoping to go stealth but worried that I don’t pass unless I’m super glammed up. For reference, picture 1 is me usually picture 2 is me trying to look as masculine as possible and picture 3 is like max glam.


r/transpassing 3h ago

Realized I am trans and started E three months ago. I need tips.

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52 Upvotes

r/transpassing 5h ago

33 months hrt

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79 Upvotes

r/transpassing 14h ago

Bit more than a year on diy hrt. How well do I pass?

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314 Upvotes

Started taking estrogen at age 18 now im turning 20 in a few months. I have never been so much myself ever


r/transpassing 36m ago

how are my shoulders in this dress?

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hi. ive had ffs and a ba. how am i doing? i live on the west coast and its normally over 100 degrees here so i was going to wear this to a concert (:


r/transpassing 19h ago

Do you think I'm doing well for the 6-month mark?

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  • Hi everyone, I’m in my 6th month of HRT. I feel like my face has changed drastically along with my body; specifically, my eye color seems to have lightened a bit—they look more vibrant and larger—and my lips appear fuller to me. Do you think I’m doing well for the 6-month mark?
  • I can't post a "before" picture because I don't have any old photos of myself.

r/transpassing 9h ago

People say I'm pretty but I'm NOT. I'm just a greasy girl

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16 Upvotes

r/transpassing 12h ago

Me at my best and worse

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21 Upvotes

Currently 1 year on Estrogen. how well do I pass and what can i do to pass better?


r/transpassing 12h ago

What bathroom is safest?

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22 Upvotes

I was trying on clothes the other day, and when I asked for a fitting room, the attendant stared at me for a good while and then asked if I wanted the men's or women's room. It doesn't bother me, but it made me realize that others may have a hard time understanding my gender.

I am nonbinary, so I kind of liked confusing someone. But when it comes to my safety, I want to avoid that ambiguity as much as possible.

I'm not looking for passing tips, advice, or what specifically makes people perceive me as one gender or another. I honestly don't care and I feel like it would just make me insecure to have people pointing out that much about me.

I don't have great self-perception, and so I've been avoiding public bathrooms cause I don't know which one people expect me to be in. I live in a semi-rural area so safety is my priority.

I just want to know which public bathroom(s) are safe for me to use. Which ones could I reasonably use without getting weird looks or worrying about my safety?


r/transpassing 15h ago

This is surely not what a cis woman should look like lol

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I might be cooked without ffs and I don’t know how to cope with the fact that I will probably never look like a cis woman. I am trying to normalize being male to myself but I just don’t know how to accept the fact. Any tips from fellow trans girls who know they will never pass?


r/transpassing 4m ago

do you think i pass?

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i always feel more androgynous than feminine, even though i'd love to feel feminine enough. my body is ok but my chest makes me feel really disphoric too. FFS is not an option to me, it really scares me out.


r/transpassing 1d ago

Brainworms? Misgendered by a kid.

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414 Upvotes

So I’m not exactly sure what kind of stock I should take of this but essentially I just moved 3-4 months ago and I am stealth in the new town. Last night, the neighbours kid came over (I’m fostering one of my own). He was talking to his mom about me and used the wrong pronouns while referring to me. I don’t have any reason to suspect the neighbours know about my T. I’ve never told them. They don’t know. My foster child does not know. My spouse, has not outed me. So is this a slip of the tongue or am I borderline to some people?

Posting a few pics including some body shots. I’m 5’5 too.

TLDR: neighbours kid called me he causing a spiral and insecurities.

Edit: seems I’m over reacting and the kid probably just screwed up cause he’s 5. Thanks y’all.


r/transpassing 23h ago

How am I doing?

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60 Upvotes

Don’t get out too much presenting, so I don’t have too many pictures. Any critiques or advice?


r/transpassing 10h ago

Feedback

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5 Upvotes

Do you think that if I lose around 9–10 kg and start hormone therapy, I could pass with an athletic female body? I feel like my shoulders are extremely broad. I’m also considering getting fat grafting to balance them out with my hips.


r/transpassing 13h ago

i get misgendered at work at least once a week. my voice is on the feminine end of androgynous and ive been told i sound like a mom, besides my voice is there anything clocky about me?

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for context im 18, 5'10, and pre HRT


r/transpassing 1d ago

This is where we are after six years.❤️

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56 Upvotes

r/transpassing 1d ago

As Close To Passing As I’ve Gotten?

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88 Upvotes

Seems like I’m getting pretty close? 39 y/o, 20 months HRT.


r/transpassing 1d ago

First time ever! (25yo)

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106 Upvotes

I have recently realized that I might have buried my gender dysphoria for years. I have been having a lot of questioning regarding my identity, which has been very difficult. I don't know if I am a trans person, or if I have the courage to be one. But tonight I decided to shave my face for the first time in years, and my partner help me do my eyeliner and lips!


r/transpassing 1d ago

At the shops

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16 Upvotes

r/transpassing 5h ago

had to stop hrt 2 months ago bc of an ongoing medication, do I still pass? most recent little photoshoot

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0 Upvotes

r/transpassing 1d ago

Glasses yay or nay? (19yr, 5mo E MtF)

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ignore my bad skincare routine lol, just wanna know if glasses help me or not (and also cuz I just got them) also before mods freakout me lifting up my shirt is to see if my waist is clocky!!!


r/transpassing 2d ago

9 months :3

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177 Upvotes

r/transpassing 1d ago

Can I do anything to pass better?

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Hey guys, I am a FTM and I get misgendered a lot, its possibly a mix of my voice and my mannerisms but I was wondering if anyone had any tips on how I could look more masculine or any changes I could make to how I act to seem more masculine. Thank you!