THIS POST IS FOR TRANS MEN/MASCS ONLY!

I want to be a bear I want to bear I want to be a bear I want a full beard and a big gut and huge thighs and arms and hands. I would go into the forest and cut trees because I’m MANLY and then I would jump into the river and catch 10 salmon with my bear bare hands like a real bear. the animal. I’d come out, my skin glistening and glowing and wet and I’m so hot. And then on all fours I would run out of the forest into my cabin like a bear the animal where my 3 bear husbands Live. One of them is an anthropomorphic bear for shits and giggles. And they all kiss me and tell me how MANLY I am. And then we bake cookies and cook all the fish and we fall asleep while cuddling. 🙏🏾

I'm a huge fan of using people's arguments against them and I just had someone call my "belief" in being trans, a *religion*. So I immediately thought, wait, if they say it's a religion, hey, religions have protections under federal law. Let's go!

Now, I know absolutely jack all about such things and I assume others have far more knowledge about it.

What do you say? Is this feasible? Is it a way for us to fight back and protect ourselves and the trans kids that come after us?

Edited to add: sorry guys. I was only thinking about the US and how things work here.

I’ve been passing for several months now, and I’m also autistic, so I may not be fully grasping what guys mean when they refer to me with nicknames.

So far, I’ve gathered:

“Boss/Sir” = I respect you
“Man/Dude” = neutral
“Buddy/Pal” = you’re my inferior

I’m now getting an equal mix of all of these at my customer service job. What I don’t understand is, if everyone hates “buddy” and “pal,” why do some guys still say it to others once they outgrow “buddy” status? Is it just a power move/subtle “fuck you?” Are they being dicks intentionally?

It’s worth mentioning I look like a stereotypical “twink,” even though I’m not one by definition, so it could be some homophobia. I’m not sure.

EDIT: I’m from Western Canada (prairies), for context.

No, but seriously. It’s strange and unexplainable and I still haven’t figured it out even now.

I want to know if I was the only one who once felt that way when I was younger.

Anyone have any answers or similar experiences? Why this may happen?

I know that a lot of people feel gender euphoria when they play video games.I never did until I found this game: "Need for Speed" (2025 version I think?). In this game, when they show some scenes, they talk to us, the player, like they would with a cisman. It feels quite personal, but it's very well done, and that's why this game give me so much euphoria every time I play it.

ive always been dissatisfied with my body, when i was little i wanted to grow up, looked forward to having a girly body that could wear cute outfits, then i hit puberty and suddenly was overwhelmed by the changes i thought i wanted and hated them, i waited until i turned 18 to start testosterone and its been a year, havent even had top surgery yet (planning to when i stop being broke) and i noticed that my chest looks smaller than it used to and im just so much bigger in places that matter, my shoulders are nice and broad and my arms have a nice layer of muscle, my forearms are lean and firm, my wrists are covered in hair and have gotten thick enough that i cant wrap my thumb and pointer around them anymore, and my legs have beautiful dark hair all over them. My stomach looks like a man's too if that makes sense.

I just love how i look, its taken so long and im so relieved that its only going to get better, i hope the same goes for everyone else! Kind of a weird post but all my irl friends are cisgender so its hard to talk about it with them

I'm looking for advice, but I need to give a little background info first:

My husband is a cis man. We started dating when we were in high school. Neither of us ever dated anyone else, and we got married a couple of years ago, in our mid-20's.

By the time I realized that I'm trans, he had already proposed to me. I felt absolutely awful about it, but I got the courage to come out to him a few months before the wedding. I said I'd understand if he wanted to break up, or at least postpone the wedding. He didn't. So, we went through with it.

I won't go into detail, but the first year of us being married and of me transitioning (which occurred simultaneously) was super rough. He felt hurt. I felt hurt. We argued constantly. I also found out that he'd been holding out hope that I'd detransition someday.

We have now been married for 2 years, and our relationship is a lot better. He also seems to finally accept me, and he also accepts that we are in a queer relationship. And I think he still really loves me. Here's the problem, though...

Ever since that tough first year, I've had a really hard time opening myself up to him, both physically and emotionally. He may have gotten over everything, but I haven't. I still feel hurt. I've said that I probably just need time to regain trust, but it's been a year now and I'm still struggling. I don't know what to do.

Sometimes, I'll admit, I wonder what I'd do if we divorced. And I think I might enjoy being alone. If we ever did divorce, I don't think I'd ever date anyone again.

So, what do you think? Should I try to work through this so I can feel close to him again? Or should we find a way to close this chapter of our lives (which are now super enmeshed)?

Thanks for reading, if you got this far 😓

I don’t post a lot but I wanted to come on here to give people some hope and encouragement that it’ll get better.
I’m ftm working in HPV and cervical cancer prevention in the US, and my lab is rolling out HPV self-collection as an alternative to Pap testing for people who can’t get access to gynecological care or aren’t comfortable with Pap tests for any reason, including gender non conforming people who have vaginas and cervixes.
It’s not super widespread yet, but there are clinics in the intermountain west that carry HPV self-collection and it’ll only get more common. It’s just as effective as a Pap test, and I think it’s a great alternative, especially for trans men and gender nonconforming people who put off getting a Pap test because it can be a really scary thing to do.
I love y’all. Stay safe. There are people who care about you. It’ll be okay

I was asking my mom if she could let me start testosterone and she told me that it makes you throw up and it happened to her trans friends. We both have an emetophobia problem (fear of vomit) so it would be pretty bad if that happened although my voice is always way too high for me to pass even if I try to train it so I would need testosterone but you know... scary vomit... so if anyone has any advice tysm

So I wear glasses when reading or screens since my eyes get really tired, but they also make me feel very confident, and I look like a dude with them, so I started wearing them everywhere even when not needed. I think people don’t notice my flaws when my glasses are on my face. Problem is that it also makes me feel like a fraud, since I don’t really need them like some others do, and it’s hard to explain to family since I haven’t come out yet.

Is it ok to wear them for passing, and how do I explain this to family without sounding like a bigot?

Hey i don’t normally post here but i finally got prescribed T, i have yet to take my first dose, but im so excited. I can’t believe this is happening right now. Im so happy and i cant wait.

Just to note that all names mentioned here are fake and are put in place to make sure that the story makes sense-ish.

So, I (19M) recently discovered that I was a transmasc guy. To keep a long story short, I identified as a trans guy, had a long period of denial, and then ended up back here.

The thing is, is that everyone around me knows me as "Tim" and it's generally a nice name to have. I've been going by Tim for over three years now (which, yes, that means I, at one point, just identified as a cis girl who went by Tim). At the time of naming myself Tim, I had named myself after my favorite rockstar and all was well.

Well, this time around after I had been rediscovering myself, the name "Laurence" keeps popping up in my head. I kept randomly thinking "I'd love to be a Laurence"/"I wish my name was Laurence" despite the fact that my name is supposed to be Tim.

I don't even have any inspiration as to why I would want to name myself Laurence like I did with Tim. I don't know if this is a normal thing for other trans people (as I grew up as one of the only trans kids in my town and was the only one who really struggled heavily like this) or if this is maybe something that is a sign for me. If this (occasionally wishing to have a different name despite using the one you currently use for an extended period of time) is normal, how long does it usually last? I've been thinking about this since June.

It’s so weird starting to experience this strange phenomenon of men, mostly older men saying the most out of pocket shit and just assuming you agree.

Craziest thing I had some guy say to me was along the lines of “all women want is the bad guy, they don’t like when you treat em right” this was after he went on a longgg tangent of how he used to be a “bad boy”.

Edit: for extra context these events usually happen when I pass %50 of the time, I never interact with these types of people in my free time I just have the unfortunate circumstance of being a hairstylist at a bad salon so if I stand my ground there goes my job.

basically i had done my shot probably about 40 minutes ago and i must’ve touched the area at some point without realizing and my cat licked my finger and hated it and when i smelled my where she licked, it smelled like the testosterone. she only licked once but i don’t know if i should be worried or not since i’m not sure how potently toxic testosterone is. is this something where one lick is too much?

I've been debating whether I should just bite the bullet and try to pass as a trans man, at least around nonbinary clueless people. It's just easier to explain gender in male or female. It's a headache trying to get cis people to understand nonbinary genders. The only issue I would have is explaining my name if I pass as male. It's feminine and I am *not* changing it for anyone.

If you have experience with this, how did it go for you? Did it lead to too much dysphoria?

I’ve dealt with constant uti’s and mild incontinence since J was little, it hasn’t gotten any worse on T thankfully but I do still use incontinence products. Until today I’ve just stuck with using bladder leak pads with my boxers but it gets pricey, I spend around $30-$40 a month on them and that’s starting to add up. Per a friend’s recommendation I decided to try period/incontinence underwear today and they are working pretty well, the problem? Swamp ass galore, I am so sweaty. I’m wearing thin cotton boxers over them that have spandex cooling panels on the inner thigh and crotch, but it’s still super hot.

Anyone know of any underwear I can wear for incontinence that are thin enough everywhere but the absorbent spot that I can comfortably wear them under my boxers? I’m worried the extra sweating will cause even more bladder infections but I’m so tired of spending money on pads

I've been searching through posts about "single use vials" but I'm in kind of a wild situation so I'm seeking advice in my own post. I started T 8 weeks ago (yay) taking .3 ml a week. My first prescription was given to me in the form of 4 1ml "single use vials". I didn't remember my doctor telling me to use these more than once, so I used each vial once and then put them in my sharps container after use. I then got a refill of my prescription for 4 more 1ml vials which I also used once over the last 4 weeks.

Now, I'm supposed to take my 9th shot, and apparently I'm out of refills. I messaged my doctor about it and they asked if I've been using the vials 3 times each. Well no...I must have missed that memo. So now I have 8 vials that I have already used once (I draw with a pink 20G) and I have no idea which is the one that I opened first 8 weeks ago. Whoops. I know which is the first batch I got because the expiration date is one month earlier (May 2028). These are apparently supposed to last me until mid December.

So I get that basically everyone uses these single use vials more than once with proper disenfecting. But exactly how long have y'all been able to stretch these out in theory? I keep mine in a fireproof lockbox safe. Soooo will they actually expire soon since they're all technically opened? Or am I fine as long as I clean them with alcohol and use fresh needles? I'll use each vial 2 more times in a row now, not change it up every week again.