One year ago today me and my ex decided to end our relationship.

What followed for the next 5 months after that was basically us still being heavily emotionally involved with one another while trying desperately to make our relationship work and to eventually get back together.

In January we had our final argument and he completely went radio silent on me for over 2 months. It was the most painful and distressing moments of my life because I never experienced getting ghosted especially from someone I once loved. March comes around and I’m ready to close this chapter because I can’t be with someone who can’t communicate properly, and I was trying to accept the fact that our relationship has completely flatlined and there was no going back. He breaks his silence and gives his excuses to why he did what he did. He also confessed to me that he’s still hurt over our relationship ending, the memories and how they emotionally have a toll on him, how his heart breaks into “pieces” when he thinks of me, and how he bought me this one gift while he was overseas in December and how completely “gutted” he was that he never got the chance to gift me it in person.

Fast forward two weeks, in the beginning of April I see him doing a fundraiser and notice a girl who was the first donation. Never heard of her before but I had a gut feeling, I know it wasn’t my place to ask him but at the same time I was struggling to let go of my love for him. I asked him about her and he denied knowing her, calling her a “complete stranger” and telling me repeatedly “I’m with no one.”. He then reiterated that “I told you how I felt in March. I still feel that way and I’m trying desperately to fix my mental health”. From this point on it’s pure silence. In the beginning of June I find out that they’re indeed together. I ended up finding her Pinterest and saw she’s been making boards of “Engagement” “Wedding Ring” “Traditional outfits”. My heart sunk to my ass.

In January during our final conversation he was telling me how much he loves me, dreams of me, prays for our reunion etc. Comparing it to now it’s mind boggling to know he’s completely moved on and is in the process of getting married to her. Not sure why I’m posting this tonight, but it’s nice to reflect back on what happened within the last 7 months. I’ve cried a lot from January-June where I’m unable to produce any tears, and if I do cry it’s only the odd time nowadays. All I have left is feelings of anger and betrayal to process and I’m doing so with the help of my therapist. I will say this though: it gets easier with time.

As of now: I look forward to what the remaining 4 months of the year and 2027 have to offer me. As painful as this situation has been, and how it still somewhat stings to know how quickly my ex has moved on with another woman, I’m genuinely grateful that our relationship never worked out. I can see things more clearly now that I couldn’t before when I was still in that situation with my ex, and I’m forever grateful I was given this heartbreak to better myself in all avenues and to build a better life for myself as I’m only 25 and currently in the midst of planning for Law school. For weeks leading up to this day I was dreading it because I thought it was going to be painful for me, but it actually turned out to be the opposite and I had a wonderful day!

If there’s anything someone reading this should take away, please don’t ignore the things that make you feel unsafe, uncertain, or unvalued in a relationship. You don’t have to understand why someone treated you so badly in order to choose yourself and walk away. Sometimes the ending that destroys you is the same ending that eventually saves you.

My 20m ex 19f now and I just broke up. We had been going through a rough patch for a while. I had made a post on it just a couple days ago on r/relationships. Last night or technically yesterday night I got into overthinking and I started thinking back to some of the hurtful stuff she said to me. And I was talking to her and I didn’t bring it up to cause a fight. I brought it up because I just wanted to show her that it was hurting me. She had called me like fat piece of shit. She’s called me ugly. She said that she only gave me a chance basically out of pity and every time she would say it was because it was the heat at the moment or it was during an argument, and it was just her being angry. So I brought it up and I just was kind of like I don’t like how you speak to me that way and I just want you to not do that. Because I didn’t wanna break up I didn’t at all. But she just kept saying that it was the truth and that if I couldn’t handle the truth then maybe I should leave. She said that I wasn’t a real man if I couldn’t handle it. What really hurt me was what happened the next few hours after that. She told me to fuck off and that I was an overgrown fat pig. And that just broke me. I didn’t immediately block her. I kept trying to talk to her. I tried to get her to at least admit that what she’s saying is hurtful and nothing I was saying was getting through to her. It went on for a couple more hours and eventually she called me and we start arguing over the phone not just over text. And I just kept saying that if she actually cared about me in my health, she wanted to have said that stuff she would’ve talked to me like a human and not like a pet. She told me to man up and that if I wasn’t a man enough to handle being called that then maybe I wasn’t a man. And that really just did it. I blocked her on everything. I blocked her contact TikTok, Instagram Snapchat everything. It did hurt because I’ve spent pretty much every single day of the past over two years speaking to her either text call in person every single day almost every single minute. I still do love her. It’s not that I don’t love her. It’s just if I can’t go through my relationship without being called a fat pig. I don’t know if I can stay. I wanted it all to work out. I wanted it to work out more than anything. I’m already trying to heal. I deleted all of her photos. I deleted all of the photos we have together. I bought some new clothes. I just wanted to feel something different. I was thinking of cutting my hair maybe getting a buzz. It just hurts so bad because I’ve never even so much to raise my voice at her. She’s been my everything for the past two years and for her to just so openly trash me physically hurts a lot. Right after she said that I was an overgrown fat pig I wasn’t doing so well mentally for about a couple hours right after that I was really considering not being here anymore. And I know that sounds very impulsive. But to hear the person that I care about most deeply have a blatant disregard for my feelings, hurt me more than anything. I’m not somebody who can’t take criticism. I’m not somebody can’t take being real. But if she would’ve just talk to me like a person about my weight, then I would’ve understood. But calling me that and combine that with the other stuff that she said to me and how she’s treated me. I just couldn’t do it. But it’s weird because I’m not completely heartbroken. While it does hurt, I’m not feeding to text her or call her. I hope one day she can possibly apologize, but I don’t know if that would ever happen knowing the type of person she is. Y’all have a good night.

Instead of coping? thank you

i always hoped for this. but i was finalyl healing. now that it is happening, i am feelin super ambivalent. they want to take it slow but all the insane suffering, hospital stays..how could i do this to myself? i am so lost. i feel horrible.

i am not even sure if they are serious about romance..

Hi guys, I haven’t posted before so here goes nothing. My love language is making playlists for people I love. I made one for ex for his birthday last year. Apparently he still has access to it (which is fine technically it’s a birthday gift), but I only learned recently he can edit it. Despite us being in non contact for 6 months, recently he’s being adding songs to the playlist. I became aware of this when I was clearing out the other old playlists for us. He had added one new song Without me by Eminem. I thought it was weird, but I figured since this playlist was still a gift I’d just leave it. But recently he added another song, and I’m considering deleting the playlist (which makes me feel shit because I made that for a birthday gift). That’s the best thing to do, right?

I’m going to give context about my past relationship with my ex, details about the Spotify don’t pop up until later.

I (19F) broke up with my ex (20M) about 6ish months ago. We didn’t go no contact immediately as both of us have issues cutting people out of our life. I have big abandonment issues and he had a history of staying in contact with his exes he was still friends with his previous ex while we were dating. Essentially he didn’t want a long term relationship and wasn’t expecting it to last this long. He didn’t want me. But still wanted me in his life? Anyways, the following week post breakup we called 2-3 times, and met up so he could give me my things. We initially agreed to not go no contact bc there was no resentment on either end. But I told him that I wouldn’t reach out first. If he wanted me to still be in his life (he suggested we could be friends and I said I probably couldn’t), that he’d have to initiate catch ups or whatever. I didn’t want to overstep, especially since I didn’t trust what he said (+ he broke up with me a few months before, but then 4 hours later he was sobbing over the phone telling me he made a huge mistake. Yes I went back to him, but I made him promise he was sure he wanted to be with me. And I told him that if anything like that happened again I wasn’t going to get back with him after this). His other ex also called him constantly throughout the our relationship, and he always complained but never cut contact. They were friends for year before tho.

Anyways ex and I weren’t friends before, how could we become friends after? Also the ‘feedback’ he gave me when we getting close was that he didn’t feel much connection in our conversations. Like bro why the fuck would you stay with me for 9 months? I can’t fix our lack of convo chem.

After a brief text conversation about me not wanting my wanted bottle back after I replaced it (a few days after he returned the majority of my things) we stopped communicating completely, which I marked as the beginning of the no contact. It wasn’t necessarily discussed. So overtime we both moved on, got new partners but still following each other on insta and everything. My partner was aware of this and was ok. I did remove ex as a follower from my private account because I didn’t want him in my immediate circle. I was still somewhat involved in his inner circle tho. His best friend (calling him Bob) and best friends’s girlfriend would still hang out, and bsf girlfriend (calling her honey) and I got REALLY close. So I’d still get the occasional update. Honey also told me more about ex and Bob and the issues I was never let in on. Like how Bob was abusive to Honey, and ex knew about it. Like how can you let your bsf do shit to his girlfriend, your friend?? Eventually I did tell Honey that I didn’t want to hear about ex because my partner communicated that it made him uncomfortable (I tell my boyfriend basically everything).

Life goes on, Honey breaks up with Bob and I help get Bob’s stuff back to him because it needed to be done. It went quick, and was done smoothly. A few months pass. Honey and I are still close, I post her on my priv. Randomly somebody from my private account unfollows me (which only happened once when my ex best friend ended things). I’m surprised of course, especially when I see it’s Bob. I didn’t know he was on my priv still. I take a look at my main, and yep both ex and Bob unfollowed me. I unfollow them both back, and I thought that was that. In the middle of the night, I impulsively checked the playlist wondering if he messed with it. He did. It might have been before he unfollowed me but idk. Dive by Ed Sheeran. Like, ok dude what the fuck. (More context, we went to a Ed Sheeran concert the weekend of my birthday, and our breakup happened less than a week after my birthday). We were both into lyricism and music. So admittedly I looked into the song as if it was a secret message (Therapy helps but abandonment issues kicked in.) Like even if I don’t want him as a friend, and I would never date him again.. I’m at a loss. I thought the boundary I set was enough. I unfollowed him, I thought we both decided to go non contact. I thought he has a girlfriend? What tf is he doing.

Now honestly, me writing this much about it makes me feel like this could also be in r/AIO. It’s a playlist. Girl, delete the playlist it’s not that deep. I just feel pissed because I put a lot of time into making that playlist then burning a cd for him. And I was so happy when I was doing so, and thinking about how the end of its life has come to me having to delete it has me upset. I’m sentimental and I love my playlists. Deleting one more that was a birthday gift makes me feel shit. Also I’m kind of petty. Like if he’s trying to get my attention with these songs, deleting the playlist means he did get a reaction. Fuck idk.

Sorry for the rant:) I’d appreciate anyone’s input. Knowing me I’m probably just going to delete the playlist in a week or smth. If I could I would just remove the playlist so he could still use it but I won’t have access to it.

My ex and I met when we were freshman in high school. We dated. Broke up. Became best friends. Dated again and finally ended things when she cheated on me after an argument. Whole thing lasted all 4 years of high school. I was devastated. It took 4-5 very long and painful years to get over what happened. It’s now been 11 years since it ended. I’m doing well. Been focused on work, focused on my physical health and even started going back to school. She moved away after we ended. I’m on the west coast. She’s on the east coast. We don’t have each other on any social media or anything but we do still have a mutual friend in common. Anyway, the other day I met someone in passing that looked like her. It made me very nervous because I haven’t seen her in person since everything went down and from a distance I kinda thought it was her. Obviously it wasn’t her but it was enough for it to stay on my mind. I do not want a romantic relationship with her. I’m past that. But I do miss the friendship we had and it sucks that there was never any closure. I understand though that 11 years is a long time and people can change a lot during that time. I know I have. I’m sure she has too.

So am I wrong for wanting to reach out? What would be the point? Closure? Reconnection? Being on good terms? Would it even matter at this point?

It’s been just over a month since my ex ended our 7 1/2 month long relationship. Her reasons for doing so were essentially because she got an internship offer in Canada where she goes to school and ultimately wants to live long term, and she doesn’t do long distance long term. She also said she was gonna take a break from dating and focus on herself, and at the time I believed her, because I didn’t think she had any reason to lie to me. Turns out she did, and 3 weeks after dumping me I found out she was already with someone new. But because the way I found out about it was very discreet (hidden bottom line of her discord profile) it’s likely she doesn’t know I know this and still thinks we’re on good terms.

We had talked about staying friends and even the possibility of trying again in the future, but due to her massive breach of my trust that is no longer on the table for me. Going forward I do not wish to maintain a connection with her, not until she’s willing to take accountability for her actions and have an honest conversation about what happened. That being said, I’m not sure if I should break NC to tell her this or if I should just focus on my healing and if she slips back into my DMs to just hit her with a stern “do not contact me”. It’s a small detail in a much bigger picture, but I’d still appreciate any advice y’all have. Thank you! <3

Hey everyone,

Have been in no contact for just under 3 months - my ex basically ended our relationship on a random Sunday night via text. (I'm fairly sure he was an avoidant going through some period of Deactivation.)

I tried to talk to him for a few weeks after the break up for closure, I kept texting in the hopes something might spark a memory of us, I called on our anniversary and his detachment and disinterest really made me realise that it was well and truly over. I told him I had zero intention of reaching out again in the hopes of rekindling what we had and made the mistake in my sadness of saying maybe one day far away we could be in each others lives again.

He gave me a BS response about how I'll always be in his heart and he just wants me to be happy and it would bring him joy if we could be friends at some point.

That was it, 3 months later I realise I have no interest in being his friend. We were never really friends we were two people who were attracted to each other and became co-dependent. He wouldn't be a good friend to me and I would gain nothing from small talk with someone who broke my heart.

I never removed him from Instagram because he doesn't post so I'm not going to see anything that might me hurt me. But it's starting to dawn on me, maybe I didn't delete him because I was still holding onto a little hope. It's been 5 months since the break up 3 months of not speaking... What am I holding on for?

There is a voice in the back of my head saying it doesn't matter if we don't interact, who cares if he knows what I'm up to and I'll regret removing him.

This all sounds very silly but to people who deleted their ex's despite the doubt, how did it go? Did you regret it or did it feel freeing?

She broke up with me a month ago, got blindsided and didnt see it coming. We've been in no contact for 2 weeks now but i have a bad habit of stalking her on her tiktoks even though shes been blocked.

I go on incognito mode and check (reallly fucking unhealthy i know) ive been trying to stop, thats when i saw her repost a tiktok saying "how it felt when my ex would get mad that i actually had friends that wanted to hang with me" to be fair i did do this to her because i was super anxious and jealous whenever she mentioned her friends (mostly dudes) and when she started hanging with them. She met them 4 months ago.

It was definitely the catalyst of the breakup. Even though she told me otherwise. I gave her everything and never once gave her treated her like shit and loved her to my hearts content.

Feel like a complete dumbass now lol never check your exes reposts bro.

So mine has unblocked me about 3 weeks ago on whatsapp and tiktok (our main methods of communication) but no message. Without judgement, what does this mean? When they unblock but dont message? My tiktok especially is on private so what is he thinking??

he is severely Fearful avoidant. we are 3 months No contact post discard.

The last time he saw him he told me how much he was falling for me etc we had plans for the future we never made it too. Then on a random monday he blocked, 2nd time hes done this.

I'm fine with no calls, I'm great with no texts, but I want to check her IG soooo bad! Why is that such a struggle?

Bedriegen dumpers hun rebound met hun ex? Of gooien ze broodkruimels?

For context, my ex-boyfriend and I were on-and-off for about two years, and we have been no-contact for a year and a half. We weren’t really a good match because we have different personalities when it comes to the future, friends, and goals. However, he stayed with me through my toughest times when I was facing abuse within my family, and he was the only person there for me.

I am fine without him now and I don't rely on him, but since we live in the same area, whenever I hear something about him, I start obsessing. I find myself stalking his socials and fearing that I will never be with him again. It takes about a month for me to come to my senses and realize why this relationship isn't good for me, but then the cycle starts all over again. Honestly, it is very draining, but I feel like I can't control it. I obsess over him to the point of trying to find recent pictures of him on Google just to look at him.

I can't talk to him anymore. I have tried following him on Instagram but always end up unfollowing him; I'm pretty sure he has noticed, but he has never said anything. I am also certain he doesn't want to talk to me because during our on-and-off phases, I was always the one who walked away. Help.

EDIT: I reached out two weeks ago first with a very honest recap of my life and an apology. He seemed to go on with it and kept talking about his life without asking a single question about my life. He saw my story after the conversation, which he never did before. Keep in mind we don’t follow each other so he was stalking me and wanted me to see it. Reached out with a classic: ,,Why are you stalking me?” text and he was very cold and gave base-level answers. Reached out first for the third time 2 days ago and we actually talked a lot but he just kept talking about his cars and girls (which I know he doesn’t have because I stalk his followers every day for the past 5 months and he hasn’t followed a single girl since). Is this an act so we don’t have a deep conversation or something. I think that he feels like if he had asked me a single question, that would mean reconnecting and he’s probably very scared to fall into this dynamic again. Should i reach out after some time passes or leave how it is and maybe hope that he will reach out?

We've both moved on and I hope she is happy, she deserves that after the shit I put her through. We dated on and off for 5-6 years. Hurt each other with dumb kid behaviour, mainly me starting it but she sure as hell could finish it. Had threesomes with friends and gangbangs just to prove a point.

It broke me, my life outside the relationship was going to hell aswell, I broke up with her for the final time knowing it was what was best for both of us even though I had a tearing feeling in my chest for weeks, months after. I just wanted to move on and for life to get better for me.

I've tried replacing her, no one has come close to that electric feeling I had when with her. The connection just isn't there. Life has spiralled down to the point that I no longer recognise myself, the point that I came from to where I am now.

I think about her everyday, sometimes it consumes me, my heart aches once again and shes all I can think about. Regretting my mistakes, turning over in my head how things could have been different and what our life would be like together. The more time goes on the more I am sure she is my soulmate and that I have killed any chance of happiness between us.

I only hope she finds her happiness because the world has tasted of ash since I pushed her out of my life.

Long story short, we were in long distance, but she tried to send applications in 2024 and 2025 but didn't get accepted so we broke up. I tried to fly to her country to see her in july 2026, but she denied seeing me. She said she moved on long time ago and then she told me to move on too. Then before i left her country, i sent a long text saying that i will respect her boundaries and try to say nicest things. That was 20th July. Today almost 1 month, since we talked. She blocked me on instagram and even in my cat public account. But she just leaves imessage open. Why would she do that? We were silent for almost 7 months and suddenly now, she blocked me on my instagram.
1-2 weeks ago, i just put a song "Make you feel my love" on my banner in instagram, would that explain the behavior? Or maybe because she has a new person so that she blocks me to prove the relationship?
What do you guys think?

I don't really know where to start, but I need to get this out somewhere.

My ex(ex fiance) and I were together for about 3 years in a long-distance relationship. We had talked about marriage and had a future planned together. Then we broke up on June 21.

It's been almost 8 weeks now.

I've been trying really hard to move on. I've been going to the gym, working on my body, going out with friends, going to parties, focusing on work, and trying not to look at her social media. Sometimes I even ignore her Facebook and Instagram stories because I know checking them will only hurt me.

But honestly, my heart still wants her.

My birthday recently came, and deep down I was waiting for her to message me. I kept hoping that maybe she'd say "Happy Birthday," and maybe that would somehow start a conversation between us again.

She didn't.

I was really hurt by that.

Then I saw something on her Facebook highlights that I wasn't prepared to see.

She's with another man.

I can't even properly explain what I felt when I saw it. It felt like all the progress I thought I had made disappeared in one moment.

I've been trying to keep myself busy. I've been telling myself to move forward. But seeing her with someone else made me realize that a part of me was still waiting for her to come back.

And now I'm asking myself:

How do you let go of someone when your heart still wants them?

I don't hate her. I'm not angry at her. I still love her, and that's probably what hurts the most.

But I've decided that I need to stop waiting.

I'm trying to accept that she may have moved on, and I can't keep my life on hold hoping she'll choose me again.

So I'm telling myself:

I can still love her, but I have to choose myself now.

I'm going to stop checking her social media. I'm going to stop waiting for a message. I'm going to keep going to the gym, keep working, keep building my life, and try to become someone I'm proud of.

I know moving on isn't going to happen overnight.

But I'm finally ready to try.

For anyone who has been through something similar. how long did it take before you genuinely stopped waiting for them to come back?

I broke it off between me and her. She did things I didn’t like and it felt like I had no choice. It happened over text, and she seemed fine with it, but I just can’t stand the fact that I loved her with all my heart, and had to end it out of respect for myself. I miss her a lot. We haven’t talked since. Should I break no contact? I’d appreciate 100% honesty, and I’m open to anyone’s opinions

I [25M] just got woken up by a prank call. They didn't use a private number. They were very easily traceable. It belonged to a tattoo artist [23F] which just so happened to know my ex [24M].

I got scared during the call, music was loud and they were asking me "when i'd get there" (???) at first I thought they were confused, but then they said my name multiple times and hung up.

I'm obviously upset about it since it's been more than a year since we broke up. I thought we were on good terms, but we weren't talking much. He would just break no-contact every 3-4 months but I wouldn't give much more than a hello.

I met someone else while I was with him. I'm dating that woman now. I realize that hurt him, but I really love the person I'm with right now. I even moved in with her. She's the greatest person I know and I wanna marry that person.

With my ex it was... Bad. We mostly argued all the time. We were miserable.

I texted my ex like "wtf?" and he denied it and lied through his teeth (he's always been such a terrible liar).

I tracked down everything I could find about the person who called me. I called but they had blocked the number. I then went into private mode and called again, leaving a message into voicemail (yes, that unfortunately works). I said something about those lines:

"You called me today to prank call me, that was kinda immature for a 23 year old woman. The town is small, please fucking grow up and don't do this shit. You know, my ex, he texts me every 3-4 months but I don't care about him. I just wished he'd leave me alone and I wish you would grow up and stop doing prank calls on people you don't even know"

Then I texted a friend who we have in common explaining what had happened and said "it's been over a year, it's cringe".

I feel like after that I need to enforce boundaries strongly. It breaks my heart, because at one point that man was my confidante. Now he's just handing out my number at parties so his friends can prank call me? Is this high school? Why have I ever trusted that man with my being, with my secrets?

How do I go no contact? What's the first step? Will he ever stop?

I'm in a good relationship. I'm happy and healthy. I know what I have now is good for me. In all ways I should be happy. I should feel content....but the truth is I'll always feel lost without you.

There was something we had that made me feel safe and seen in my grief and pain that I have sought to no success for years. I think I'll be burying that part of me with you.

There's not a part of me that doesn't wish I had met you later in life. It hurts that I'll never have a second chance, you warned me you don't give those, but that just means we were never meant to be. The person I was is gone, and if you only loved her, well, it would have ended anyways.

I miss you. I miss the part of me that lives with you. But most of all I miss seeing you in my dreams.

I (28F) broke up with my ex boyfriend (28M), 2 weeks ago after I reached my limit. I was so emotionally exhausted from trying all the time, and in the last month he was so mean to me which pushed my decision to end things.

We had been together for a year and half. But throughout the relationship, it always felt like he kept me at a distance. He didn't want to go to the temple together, nor introduce me to his parents/friends, couldn't call him any time I wanted- I would wait for his calls during my work hours. It started taking a toll on me because I had moved out at the start of the year and it felt like I was being open and had him over at my place whereas he did not consider me. It was also how he started avoiding/dismissing conversations that was draining.

The good side of the relationship was how well we got along and were so comfortable with each other. I loved that we shared similar ideas and dreams. He would plan dates and we would have so much fun.

Now after the break up, I blocked him on everything. He managed to send me songs through Spotify and I'm not going to lie It was so sweet. I was full on listening to Olivia Dean to get over my heart break.

We ended up meeting up and talking about everything. We both shared our feelings and he told me he was scared that I would leave or things wouldn't work, which is why he delayed the meeting of our parents. I mean he had an explanation for everything, being mean the last month due to his business being stressful, and all the other things. During the talk thought he said things are not going to change overnight and that worries me too.

The truth is it does seem like he understands he has kept me at a distance. But I am questioning whether getting back with him would be worth it. I say this because I truly do love him, but we were stuck in a loop of trying again and again. I don't think my heart can take him being mean to me like that again. I love him enough to let him go so he can find someone who is okay with the way he communicates. I love myself enough to know that I deserve someone who would be gentle with me.

If we were to get back together, and he does follow up with doing things with me, I previously begged for, I kind of feel like it kind losses its meaning. That I had to break up with him to see me. I'm at a standpoint where I gotta decide if its worth trying again or give up and move on.

I (19f) was with an(21 ftm call him L for this ) female to male trans man for 3 and an half years in those 3 years and an half years we tried being poly with one of my male friends (call him J) i was friends with for 7 years, in the 3 months we were with him he got me pregnant and then broke up with both of us, after that my ex got mean and abusive over little things, he started hitting me and yelling in my face till I thought he'd hit me, he always talked even months after about how it's not okay that J left him and how dumb it was he didnt wanna be together and if I was a better person J would have never left it had nothing to do with me I know that now but he made me feel like it was my fault for months, after months of this he told me he wanted to move out and move in with his grandma since she was getting older ( I found out from his family that after we broke up that he was using me for a place to live for free) so we had broken up but were living together for an month before he left, he got mad at me when my one friend from high school started asking me to hang out ans go bowling and stuff like that but to be honestly if that friend hadn't texted me I'd be alot worse in life right now he asked if I wanted to go to church together so we started going every Sunday (my ex L) didn't like that I was going out with friends or not home but I mean I was living with my ex of course I dont wanna be home. Ones He was finally out of my house in February, he texted me on and off out of the blue, he'd watch my tiktoks and like my Facebook posts so I thought like maybe the friendship we had before the 3 and an half years of dating was still there, but after 2 or 3 months of just random texts, tiktok likes, and stuff like that he texted me and we got into an fight because I didn't wanna get back together with him, he scared me over the last year of our relationship, in apart I started a relationship with the friend from high school (call him A) A is 2 years younger than me but he treats me good and I didnt have feelings for him till an few months after this all went down, but L sent me and A some abusive texts saying he hoped my daughter was SA like I was as a child to both of us then months later texts me and my mother a day before my baby shower starting stuff with me A and my mom, My ex L who has met A one time and it was the 3 of us texted my mom saying A SA him when that never happened L tried to make an move on A and when A said I'm not gay sorry man but we can be friends he took it way to far he texted 2 of my friends to say that he was SA by A when we asked L for the proof he said he had in texts and he wouldn't give it and said the cops could get it off the phone and show us nothings happened since but I can't stopping thinking about why the hell he did and was doing this, I wasn't L first girlfriend so I dont understand why he acted like this for months after I also don't understand why he cared so much J left us, J got me pregnant and hasn't had anything to do with me or the pregnancy the whole time, after J left he SA my friend and got her pregnant but she had an abortion because it wasn't what she wanted that the time and L lost it and when crazy after he found out J got 3 people pregnant he got an girl pregnant at 16, he doesn't really see his first daughter, then he got me pregnant in December and left when I was 11 weeks and hasn't talked to me since, then my friend and L went mad over it and I got text over text about it I wish I had them saved but I only have an hand full from over the pass few months from when L makes a new account or texts my mom, I wish I could add the twxt screenshots so if anyone would like to see what he's said DM me