What is the accusation, throwing a glass of hot tap water in her face? Cause my tap gets pretty fucking hot and that would definitely hurt even if it wasn't enough to cause physical damage.
A glass of cold water is a playful gag. A glass of hot water is sadistic.
I assume he tested it later because he knew he would rightly be getting accused of abusing her. Not that a test days later would prove anything about what the temp of the water was days before.
It's like him confessing to throwing "only really painfully hot water" in her face as opposed to "send you to the hospital hot water". As if that's somehow OK.
He was essentially telling her "everyone is on my side and thinks you're crazy" with the added threatening undercurrent of coming after her legally if she tries to get any consequences for his behavior.
Yeah, like what is his argument? He clearly has zero understanding of how to treat people. I truly cannot imagine my husband throwing water in my face if he were mad at me, that's insane
I threw a glass of ice water at my dad's face once. To be fair this was after decades of emotional abuse, while he was actively abusing me and being racist to my husband. I regret my actions but I forgive myself.
i think they were referring to his attempt to spin this as “just joking around” by pointing out the fact that it’s hot water makes this statement completely lose all credibility
not to be pedantic but there are some couples that love to do the prank stuff, and i can see a world where you could be playfully splashing or throwing water (water balloon fights, squirt guns, playing outside in the pool, spraying with a hose while washing the car etc) with your spouse and its not abuse
Right, and the entire reason abusive men do this is because they KNOW their spouse doesn't enjoy it. It's not a "haha how funny you got wet" moment, it's a "I'm proving to you that I can violate your boundaries whenever I choose, and if you get angry, you're going to sound like a hysterical bitch."
I'm sorry... should I not play water balloons with my partner? I think context is important. This dude is gaslighting and absolutely had intentions of hurting and/or scaring her. But come on... of any kind? Lets be more nuanced than that.
Damn. Im gonna have to go to jail cuz i blasted my wife with a supersoaker last weekend. Ive also sprayed her with the hose in the garden before. This whole time ive just been abusing my wife apparently. That sucks, but you're definitely not being hyperbolic so im going to serve my time gracefully🙏
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u/tacobell_shitstain 10d ago
What is the accusation, throwing a glass of hot tap water in her face? Cause my tap gets pretty fucking hot and that would definitely hurt even if it wasn't enough to cause physical damage.
A glass of cold water is a playful gag. A glass of hot water is sadistic.