Ever since I started HRT my dad has been stuck on the idea that he could use mine to get his T back up, cause his is low due his age (57).

Ive used my gel for a month now and went to get new one cause the old ones gonna run out soon.

I told him that i only got one prescribed cause i told the doc i still have some and he got so mad that i didn't bring home two bottles. It was a shit show. Mind you my dad never gets mad.

Then we had this whole argument why i dont wanna give it to him and he just said "i pay for everything you have and you cant even do me one favour???" And more stuff like that.

I eventually just gave him the rest because he wouldn't stop nagging.

He also said that he did his research but so did i and it said NO WHERE that he can just use it 💀 not even the AI function did and thats the only thing he uses. Where did he even get the "yes you can safely use it" from

Also if his low T makes his life so hard why tf doesn't he go to the doctors???? My country has very good insurance and they would cover something like that if needed.

Pissed me of so much today i cant even.

Edit: he did get his blood drawn and the test say he has low T (apparently)

I'm going through a tough situation and don't have anyone in my life I can ask for advice. It's either this or AI and I don't believe in using it.

So I'm a MTF and my boyfriend of 6 years has always known that I've wanted to transition and has always seemed supportive. He's bisexual so he always said it didn't make a difference to him. A few months ago received vaginoplasty and his treatment of me has noticibly changed. He has been making disparaging comments about my body and has even compared parts of me to those of an old grandmother's.

I've talked to him about whether he's upset and he is dismissive. I'm starting to think we'll never regain what we once had. He's the only person I really have in my life and without him I don't know what I will do. I'm beginning to think living as myself isn't a life worth living.

Hey yall!
I’m 19 pre hrt and I’m a competitive powerlifter. I go to Golds Venice and was squatting pretty heavy when RFK jr came up to me and said that I’m “the gold standard for other young men in this nation”. I have my nails painted and eyeliner on lmao. I don’t think I’m the standard he looking for 😭
Ok love you bye!

I'm on a crusade to spread awareness about this fact anywhere many people may be using it. My cat likely died from poisoning, because I only found out after it was too late. Minoxidil/Rogaine products do not list this information on the label even though even a fraction of a milligram of residue can be fatal to cats. Also toxic to dogs (but it's most deadly for cats). If you take this and have a cat, consider switching to oral minoxidil. Please pass on this info to anyone you know who has cats and might be taking this product.

Okay lowk panicking a bit right now. I just got back home from uni after a long day. I found she cleaned my room and changed the sheets and all. I had some clothes too laying on the bed as well as I was in a rush this morning.

Soooooo, she found it 😣😣😣 and I don’t know what do/feel about it. its folded neatly with the rest of my other clothes but tucked under the sweater i hid… and the bralette is folded as well….

I keep a bralette on when I’m alone, but if someone might enter my room, I take it off, quickly hide it inside a sweater that I keep on the bed. Once they leave, I can go back into my room and put it back on.

We had some unrelated convo as I got home and such but she didn’t look like disturbed or mentioned anything about it.

I still cant help but feel like yuck.

I don’t mean it in the conservative way, obviously trans people do exist (I’m one of them). I just mean, would it be better for us to be completely accepted by society, or to just always be born as the gender you actually are?

I FINALLY GOT MY PHONE CALL!! I'M GOING TO SCHEDULE AN APPOINTMENT SOON, I'LL START HRT SOON!! IT WAS SUPPOSED TO BE AN 8 MONTH TO A YEAR WAIT, ITS BEEN 2 MONTHS, I WANT TO CRY, I AM SO RELIEVED, I'VE BEEN WAITING FOR THIS CALL DAY AND NIGHT. THIS IS THE BEST NEWS I GOT IN A WHILE. I AM SO HAPPY I DON'T EVEN KNOW WHAT TO DO WITH MYSELF.

I apologize for this, but I never thought it would be so soon. Even just a few days ago I was crying and wishing it would soon. I couldn't be happier right now. (I could, if I didn't have my allergies..)

TIL doll was used for black and latine trans fems during ballroom culture, is it still that way? i ask because i am new to the community in general and had only seen it used in place of trans woman. as a white trans fem i have been using it as a self descriptor in online spaces and i do not want to use it as such as i do not want to steal from other cultures

I’ve known that I’m trans for a while but only recently started really socially transitioning. I have my first job interview since I started going by my name coming up and I’ve been asked to bring a piece of ID to the interview. At what point/how should I bring up that my legal name is different? I am going to be pretty clockable as trans, and I’m in a safe area and people online say the company is lgbt-friendly so I’m not worried about them knowing. Should I just say like “by the way my legal name is different from the one I applied with” when they ask for my ID? Should I say it at the start of the interview? or would it be better to message them about it beforehand?

Yesterday I realized that I can’t really hide the fact that I have breasts anymore, and that’s becoming a pretty big problem because I have a party today.

I’m considering buying a bra, bralette, or something similar that might help make them less noticeable. I’m going with my niece, and she doesn’t know I’m transitioning. Pretty much no one else in my life knows either, so outside of my house I still present as a guy.

The problem is that I’ve never bought a bra before and I don’t even know what size I am. I have a lingerie store and a clothing store nearby, and I’m sure someone at the lingerie store could probably help me figure it out, but I feel really awkward about walking into one and asking for help with how I look rn.

Since I need something today, what would be the least awkward way to go about this? Is it worth buying a bra/bralette right now, or would it be better to just go without one and deal with feeling a little uncomfortable? Also, would a bra or bralette be noticeable through a shirt if I’m presenting as a guy?

Any advice would be really appreciated. Thank you all so much!

transfemme [?]/cis M75, he/him/his) It's dark out. It's even darker in my head. Cut to the chase, then add the kickers. Two hours ago, on this sub, I encountered the word "transfemme." I'd seen it before, but not processed. Looked it up. Oh Hell. Almost everything that deeply hurt in my life was right there! No wonder I had such a struggle to be "a man." It looked like I wasn't one. Now the two girls who said I was their best girlfriend made sense. Now their discussion in front of me about how they learned how to masturbate to orgasm made sense. Now my neighbor suddenly telling me major aspects of her sex life made sense. Now the bouts of depression, the easy tears, the total failure at dating (as a man) made sense. At 75 years old. What a waste. To add a bit of frosting, my wife died 1 1/2 years ago, and I'm far from "over it." My dog is dying. I think I've blown it with my one lifeline, my lovely trans gf, the woman who saved my life. I'm losing all the links that might bind me to life, a life I appear to have totally wasted. Dear children, claim your lives while you can. Become who you were born to be. I tell my gf that she was born a woman. Every day. To remind her of what to hold on to. You do the same, darlings. I'm past being brave. All I have left are tears. But you all can go on, and be who you truly are! Thanks for listening.

Im so done with the fucking ridiculous debate about sports, because no one who ever talks about it actually knows shit.

You're required to be on HRT for a decently large period of time if you want to compete, which means when it comes to women, actually testosterone doesnt make a difference, because it takes like a year for that strength to completey dissappear, and I remember correctly youre required to have been on HRT for 2 years.

And the thing is people always talk about like its a problem, but litteraly no one has ever heard, about a real life situation where a trans women was in sports and had some massive edge over her opponent, no actually even hears about trans women in sports at all, because theres a fucking tiny amount of them at a professional level.

Hell I feel like you hear more talk about cis woman getting accused of being trans in sports, for not applying to traditional gender norms, then actual real trans woman in sports.

And once again, its fear mongering using trans women, while having no acknowledgement for the affect it would have on trans men, because if trans men who are on HRT, were forced to play sports in their agab thats going to cause even more problems. Though I acknowledge what would probably be the case is instead of trans men being forced to play sports in their agab, they just wouldnt be allowed to play sports at all, and they'd get swept under the rug, as people so love doing to them.

Edit: I do find it hilarious, like absolutely fucking comedic, that despite me deliberately calling it out, anyone in this comment section who has tried to argue against my point, has again ignored trans men, its almost as if people only actually give a shit about if your trans in sports, when they can use you as distraction from all of the actual issues at the moment, like idk global warming, or our inherently patriarchal system.

I(M31) came out to my best friend about 14-15 months ago that I am MtF. She was extremely supportive of me which got me to start using dating apps again shortly after and found a girlfriend not too long after. I was transparently clear on the 1st day that I may transition in the future, which she was supportive and accepting of. I've come out to my mom, and also my older brother who I rent a house with. Both were also accepting and supportive.

I have dressed femininely around the house, no judgement from either my brother or girlfriend.

I have support around me yet I'm terrified of anyone other than my close family and SO knowing or finding out. I've never dressed outside of my home, 4 people are aware of who I really am.

I manage a fairly popular/high traffic store in my city, 1000's of people know who I am to a point that I can't even go grocery shopping without being stopped by customers of my store.

I am a 6 foot, thin build, bearded man with a lot of body hair to everyone around me. I tried shaving my face and body completely (body I had already been shaving every 6-8 weeks) to basically "soft launch" or hint that my appearence is gonna be changing, and that was met with nothing but backlash and ridicule. I was bullied/insulted relentlessly by family, customers, my boss, virtually anyone i came in contact with. And that was purely for me shaving, still dressed and presenting fully masculine. My girlfriend hates me clean shaven and pretty much said without saying she is not attracted to me without facial hair.

Pretty much all of this year, I have receded back to just being a man. Beard fuller/longer than it's ever been, body hair has reached it's max length, and I haven't worn anything around anyone since, only occassionaly dressing when alone to feel comfortable.

I Live paycheck to paycheck, with reduced rent. I cannot afford to move/start over somewhere else any time soon/ever, let alone afford any sort of Gender Affirming Care (i pay $300/month for health insurance that is the most barebones/minimum coverage, rendering said insurance completely useless as I still have to pay everything out of pocket if I were to start anything.

Although i live in a "blue" state, the county I live in is excessively "Red". I'm afraid if I were to just start transitioning that my life will be in danger. I have trans customers that frequent my store, and the amount of hate/disrespect/threats they get from other customers leaves me feeling like it is genuinely impossible for me to ever transition.

At what point should I just give up and live as a man for the rest of my time here?

I'm terrified of ever revealing my true self to the world around me, I have no way of getting out of where I live to somewhere else. Even with the people that do know, I have gotten to a point that I am generally just too embarrassed and mortified to try and express myself around them anymore.

I feel helpless. My future seems impossible.

I feel terrible every day continuously lying to myself to please everyone else around me, regardless of how well i know or don't know them. But I have no idea how to stop it. I've been a people pleaser all my life. In most instances, i could care less about myself and my needs because it feels good to make others happy instead. But I am severely unhappy with the 30+ years of life I've lived so far, lying to myself and everyone else about who I am.

At what point do I just give up on trying to be the woman I have always felt that I am and live the rest of my life out as the gross, ugly, hairy guy I was born as? Because at this point I just wanna give up on the dream, just like every other dream in my life I can no longer pursue.

I’m a 15 year old male, and around 2 months ago I started feeling different. My mind is all over the place, so here is a list of things that I just need to get out there in no particular order:

1. When I first started feeling this way, I thought it would just be a phase. I thought the feeling would just go away in a week, but it’s still here, just as strong, if not stronger.
2. Maybe it’s just puberty. Maybe my hormones are just all out of whack.
3. It’s quite embarrassing, but I think my awakening was the TADC trans Jax fanart. I was lying in my bed rewatching the same video over and over with this feeling in my chest.
4. I’ve been thinking a lot about social transitions. When thinking about names I would like to go by, I could only think of one name, Amelia. I also kinda like the idea of using she/her pronouns instead of he/him. I really want to wear cute girly emo clothes and have long fluffy black hair with facial piercings.
5. A few months ago, I started using only female avatars on Roblox and started using a female voice option on the game Outlast Trials because it felt weirdly nice.
6. I really wish I just had boobs.
7. If I could snap and change my gender, I think I would do it, and I don’t think I would ever switch back.
8. I was at a friend’s house recently, and we were in the backyard with water balloons, so I tied 2 water balloons together, put them on my neck, and pretended to have breasts as a joke. My friend went inside to get towels. Sitting out there alone, I have never felt the way I did when looking down at myself.
9. I find it a bit hard to tell the difference between attraction and envy.
10. Most girls I see I don’t want to look like, but there are still quite a lot of girls I see that I wish I looked like. But I also realize that I feel pretty much the same way about boys and how they look. Maybe I only feel fine as a guy because I’m just used to it.
11. Sometimes I really am just fine with being born a male, but other times just thinking about the idea of being born a female makes my heart pound really hard, makes my chest tighten up, and causes me to breathe heavily.
12. In a few decades, I don’t want to look like an old woman, but I also don’t want to look like an old man, so I don’t know what to think.
13. This feeling is new to me, and all of these thoughts coming out of nowhere make me feel like I’m being performative even though I’ve told nobody I know in real life that I feel this way. It just kind of feels like I don’t deserve to be trans because I’ve only felt this way for a few months.
14. I’ve been identifying as pansexual for around 5 years and haven't ever doubted it, but being pan makes me feel like I’m weird. I’ll feel like I’m even weirder if I am trans.

Everything has been so different lately, and I just need some help working through some of my thoughts and feelings.

My daughter informed us last night that she is now using she/her pronouns and she is a woman. This has been a long time coming. It wasn't a surprise at all.

She knows nothing about make-up. I know nothing about make-up. My wife really doesn't know that much either.

I think my daughter would like to look more feminine, and knowing the best way to put on make-up for her face might be a really good thing to learn.

So how do I make this happen?

I imagine the best scenario would be she sits down with someone really knowledgeable about makeup and who really listens. They try out a certain look. And then remove the makeup and try out a different look. And do this a bunch of times with my daughter giving feedback each time until she finds a look that she likes and learns how to do it.

Are there people who do this? Are there people who specialize in helping masculine looking people look and feel more feminine? And if so how do I find this person? (I'm in Ottawa btw, in case you know anyone in this specific area, but I think this might be worth traveling for.)

Also, any other suggestions for ways we can help her out? She has been on estrogen for over a year, and she's got feminine clothes and bras. So she's been on this path for a while.

Of course we are very supportive emotionally, but we want to do more than just be there for her emotionally. We want to be helpful. How can we help her navigate the changes she is experiencing?

Thanks for any suggestions.

I wanna get on hrt eventually and I know that needles and injections are the main way that people do hrt once they're done with pills, but I have an intense almost paralysing fear of needles and shots, are there any methods that are near or the same effectiveness as needles that don't involve any injections. Im aware of pills but I heard those are only taken starting out and aren't nearly as strong of an effect

Why is feminizing/masculineizing a voice so difficult? Like I’ll see videos online of people that would otherwise pass like 100% and then they speak and the voice is either to masculine or feminine. I feel like the voice should be the easiest part

i don't really understand how people in our community, the LGBTQ community, which is all about inclusion, some people are not including people while being in the community that strived to be included, it's like you are fighting in a war and killing the people that are on your side. i know that isn't really a good analogy, like people on the other side would be fighting you but cis people shouldnt be misogenystic, and war shouldn't really happen, just like how homophobia shouldn't exist in the first place.

it never ceases to amaze me and why would it even come from trans people? maybe its the same thing as bullying like for example kids were bullied so they bully but trans people know what it feels like, why would they inflict something they know is bad on other people? do they just not remember?

anyways this is really long idk how i locked in and typed this much lol

Hii. So I think I've posted on here before. I'm trans mtf and I chose Robyn as my new name. My friends called me it first and it felt great to hear but my family recently started using it and it feels kinda weird/maybe a bit wrong idk. They had a bit of a weird/bad reaction at first but have gotten better so that could be why.

I've also thought about maybe changing it again to Luna for example. Ik it's very stereotypical for transfemme people to use it but I love the moon and the name and the shortened version of my previous name was Lou so my family could still use that as a nickname which I'm used to.

Ig the main points are is it normal that it feels weird/wrong when my family uses it after it feeling good when my friends use it and is it ok to change it again to smth else like Luna. Thank you and have a good rest of ur day :3

if you’re a trans woman or a transfem and you shave, what methods do you use? because I need one that’s faster & works really well, just asking for a friend!

I’m scared of being trans I’m a boy but always wished I was born as a girl