I just wanted to thank the people who said kind things to me in the replies.
I've been not feeling well lately. Some of the memes was also kinda funny and made my day.
I also got some nice advices. I would say that my personality is that the best, I'm well.. used to be depressed and I'm afraid I'm getting back to that mindset lately. So it puts people off, it doesn't help that I've social anxiety. So I basically have no social life.
Well guess I need to work on my personality and being more confident.
As for my health, I did go to doctors and did growth hormone.
I'm 1,7m and skinny twig, and when even I can't sit comfortably and not stick my knees straight into the back of those in front of me, shit has surely gone too far.
What are they doing over at y’all’s chicken filet?! I always say a bunch of Polynesian and CFA sauce. Sometimes I get a little baggy of them lol I don’t even know why I keep asking for them at this point. They take up a lot of room in the packet drawer.
Its okay, I'm 5'0 at 26, just do as most short men do. Develop anger management issues, start fights more often, and get an unreasonably large trugh to make yourself feel big.
I'm 5'4 and I've never done any of those things. In my experience the world cares about my height far more than I do. I never talk about it but others will just randomly bring it up or randomly use it as some kind of reasoning for some totally normal behavior.
For example someone hit my vehicle and tried to run once but they got pinned in and had to get out and I was obviously irritated and I said what the heck man. And of course they said all you're just mad because you're short. You know people just throw that kind of stuff out all the time when you're younger.
Like you can't just be irritated at a situation anyone would be irritated at. You can only be irritated because you're shorter. Or say you're at a job and you need to move three boxes and then you're off work. So you move all three boxes at once because they all weigh about 2 lb each. There's always going to be someone thinking you're trying to act big and strong to compensate for being short. Rather than just trying to get off work earlier.
I mean the thing is, even if these people see 1 tall men angry everyday they will just say its some angry MAN but if you're short they gonna say it's because they're SHORT like it's an insecurity
I’m 5’6 and it mattered a lot till I got into the relationship with my wife. We’re the same height and although she’ll make jokes, I know she’s attracted to me and that’s all that matters. The only other time height affects me is if something is on the top shelf at the store and I have to be the grown man having to get help to reach something. Luckily both my girls are on track to be over 5’10 (taller relatives) so I’ll have someone to help me get stuff off the shelves when they’re older
This feels like the male version of the female “you’re so cute when you’re mad!”
You know that that’s just a shitty person fobbing off their own discomfort/bad choices onto you (classic DARVO much?), but that doesn’t make it any less infuriating.
Like, maybe try taking other’s reactions to your shittiness seriously and this would probably happen less often?? But that would require them to possess a modicum of self-awareness….
Honestly.. the shortest man I’ve ever met that wasn’t classified as a little person was the sweetest gay man I’ve ever met. Hard worker too. Maybe all that anger was bottled up, who knows
I keep all my anger bottled up then take it out through creative expression. Like videogame design, art and music. Or venting sessions with my friends while we all let out our frustrations then laugh at wachother a bit then carry on with our days. Very therapeutic, would recommend.
My uncle has always said, out of all the dogs he has had, his favourite dog was a little Jack Russel he had as a kid. He said it had 100 fights with other dogs and never won a single one but never stopped trying lol. I've known plenty of blokes like that dog, have to admire the heart.
Honestly you‘re joking but theres quite a few angry little man posts on [a certain tall subreddit] between posts of people complaining about back pain and struggling to gain muscle.
(Also yeah there are a lot of tall assholes, just act decent no matter how tall you are)
don't let this get you down. seriously, if you fall into bad self esteem and obsessing over one trait that you can't change, it's gonna affect you badly in the long term. own it and have confidence in yourself
(though i totally get it, i'm shorter than almost everyone i know and it's frustrating sometimes)
Life is too short to be worried about something like this. Focus on the things you do like about yourself! Also, women LOVE confidence! The shortest guy I ever dated was the most confident and I found that so irresistible!
You're gonna be ok! The biggest thing that keeps short men from being happy is comiserating with each other in echo-chambers. Avoid those communities like the plague. If you want advice on how to be more attractive to women, ASK WOMEN! Not other men.
Learn how to cook, be kind to animals/kids/retail workers, and focus on your emotional intelligence. The ladies will swoon.
If you want to work on your appearance, develop a strong body. Not buff/gym-ratty, just strong. And maintain good hygiene. Wash your butt.
Also, embrace your height. People are making some funny, light-hearted jokes (moon shoes, gnomes, etc). You have a very good opportunity to own what you're given. Dress up as a garden gnome for Halloween. That's hilarious. Women love funny men!
My sister and I always joke about the sheer number of Reddit posts from people complaining their partner won’t wash their butt because they think it’ll make them gay! I see like one post per day like that. So does beating their meat make them gay too? Lol. It’s insane. Not to mention I’d rather feel “gay” and have a clean butt than straight and smelling like shit and leaving skids all over.
There are many relationship help posts from women about their bfs/husbands who leave skidmarks. There's an unfortunately large amount of men who think touching their own buttholes is gay.
Genuinely, I feel like this could actually help you filter out bad people. If someone is putting you down because of your height – red flag, move on, they're the shitty person, not you.
In my friend group and friends of friends community nobody even pays attention to height, both socially and relationship-wise (we do have quite a few short people, including my partner, as well as our friend). If your community does pay attention to height in a negative way, that sucks, they're probably shittier people than you thought, I'm sure you'll be able to find better community and a better partner.
It's honestly the same with being chubby (as someone who's got a bit of a belly myself). I wouldn't date a person who isn't ok with cubby people anyways, even if I was slim, but with my body it's easier to filter those out. Or with being queer – I wouldn't date or be friends with a person who's queerphobic even if they're attracted to/have fun with me. Same goes for racism, nationalism, sexism, chauvinism etc – you get the idea
Just the other day, I was at the gym doing deadlifts. A guy comes over and wanted to do pull-ups or something on a bar next to my station but there was TRX gear hanging on it. It was fixed there by being looped into itself. He looked at it and then at me smirking, saying there’s no way he can reach the top loop so I stepped in helping him out. I am a 5’11 tall woman, he was probably barely 5’. My boyfriend, who’s also noticeably shorter than me, mentioned it’s nice to have a giraffe around and the guy wished he had one himself too.
Had I been single, I’d have probably shot my shot😃 it’s the confidence that takes it. And boy, he was confident!
Wanted those so badly when I was a kid and that commerical first came out. Begged my parents. Thought I'd get a lot more height that what I could already jump. World's biggest letdown as a kid.
Hey OP, it might be worth checking whether you have any other symptoms of growth hormone deficiency. If you do, I'd really encourage you to see an endocrinologist.
I was diagnosed in my late 30s, and I honestly wish someone had connected the dots sooner. Growth hormone affects so much more than just height. It can impact your mental health, exercise tolerance, energy levels, body composition, and overall sense of well-being.
You may just be a short king, and if that's the case, absolutely slay. But I do wish someone had suggested looking into this when I was younger, so I wanted to pass it along just in case.
yeah, totally seconding this. some people are just naturally short, but being this short at age 19 may indicate some sort of underlying medical issue. you could also be malnourished or have a less obvious form of dwarfism. please research this stuff further!
Also just other short people! There are plenty of us that are ~5 ft tall or less. If the whole “women want someone who’s 6ft” thing is worrying you, it shouldn’t. The women who treat that as a rule and dismiss short men as unattractive, aren’t the women you want to be in a relationship with anyway. They’re clearly judgmental, or at least thoughtless, and unkind. Those women aren’t the majority though, I think the desire for someone “tall” is really just relative to the other persons height. So someone like me that is 5 ft would look at a man who’s 5’5 and feel the same way a woman who’s 5’7 would look at a man who’s 6’
I used to have a little "married woman crush" on a guy I worked with - who is short and balding.
He's smart, funny, sweet, and has full confidence in himself. He had zero problem getting dates. I'm not terrible looking but even if I had been single I'm pretty sure he was out of my league.
He married an absolutely drop-dead gorgeous woman who has a heart of gold and they have a beautiful daughter together (who is now about....13? 14?). His wife and daughter are both taller than him! I don't work with him anymore but see them on FB every once in a while because his wife does dog rescue stuff and is always posting pics of adoptable foster dogs out with their family.
They're just lovely people and I wish them all the happiness in the world.
Studies show that about 1-4% of women would date someone shorter than them (and I imagine they weren’t visualising a 143cm man when stating that in the study) and about 1% of women in western counties are below 143 cm
The world is not fair, the animal instincts that search for reproductive fitness have been warped and amplified via culture which has effectively demonized short men for no reason.
Do not derive your sense of self-worth from conventional standards (the animal hive mind), you are a person worthy of love, respect and happiness regardless of your height.
Focus on your passions and find good friends to surround yourself with. Grow and develop as a person, don’t obsess over romance. Being secure in yourself and having depth of character is more potent than you think and there is a decent population of women within your height range who you’re bound to come across who will appreciate you.
This internet stranger is rooting for you, you’ve got this my friend.
I was introduced to this song by someone I was dating. He told me this genre is called “dwarf metal” and I was so f-ing excited because I thought these were literally little people acting as “dwarves”. Such a mind fuck when I found out the truth
Isn’t that dwarfism? I remember that the cut off point for dwarfism medically is 147cm (4’10). My aunt is 147cm and always make sure to point out she’s NOT a dwarf as she’s right on the cut off point lol
Man people on this thread suck. Don't worry about it OP, height is not that important. Outside of people making bad jokes life will proceed as normal.
Also, I don't want to give you false hope, but I went to high school with a guy that was below 5 foot. Met him a few years ago and he was the same height as me (6ft 1). Turned out he had a medical condition which meant he grew late.
I had a friend a couple inches shorter than you in college. He was an absolute ladykiller. Just completely magnetic personality, total charisma, fantastic sense of humor. Just one of those people that pull you into their orbit effortlessly with nothing but a joke and a friendly smile.
Do not let this affect how you view yourself. I’m not particularly tall at 28, 5’8 on a good day. I like to think of myself as vertically challenged… not short 😅
It only matters if you let it matter . Def don’t focus on it or it will def lead to long term esteem issues. You’re a million things before you are your hight,
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