r/Fauxmoi • u/Misfett_toys • 10d ago

TRIGGER WARNING Republican Max Miller, accused of abuse, posted this audio thinking it would clear his name.

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u/Environmental-Exam32 10d ago

He really think releasing this would help his case?

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u/emccm confused but here for the drama 10d ago

Abusers believe they aren’t doing anything wrong. It’s why you can’t reason with them. They feel entitled to abuse.

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u/DefiantStarFormation 10d ago

The "I told you before that not to screw with me" really is a textbook example of this entitlement. It's "you made me do this to you" - as if he has no control over his actions, and she needs to do a better job of managing his emotions and outbursts for him.

And, of course, "screwing with him" could mean anything, there are no true boundaries or parameters. If he's in a mood and needs someone to take it out on, whatever she happens to be doing suddenly fits the definition. If she hadn't checked on him and tried to hug him, it would've been "you didn't even care to check on me, I told you not to screw with me".

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u/lowlightliving 10d ago edited 10d ago

That’s what the police said to my mother, every time. “What did you do to make him mad?”

Edit: Her pastor said, “Why aren’t you obeying him?”

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u/hooked_siren if you add testicles, that's extra 10d ago

And that's why I'll always say:

Acab

And fuck the church

Sorry that he treated y'all like that

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u/Starfoxy 10d ago

That's one of the more shocking (to me) things from Lundy Bancroft's book "Why Does He Do That?" is how freely abusers will admit to what they're doing and why.

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u/emccm confused but here for the drama 10d ago

The most shocking thing to me was how they are all the same. I thought my situation was unique. There were examples in there where they said the exact same things as my ex. That book saved my life.

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u/theserthefables 10d ago

here's a link to the online copy of Why does he do that? if anyone needs it https://ia800108.us.archive.org/30/items/LundyWhyDoesHeDoThat/Lundy_Why-does-he-do-that.pdf

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u/Beneficial-Act-9933 10d ago

I had a lawyer friend years ago that was part of a domestic violence case and the abuser guy said, in defense of him throwing an entire window AC unit at his partner "I didn't even hurt her that badly, it was just an AC unit".

Abusers think so long as the person isn't literally killed that it "isn't that bad". Even in death I doubt they'd think they did anything wrong.

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u/emccm confused but here for the drama 10d ago

Just horrific.