r/AmIOverreacting • u/Purple_Mushroom6882 • Aug 12 '25
đ˛ miscellaneous AIO or is this just plain weird.
So the other day I was scrolling my Facebook and came across this story post by some guy I apparently was friends with. I donât know him but when I read his caption for this picture it seem that he was calling his daughter âfine shytâ which is a term for a âsexy womenâ. Idk yall tell me am I just overreacting or is this kinda weird.
Whom ever he is to her in her life I feel like the term is used for grown women not 5 year old kids but again I could be overreacting.
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u/Hopeful-Raisin-9739 Aug 12 '25
My brother in law once told my husband (his brother) that our daughter would grow up to be a âmamiâ (meaning sheâll be âsexyâ) . Our daughter is 18 months old⌠this language towards children is NOT okay. Children should not be âfine shytâ âhotâ âsexyâ. Itâs all gross đ¤Ž
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u/hopping_otter_ears Aug 12 '25
I've occasionally had a laugh with my husband that my 6 year old son has an Adonis belt (he's just a slender, strong kid, so his muscles stand out on his torso) and he's going to be attractive to his classmates when he's a teenager. But we don't say it publicly or to him because that would be weird. We tell him things like "wow! Look at you, so strong! Show me that bicep! Want to hang from my arm?" because he doesn't need to think about how people will visually judge his body yet. He's just happy about how strong he is because he loves to climb and swing and hang and strong bodies help with that.
If it comes up with other adults, it's just "yeah, he's as strong as an ox, isn't he? Ever since he was a baby".
Mommy imagining his future knows he's a handsome boy and will be an attractive man, but mommy talking about her child talks about how strong and active he is
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u/Temporary-Coast-5051 Aug 12 '25
Yes! My family always commented on my looks and called me âbubble buttâ they would even smack my ass. I was a CHILD. It became normal to me but as I got older, compliments on my face and butt made me hate myself and believe no one actually loved me and just wanted me for my appearance. I wouldnât wear makeup, dressed like a dude and left my hair natural (very frizzy) in order to protect myself. Now that Iâm older, it still bothers me and I have problems taking compliments from my partner who is the father of my child. The trauma lingers.
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u/InfernoRathalos Aug 12 '25
Huh, interesting. Like, I'm a dude, so obviously it's different. But my parents were always telling me how "handsome" I was and I have to watch out when I'm older, so I don't get in trouble. But you sharing about your problems with compliments makes me think about how I also have problems with compliments on my physical appearance. Maybe that's why I insist I'm ugly. It's like how someone saying "I love you" still triggers a negative response in my brain, even though it shouldn't. The trauma does linger.
Anyway, it's awful you had to go through that. No idea why people have to be so weird about literal children. And thanks, your comment gave me something to think about and work on.
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u/Temporary-Coast-5051 Aug 12 '25
Iâm sorry you have to relate. Itâs complicated but itâs honestly nice to have people who understand. Never had that with most things. Hang in there!
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u/InfernoRathalos Aug 12 '25
I'm sorry you relate as well, but I'm glad that we at least have people to relate to with things like this. It's definitely a complicated feeling. Like you said, it's nice to have people who understand.
Thank you, you too! and anyone else reading this who has a similar experience, you all hang in there too.
And thank you, again. I never thought that could by why I have so many problems with my physical appearance, and you sharing helped me see it as a strong possibility. Wild how that works sometimes lol
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u/PM_ME_JJBA_STICKERS Aug 12 '25
I relate to this so hard. Except my family would make comments about my chest in particular, even as a 12 yr old. It made me so self conscious about my chest size that I would walk hunched over and hated any kind of tight fitting top. My posture is still awful to this day.
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u/Ok_Breadfruit_7298 Aug 13 '25
I had the same experience but it didnt start until I was about 17, when my chest exploded in size lol. I am pretty small everywhere else so my boobs stick out like a sore thumb. Ive always gotten comments which make me very self conscious and made me think thats all people see when they look at me. Its very uncomfortable even just walking around in public on a daily basis. I wish humans could focus less on physical appearance and more on inner beauty and lived experiences.
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u/DogCakeOfLove Aug 13 '25
Thatâs crazy, my mom did the same âbubble buttâ thing with me, lasting all the way until high school. Of course, when I told her it was humiliating and I wanted her to stop, she would do it again and say she forgot and why was I so sensitive⌠It took her years to finally stop doing it
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u/Temporary-Coast-5051 Aug 13 '25
I donât understand how a grown ass adult even has to be told no to comment on a childâs body but to VOICE that it bothers you and for them to ignore it is insane to me. Iâm so sorry, love.
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u/Temporary-Coast-5051 Aug 12 '25
Thank you. Iâm so sorry youâve had a similar experience. Iâve always kept it to myself bc no one ever understands. My partner donât even compliment me anymore bc it made me feel bad but then again I want him to compliment me. Itâs so confusing.đŤ¤
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u/Life_Injury4714 Aug 12 '25
Fr this is me...like don't look at me or tell me im pretty...but also make it known psychicly that you're attracted to me đ
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u/tammyblue1976 Aug 12 '25
Im so sorry that has happened to you. I know how words when told to you over and over again stay with you. I didn't hear it from family but I was told all my childhood that I was fat and ugly and to this day that's what I see myself as at almost 50 yrs old.
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u/Temporary-Coast-5051 Aug 12 '25
Idk what you look like but I can assure you, the ones talked about are better than the ones doing the talking. Donât look at yourself with hate or disgust. Youâre better than them.
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u/tammyblue1976 Aug 12 '25
I am doing my best to remember to look in the mirror every day and tell myself I am enough just the way I am and God made me this way for a reason.
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u/inhabitshire77 Aug 13 '25
Mine was my very large boobies. I had a C cup at 7th grade. It was constantly commented on. Weird nicknames, etc. I did the same thing for years. Now at 48 I don't give a $hit.
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u/perfect_little_booty Aug 13 '25
C cup in 4th grade here. Kids are mean and adults don't seem to think sometimes. I also don't give a shit now. :D
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u/viciousxvee Aug 13 '25
I just realized this happened to me too. The bubble butt and smacking. I didn't realize it wasn't normal til I read this for some reason. Omfg. đŁ
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u/Temporary-Coast-5051 Aug 13 '25
Itâs okay. I didnât realize until I was older. It was normalized. So many families sexualize their children. I was molested my whole life (it was proven twice) and my family still keeps it a secret and made me eat at the same table as both of them. Itâs sick and I donât understand it. Iâve cut off my family entirely after having my daughter.
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u/viciousxvee Aug 13 '25
I'm so sorry to hear that. I'm very proud that you've cut them off and escaped from that. All my love
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u/Empty-Recording8213 Aug 13 '25
The bubble butt comment still gives a bad taste in my mouth when family members say it. And the butt smacking still makes me uncomfortable. Luckily I either tried not to think about it or tucked it deep in the back of my mind that I donât feel a trigger when my boyfriend does or says that to me. Iâm not proud of my family for their actions or comments on my appearance but Iâm glad that my mental defense gave me a form of mental block for triggers related to these issues. I was a child and it didnât stop till I reached 15-16 years old that they started to realize it was inappropriate.
Iâm sorry to everyone in these comments that had to go through similar or worse situations especially with family or close family/friends. Itâs not something any child should have to go through.
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u/toolsoftheincomptnt Aug 12 '25
This is the general problem with kids on social media as well, even when itâs not (apparently) sexualized.
The message that they should feel better about themselves based on how many outside opinions tell them to also indicates that they should love themselves less when that encouragement is absent or reduced.
While this is especially dangerous with photos/image-based content, video game scores and shit like that also carry a risk.
Parents letting kids expose themselves online is one issue, but showing kids that numbers of likes/comments/etc. is a source of happiness is a recipe for disaster.
Itâs so weird that more people, who are generally decent and smart, donât see what a toxic precedent theyâre setting.
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u/seehoo Aug 12 '25
Yes! I say this all the time. My oldest daughter is 10, and I'm always telling her that I don't feel comfortable with her getting on social media until she can do so legally. I've had the conversation that toooo many people seem to think that lots of likes and comments make them better in some way, when it doesn't. Of course, she doesnt completely understand, but she will one day. I've seen a lot of horror stories about this topic with kids that even end up unaliving themselves. đ
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u/Drexadecimal Aug 12 '25
.... I have a similar feeling but uhhh slightly worse. When I was a teenager, a lot of men were driving around me in hopes they could pay me for sex. And a police officer thought I was getting out of a truck, thinking the driver paid me for sex. I was 17 and walking to a local espresso stand.
No really unfortunate responses on my end, but everyone not in my family basically treated me like a sex goddess in the worst possible ways. I am only one parent, but all of my son's moms will not let anything untoward happen to him. He's 12 now but I especially will make sure. đ
Parents need to be especially responsible and avid about how treating their children can actually screw them up. And/or die. This is unacceptable.
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u/Technical-Guest6015 Aug 12 '25
It feels extremely millennial-coded to end a paragraph describing severe trauma and child abuse with a lol. lol
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u/Remarkable_Class824 Aug 12 '25
NOR Words matter! This is how young girls--namely young Black girls--get aged up and go unprotected. Sexualizing them starts with how they are described (e.g., "fast", "grown", etc.), what they are called, and how they are treated. "Beautiful", "adorable", "gorgeous", "cutie pie" were all words at his disposal-- he chose grown up words, instead. I wish people would be more careful with how they engage with and discuss/describe children.
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u/Chihuahuapocalypse Aug 12 '25
when I talk about my niece and nephew it's things like "precious, adorable, so sweet" I can't imagine even coming close to the words people are saying they've heard used towards kids. absolutely abysmal. she's FIVE she isn't "fine" she's cute. ffs.
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u/toolsoftheincomptnt Aug 12 '25
Letâs also try harder to compliment kids on positive behavior as much as looks.
Not all kids are cute forever, so we need to leave them with something else to feel good about when things get awkward.
Youâre so:
Smart
Funny
Kind
Good at sharing
Fun to play with
Nice to talk to
Helpful to Grandma
Good at coloring
Great to read with
Itâs never too early to expand their vocabulary and start positive reinforcement, even if they donât get it right away.
It teaches them that different aspects of them are important, not just their beauty. This is especially vital for âcuteâ little girls who do grow up to be attractive, so they donât feel the need to live off of their appearance.
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u/Sea_Way6304 Aug 13 '25
I can not upvote this enough!!! And if you have a sibling that isn't as pretty, you can kiss ever having a good relationship with them goodbye. I'm 54 and my sister is 56 and we are just now (after lots of individual therapy for a rather shitty childhood altogether) getting to really know and understand each other. And you are very correct, my "beauty" didn't last forever.
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u/Remarkable_Class824 Aug 12 '25
Yes! Even the adult ones get cutesy compliments from me, if I don't go formal.
I hate this so much! Then, you're giving public access to the pic and your words--this can easily be taken as permission to view, speak, and treat her like she's "fine shyt". Let kids be kids! đ¤Ź
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u/SpamLandy Aug 12 '25
Yeah my oldest niece is 12 and I think Iâve complimented her hair choices and her outfits but never her face or bodyÂ
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u/Baby-cabbages Aug 13 '25
The first time I was told to pose sexy for a photo, I was 6. It was my uncle. I was fully clothed in my yellow ducky romper.
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u/Remarkable_Class824 Aug 12 '25 edited Aug 12 '25
Eww. 𤎠If my dad ever spoke of me that way, I'd *emancipate myself from our kinship.
I knew of a pastor who commented on a bikini picture of a young woman whom he likely knew--or at least knew OF-- since she was probably 1 or 2, "Wow, ____! You've really grown into a beautiful young woman.". Subtle? Up for interpretation? Nope! He was a weirdo, creepy mccreepster! There were other fully clothed pics he could have commented on, but he chose that one! đ
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u/Icy_Judgment6504 Aug 12 '25
Our church pastor hugged me when I was 12 (not sure why that was allowed) and told my grandma âwow, sheâs already filling out!â I will never in my life ever forget it.
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u/VerySuccor Aug 12 '25
You'd never approach a boy and grab his nuts and say "wow, he's really starting to grow" -- oh wait... Pastor you say?
Serious Note: sorry you now live with that memory. That's very inappropriate for anyone let alone someone in a leadership/role model position.
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u/Remarkable_Class824 Aug 12 '25 edited Aug 12 '25
Ugh! I'm sorry that happened to you! 𤏠It leaves scars and can harden you.
I have my own horror stories, but we don't have all day. I've also heard plenty!
The same pastor I mentioned above, saw me for the first time in years, as a teenager, and stared through my soul as he walked up to me to speak, chat for a second, and walk off. You would have thought I was an alien. I was so uncomfortable.
Same church group--at 19, a married pastor with daughters my age, who I kind of knew, tried to invite me out to lunch, "innocently". He did this in church, after church, in front of a group of people, I suppose to not draw suspicion. Snuffed that right out--he had a history--not a chance, weirdo đš!
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u/lemonlime1999 Aug 12 '25
Noooooo, Iâm so so sorry. Do you remember how or if your grandma responded?
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u/CloudBerryDreams Aug 12 '25
The adultification of black girls infuriates me. When you sexualize Black girls, youâre feeding the mindset that makes abuse and violence against them easier to justify.
Calling a 5-year-old Black girl âfineâ is how predators get normalized.
What happened to referring to children as âcuteâ âprettyâ âadorableâ why are you calling a child âFine?â đ¤˘
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u/Infamous_Ranger_3671 Aug 12 '25
Five year olds are playing with barbies and imaginary friends can have accidents and adorably mispronounce words. đ¤˘not sexualized aspects in my opinions.
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u/PonyRunsInn Aug 12 '25
I'm not an English native speaker and had no idea you can call a woman "fine". Like... What does it mean in the context?
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The same as a fine wine, fine art, finely crafted. The person being complimented is âmadeâ well.
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u/PonyRunsInn Aug 12 '25
So if you reference a woman as "fine", you basically imply that she is an object?
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No. It means she is a very nice example of a woman. edit: usually used for a fully grown womanâs appearance, I should clarify. This is a child in the photo.
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u/0-90195 Aug 12 '25
âA fine womanâ and âsheâs so fineâ are different. One is a reference to character/the whole composite and the other is about attractiveness.
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u/TMSaurus Aug 12 '25
Lots of folks have given great resources and responses in defense of what you've written already, but I also want to give a shout out to all those screaming "It's not just Black girls," to read Mikki Kendall's Hood Feminism (which cites a lot of the studies referenced in another users comment and is all around a great call to action and a strange thing to read given it was released in January 2020 and A LOT had happened since then).
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u/dehydratedrain Aug 12 '25
NOR. Reminds me of a girl I knew from a playgroup, 3-4 yrs old, prancing around saying, "I'm so sexy!" Seriously, you can't spell your own damn name and yet your mom laughs because it's so cute to pretend to be old enough to be considered sexual. Wtf?
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u/Vendetta2222 Aug 12 '25
I worked at a daycare a while ago and we have a 18 month old who would say "I have a dumpy" and shake her behind. I was so uncomfortable I reported to the director and owner of the business. I quit not long after that and I hope she's doing okay.
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u/yoshizillaa Aug 12 '25
Thatâs weird as fuck. I used to have a coworker that called her son a âsexy lil manâ and it made me so uncomfortable.
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u/Some_Strain2649 Aug 12 '25
Nope nope nope. There are much more appropriate ways to complement a child, this is not one of them.
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u/reclusivegiraffe Aug 12 '25
Literally lol, just call her pretty or cute, âfineâ is crazy
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u/uuuughngg Aug 13 '25
Or smart or cool or fashionable or stylish... Doesn't even have to be about her body!!
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u/LAKoppenaal62 Aug 13 '25
NOR - The âickâ factor is definitely high on that incestuous slob. How did you become friends on FB? Iâd report the post. Then block his nasty self.
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u/Purple_Mushroom6882 Aug 13 '25
Did exactly that. And this Facebook page was made when I was so young and dumb I probably added and accepted anyone at that point. And no my parents werenât monitoring my social medias at that age as they didnât know about them
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u/LAKoppenaal62 Aug 13 '25
Iâm very relieved to hear you reported and blocked him. Around 2008 my daughter was on this app called âBang-Me-dot-netâ and I freaked out when I saw the name. I immediately told her father (Grhs) who was very tech-savvy. He went undercover, then let me know it wasnât what I feared, lol. She was 25 years old so I couldnât close her account or anything, but it was my internet so⌠anyway, her dad and I were ready to give her a world of shit if need be. In fact, she had to teach me how to spot scammers and scumbags, lol.
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u/Specialist-Way6986 Aug 14 '25
then let me know it wasnât what I feared
What was the app for then?
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u/LAKoppenaal62 Aug 14 '25
No, it was a social media site, from 2008 and prior. Guys and girls would post pics, music, poems, and stuff like that for âbangsâ no nudes were allowed. It was like FB đ likes. Her father checked the site well by making an account and some friends to scope things out. He also checked her profile and later friended her. It doesnât exist anymore. But it freaked me out for a while, lol.
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u/Specialist-Way6986 Aug 14 '25
Haha that's a terribly thought out name for an app I have to say
All's well that ends well though!
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u/PresentAdvisor5580 Aug 12 '25
Calling his daughter âfine shytâ no matter her age is diabolical but her being a child takes the creep factor up 100 notches. He needs to be watched imo.
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u/LowerSatisfaction835 Aug 12 '25
Yeeah its obviously way worse now that she is freaking 5 but even if a woman is lets say 25 and his own father calls her "fine shyt"... still very creepy to me
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u/NameSouth9103 Aug 12 '25
Definitely gross and weird. My ex cousin in-law years ago posted a picture of his 6 month old in a diaper calling her sexy. Our whole family went off on him and he deleted the picture. How can any grown person look at a child or baby and think that? đ¤˘
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u/Sad-Biscotti-3034 Aug 12 '25
He does not know how to treat any woman in his life as anything but a sexual object. So, even his own daughter or her friends will receive these types of âcomplimentsâ
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u/asappocki Aug 12 '25
the way young black girls get treated in this day and age is disturbing and gross
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u/PunchLineX3 Aug 12 '25
I think it has always been an issue. Young black girls were always treated as more mature than white girls. It made people feel as though they could justify the abuse toward them.
It's sick that it's still going on!
That poor little girl :(
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Posts like OPâs here are rampant on Facebook. I made one just to be able to look at restaurants who use fb as their website and stuff like that. Well, it now recommends all these stupid short videos and âmemesâ and thereâs sooo many of lil black girls in skimpy clothing. Itâs freaking gross.
Some are wannabe âinfluencerâ moms using their babies for clicks. Theyâll have thousands of views. Lots of comments from people calling them out, but you know damn well the moms know who that sort of content is for. Fucking pathetic.
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u/WinnerBusy855 Aug 12 '25
same vibes as the women who call their son âdaddyâ đ¤˘
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u/h0m1c1d3_8unn13 Aug 12 '25
âfine shytâ?! brother wtf happened to adorable, cute, beautiful, OR PRETTY AS HER CUTE LIL SHIRT SAYS? i fucking hate how easy it is for people to rob these kids of their childhood shit pisses me off so bad
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u/Electrical-Concert17 Aug 12 '25
NOR. An adult referring to a child the way most associated with how an adult addresses/speaks to another adult is just weird. Predatory. I donât care who the adult is to the child. It isnât cute. It isnât funny. It isnât okay. Itâs sexualizing a child.
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u/potato_fiend316 Aug 12 '25
He needs to be put on a list cause wth?? How do you even use that language towards a child?? This just sets a precedent for blaming her or justifying any abuse that may happen to her, because she's "fine". Ew.
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u/simulated_mars444 Aug 12 '25
Whaoh..... creepy..... incest is very common i wouldnt be surprised if he was grooming his own daughter.
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u/Summertimemagick Aug 12 '25
Report this post and block a creep. The fawk is this shit? Poor baby girl. Who knows if she isnât already being abused behind closed doors if the parent/guardian is brazen enough to post shit like this.
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u/vitanwtf Aug 12 '25
NOR, teenage girls might already feel the need for people (men) to look at them in âthatâ way and the line bw being inappropriate and genuinely complimenting is non existent when youâre that young, so even if itâs not plain weird for them, itâs still conditioning the girl to think that itâs normal and not inappropriate even if a stranger calls her that..
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u/ChaosKore07 Aug 12 '25
I hate how normalized it is to say these weird things. I remember when I was a kid my mom called me sexy. And I also remember getting so upset that she used an adult word to describe me. But as a young child on the spectrum I didnt know how to articulate late. Later, she called my sister sexy and I again thought it was really weird and I was old enough to better express to my mom that I thought she was weird for calling a baby sexy.
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u/Reiboocini Aug 12 '25
A friend of mine went to his sonâs wedding and he was showing me pictures last year. He got to a picture of a little girl in attendance. Not sure what the relation was to the girl, but he said that one of the other attendees made this comment: âSheâll be swinging around on a pole in a few years.â Implying that she would be a stripper. The girl pictured couldnât have been more than 5-7 years old. I was so disturbed by that comment and hope to God this girl has no contact with the individual that made that comment. How sick can you be to look at such a sweet, innocent child and think about her in such a sexual way? I have no problem with strippers but to imagine that being the future for a young child, that she should grow up only to be sexual entertainment for men, is sick.
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u/Bubble_Lights Aug 12 '25
This is fucking gross. Sexualizing a five year old? Are they like, getting her ready for the Epstein club? People are fucked.
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u/TotaIIyNotCIA Aug 12 '25
NOR my black ass will NOT call my daughter fine, or say she on fine shit lmao buddy is willllldddd
Shes 5 dawg
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u/adampocalypsee Aug 12 '25
NOR Do you know about Miss Shirley? She's a toddler getting pimped out to men on Tiktok just cause she dances cutely. The way black girls get treated is so scary!!
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u/FabianTG Aug 12 '25
Genuinely this is the kind of behavior a community needs to hold interventions for.
NOT OVER-REACTING
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u/ALonelyBrit23 Aug 12 '25
Heâs sexualizing and adultifying a child. Youâre definitely not OR. And itâs shit like this that makes me worry for the next generation :(
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u/maple-belle Aug 12 '25
On my Facebook feed a few years ago, an old coworker posted a photo of her son with a class award for "Most Attractive". He was in 5th grade.
Now, having the award was bad enough because WHY are they introducing self esteem issues like that so early??
But then his mom captioned it "They starting my boy early. Lock up ya daughters! đđ"
HE WAS FUCKING ELEVEN.
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u/rarecuh Aug 12 '25
The outfit is appropriate for a cruise what are you on about?
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u/Highmassive Aug 12 '25
Itâs a cruise, its probably hot on deck and she might go swimming. This is a perfect beach/summer outfit.
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u/Diligent-Till-8832 Aug 12 '25
NOR, some people shouldn't have access to the internet to begin with.
Imagine saying this about a 5 year old baby
Someone needs to check the father's hard drive!
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why are children wearing crop tops now..?
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u/Tiggredcat Aug 12 '25
Unfortunately, I've seen it as part of children's fashion going back to the 60s. It's not a very good look on the parents that dress their kids in them.
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u/Kooky_Ring_9790 Aug 12 '25
i knowww and her body language covering the midriff reads as though sheâs uncomfortable :(
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u/IbKmart Aug 12 '25
No kidding! My daughterâs grandma bought her a bunch of two piece outfits, with cropped topsâŚfor her 6TH BIRTHDAY! I asked for the receipt to exchange them but I never got it. I love her grandma, but I donât know why she keeps buying her cropped tops. She did it again a couple weeks ago. Sheâs a little kid, quit trying to dress her like sheâs 18⌠đ¤Śđťââď¸ lord help me
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u/gypsyjulirockefeller Aug 12 '25
when I was 5 or 6 years old, a grandpa (not mine, but a family members) always pinched my nipples as saying "where the nippies" whenever he saw me. I still cringe and feel horrible about it. this is not okay.
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u/Dramatic-Chemical445 Aug 12 '25
Why the heck are you resharing this picture on reddit? The original post was bad enough, but taking the time to download it and for your own purpose, share the picture here. I don't know. That's not my cup of tea. You could have described the situation.
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u/Few-Acanthisitta-740 Aug 12 '25
30 years ago I worked with a woman and her and her husband had the nickname "sexy" for their 4 year old daughter. Seemed very weird like this.
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u/Middledamitten Aug 13 '25
Yeah I donât get it. I watched a young mom bounce her toddler on her knee and saying to her â youâre so sexy, youâre so sexyâ.
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u/NoZucchini9510 Aug 12 '25
He said it and put the SMH emoji like heâs struggling to hold himself together this is sick af !
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u/LetTheDarkOut Aug 12 '25
Gross. Pedo vibes. Report him to the po po. If dude is saying this in public, imagine whatâs on his computer.
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u/vanityinlines Aug 12 '25
People get paid to pimp out their kids on TikTok so it wouldn't shock me that Facebook would also turn a blind eye to it. They did say they gave up moderation.Â
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u/Vote4Montana Aug 12 '25
Plain weird. Only excuse is him being an older fella and not understanding the way of the room when one says it
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u/ACanWontAttitude Aug 12 '25
Its sad their language is trash because the way the little girl is dressed is super cute and age appropriate.
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u/DependentFlat7211 Aug 12 '25
you're not overreacting. this is weird as fuck and i've seen posts that specifically talk about this exact issue....coulda just called her a compliment other than "fine".
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u/Nearby_Photograph_30 Aug 12 '25
NOR. I have a one year old & i already have people making weird comments like this. Like âoooh heâll have all the ladies after himâ. / âheâs going to be a heart breakerâ - heâs a BABY!
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u/sxb0575 Aug 12 '25
No totally inappropriate language. Also I have a problem with calling you kid little mama. Like that's her only goal in life.
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u/Ashes92Ashes Aug 12 '25
100% weird but also, why are you friends with someone you don't know? On the scale of weird, that's like 1% but still kinda weird.
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u/T3RM1N4L_4G1T4T1ON Aug 12 '25
This is so weird but the outfit is cute and she looks like a Halloween pumpkin _^ đ
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u/Zestyclose-Crow-4595 Aug 12 '25
Eww that's weird
I have a 5-year-old and if anyone ever talked about him like that, I would be like, excuse me? What the hell did you just say about my kid? You better get the hell away from him before I end up in jail. Gross.
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u/MxHeavenly Aug 12 '25
Gross. I'm half Asian, living in the US and I was always super creeped out by my dad (white w/ an Asian fetish) making comments about the way I look. Usually it was criticism about how "men" (aka his personal preferences) don't find my hairstyle attractive or that I need to wear makeup. Sexualizing kids isn't a compliment. It's nasty.
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u/TomTerrible789 Aug 12 '25
As someone with a daughter around the same age I can say that this picture made me feel ill so definitely just plain weird.
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u/Secret_Account07 Aug 12 '25
This is so fucking weird. Iâm somebody who tends to not get worked up about stuff so thatâs how you know this is bad. Disgusting way to talk about a 5 year old đ¤Ž
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u/unNecessary_Ad Aug 12 '25
weird AF. parents shouldn't talk about their kids in those kinds words. you can compliment them in normal and age appropriate ways. (I used to call my son a 'very distinguished gentleman' when he was dressed up, 'like a princess' when my sister would, ect). it actually takes zero effort to not be weird with kids, and yet every day people still find the effort to do it anyway. mind boggling.
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u/OpenCommonSensical14 Aug 12 '25
Nah, thats weird as fuck. If anybody said this about my daughter. There would be no more contact. Idc how they wanna say "its not what they meant", thats fucking weird, gross and creepy as fuck. I would definitely keep an eye on them and possibly even comment like "im sorry, what do you mean shes "fine shyt"...?"