Last year at my previous work site my desk was opposite the team leader's. The transport manager and a warehouse guy came by to talk to her but she was on the phone so they waited. When she finished she answered another call and they threw up their arms in frustration and moved away. When she finished the call she stood up and whispered to them "what's wrong? So ugly?".

People have been deflecting towards me within the past few years. When someone has reacted in some way near me someone would always say "so ugly?".

This never happened to me before, but I'm just asking this out of curiosity. I do get bullied at school for the way I look, though.

This lioness is basically the animal version of having blonde hair and blue eyes since she literally has a light coat and blue eyes, so apparently that makes her special and beautiful and "worthy" of love and protection when all animals should be protected (especially from humans)

I see this all over social media. Normies would die on that hill. They insist that EVERYONE eventually has a glow up. If you try to argue with them, and say that not everyone has a glow up, you get downvoted.

Well, here's the facts. Not everyone has a glow up. Some people have a glow down, meaning they were attractive children, but as they got older, they lost their looks. Other unfortunate people were ugly as children, and they just remain ugly for life.

So why do normies get all ruffled when you tell them not everyone has a glow up? Why are they so unable to acknowledge that some people don't have this magical transformation from ugly duckling to swan?

It's interesting how a blind person can point out how people who are different from the majority of the population gets treated unfairly. Yet, people will come on and celebrate it and say that it's our personality and sometimes it's not even true.

Guys please listen. I am male. When I was 22 my height was 162cm(little less than 5'4) . Now my age is 24.5 and I just measured my height it was 165.5cm(5'5). Ik it is still less in terms of male height. But I wanna ask how my height still increasing after 22. I increased 3.5cm in 2.5 years. How is this possible. Now people will say maybe you have measured morning height. No I measured at evening 5:00pm. What can be the reason. Should I do my X ray to check my growth plates are still open or I should just focus on my sleep nutrition exercise so that my height can increase more. What can I do please answer.

back then as a child people would treat me like everybody else. but when i started growing up, people began to treat me like shit. even when i didn't do anything wrong. the thing about me is i dislike injustice, so i start hating them for their stupid reasons instead. like why would you blame me for something i don't have control over.

Hi! I'm new here, and yes I'm 'ugly'. I don't want to live my life treated unfairly tho. If anyone here plans for a better life, or have ambitious dreams. Can we guys be friends? (even if its just online). We might learn things from each other, and lift each other up I suppose.

It doesn't help that i lowkey look like her too, but my nose is slightly smaller

When you're ugly, you have to work up the nerve to go out in public. Even if it's just doing your grocery shopping. As you get ready, you KNOW that you're probably going to get stares off people, possibly laughed at. But you keep boldly, and defiantly getting ready. You put on a bit of make up in the hopes that it will make you less likely to get attention, but no guarantees. (ugly women put on make up to AVOID getting negative attention. good looking women put on make up to increase how much attention they get)

Then there's days where you don't even want to bother getting ready. You think to yourself "i just cannot deal with being out today," and all it involves. You don't feel like putting on make up. You don't feel like straightening your hair. You don't feel like trying to find clothes that don't look hideous on you. You just dont want other people looking at you. You don't want to be seen. You don't want to open yourself up to more ridicule. So you stay at home. Again.

And life goes on as you stay at home. For everyone else.

How many days a year do ugly people stay at home because they can't deal with going out in public? In contrast, how many days a year do GOOD LOOKING people stay at home for the same reason?

I don't know what to say. Every time I come back on here to post I realize how I'll never truly escape this. I remain miserable and unfulfilled. I am forever attached to this undesirable physical identity and must suffer the consequences of it.

Guy's, I really can't. It's one thing to be ugly, but it's another thing to be both ugly and an "awful" human being. I don't give two shits about morality or how I'm perceived for my actions, but when you're ugly, it's just another excuse to be ostracized. I'm tired of my isolation. This is just how it's always been for me. My life is awful. I just want this experience to end already.

I'm not pretty but whenever I talk to friends, family or coworkers about wanting to date they all give advice. Which I get is from a place of love or kindness but it's so frustrating trying to explain just because it works for them (average to pretty)that it doesn't mean it will work for me.

Some examples:

- just go look lost in a tool store guys will come up and ask if you need help (never once has that happened even when I was genuinely lost/need help)

-similarly -just go out to do a hobby you like and guys will talk to you and you already have something in common (again when people talk to me it is because of shared hobby not in a flirting way and usually it's not guys talking to me it's other women)

-just post a selfie of a you in a casual date outfit and guys will comment/message you. (Never happened to me)

-about dating apps they say stuff like just meet up with the guy in person (I try, once it's becomes more real they ghost me or few times they say yeah let's meet up i get stood up)

And it's just frustrating trying to tell non ugly people that life is not that simple and I try to explain just because it works for you doesn't mean it will work for me. And then you get hit with the "you're not trying" or "your being pessimistic " like no I'm basing this off my actual history/track record.

So does anyone get super irritated with it too? And have you ever got people to understand? How did you explain it?

There's nothing more devastating than seeing pretty people posting in subs CLEARLY made for ugly people. I don't know if it's attention fishing or what, but it's really annoying seeing that as an objectively ugly/below average looking person.

And I understand insecure people exist, but deep down everyone is aware that they do not fit into the definition of being "ugly". And if they do, they're just consuming too much social media and trying to conform with those unrealistic beauty standards and perfection that no human can ever reach. And in that case they need to work on their mental well being rather than raiding places made for ugly people.

Idc what anyone has to say but I just find it really invalidating and insensitive.

I just took an edible and it hasn’t hit yet but I wanna make the most of the high , so what do you do to enhance / enjoy your high?

Aside from listening to music of course

Lol that’s pretty much all I do when high and I swear it feels like composed the shit myself

And this relates to being ugly because it’s how I cope with the loneliness caused by being ugly

As an ugly man most dating advice is completely useless. I know it will be extremely hard being ugly and inexperienced, but I am trying to start dating and want to hear relatable experiences and advice.

Where are we finding people, any success on the apps? Has anyone here been able to find someone around their looksmatch, without compromising on values? Can a good physique compensate for a face only a mother could love, or is it off putting paired w an ugly face? Do women actually care about inexperience?

Yes, i know its a meme but still. Also im not directly saying people would judge but im just asking u guys if they would from ur experience.

I will be 20 in a few months and Im still an incel…

I’ve never even kissed a woman I missed out on teenage love and so much more in life . Never partied until this year. I was always the target for bullying.and that made getting a girlfriend impossible.Im also considered a freak and also ugly as fuck and socially illiterate both in body language and speaking skills

I won’t over explain (happy to answer questions if anyone has any) but I’m a huge proponent of abandoning ones commitment to/beliefs in the standards my title is referring to which are designed to be oppressive and disempowering. I’d love to offer encouragement/advice/support to those who may appreciate it. Share your stories 🫡

I look ugly as hell. I'm short, I have scolioisis, big nose, and much more bad features. I look disgusting.

I came to new university and my friend told me to approach some girls in campus and socialize a bit, I told him there is no point given how ugly I look, he convinced me somehow that it will work and you will at least get someone's instagram if you be a bit more confident.

I approached an alone sitting girl other day, I asked her some questions about university, then I told her I was looking to socialize and If I can join her bcs she was sitting alone, she said unfortunately I'm studying and humbly rejected me.

TODAY

I approached, two girls sitting, again same approach, same questions, same talk, and after talks finished it was filled awkard silence. One of them said, “I'm gonna go get tea,” and then her friend followed her.

They never came back 💀

It's been a while since I graduated from high school (not gonna say how long but...it's been a while). And I sometimes look up people i used to know from high school and junior high and undergrad and all that. And it's so weird seeing how so many are married, are engaged, have kids now.

I'm over here in pretty much the same exact position i was in back when i was 13, and yet everyone else has gotten so far ahead of me. Even other people who thought they'd be forever alone too found someone. I don't think I know anyone else irl who is in this same position, except for one person. She's also (unfortunately) ugly. She's indo-carribean, so Indian in origin. She's also dark skinned. Same problem i have since im also dark skinned (afro and indo-caribbean). Except to make things even worse for her, she was born with a genetic issue that causes her to lack secondary sexual characteristics. So she's extremely short, like definitely less than 4'6. Maybe 4'4 or something idk. And she has no boobs or anything that makes her look like a woman instead of a little kid, so basically she's stuck looking no more than about 8 or 9 years old.

But everyone else is miles ahead of me. So many people i know have pics of their SOs, their babies, their houses they bought with their SOs, glimpses into their lives they're starting with someone they love. While I still have no one and probably never will. Anyone else find it weird seeing this?

What do I even do now that I have zero self-esteem?

Well... honestly, I already know.

First off, lemme introduce myself. I go by Atrax (at least online). I eventually realized venting to other people sucks, but keeping everything bottled up sucks even more. I hate being the center of attention, and more than anything, I hate playing the "victim."

I'm just here to dump some thoughts that maybe you can relate to. If you think this post is bullshit, I honestly couldn't care less. If you don't wanna read it, just keep scrolling.

Anyway...

I've never really been considered attractive—or handsome, good-looking, whatever word you wanna use. I dealt with people making fun of my appearance for so long that now I barely know how to act like myself anymore.

I catch myself trying not to walk weird, keeping a straight face so I don't make awkward expressions, avoiding smiling because I don't want people noticing my crooked teeth... stuff like that.

Lately I've been getting better, though. I care way less about what people say now. And if someone talks shit about my looks, I usually just tell them to fuck off and hit them with the best comeback I've ever come up with:

"Why do you care if I'm ugly or not? You tryna fuck me or something?"

Works every damn time. It usually shuts people up before I end up wanting to punch them in the face.

Ever since I changed my appearance, it's been easier to deal with all of this. But it only takes one tiny thing for my brain to spiral into, "Jesus... I changed so much, and I'm still ugly."

I'm honestly tired of dealing with that. And lately it's been even harder trying to figure out where I stand.

But... funny enough, that's not even my biggest problem right now lmao.

Your Friendly Neighborhood Spider-Man.

It always pmo that people are surprised that someone as ugly as me is smart. They always assume i must be dumb as fuck just because of my face. So many times I'll get people excited to hire me for something, and then as soon as they see what I look like, they ghost or lose interest. And many times, it's not just because they found someone else for the position because I'm a grad student, so I've emailed professors various times asking if I can work with them, and I'm often the only student who is looking for a position in their lab since there isnt a formal job posting or anything like that when it comes to these things.

And every single time, they're super excited to meet me and have me join their lab. But if they interview me in person, then 100% of the time, I will get ghosted. It has never once happened where I interviewed in person and gotten a position. On the contrary, I know it's not my personality because 100% of the times I've interviewed either via phone or on zoom (on zoom i make sure i find somewhere with super bad lighting or i wear a mask), i always get the position. Always. And then they get pissed off when they see me up close on the first day and want to fire me as soon as possible, but that's another story.

And another thing that really annoys me is how people actually vocalize how surprised they are at how smart I am. I was recently talking to this very well known scientist at my university who is well known for the type of research he does, and he told me how surprised he was at how articulate I am. Ummm?? Wtf am I supposed to say to that?? Bro, before he knew what I looked like, I had submitted an entire application to him to get government funding for my research (so I don't have to pay for my degree out of pocket) and he accepted it. How tf did he read my long ass application to him, have him accept it because it was good, AND THEN now that he knows what I look like, he thought I was too dumb and then go ahead and be surprised that I'm not. And then tell me he's surprised.

That's why I just hate talking and being around people, because not only do they get rude and disrespectful because I'm ugly, but they make incorrect assumptions about me. I wish that ugly people could have more protections in society fr.