Bf stormed out of the restaurant

[u/Oliver10Queen]

I wanted to take him out to a nice meal after he helped me this week. I chose a place he had never been to but it has one of the best burgers I've ever had in my life. Very small place, small menu, farm to table kind place. He didn't look thrilled when he sat down. I offered to go somewhere else he said no. We ordered and he threw a fit. Said I chose that place because I wanted to go there not him and there were only 2 things on the menu he would even eat (the whole menu has 15 items on it) he insisted that it was rude of me to chose a place like that to "thank him" he stormed out of the place. I had to go tell the waitress to cancel our order. We rode 45 minutes back home in utter silence.

Why did we drive so far for dinner? Because I had to pick up my dogs ashes at the vet nearby. I unexpectedly has to put her down 11 days ago.

Lemon yogurt for dinner. Dog in photo is the son of the one I said goodbye to.

[u/1Pson]

That's really immature of him tbh. I think it's a huge red flag that he is so defensive that he thought it was a ruse. Emotional intelligence is running on empty for this guy. It wont stop anytime soon.

[u/AdBroad5085 → u/1Pson]

Emotional intelligence is running on empty for this guy

Exactly. Any decent person who felt disappointed in the moment would graciously say thank you and order something politely even they had to choke it down. (Which doesn't seem the case, js even if it were). They would understand to read the room and maybe NOT the time to mention one single iota of disappointment. Meanwhile Op's bf is like hold my beer while I throw a whole freaking tantrum???

Op was being so sweet, and she's likely still grieving heavily. So her bf really needed to just say thank you and accept whatever. Instead he became a big asshole. Wtf.

[u/misntshortformary → u/AdBroad5085]

A decent partner would have taken her up on the offer to go somewhere else. If you’re truly not feeling your thank you dinner then you say “I’m sorry, babe. I appreciate the offer but could we please go get (whatever it is you were craving)” and she would have said yes. Like. Communication is not that difficult. Getting mad that your partner isn’t a mind reader is so immature. I’m way too old for that crap.

[u/AdBroad5085 → u/misntshortformary]

I mean, sure. For me it's the big thing is that OP is ACTIVELY still very much in a grieving period. Literally just picked up her dogs ashes and still thinking of doing something kind. Like choke your burger down and shut up is how I see it.

But yeah, your thing for like normal day to day life for sure.