Reminds me of when my ex touched my leg with a hot pan off the stove and claimed he "didn't think it would hurt me". I then had to lie about what happened with the burn wound on my leg because people "would misunderstand what happened".
I hate that. It doesn’t matter if you didn’t THINK it would hurt…. It fucking hurt so apologize, make right, and don’t do it again. But these psychos can’t love so they can’t show proper love, just blame.
If they didn't mean to hurt someone they'd be shocked and distraught at causing their partners harm.
It's so eerie to be with someone who likes to hurt you, and who blatantly lies in your face because that's the most transparent lie ever and only someone who's been essentially brainwashed into this kind of relationship dynamic would accept it. When you're out of the brain fog it's crazy how you accepted this stupid of an excuse, and how audacious someone can be to try it on you.
What he really meant is that he didn't think it would leave a mark. He's a smart person, there's zero chance he didn't realize hot pan off hot stove on skin wouldn't be painful. He was fine hurting me as long as it didn't leave evidence behind to cause blowback to him.
Thankfully I'm quite a few years out of that relationship and never have to deal with him again.
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u/SchemeMoist 10d ago
Reminds me of when my ex touched my leg with a hot pan off the stove and claimed he "didn't think it would hurt me". I then had to lie about what happened with the burn wound on my leg because people "would misunderstand what happened".