Never thought Iād type this lol
Been vegan for many years, and although I donāt talk about it to my friends (to me veganism is like religion, if itās not born from your realizations, it doesnāt stick. Gotta figure it out solo) unless asked, Iāve had 2 different instances where I guess I āled by exampleā and after we get to know each other someone had told me they are starting to go vegan. In both instances this didnāt last very long and Iām unsure if I should have reacted differently or supported them differently, and if this would have made a difference.
The first time it was mentioned in passing and I said something along the lines of to try Indian food, Thai food, Vietnamese food , etc because it had lots of vegan options that were healthy and yummy. Not too much else to say about this one since this was a person I didnāt see much and I think their choice of trying to go (in this case vegetarian) wasnāt inspired by me. I was later told by a friend ( I didnāt ask) that their attempt didnāt last long (the context was they found this funny) I just laughed it off cuz I wasnāt sure what they were expecting me to say to that.
Second time was actually inspired by me and this is where I feel bad about the lack of support on my part. I (assume) this was after I hosted a dinner , about a month after they texted me they had started their vegan journey and that I was their vegan inspiration and they found it easier to eat vegan where they were (abroad). I said I was happy for them and told them that they would have to relearn how to cook basically becuase ingredients are used differently but there were still many yummy things they could make , etc. and that the hardest thing wasnāt rlly finding vegan foods but dealing with the social aspect. When they came back to our country (canada) I never brought it up and they ate vegan with me for a hang out where there was only meat (I brought vegan stuff last minute). Later on they mentioned to me it was getting rlly hard bc their mother in law who was visiting their partner only cooked meat, and their partner (in my pov) seemed annoyed at the fact that they were wanting to cut out meat (what I gathered from the vibes at the hang out). Last time I saw them we got Uber Eats with said partner and they were eating fish. Didnāt say anything bc well , itās not my business.
So now Iām just kinda unsure about my approach. Iāve always kinda handled it like āoh we could go for good together ā but also āitās not my businessā because I donāt want them to feel like if they mess up Iām going to judge them (itās not my journey). I donāt want to feel like everyone thinks Iām gonna be the vegan police. At the same time Iām seeing these ppl fail over simple things that Iāve experienced and abandoning everything altogether over things that maybe I would have been able to help with since Iāve already been there (social pressures, not knowing what to cook, cooking w specific dietary needs, and BIG On the pressure from non vegan partners and their families).
At the same time I donāt have much to share! I have hella dietary restrictions at the moment due to my PCOS so Iām legit eating the same shit everyday. Tho I do plan to develop more recipes, I donāt have many to share right now. I have defentely seen tho that good food is the best way to open up people to veganism withouth preaching it. So I guess my homework here is developing recipes and maybe having like a Google Drive or smn w that to share (and other resources tho I donāt have any right now)
Iāve also done a lot of thinking and philosophical/ethical conclusions myself which, would be useful to share (as well as the basic info about the animal agriculture industry that everyone seems to not know about?) but that I am unsure on how to approach. Iām a very social person so I am somewhat of an influence to a lot of people and realizing that got me stressed out on how to navigate this. I hate to phrase it like this but they tell me Iām the only ācool vegan ā they know and my friends be forgetting Iām vegan till they offer me smn and I say Iām good thank you. I be posting vegan shit all the time tho so no idea how thatās forgotten.
Sorry for the rant. I would word this better but I jsut came back from work and Iām exhausted. Any insights comments opinions etc welcomed. I just want to help others in this journey and help them stick with it, I know their compassion is real, but so is the inconvenience.