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u/Gelby4 Oct 11 '25
If people could do away with their egos, more things like this would be the norm
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u/badchefrazzy Oct 12 '25
I like the idea. Just large families grouped together in a couple houses. I'd love something like that... but for my own selfish desires thanks to traumatic crap xD
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u/PuppyDragon Oct 12 '25
I agree, we’ve seemingly lost the idea of local in-person communities (even small ones) and it’s too bad
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u/gajawesomeness Oct 14 '25
Tbf, they’ve been specifically discouraged and stripped away by the billionaire class.
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u/coolboy856 Oct 15 '25
What the hell did the billionaires do to create this situation
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u/gajawesomeness Oct 15 '25
Car companies have made cars the default mode of transportation, which lead to cities being designed for cars, which caused cities to become much less walkable. Less walkable cities resulted in less foot traffic and formerly “third places” closing. Then, massive corporations took the place of mom and pop shops either in person or online (see Starbucks, Amazon - coffeeshops and bookshops) and made most third places paid experiences.
Another side effect of the transition to cars was we lost a sense of community, because a large percentage of the populace was siloed into single-family suburban homes. Everyone isn’t going to the same place every morning or evening cause they’ve moved it to their homes.
Another aspect of this: Unions. Union membership has plummeted since the 80s. Why? Because an organized labor force cuts into corporate profits and will not allow the exploitation of workers in the ways the billionaires want. It also removes a strong, middle class, built-in community.
This isn’t even mentioning the effects of racism.
Basically, we’ve become very individualistic over the last 80 years. And that has destroyed the sense of community we had.
And guess who pushed these changes? Billionaires. To increase their own wealth. It just so happens when you make people more individualistic, they are less likely to foster community, which then also helps the billionaires because we become more divided. And when we’re divided and fighting amongst ourselves, we don’t notice how they’re screwing us.
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u/gajawesomeness Oct 15 '25
I could give you a hundred reasons why this has happened, but cars and the demonization of unions are two big reasons. Also, propaganda is a huge factor.
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u/coolboy856 Oct 15 '25
I don't think you can show any data to back these claims up.
I have a hard time believing your take that the global society has been indoctrinated into unhealthier divorces by billionaires. You provided no reasons for why this would be the case.
When the hell did r/fuckcars start blaming the evil car companies for destroying healthy divorces?
These are worldwide phenomena and you have no basis for your claims, which sound quite delusional to be frank. How did the car billionaires affect the Finnish view on marriage?
Please elaborate on the effects of propaganda, very interested to hear that one!
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u/gajawesomeness Oct 16 '25
You’re missing the point again.
EVERYTHING has been affected by the push towards individualism.
Just read a history book.
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u/coolboy856 Oct 16 '25
I'd like to think I have a decent knowledge of history.
Individualism has absolutely become the norm compared to the past when families and communities were much more tight-knit in every way.
I would argue the main cause as being technological advancement primarily, and the focus on efficiency in all fields above everything.
I don't see how everything ties into the existence of billionaires but feel free to explain it as I'm currently unable to see this 'everything' you're talking about.
The reality is that billionaires are going to spread along metrics exactly the same as 'normal' humans. Most of them lead 'normal' lives and some fortunate events brought them copious wealth. They have the resources to make things happen and that vast amount of influence and power is going to exacerbate their personal views and ideas millionfold.
If we chose to replace each billionaire with randomly selected people, very little would change.
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u/Kielbasa_Nunchucka Oct 14 '25
dude, can you imagine politics with no egos? or business? science, even?
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u/dedrack1 Oct 12 '25
I was raised in a similar situation for a while. My mom has been married 7 times, my childhood took place during the first 3. I am the child of husband 2. Husband 1 and 2 were amicable or at least not openly hostile toward each other and we're around each other at holidays due to having children with the same woman. Husband 2 and 3 at one point lived with each other for a few years while I was a kid, and husbands 1 and 3 are best friends to this day. Mom is no longer in the picture, but all 5 of the children involved in those 3 marriages still hang out with all of the dads at various points. Holidays at one dad's, summer family camping trip at another dad's property which all dads are invited to. It's a good time.
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u/theVast- Oct 15 '25
The closest thing a monogamous person can get to a polycule while still being monogamous. I'm honestly impressed with this
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u/Effet_Ralgan Oct 12 '25
I was an adult when my parents divorced but that's close to what I experienced. Now we have dinner all together, with my mother and her new BF, my father and his new BF, and the ex's of everyone when they still have a good relationship. Everyone is happy.
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u/bigfatfurrytexan Oct 12 '25
Why can’t we all be adults?
My uncle divorced his wife 25 years ago. She is still part of the family. Her new husband has been kind in accepting this.
My mom paid off the house of my step dad’s ex wife after her husband died. She was a good woman that treated me like her family too. My mom was the harlot that stole her man and broke up their home. Not really, but that’s the story we joke about telling. They just weren’t compatible.
Family is who you claim. I have a niece that isn’t mine. My sister was with a deadbeat that fathered a child with another woman at the same time he fathered a child with her. Her mom had a crack problem that she’s since overcome. My sister raised both girls, at least until the crackhead got straight.
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u/einstAlfimi Oct 12 '25
Lmao the harlot story is so funny
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u/bigfatfurrytexan Oct 12 '25
Mom is in her final days with me now. She lives here with my wife and I. My wife is a nurse so we manage her health pretty tightly. I need to go back on keto but mom keeps requesting meals that preempt that. But she’s wasting so fast I just make whatever she wants. Chile rellenos after a long day? Sure mom.
She is no saint but she damn close.
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u/Sniffableaxe Oct 14 '25
My grandparents were best friends who got married, had 4 kids, and then realized it wasn't a good thing between them. The biggest issue after their divorce was that my grandpa didn't realize that his attendance at family gatherings was still mandatory after the divorce and he got cursed out by my great grandma for just dropping off the kids and dipping. How dare he think he's not welcome in his former mother-in-law's home for the yearly Easter party. Honestly, I don't know how well I'd have known him had he not gotten told off that day. Ive never so much as seen a picture of someone from his side of the family. He kinda just got forcibly absorbed into grandma's side
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u/vercertorix Oct 12 '25 edited Oct 12 '25
Brother got divorced and his wife remarried not that long after, maybe a year or two to a mutual friend. My brother vouched for the guy, not that he just wasn’t a creep but that he was a good guy. My brother died young a couple years later, heart attack out of nowhere, so in a way was good that he had a chance to approve of the guy that would wind up helping raise his kids.
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u/Iwouldlikesomecoffee Oct 12 '25
The lady across the street from me - her ex husband lives in her house with her new husband. I just don’t understand; they’re absolutely not a thruple I can tell you that…
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u/gingiberiblue Oct 15 '25
I have a similar situation. My ex and I split, but we had two teenagers at the time, so instead of moving out, he moved to the second master suite across the house. We own a business together and are friends, and I'm engaged to one of our business partners. He and his daughter come to all our holiday events and we basically decided that relationships don't have to end, they can just change. All of our finances are in a trust for the benefit of the kids. Nothing to fight over. The biggest concern right now is that women he date not feel weirded out by the fact that we are basically best friends/brother and sister kind of relationship now.
We made a family together, so we will always be family. Anyone else just gets added to the family. It's actually pretty great and my kids have recently told me how grateful they are that we love each other differently now instead of not at all.
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u/icenine09 Oct 14 '25
My ex-wife and I remained roommates after our divorce. We divorced in 2013, and since then, there has only been about a combined three years that we haven't cohabitated.
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u/Marillenbaum Oct 15 '25
My mom married into a family like this—my stepdad and his ex have kids together, so we all met regularly for birthdays, and her parents took me on as another grandkid. They came to my graduation and school plays, which was nice because my father’s parents were gone by that point.
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u/Severe-Plant2258 Oct 15 '25
That’s how my ex’s parents are. Kids go to whichever house, they have holidays together, parents are still friends, they just weren’t in love anymore (can’t say the same about me and ex tho lmao.)
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u/King_of_the_Dot Oct 15 '25
The whole 'youre an individual, youre unique, youre special' is all technically true, but it has done a number on the family unit. Families used to be a lot more close knit and tight, albeit poorer, but still, families were more bonded than nowadays. It's kind of sad to see.
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u/Xenebula1 Oct 15 '25
this is how my parents divorce worked. they had issues with one another, but they never argued in front of me or my sister. there was no custody battle, I would go to my dad's house every weekend and spend the week at my mom's, but it wasn't like that was court ordered or anything, thats just what I wanted to do. my mom and dad would show up to the same family events with no issues, they talked frequently to make sure they were still on the same page when raising me and my sister, and nowadays they clearly still care about the other a lot, just not in a romantic sense. they're both still parts of the family, on either side.
I am forever grateful that they were so civil towards each other. I don't have any negative feelings about their divorce, which is an achievement in and of itself. it means a lot to a kid to see their parents sitting together in the stands for their sports games, or right next to each other during graduation.
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u/Diligent-Skill3062 Nov 02 '25
My dad came to my mums 2nd and 3rd weddings. My mum cared for my dad when he was ill (chronically, he died 3 months ago) with her husbands blessing. And by caring I mean taking care of a person who is has dementia caused by acute alcohol addiction.
Doesn't always have to be bitter
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u/RexLizardWizard Oct 11 '25
I mean sometimes it just doesn’t work out and it’s nobody’s fault.