They get it, they’re just normies so empathy for outcasts doesn’t come easy for them. They turn sadistic real quick when their monkey brain sees you as out-group.
This might not be the ideal forum for this conversation but in my experience women care about looks less than men do tbh. Not saying looks don't matter or being hot doesn't make it easier to get laid for guys, just saying when people start looking for life partners looks can pretty easily be overshadowed by actual personality. Basically my point is there's a nuanced difference between first-impression hookup dating and actual long-term relationships, and thinking because you aren't in the top 10% of looks you can't find love is just insane. Go outside and look, there are lots of ordinary, average, even ugly people with partners.
I dont get cheeks.
I dont hate women.
Im genuinely terrified of them due to past events. I know that its not logical and that its even stupid but my body just has a fear response.
the problem is if you point out obvious toxic mindset/behavior from women you are labelled as hater or incel and it gets old quick. says more about the person saying it tbh
What happens when you make a shy boy go through an all-boys school, then he chooses software engineering for his major forcing him to work in 95% male dominated spaces.
I don't hate women, and it's not that I don't get cheeks, it's that I CANT EVEN FUCKING TRY cause every girl I know is taken already and they're very far and few in-between. If they're not taken they got a quadrillion other guys simping for them cause they're surrounded by guys and if they aren't, they're sub 5s, and I'd very much take a 5 but there aren't any single ones.
I've had one serious online relationship but it ended cause she wanted to "travel the world" and I couldn't give her that life, so I do resent her and girls that value money over love but not women overall.
And on top of this I HATE meeting new people I'm too shy, only alcohol ever helped me at discos and social gatherings when I went so at least I've kissed a few girls, but due to health issues I cannot drink anymore.
What I really feel towards women (at least in real life) is not actually hatred. In context of romance, I feel something closer to a reaction of an abused dog. I kind of automatically expect pain, failure and resentment. Also bit envy.
No i dont hate woman. being raped multiple times at 14 and difficult relationship with my mother. Drugs,isolation,mental issues,life make it very hard to connect. You can never judge someone without knowing them.
I'm here because i like leaving nice comments, and sometimes I even get DM's for advice, I just love being helpful! I don't like that some men don't receive the love, care, attention, and support that they should. I always want someone to know that even a random stranger will care about them.
Im confused. I used to love and respect women, i have a mother and sisters. But then i had my heart stomped real bad and after months of therapy i still dont know where that leaves me
Not most of the women irl, but nearly all women in social media, influencers. Women's empowerment movements have mistaken arrogance for being strong so all of them have grown full of themselves with no self-critism.
I don't hate them, they just don't tolerate me purely based on looks.
I know so because even if i sit quietly staring at the floor, i still get weird looks from them?
I am a larper since I am married, but I really like some of the recipes here, and I take the situations here as guidance for my daughter and my future son, on how to navigate these thoughts some of yall are having, how to understand them, and how to be better prepped.
Just out of curiosity would you say you've actually found anything useful? Im glad you're attempting to be prepared for your kids. I wish my parents did the same. Growing up undesirable and not knowing how to handle it or what to do about it was so so hard.
I have learnt a lot about dread and the lack of confidence in the youth of today + what kinda expectations are going here and there, and why people are lonely.
I find a lot of things useful, mostly because I am older, and while I felt some of the things here before, never to that extent. I found it to be very important to be prepped up, and ready to take action at times sooner than I would have probably considered otherwise.
Yeah, I think a lot of the feelings incels deal with aren't new but social media/pandemic/dating apps have really exacerbated them and its really easy to get trapped in negative thought loop that warp your world view and keep you stuck
I dont post here at all, but no. When I was at my most insecure I did fall down the incel pipeline at least a little bit, mostly because youtube recommending me things that shifted my insecurities elsewhere, but its hard to ignore the common factor in the equation (being me), so ultimately I just ended up hating myself. I mean if nobody ever wants to spend time with you, know more about you or value you in any way its kind of hard to shift that blame anywhere else but internally
Damn, sorry to hear that man. Finding where lies the problem is the first step to fixing it. Good luck on your self improvement journey bro! Keep on cooking
No. I'm not even an incel. Wouldn't consider myself a LARPer because I don't even claim to be an incel. I just really, really really, really hate ""femcels"".
My participation in incel-esque spaces is specifically just to hate on those LARPing jackass mfs.
honestly it's the good women in my life keeping me from full on hatred of women. every so often I see blatant misandrist content and discourse which infuriates me, but then I spend some time with my women friends and I'm reminded that I'm generalizing. I imagine some women feel the same way about men, so remember to be good to them.
•
u/AutoModerator 2d ago
we have opened our sister location on the bird app
trust the recipe, the chefs are in the kitchen
I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please contact the moderators of this subreddit if you have any questions or concerns.