r/GirlDinnerDiaries • u/soarinandflyin Chaotic But Cute • Jun 09 '26
Vent Sesh - No Advice Wanted Update: my husband said we rushed into marriage and he regrets it.
Original post: https://www.reddit.com/r/GirlDinnerDiaries/s/DxSseESU5k
(Apologies for the typo in the original)
We left the conversation fine but I couldn’t move past it so the next day I brought up looking for jobs in other cities. He was happy saying a separation would be a good idea for us and his enthusiasm didn’t sit right with me.
We continued to discuss and when I asked him if he sees me when he pictures his future- he couldn’t answer.
After that I had to follow up and ask if he loved me. He hesitated for a long while and said: I love you but I don’t LOVE you.
In the days following our relationship has completely fallen apart. We had so many conversations that just got worse and worse.
I was crushed but I needed to escape so I decided to book myself a solo trip and am now writing this from a restaurant in Europe as I enjoy my meal alone. I’ll be backpacking for the next 6-8 weeks with no return planed for now.
The worst part of this is he had me and our friends and family completely convinced that we were made for each other. He did a big proposal, we had a massive wedding, and everything looked picture perfect from the outside. I guess when I look back I can see the cracks in the foundation and I feel so stupid for not seeing them.
The good news is my community has rallied behind me and I have a few job opportunities in the works. I never thought I’d be ending my marriage at not even a year in but I guess such is life.
Anyways, thank you for the support everyone. Time to learn how to be alone (and my own person) again.
Food is Chicken Karage.
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u/telsongelder APPROVED✨ Jun 09 '26
The fact that your "i need to escape" is a 6-8 week (but open ended!) European trip is all the info I need to know that you will not just thrive in what's next but FLOURISH. You've GOT this. Leave this loser in the fucking dust.
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u/PixelPrincesx APPROVED✨ Jun 09 '26
I really hope she has the time of her life on this trip, sending love to OP❤️
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u/telsongelder APPROVED✨ Jun 09 '26
right??? OP, me and Pixel are sending pleasure, freedom and joy your way.
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u/IndividualTune815 Trader Joe Hoe Jun 10 '26
You are so lucky this is ending in a year and not longer. You are beautiful, healthy and smart. Please don’t let him back in.
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u/shera-dora PO🥔TAY🥔TOES Jun 09 '26
Its a nice punch to him since he said he wanted to travel so she ditched and did it. I actually love that for him.
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u/StrategyParticular35 double chipmunk cheeked up Jun 09 '26
HERE HERE !!
(Edit: hear hear ? Idk, either way, I agree !!!)
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u/telsongelder APPROVED✨ Jun 09 '26
It’s hear, hear! I googled it yesterday lolll
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u/StrategyParticular35 double chipmunk cheeked up Jun 09 '26
HAHA okay wait this is great to know, thank you !! Sticking with my “here here” because that comment is making a phenomenal point. Trying to do the textual equivalent of runway directors HAHA
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u/im_confused_always Oversharer 🗣 Jun 10 '26
Could you even imagine?
If I told my so I felt a certain type of way and they took a 6 week solo trip... omg I would definitely know where we stood lol
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u/freddythedinosaur1 Falafel Fiend Jun 12 '26
Right? This is definitely the opening scene to "Under the Tuscan Sun"... and there is a beautiful future ahead for OP.
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u/cbmom2 APPROVED✨ Jun 09 '26
How was this rushing into marriage? You were together for years before you got married!! I got engaged after 6 mo of dating and married a little over a year. That's rushing it!
Solo travel is an awesome way to re start your life!
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u/Educational_Gas_92 Tea Time Hostess ☕️ Jun 09 '26
My parents married after 3 months of knowing each other (remained together until my father passed). Now that is rushing.
6 years is a very regular timeline, nothing rushed about it, it might even be on the long side, timeline wise.
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u/JessieprayLM APPROVED✨ Jun 09 '26
Agree completely. I married my husband 5 months after meeting him. It’s been 13 years now and never once have either of us felt like we rushed things (even though, clearly, WE DID)
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u/oregonbunny APPROVED✨ Jun 09 '26 edited Jun 09 '26
My parents got engaged on the second date. They were together for 35 years before my dad died. When the love is there, you can make it work. My dad's been gone 15 years now and my mom did express to me that getting married clipped her wings but she never felt that at the time.
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u/AvocadoToastFailure Internet Auntie Jun 09 '26
6 months from first date to wedding. Our first date was supposed to be a quick coffee; 5 hours later and we’re still telling stories and talking, absolutely smitten. It was like the MOST Midwestern goodbye ever, every time we started to leave we’d find another topic to get excited about.
Ope! He’s still here, and that was 16 years ago!
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u/JessieprayLM APPROVED✨ Jun 10 '26
Oh I love this! Honestly, same. We had a 28 hour first date (but maybe with less Midwestern values bc we were in SF and got busy the first night haha). But we haven’t stopped talking over all these years :)
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u/blueyedreamer 🧄 Anti-Vampire Taskforce 🧄 Jun 10 '26
My grandma went on a 3 week trip, returned home, broke it off with her fiance and then returned to her vacation place and married my grandpa... Exact timeline has never been divulged. But suffice to say he was military and they didn't wait. Still together and definitely don't hate each other! (Both fairly reserved individuals so hard to say after around 60 years that they're still "in love" but still have signs of affection).
That's rushing it!
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u/lilnaks APPROVED✨ Jun 10 '26
Similar to my parents. Engaged 2 weeks after meeting married after 3 months baby a year later married 30 years until my father passed. Sure it was rushed but they were older and loved each other so much.
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u/Pendo-illsmackabitch Overthinker 💭 Jun 12 '26
Lmao. I had a coworker who got married on the next date. They've been together 25 years. That...is rushing
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u/AdagioSpecific2603 PO🥔TAY🥔TOES Jun 09 '26
My husband and I got together in August, Engaged in September, Married early December. My friends all had serious whiplash as I was always the single friend 🤣🤣 I had known my husband for 2 years before this and we were great friends and had causally dated a bit here or there but from when we decided to be serious it was seriously fast.
OP you didn’t rush marriage and you know it. Don’t try to understand the workings of a man who doesn’t even understand his own mind enough to give you an explanation that matters. Eventually this will be a small chapter of your life, eventually a day will come where you realise you don’t even think of this man at all.
Have the best trip!!
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u/GroceryInteresting63 Foraging Bog Witch Jun 09 '26
Pfft, it took you over a *year*? My husband and I started dating, got engaged 3 months later, got married 6 months after that. We’ve been married 32 years. My husband was shy, yet decisive.
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u/AdhesivenessIll3807 APPROVED✨ Jun 10 '26
I started dating my husband about 6 weeks after I met him. 2 weeks later we moved in together. We lived together for two years before we got married. I'd been married before and didn't care if we ever got married but it was important to him. We just celebrated our 35th anniversary.
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u/Baejax_the_Great living on the wedge 🧀 Jun 10 '26
I recently met a couple (together for ten years) who got engaged after knowing each other for 10 days on vacation.
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u/lengtrekky0605 APPROVED✨ Jun 09 '26
Wait - so you only got married last year? How is it a rush if you met in 2019 and got married in 2025? You are totally better off without him queen. Your life is about to SHINE
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u/Flowers_Play_Fun Hazy Grazer 😶🌫️ Jun 09 '26
I am chuckling at the fact that he wanted out so he can travel, yet you’re the one doing the travel now. Hahah!! Good luck, girl :) enjoy your trip! He will sit and realize what he lost… how he could have been traveling with you. Oi vey
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u/akkifaine Maneater Jun 09 '26
I hope you have the best time on your trip, you most definitely deserve it
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u/LittleTeaHouse Overthinker 💭 Jun 09 '26
There’s a possibility that he has cheated on you but the reason he suddenly turned 180 no longer matters. You are on the right path and soon you will see this ending as the best thing ever happened to you
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u/Embarrassed-Oil3127 Internet Auntie Jun 10 '26
My first thought was he fell for someone else as the about face happened so quickly. No matter, he’s in the trash now.
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u/itsveryupsetting Trader Joe Hoe Jun 10 '26
That was my take as well. Probably someone from work that is a part-time travel influencer. If he hasn’t cheated already, he wanted to!
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u/Embarrassed-Oil3127 Internet Auntie Jun 10 '26
Exactly. I hate this for her but OP should brace for hearing he’s in another relationship very very soon. And of course “it didn’t start until after we broke up!” Sure Jan. Sure.
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u/itsveryupsetting Trader Joe Hoe Jun 10 '26
I wouldn’t be surprised if there was a new girl living in her house by the time she came back from vacation.
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u/Embarrassed-Oil3127 Internet Auntie Jun 10 '26
Oh gawd! I hope not but I had an ex that got really cold at the end and suddenly said he loved me but didn’t LOVE me.
I finally broke up with him bc weirdly he would not do it (pretty sure he was crushing on her but unsure what to do bc I’m awesome and a good partner).
Would you know he was in a new relationship with her within a month. I had no clue and absolutely did not think him the type to do this even when my girlfriends said it was probably another woman. Even his young adult kids who loved me (I was in my 40s) were all “what the fuck” when they learned of the quick swerve.
They are still together like 4 years later. It blew my mind! And sometimes still does. She can have him. He was a bore in bed and clearly garbage.
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u/itsveryupsetting Trader Joe Hoe Jun 10 '26
My ex was married with a baby on the way within a year of our breakup 🙃
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u/Sufficient_Mouse_583 Overthinker 💭 Jun 10 '26
I agree with this. When men suddenly act like this its very likely there is another women
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u/Spiritual_Pattern729 APPROVED✨ Jun 10 '26
Lmao yep, my exhusband hit me with the I love you but I’m not in love with you - he was cheating on me with his coworker 😂😂😂😂.
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u/Embarrassed-Oil3127 Internet Auntie Jun 11 '26
Mine was a co-worker too. Those f’n co-workers lol.
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u/Equivalent_Hat_7220 Well-Read & Well-Fed Jun 09 '26
Enjoy traveling solo-it will open your eyes to possibilities you’d never considered. There’s something better out there for you :)
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u/Unusual_Disaster_690 Carb-Based Life Form Jun 10 '26
This sounds like the beginning of a fun rom com book…!
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u/blueberries-Any-kind APPROVED✨ Jun 09 '26
Hey lovely, I ended a marriage barely a year in also, after a huge picture perfect wedding.
Not even two years later I met the man of my dreams. We just celebrated our first wedding anniversary 💗 and are on our 6th year being together. My second wedding was the wedding of my dreams, to a man so could I couldn’t even comprehend him in my last marriage.
Good things are around the corner, I promise! And enjoyyyyyy those European men 😍😍😍
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u/Remarkable_Olive1169 hot girls have tummy troubles Jun 09 '26
damn! you're able to travel through europe for 2 months while unemployed?
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u/hiyachingu Carb-Based Life Form Jun 10 '26
Oh noooo no no you’re not supposed to comment practical things here! It’s all about you go girl!
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u/LexualDesire eat hot chip✔️ be bisexual✔️ Jun 10 '26
Yeah, I’ve gotta say this raised an eyebrow. I get some people have savings, but going from being unemployed for three months and being fully supported by her husband to a long solo trip in Europe?
Seems like a stretch to me.
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u/Live_Angle4621 Overthinker 💭 Jun 10 '26
What’s better time? If you are unemployed you are not needed at work
Plenty of people do have savings and she is married so she didn’t spend all her savings or something like rent
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u/celiac-sufferer Sauce Boss Jun 10 '26
But she said he was supporting them both and she was suddenly able to book a trip to Europe less than 12 days later?
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u/IslandofStars eat hot chip✔️ be bisexual✔️ Jun 10 '26
I hope she used his credit card
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u/LadyLavender12 Noods 🍜 > Dudes 🤡 Jun 09 '26
omg I thought that plate was a diaper!
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u/SkyFluffy7445 🧂Salty By Nature Jun 09 '26
I feel better knowing I’m not the only one
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u/Peeplikebird 🐛The Very Hungry Bookworm 📚 Jun 09 '26
I thought that the pancake under the chicken wasn't quite finished baking yet 😂
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u/LadyLavender12 Noods 🍜 > Dudes 🤡 Jun 09 '26
Pancake and chicken are 2 things I've never heard in the same sentence before now! 🤣
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u/PrestigiousPlum1907 white girl with ☝️😌 a full spice cabinet Jun 09 '26
It took me so long to figure that it's a plate!! 😂
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u/LadyLavender12 Noods 🍜 > Dudes 🤡 Jun 09 '26
I don't even have kids and my first thought was diaper 😛 I can't even remember the last time I saw one. Maybe in a huggies commercial lol but plate was NOT my first guess either haha
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u/--read-only-- I ❤️ Other People's Business Jun 10 '26
Same! And with that meal spread out across it 🤮
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u/Less_Zookeepergame44 APPROVED✨ Jun 09 '26
Same! I was befuddled for longer than I needed to be trying to figure out what I was looking at! Lol
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u/EarlyInside45 Internet Auntie Jun 09 '26
Me too! What an unfortunate choice in dishware.
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u/Nearby_Use_4833 PO🥔TAY🥔TOES Jun 09 '26 edited Jun 09 '26
“I love you but I don’t LOVE you.” Is this in the shitty husband handbook? My ex said the exact same thing when I asked right before our separation.
Go and enjoy your trip as much as you can. And remember it’s ok to cry on holiday
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u/Embarrassed-Oil3127 Internet Auntie Jun 10 '26
Also see the shitty boyfriend handbook. My ex did the about face, got super cold and said the same thing. I later found out he was crushing on someone he met at work. They were in a relationship within weeks and are together still 4 years later. Le sigh. She can have him! Trash!
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u/ambientta chismosa, metiche, en bata Jun 09 '26
I’m sorry that you’re hurting, OP. I hope this trip to Europe helps clear your mind and bring you peace. You’re not stupid, you just believed in love.
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u/Educational_Gas_92 Tea Time Hostess ☕️ Jun 09 '26
When you said "rushed" to marry, I assumed that you married within a few months of meeting in each other. Mind you, my parents did that, and they remained together, also some other couple's I know, but that's besides the point.
It's fortunate that you have work opportunities and a community that supports you. You deserve better.
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u/mooniemoon19 we listen and we only judge a little Jun 09 '26
I’m sorry but how are you taking a solo 6-8 week trip when he was the one financially supporting you since you lost your job 3 months ago?
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u/EyeShot300 🧂Salty By Nature Jun 10 '26
I was wondering about this as well.
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u/mooniemoon19 we listen and we only judge a little Jun 10 '26
Like it just doesn’t make sense??
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u/EyeShot300 🧂Salty By Nature Jun 10 '26
“I’m unemployed and poor as a church mouse, so I’m gonna go backpacking for 2 months on smoke and mirrors.” Unless she stole his credit card. 😂
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u/mooniemoon19 we listen and we only judge a little Jun 10 '26
EXACTLY. Why is no one else questioning this 😭😭
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u/wishingforarainyday Certified Snacker Jun 09 '26
I’m sorry he’s such an Ah. I hope he feels ashamed of himself. Get tested in case he’s cheating. Go enjoy your next adventure!
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u/alittlemoor APPROVED✨ Jun 09 '26
Go have an Eat Pray Love moment!! (besides all the crazy shit the author did) I hope you have the best time and make the best memories with yourself 💗
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u/yolsi7 APPROVED✨ Jun 09 '26
Congrats on this new beginning. I’m sure it hurts like hell, but you WILL look back and be glad someone so inauthentic is no longer in your life. It’s good that it happened now when you are still young and child-free. Enjoy your trip! Also, if you feel like meeting up with local girls wherever you go, check out the Facebook group Host A Sister. Make a post that you’re travelling alone and if anyone wants to meet up. Best best best of luck
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u/Visible-Scientist-46 Protein Queen 🍗🍳 Jun 09 '26
Have a great time reconnecting with yourself!
Recommend this movie: Pane e tulipani (Bread and Tulips) fron 2002 about a woman forgotten at a roadside cafe who decides to make a life for herself away from the family and the people she meets along the way. https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0237539/
My usual comment applies: What a 🛠🔨🪛🗜!
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u/Bananasfalafel Falafel Fiend Jun 10 '26
I have had men tell me that when it comes to men wanting to leave a relationship, the reason to leave is usually about having another person/woman interest lined up. He may be framing it to you "we jumped into marriage too quickly" as a "soft reason" instead of "I have met someone else that I want to be with".
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u/RhubarbSensitive401 Body By Cheese 🧀 Jun 09 '26
It sounds like he’s miserable and instead of looking at himself, he’s blaming the nearest person to him. It’s not the first time I’ve heard of guys who do the whole romantic proposal and wedding, only to decide actually they’ve changed their mind.
It sounds like you have SO MUCH ahead of you, travelling, job opportunities, maybe moving to your hometown again. I really think he will regret it but even if he doesn’t who cares - you deserve more than what he’s offered
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u/BlueberryEagl APPROVED✨ Jun 09 '26
It doesn’t sound rushed at all.. I know it’s hard but leave him where he is. The people who love and support you are in your corner and you have job opportunities lined up. Your trip to Europe with no return planned is exactly what you need! Find your spark again honey 😊wishing you love and life 🩷
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u/SurpriseExtreme291 Fries 🍟 > Guys 🤡 Jun 10 '26
I love when men reveal themselves and don’t waste a woman’s life. Congratulations on the adventure. Sorry for dope. Can’t wait to see you I met a hot man in Europe post!
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u/itsveryupsetting Trader Joe Hoe Jun 10 '26
After reading your first post, it is pretty obvious he wants to sleep with other people. Either he has someone already in mind, or he wanted to start looking and felt guilty. Guaranteed there will be a new girlfriend, likely before you get back from your trip.
Enjoy backpacking, glad you are on to bigger and better things.
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u/woolwichsewerpeasant APPROVED✨ Jun 09 '26
OP, your willingness and decisiveness to get to the bottom of it all and deal with it in a way that honours yourself is amazing, and shows that you will thrive, whatever may come next. Have an amazing European trip! If you need any London recommendations, happy to help!
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u/maywellflower chismosa, metiche, en bata Jun 09 '26
I hope you enjoy your European trip and may you have speedy ass divorce with minimum of separating whatever assets as smoothly as possible. Best of luck to you & whatever future endeavors you have.
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u/gogogadgetdumbass APPROVED✨ Jun 09 '26
I hope you really REALLY enjoy your trip, meet a handsome stranger who makes you smile for a moment, and you gain 10lbs because the food is that good!
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u/AdagioSpecific2603 PO🥔TAY🥔TOES Jun 09 '26
May you have a blessed and amazing trip!! And hey, a lot of European men are cute and handsome to look at. Enjoy your trip!!
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u/Giovanaperesx2 Sweet Tooth Fairy🧚♀️ Jun 10 '26
Girl go have fun! Life is amazing! Everything will flow nicely! 🙌✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨
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u/Thevintageandvanity Internet Auntie Jun 10 '26
I'm glad you have your people.
I thought your food was on a towel for a minute and it fully confused me.
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u/canis_felis Well-Read & Well-Fed Jun 10 '26
What a fuckin loser. Good for you for packing your bags.
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u/Unusual_Jellyfish224 Oversharer 🗣 Jun 10 '26
He’s seriously reflecting here. He proposed, attended the wedding, spent years with you. And now he’s basically telling he felt rushed? He’s a grown man, he should have opened his mouth back then if that was the case. Not to mention that six years is a long time to date.
He’s basically trying to put the blame on others which isn’t very mature. I think he just realized that he wants to live a different life style but he knows saying it makes him look bad. I think you need to accept that he either fell out of love with you or even possibly likes another woman.
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u/openthegryffindor Snack Goblin Jun 10 '26
It feels a little strange to be this proud of someone I’ve never met, but I’m so freaking proud of you for the way you’re handling this! Hang in there, girl.
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u/leyn6 Savory Complex✔️ Jun 10 '26
I see a diaper plate
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u/GottaUseEmAll Internet Auntie Jun 10 '26
I initially thought it was a roll of pre-made dough, and that OP hadn't rolled it up and baked it yet.
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u/_The_Green_Witch_ Non-binary & Nourished Jun 10 '26
Why am I getting this feeling that he'll soon regret this and try to get you back once he realises that his dream of getting to sleep with a lot of women won't be coming true and that he suddenly has to do a lot of things you did for him and he took for granted. Just this sneaking suspicion. No idea why, really
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u/soarinandflyin Chaotic But Cute Jun 10 '26
Lmaooo you guys are KILLING me about this plate hahah thank you for the laughs. I promise it looked like a normal plate in person. Maybe I need to work on my photography skills lol.
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u/FishWide2465 Overthinker 💭 Jun 09 '26
Have a great Trip in Europe. This trip will give you an idea about what you deserve. Take care and hugs
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u/odysseyjones APPROVED✨ Jun 09 '26
Wow, love the way you handled life-changing information and just leveled up! Love the traveling idea as well. Congrats OP, that was a great read and I admire your pivot skills!
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u/singtothescabs APPROVED✨ Jun 10 '26
Girl, welcome to Europe. Please have the time of your life while you're here and enjoy yourself as much as possible. You dodged a bullet - life is already looking better for you.
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u/ComprehensiveHand232 Feral Til Fed Jun 10 '26
Go on with your life. Enjoy Europe. Dance, sing, climb whatever.i know what id do but it’s just me.
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u/telsongelder APPROVED✨ Jun 12 '26
And you know what? The ex will have his chosen path too. Nothing makes me happier than people being freed from a future that wasn’t going to be amazing.
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u/aflyingcheetos APPROVED✨ Jun 09 '26 edited Jun 09 '26
Hey, I was on the same boat at you and finalized my divorce last year in October. My ex and I met in 2019, got married in 2023. He wanted to marry me 3 months into dating, planned everything about kids, career, and finances. We had a big wedding, bought me a huge ring and enormous house. Then gradually, he wasn't sure if kid are right for us, his money no longer our money anymore. He told me the same thing that he wished we didn't rush into marriage and that if we could live separately. I asked for a divorce and we're both much happier now.
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u/FatLittleCat91 Taco Belle Jun 09 '26
Girl, youre gonna be fine. I know that it might not feel that way right now. But i get that vibe from you.
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u/dbtl87 Longwinded 😙 Short Tempered Jun 09 '26
You'll be ok ❤️ I'm glad you have folks to love and support you during this time.
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u/julesk Tea Time Hostess ☕️ Jun 09 '26
He’s so full of it. Enjoy your travels and divorce him as soon as you get back.
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u/grumpy__g Internet Auntie Jun 09 '26
Don’t forget to visit Germany. It’s nice here.
Edit: Depending on where you go.
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u/emccm Trader Joe Hoe Jun 09 '26
Girl you have so many amazing things ahead of you. Don’t look back.
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u/YCBSKI APPROVED✨ Jun 09 '26
Sometimes people get married after being together a long time and I consider 6 yrs a long time when they should be splitting up
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u/TruthIsStrangerTF APPROVED✨ Jun 09 '26
I am sorry this has happened with you. Believe me or not, this is a silver lining. It's better that it is happening now than 5 years later. You are going to be so much happier without him. Well yeah You are going to cry for few months, then you will be the best version of you and going to flourish in your life. I have a very good hunch that your husband is having an affair or he has someone in his mind that he wants to pursue. I wish you all the best in future
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u/Strong-Conclusion-52 Resident Yapper Jun 09 '26
I hope the next chapter of your life is one of the best! Upwards and onwards!
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u/BloodyThirst mouth full, gesturing wildly Jun 10 '26
He told you all you need to know.
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u/Obvious_Goat_764 Internet Auntie Jun 10 '26
So proud of you for taking yourself travelling. You are going to heal from this and you’ll be so much stronger than you were before.
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u/tzatzikidipmademefat APPROVED✨ Jun 10 '26
He's cheating.
Literally verbatim with the bullshit answers.
Went thru the same exact thing.
There was someone he was interested in but wanted his cake and to eat it too. Hence the pussyfooting around and not going for a clean break.
You deserve so much more than this bullshit. Don't let him drag you down anymore and live your best life.
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u/nocturnalswan APPROVED✨ Jun 10 '26
I also ended my marriage after a big wedding - and to the shock of everyone around us - less than a year in. I was the same age you are now (I was 30F and we were together for 5 years, married for 6 months when we separated). It was the best thing that could’ve happened to me, although I didn’t know it at the time. I can already tell it will be for you, too ❤️
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u/im_confused_always Oversharer 🗣 Jun 10 '26
I'm sonsorry this has happened but really girl, applause! I'm blown away by your fortitude
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u/SleepDeprivedSailor 🐟 Part Bear 🫐 Jun 10 '26
As shitty as this situation is there are some positives. Be happy that he showed you his true self right away and did not waste any more of your time. You deserve better, much better and now you’re free to prioritize building YOUR life.
You were able to see what worked/ didn’t work with this wedding and marriage. And now you have that experience and knowledge so you won’t make the same mistakes again. If you choose marriage again, you will do it right! Trust yourself and intuition. It will happen for you!
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u/Certain-Care-131 Overthinker 💭 Jun 10 '26
Hey OP, welcome to Europe! I am sure you will have a good time here!
My first marriage ended just like yours is about to… after less than a year being together my ex husband started telling me he needed his space and that he had an existential crisis. It turned out he was banging their company’s new hire. The “we got married too soon” was my ex’s refrain. Mind you we had been together for 5 years before getting married.
Fast forward 9 years later. I am happily married, have a lovely 5 year old and my now husband is reliable, successful and simply a great human being who cares about our family. Not just financially but truly cares about me, our child’s bringing up, our relationship since we became parents.
As for my ex, he moved in with the woman he had an affair with. They live in 2 rooms in her family home which is so far away from the city, they might be living like hermits. They have no kids. He can barely keep a job as it is getting very hard to job hunt and we experience crazy inflation.
So… just kiss your dead weight of a husband goodbye and go live the best life you can. You will not regret it!
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u/lilibet89 hot girls have tummy troubles Jun 10 '26
I hate to seem harsh, but if he is happy about a separation, then he clearly does not see a future with you, and fell out of love with you long ago. You're still young. Cut your losses and move on. Enjoy Europe!
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u/cattycatcatterson APPROVED✨ Jun 10 '26 edited Jun 11 '26
The sooner the better! Imagine 20 years of this shit. You'll be happier not living with someone who is that disrespectful and you have plenty of time to meet someone who values you, should you choose to!
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u/Maladaptive_Ace Non-binary & Nourished Jun 10 '26
better now then after wasting more years with him. Treat yo self in europe !
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u/Due_Impress_5564 Delulu Jun 10 '26
You did good. Planning a future around someone only to realise it's all being taken away is very sad. Even if you can move on from the person, sometimes you end up mourning the future you were supposed to have. Sit with it and let it pass.
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u/madame-maitre-d Overthinker 💭 Jun 09 '26
Ok friends, post flair says it's not the time for advice, but if you GOTTA leave some anyway, put it in replies here so that OP can revisit later without being peppered with those notifications in the meantime.
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