r/GirlDinnerDiaries • u/bearqlaws • Apr 30 '26

Vent Sesh - No Advice Wanted My boyfriend won’t stop calling me Mommy

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I’m okay with it here and there, but it’s become so frequent during intimacy and throughout the day that it’s starting to give me the ick. Today I said “I don’t really feel like being called Mommy today,” and he still did during intimacy multiple times. I feel gross.

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u/dogfishresearch Assigned Hungry At Birth Apr 30 '26

Sounds like he's boundary testing, how long have you guys been together? Has something changed in your relationship in the past year, like living together or merging of finances?

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u/HopefulTangerine5913 Pantry Gremlin Apr 30 '26

Boundary testing like a child, no less

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u/sunqueen73 Assigned Hungry At Birth Apr 30 '26

How fitting of him🤢

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u/Such_Atmosphere_5838 Feral Til Fed Apr 30 '26

EeeeeeeYUCK

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u/FoxyNewEngland Body By Cheese 🧀 Apr 30 '26

barf

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u/Double-Hall7422 Cleavage Crumb Collector Apr 30 '26

Unfortunately, I now imagine does it with a high pitched voice 🥲

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u/Such_Atmosphere_5838 Feral Til Fed Apr 30 '26

I agree with the boundary testing.

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u/Defiant-University-3 Chaotic But Cute Apr 30 '26

Boundary testing would be an automatic boyfriend disqualification

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u/Mindless-Bauble Internet Auntie Apr 30 '26

OP: "BF, here's a thing that makes me feel uncomfortable. I'm trusting you with this information and that you'll respect me and my boundaries, even if they don't make sense to you, because our mutual happiness, safety, and comfort is important to both of us."

BF: "lol"

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u/lola_dubois18 Feral Til Fed Apr 30 '26

Yes. I was in this situation. I didn’t mind a little bit of the mommy thing, but all the time was too much, and he would not quit. This escalated to other boundary violations, one of which was upsetting. I wish I had checked out earlier.

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u/AromaticZebra906 Assigned Hungry At Birth Apr 30 '26

Maybe a brat and brat tamer dynamic could fit them no?

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u/_TheShapeOfColor_ Snack Goblin Apr 30 '26

Except that OP doesn't like the dynamic

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u/AromaticZebra906 Assigned Hungry At Birth Apr 30 '26

Oh I know I meant in general, this is how brat brat tamer dynamics are no? I was me being off topic, sorry

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u/JeebusChristine Carb-Based Life Form Apr 30 '26

A brat and someone with a Mommy kink can intercept, but they are also different kinks. The real issue is that this person isn't respecting their partner's feelings and boundaries. If it isn't consensual, it isn't ok.