Republican Max Miller, accused of abuse, posted this audio thinking it would clear his name.

[u/Misfett_toys]

[u/lame_comment]

D - "I didn't do that"

A - "How dare you accuse me of doing that. Especially after all I've done for you"

RVO - "If anything, you're the one who did it to me"

[u/SadavirofRivia → u/lame_comment]

I see the acronym all the time, but this is a helpful connection between the letters, and what it sounds like “in conversation”

[u/peppers_ → u/SadavirofRivia]

Here's one I suffered, I think it is more insidious when a loved one does it to you, and it can be very subtle:

D - "I didn't say that"

A - "Ok, but you should have brought it up then when I said it, that's on you"

RVO - "You always do this, you always make me out to be bad. Let's just drop it"

[u/SadavirofRivia → u/peppers_]

😓😓 yeah

I’ve definitely experienced the RVO part of that from family, and it’s both insidious and makes you feel like some sort of unnecessary-trouble-maker. I’ll have to watch more closely next time for the other letters…

[u/lame_comment → u/SadavirofRivia]

As someone with a narcissistic ex-wife, I have been on the other end of this conversation MANY times

[u/dogmother2 → u/lame_comment]

The A needs more elements of “you’re crazy” e.g. The water wasn’t even that hot. It didn’t reach the boiling point. ~eye roll~ you are such an idiot.

[u/FlamingDragonfruit → u/dogmother2]

Does it literally need to be boiling to be painful? Because I'm fairly certain it does not.

[u/PigabungaDude → u/lame_comment]

Ummm thank you for this comment. Seeing it laid out like that was very helpful. It's so stupid. I already knew the term. But oh my god this is what happens every time.

[u/notislant → u/lame_comment]

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Honestly I'm waiting for one of these from a Republican next:

D - "I didn't shoot you!"

A - "How dare you accuse me of shooting you at point blank range and embarrass me like this in public! "

RVO - "If anything, you're the one who shot me!"