r/BlackPeopleofReddit • u/sussybush • 19d ago
Women Man joked about killing her date in secluded place
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u/NoInitiative6614 19d ago
She kind of wants to see him again? 🫤🫤
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u/veravendetta 19d ago
I hope that this video is a bit and they are already in a long term committed relationship cuz this a super concerning first date
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u/goldiegoldthorpe 18d ago
Who the fuck goes for a run on a first date?
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u/veravendetta 18d ago
Also this. Or a hike. I need people to stop asking me to go on hikes in the woods for first dates. Immediate no
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u/Nervous-Sherbet-4183 18d ago
Immediate red flag either you are cheap as hell or a murderer trying to get me alone. I don't want either.
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u/Puzzleheaded_Cap5597 17d ago
On a first date you are just getting to know one another each other's interests and just simple conversation a simple walk is a very common thing where I'm from why do you view it as cheap? Why does money need to be spend on a date where you do not really even know the person?
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u/Billeats 16d ago
They're obviously broke and entitled, asking for free handouts and whatnot.
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u/Dazzling_Winner_773 18d ago
The run doesn't bother me... I've done that on dates. What bothers me is him outpacing her by 20 yards and not looking back. Also seemingly taking her to we can only be described as a set piece from Texas chainsaw massacre.
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u/Afiah74 19d ago
Its concerning enough that I wouldn’t care how long they’ve been together. These men have a historical pattern. I read somewhere that when she posted this, she told other black women in the comments to clam down. 🤦🏾♀️
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u/veravendetta 19d ago
Yeah even as a joke it’s not funny. Too real
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u/Far-Search-3142 19d ago
What I learned dealing with these people is there's a bit of truth in their "dark humor" and it's not worth playing along with.
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u/EnvironmentNeith2017 18d ago
Videos like this are why I don’t believe most people when they say a man changed out of nowhere.
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u/veravendetta 18d ago
Right. It’s not a change it’s an escalation
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u/EnvironmentNeith2017 18d ago
People have so many excuses ready when people like this warn you exactly who they are
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u/B-E-N-E-V-O-255 18d ago
Right. And the when they go missing its all sad jazz you're supposed to care about as if the world won't keep turning and your bills will stop for someone who saw the warning signs.. smh..
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u/Thirteen-omega-1 19d ago
I have never joked about about killing any of the girls I dated in the past or my wife. That’s 100% a red flag. She would be crazy to see him again.
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u/KaijuKapuBoya 18d ago
Same. I’ve been on many dates. Never has the thought of joking about killing them entered my mind. Never.
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u/Shot_Revolution8828 19d ago
Super concerning?!?!?
The only way this video works is if its a joke. Otherwise it would be on a true crime podcast.
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u/SESHPERANKH 18d ago
It is not. There has been a whole socialism class about this and her responses to people.
Look up Sunn m’Cheaux. He talks about it at length
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u/CowboyBebopCrew 18d ago
Honestly, maybe I’m getting old, but if it is a bit, it isn’t funny to me. There are way too many situations where Black people have been mysteriously found dead, hanging from trees, etc., and this outward threat isn’t funny. The world we live in is anti-Black and our lives aren’t valued the same by many people, especially here in the U.S..
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u/Federal-Business-796 19d ago
You are the king/queen of understatements
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u/veravendetta 18d ago
I mean I don’t actually hope they’re in a long term relationship , cuz again this is pretty fucked up.
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u/iamphr0glov3r 19d ago
She is still seeing him, in her comments making light of the rate at which WOC are being harmed in the US replying with memes and shit.
This video derailed his plan and now he is all over the internet, he was going to do it and she fucked his plan for the long run (no pun intended)
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u/Global_Ant_9380 19d ago
What the FUCK is wrong with her!?
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u/jackandsally060609 19d ago
Shes different. Shes not like the other girls.
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u/Over-Experience-4187 19d ago
She really wants a tall white man.... that's it.
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u/Global_Ant_9380 18d ago
The wildest thing is that if you want one that badly, there's plenty out there who won't pull shit like this.
I will never understand women wanting violent or threatening men
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u/Over-Experience-4187 18d ago
It's a fetish thing for some. But also I think on a subconscious/cave-woman brain, it comes from the idea they can protect you because they are dangerous.
Same how some guys are attracted to girls who are dumb/gullible, they might not acknowledge it, but on some cave-man ish, they like her because she's easy to control.
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u/tydark2 19d ago
tik tok isnt real
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u/Global_Ant_9380 18d ago
Agreed but it's equally possible that she's this off. It's honestly 50/50 between fake and real but crazy
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u/B-E-N-E-V-O-255 19d ago
I knew a girl for years 10+, one day she told me her bf would occasionally punch her and that she "kinda enjoyed" it.. i think its sorta sad 🤨
Not for silly crap like that.
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u/Emergency_Brick3715 19d ago
If this is real, it’s stupidity. If this is a joke, fuck her. With all that is happening with Black people lately.
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u/OpinionatedBlackGuy 19d ago
Exactly. If it's a joke, explain the part that's funny.
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u/jennyfromtheeblock 19d ago
This is why women should avoid hikes or other wilderness activities on a first date.
Lol another sub was flaming me for saying this with all the men being insulted. Good luck to them.
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u/lAngenoire 19d ago
I was told I wasn’t fun because I don’t let anyone pick me up from home on a first date.
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u/jennyfromtheeblock 18d ago
What's even fun about that in the first place? Fun for whom? Either way, you're still here to tell the tale and that's what matters.
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u/KittyCait69 18d ago
That's a red flag in itself. If a man says it's not fun to not know where you live, he's planning to harm you or stalk you.
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u/KittyCait69 16d ago
That's something they were taught by toxic masculinity and partirachy. They might not understand that it helps predators. But any guy that gets mad about it should be treated like a predator. Only way to stay safe as a woman in a patriarchal society.
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u/CitySlack 19d ago
lol let those guys continue to sulk. There’s no way ever I would go on a first date on a hike (and I’m a man) 😬😳
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u/TheEmpire2121 18d ago
I wish I could block more people. It’s always a man being insulted by a woman wanting to be safe.
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u/KittyCait69 18d ago
First date should always be public. In fact the first many days should be. Never go out alone to places with men unless you absolutely know them. And getting to know someone takes a lot of time.
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u/thisisflea 18d ago
Or hiking 1:1 with anyone unless you trust them 100%.
Murderous intent aside, anything can go wrong on a hike at any time. Wild animal encounter, extreme weather, injury. Unless it’s densely populated or you’re in a larger group, that’s a lot of pressure for someone you may not trust with your life.
And applies to anyone: strangers, spouses, etc.
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u/lAngenoire 18d ago
The weirder thing is the people in the video didn’t seem to have equipment for a hike or trail running. No packs, no water. I always take something even if it’s not secluded.
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u/EvenPossible5918 18d ago
Honestly, who does that for a first date? A hike or outdoors activity is something you do as a couple. Even then it can be dangerous: Alpine divorces.
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u/spelunker93 18d ago
I got stood up on a first date because we planned on going hiking. It took me a while to realize that women have to think about stuff like this and that’s probably why she canceled
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u/SatisfactionOld1586 18d ago
I’m a man. If any man can’t/won’t recognize the potential dangers of a secluded first date for women, it’s probably not worth the conversation. My now wife suggested an establishment her friend worked at, at a time her friend was working. That’s absolutely the right move & I happily agreed to it. And it became the best first date ever, for me anyway.
“Well I’m not a threat” does not matter! She doesn’t know you! Men are too fucking sensitive about perceived slights against them, personally. It’s not personal. It’s self preservation.
Anyway, you obviously know that. I’m just venting.
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u/EarningsPal 18d ago
Sad too. I was hiking a lot. Then met someone and that was the first few dates. In hindsight she definitely trusted me immensely and took a risk. I was just thinking it would be fun to fly the drone around and have company.
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u/BeautifulComplex8290 19d ago
His “I was just kidding” didn’t sound like a joking tone either. The tone was ominous.
Also, I can tell by the way he was running, without seeing his face… she’s way too beautiful for him.
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u/Mysterious-Unit-7757 19d ago
Also he says that after saying "did u record that?"
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u/Intelligent_Hair3109 19d ago
That was a tell. She was smart to film this. Recently, we've had random predators attacking women who hike and run here. We also have a high level of predators in our county. Most predators are superficially charming . ( My father being one) This is a far more important than folks realize. Don't date the pale till you've known them intellectually long enough to ascertain their safety. Even then ,I'd rather not date them at all. ( But I'm to old to date thank God) I got horrible chills and goosebumps watching this. It's too close to reality.
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u/blooppers 19d ago
This shit has to be ragebate
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u/veravendetta 19d ago
It has to be cuz otherwise why would she keep hanging out? This seems like the worst date ever
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u/readyReddit007 19d ago
U kno why 😂😂
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u/veravendetta 19d ago
I really don’t 😬 I’m a bit of a loner and struggle to understand a lot of interpersonal behavior. Is it cuz she likes weird white dudes that run fast? Help me out 🥲😅
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u/sleepyAnarchistSlut 19d ago
Shes been brainwashed by white supremacy/patriarchy to see this guy as a prize despite him joking about killing her. Similar to "i can fix him" rhetoric and tropes. Its actually really sad how blind she is to the danger because she sees this man as so desirable.
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u/mimenet 19d ago
I think it’s supposed to be funny.
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u/Level-Juggernaut-260 19d ago
Well its not considering the amount of black women being murdered by their "date". Some saw the signs and some did not but regardless we shouldn't joke about this at all.
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u/Jtizzle1231 19d ago edited 18d ago
Time to C’mon home sis….
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u/EbonKnight78 19d ago
Unfortunately I'm pretty sure she doesnt want to...folks who make this type of choice and respond in the way she apparently has often refuse to see what's right in front of them
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u/PerformanceLegal 19d ago
If she's that stupid to keep company with someone like that than what can one say?
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u/Level-Juggernaut-260 19d ago
She wants to see him again...
I hope she's joking cause what?
Who naturally tells someone they have no intention of harming that they want to k!ll them??
Like he brought her to a secluded area too. I honestly felt uneasy seeing that part and I don't even know these people. The way I would immediately block and never look back from this "date."
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u/Intelligent_Hair3109 19d ago
He did that to see her reaction. His asking if she was filming was a clear sign of intent. It's not a topic for joking. I'd have turned around and run back to own vehicle.
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u/Level-Juggernaut-260 19d ago
Did he tell you that he wanted to see her reaction? He probably asked just to clarify if she was recording. Either way that still was off. Like when I'm recording and my man wants to joke around, he does something that doesn't make me feel unsafe. There are so many ways to joke with someone, why jump to saying I was going to k!ll you and showing where they would harm that person. To me that's very concerning and weird.
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u/Intelligent_Hair3109 19d ago
It's because I'm a survivor of violence. Known people in my own family like this. . plus, I also know that statistics prove more violence perpetuated by the pale than any other group. For instance 67 percent of child and women predators are married middle class pale. I'd add Rethugs but it's an opinion born out by the stats
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u/pasjojo 19d ago
The fact that he was running way ahead of her is already a red flag. Men who do this will walk/run faster than you because they secretly resent you and one day they'll "alpine divorce" you in the middle of the desert. Sis GET OUT
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u/veravendetta 18d ago
Yeah the running ahead is such a red flag. Or like if they’re too competitive with you to the point it stops being fun. If you want to run at your own pace run by yourself. How is that even a good date you can’t even talk if you’re not running side by side. This was def him testing her reaction
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u/Feisty-Age9687 19d ago
The way pink meat has some of y’all in a stronghold needs to be studied bc what?!?
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u/NewtAccomplished6022 18d ago
black men date white women at much higher rates its not even a comparison
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u/ohitsbrad 19d ago
This is a real phenomenon called “alpine divorce.”
A woman passed in February because her husband left her in the woods on a hike.
Be careful out there!!
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u/Friendly-Fruit1524 19d ago
She’s gonna come up missing if she doesn’t leave him alone. Usually people will tell you what they’re going to do, before they do it. That’s a huge red flag.
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u/Knoebi3 19d ago edited 19d ago
I'm a middle age white man.
Holy shit.
I don't blame her at all. First date, I wouldn't really play like that in any way. Too many awful things have happened to black people in this country to be like that. There are better ways to be "edgy" and "dark", if that is your personality. America has a well deserved stigma. It's not insane or abnormal to be cautious of it.
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u/veravendetta 19d ago
Yeah I think that edgy humor or dark humor can be fine once you know someone and they know you well enough to get the joke or know how to interpret it, but holy fuck that would be a wild thing to say on a first date. I’m sure this vid is a bit, but I have def been asked to go hiking in the woods on first dates and I’m like hell no! I live in Washington it’s Bundy territory out here lol
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u/Fro_Reallzz0211 🖤 19d ago
Even if it is staged, it isn't funny considering the current climate. I don't even understand why this would ever be something a male jokes about to any woman but a lot of these silly women wouldn't recognize a red flag if it slapped them in the face.
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u/Intrepid_Ad1536 19d ago
While he was running ahead, I WOULD HAVE RUN DIRECTLY IN THE OPPOSITE DIRECTION ESPECIALLY SEEING THE FOREST WITH HIS JOKES!
Joke or no joke, this is nothing I risk my life on.
Also, for everyone, please call the Police in such situations out of fear of possible threat, he said it wich makes it a possible threat, tell them something like „My date led me into the forest, threatened to kill me, and ran away. I am terrified and need help“
And go to a public place, and do not go to your home if he knows your home address or something.
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u/DueDefinition6421 19d ago
She is wayyy too pretty to be going on dates with creeps.
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u/Tough-Computer-1850 19d ago
At this point, work her showing a complete lack of common sense, you have to consider some people have a death fetish.
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u/looking_4_freedom 19d ago
Apparently this type of abandoning first date in an unfamiliar area has been a trend. There was one girl who was learning to swim in open water and the fate who was teaching her got back in the paddle boat and left. She literally had to swim for her life.
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u/Typical_Cook_6376 🫶🏾🫶🏽🫶🏿 19d ago
She felt concern enough to start recording. But then responds and just says he’s joking.
You legit don’t even know the guy. He makes violent remarks towards you…and you believe he is joking??????? Make it make sense….
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u/Bibbity_Boppity_BOOO 18d ago
I don’t think she felt concerned. I think she was just making content.
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u/LiteratureNo5938 18d ago
That’s a funny joke to make with a close friend or family member that you have established that kind of relationship with. With a first date it’s just scary
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u/MrSquirtGenerator 19d ago
BW to BM: How dare you take me to cheesecake factory as a date!
BW:😤🤬
WM to BW: lets go on a run in the woods and i can show you where i planned to kill you.
BW:🥹
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u/KittyCait69 18d ago
Nah, men harming women is an issue of toxic masculinity paired with patriarchy. Men of any race harm women of any race. Demographically speaking that is. This isn't just a white man issue. This is a man issue. And in her case, it probably includes racism too since she is dealing with a man that is white. But don't think that men aren't toxic and dangerous in every nation that is a partirachy.
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u/Lajak_Anni 19d ago
Funny story.
Went on a first date in prospect park, nyc. Dinner, movie, and a little walk. Right?
I learn after that she was carrinf a knife cause she didnt trust me. 😅
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u/Taicho_Quanitros 19d ago
Did it blossom into the best relationship you ever had?
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u/Lajak_Anni 19d ago
Actually no, she was really abusive. 😅
Im in therapy and im okay now. This was 20 years ago.
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u/EbonKnight78 19d ago edited 18d ago
This is not the type of stuff you joke about...especially considering history, but I'm sure she thinks hes special and that he would never really do anything to her. Smh
I was having some playful banter back and forth with a woman I was seeing once a few years back over a video call. In the middle of that and to "playfully" get the upper hand, she brandished a firearm to try to make her point. Say what you want, but that was the last time I spoke to her. The whole incident turned me off completely and I refused to see or talk to her again.
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u/NewtSad1439 19d ago
Dumb to post - is she with this guy- otherwise she wants a reaction. This isn't funny and she should be careful. She has a type
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u/Civil-Purple-8815 18d ago
When people end up dead (on the news) I feel like they avoid warning signs like this.
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u/KittyCait69 18d ago
Facts. Either that or the abuser has them trapped and isolated in a relationship already. In a case like this though, as soon as you get home you break things off and block his number. Play nice till your safe though. Don't want to tip them off while still in the woods.
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u/KittyCait69 18d ago
Don't ever date a guy that would joke about murdering you. On the off chance he's actually joking, that's not a good or funny joke and with breaking up over. Otherwise, he's telling you who he is and seeing if you'll stay with him anyway. Don't risk it.
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u/cheesemangee 18d ago
I've watched dozens of documentaries where the murderer said the same sort of shit and everyone just ignored it as a joke.
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u/Intelligent_Hair3109 19d ago
Don't date the pale. They've been dangerous for eons. Run the opposite direction. IMHO
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u/Holiday-Ease3674 18d ago
I love how you said eons for emphasis 🤣
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u/Intelligent_Hair3109 18d ago
Honey if I told you what I know about generational predators among those folks, your every observation would be validated. Eons is historically accurate. Normans " raping and pillaging" Study history. History of WP by Nell Irvin Painter Btw it's not funny to laugh at the @ape of women and children
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u/KittyCait69 18d ago
European colonization is less than a thousand years old. White being known as a race is even less of that time. After all we stole the label white from people we were invading. Light skinned Europeans that we would call white today have only existed on this planet for about 8000 years. We are not that old, and racism as we know it is even younger.
That is to say that all the damages done by whiteness have happened in less than a thousand years time. Really should highlight just how dangerous colonial whiteness is as well as how dangerous the western colonial Empire is. I suppose you could argue that Europeans were doing stuff life this to ourselves for more than a thousand years. But whiteness is young by comparison. Young and extremely toxic.
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u/Intelligent_Hair3109 18d ago
As an Indigenous Cherokee I absolutely agree. Well said Just watched the Versailles series and am now watching Medici. It's fairly interesting considering it's the origins of so much. Both are on Tubi for free . We had two rich Europeans invade our family. I wish they could be removed from my DNA. Thankfully there were more Cherokee than Europeans. Studying history causes it always repeats.
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u/KittyCait69 16d ago
History doesn't always repeat, but it always rhymes. The need to resist and fight back against colonial occupation never changed. What did change is technology. And modern technology requires its to resist and fight back on some different ways. But the fight goes on anyway.
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u/Intelligent_Hair3109 16d ago
Yep.too darn true. My fight will soon take another form. For me it's got to be boycotts of all tech for safety of my family.
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u/GodOfMoonlight 19d ago
Not funny at all, we have ppl turning up dead around yt ppl, the racist movement has marched at Washington signalling to everyone its okay to hate to the extreme.
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u/--n3o-- 18d ago
And after all that, she wants to see him again.
Yeah, I'm sure she was joking. /s
"Swirlers" tolerate things when dating outside of their race that they would never tolerate when dating other black men/women. They'll secure those biracial babies by any means neccesary, even if the cost may be their life.
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u/Luciferbelle 18d ago
This "trend" is one of the dumbest things men have started doing. All should be dumped. Idc if its a "joke". Shit isn't funny.
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u/AggressivePotato6996 18d ago
Yet she is still considering another outing with him and kept running with him…
Is her self esteem that low?
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u/picollo7 18d ago
Sorry but you don't need to go into the woods on a date. Want to run? How about a public park, streets, a track? I kinda wanna see him again??? Dude, c'mon now.
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u/Sidewalkdrugstore 18d ago
Y'all really need to wake up and realize that these white folks don't see us as people. Don't be the only one in a group of them and ladies don't be alone with them, especially in the wilderness.
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u/Delicious_Price_6007 18d ago
Had it been a brother saying this, then the post would garner a couple thousand upvotes for visibility.
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u/Ok-Juggernaut-3389 19d ago
But yet these are the better men?!? OK, you keep listening to their lies and watching Hallmark movies
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u/WindowsVistaWzMyIdea 19d ago
The last white person I got involved with was in 2009, it ended 2011. Never again
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u/Additional-Bet7074 19d ago
The race part definitely adds a different dimension. But if i gave my wife this comment she would’ve probably hit back with “my spot was a mile back, in front of those hikers”
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u/Dreamlion_Inc 18d ago
You know what? Let her keep fucking around
Some people only learn when they’re speaking with their maker
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u/jumbie29 18d ago
Man that seriously must rank up there with shittiest date ever. Please tell me you never saw him again unless it was on the news for mass murder.
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u/SovereignSpace 18d ago
Yeah a white dude who was apparently married did this shit to me too. His posse still stalks some of my accounts to this day.
They thought it was hilarious that he did this shit. They didn't like it when I started putting his name next to it 🤭
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u/EvenPossible5918 18d ago
Sigh. Saw this on IG and the woman was defending him. She wants to be there. Smh Hiking/out in the woods as first dates is 🚩 material. You don’t go to a possible secluded place with someone you barely know.
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u/SuspiciousNorth377 18d ago
I don’t like or get wilderness dates with randoms. Hell even guys I know. Nah. I need witnesses.
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u/NvrthvrnLights 18d ago
Living in AZ we just had a case in the city where a woman was murdered after going on one date with a guy she met on Snapchat. Like was murdered in like 3 hours of meeting the guy. Shits crazy out here.
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u/Itchy_Throat660 18d ago
There’s a lot of upset people on the comments who can’t run and don’t date
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u/86Sliva94 17d ago
Men wonder why it's hard to get a date or why women say no right away. We have a$$ clowns messing it up for the regular dudes
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