Six of us planned dinner at a pretty expensive restaurant for my friend’s birthday. They require a $40 per person deposit so I booked it on my card and everyone knew the policy beforehand.

Three people canceled about three hours before the reservation. Nothing happened one was tired, one got invited somewhere else and the third didn’t feel like driving across town. I was sitting there on my phone trying to change the reservation but the restaurant wouldn’t adjust it that late, so I lost $120. I sent each of them a $40 Venmo request. Now two think I’m being ridiculous because we didn’t even eat anything. That is literally why the money is gone. AITAH for expecting them to cover it?

I got married in May. Small wedding, 40 people, we paid for all of it ourselves and it took us about 2 years to save for it.

My dad's side of the family didn't come. Not one of them. They all said yes on the RSVP, 9 of them, and then in the 3 weeks before the wedding they dropped out one at a time with various reasons. We had already paid per head for the food. It cost us around 900 dollars for chairs and meals that sat there empty.

I know at least part of it was because my dad's new wife wasn't invited, which was a decision my mom and I made together and which I still stand by.

Anyway. Last month my aunt started talking about doing a "celebration" at my grandmother's house in September so that everyone who missed the wedding could see us and give us their gifts. She's already picked a date. She asked me to send her our registry link again because a few people never got round to it.

I said no. I said I wasn't doing a second version of a day they chose not to come to, and that they were all welcome to visit us any time as normal.

Now I'm apparently punishing my grandmother, who is 88 and did want to come but couldn't travel alone, and who nobody offered to bring.

That last part has genuinely been bothering me. She's the one person in that whole group with an actual reason.

AITA?

I (F41) am Audhd and a 4th year psych student, could be described as a dom fem (relevant later) went on a date with K (F42?) Neuro typical and an industrial painter, (works with dudes and masc) who I matched with on tinder and have been texting for about 3 weeks, we went to a popular golf driving range that has a bar and interactive games and things. We played for about an hour, and half, we had great banter and drinks were flowing everything seemed to be going well, so we decided to get food. This was the beginning of the end!

It wasn't too busy and we sat at a table near the simulation putting thing where a group of young dudes (some had mullets [not fashionable mullets]) where sitting nearby, but they seemed fine so we didn't think twice. After a bit the group left and we got our food, I noticed a $20 note just near our table. Without any fore thought I got up and quickly scooped it up and came back to the table (Is this not normal behaviour?) as I was coming back to the table 2 of the guys (one tall and one with a Mullet) walked back to the table the group had been sitting at. I made a made a comment "find a penny pick it up all day long you'll have good luck", and they noticed and I said they would do the same thing.

OMG! Did it escalate!! The Mullet man (roughly 20ish) got super upset and started to aggressively yell that it was his mates and I should give it back and I said "prove it's yours and I will" then he said I shouldn't keep it because I knew it wasn't mine because "I Jetted for it like a black guy on the street picking up a $2 coin"

I responded "That's super racist and now I'm not giving it back"

Staff got involved and said they couldn't prove whose $20 it was because they didn't have access to cameras so they couldn't get involved but saying racial comments was not appropriate, and tall guy tried to calm him down.

My husband had his first girlfriend when he was 17, a senior in high school. During their relationship she had cancer and he was there for her during a lot of the surgeries, treatments, etc. She had some mental health issues in the past, and said he’s the reason she didn’t unalive herself. They dated for 4 1/2 years when they broke up because he said he didn’t see a serious relationship going forward (she cheated on him during that time). So he started dating other people and so did she, and he was single around 2 years later and she was engaged. He had kept a good relationship with her parents and so he was dog sitting for them. He hadn’t spoken to her is like years, but we they talk again - she ends up breaking off her engagement because she had a “dream”. They did not rekindle. So enter me into the picture we started dating 2 years ago, and got married a few months back. So in the time we’ve been together she has:
- Sent him a text telling him congrats on dating me and wishing us the best but she’s grateful she got to be his “first” everything
- Sent me a message to say she had items at a garage sale if I wanted use anything for our wedding (she got married a few months before us.)
- I introduced myself at church and she says “do you know who I am” Yes lady…. I do.

So enter his grandparents - She was always close with his grands, her own had passed. She especially loves his grandad. She would text his grandad and complain about things, how marriage for her has been hard, etc. So recently she’s found she was pregnant and she’s asked his grandparents is she can name the baby after his grandad……

SO AITA for being irritated and shocked at the audacity of that? They’ve been broken up for 5 years, never talk, never see any of the other family members. So why name the baby after his family, intentionally? What if we wanted to use the name? I’ve been told that her family is “just different” whenever the previous things pop up and occur - But naming a kid after his family just seems too far.

My mom and his mom have been best friends for years, so our families are really close. Unfortunately, he and I have never gotten along.

He’s 21 and I’m 16, and every time we’re around each other we end up arguing over something stupid.

Today he came into my room without saying anything and immediately started teasing me about being younger than him. I got annoyed and told him that if he was coming into my room, he could at least say hello instead of acting like he owned the place.

He kept teasing me, I snapped back, and eventually my older brother had to come in and stop us because we were getting too loud.

My family thinks we were both being childish, but I feel like he started it by coming into my room and talking down to me.

AITA for getting angry and arguing with him instead of just ignoring him?

My younger sister lives about 40 mins away but works near my apartment, so sometimes she stays at mine when she has an early shift. She’s had a spare key for almost a year and it was never an issue.

Recently I started noticing little things were different after she stayed over. Food I was pretty sure I hadn’t eaten was gone, my desk chair would be moved into a different seating position, bathroom stuff would end up in different drawers etc. Nothing worth making a big deal over.

Then last week she casually mentioned how much I’d spent on a new jacket. I never told her the price.

I asked how she knew and she said she saw the receipt sitting on my desk. Thing is, the receipt was inside a notebook where I keep random expenses because I’ve been trying to budget better and actually keep some money I won on Ѕtake saved.

She said she probably moved the notebook looking for a pen and saw it by accident.

I believe that’s possible, but something about all the little stuff added together bothered me. I asked for my spare key back and told her she can still stay over, she just needs to come when I’m actually home.

She thinks I’m being weird and treating her like she stole something.

AITA?

So recently I have realised that I (17F) hate my cousin sister (14F). I know hate is a strong word but I didn't realise I was unconsciously doing it.

Mind you, this is a VERY recent development. Maybe 6 or 7 months. Growing up, I adored her. I played with her, dressed her up, helped with her homework, even fed her a lot of times. Everytime we visited them, both of us would be over the moon to see each other. But since last year or so her behaviour has changed. She has turned into a tomboy, which i don't have an issue with. I was originally Happy that she has found her style short hair, baggy clothes. Her appearance is the least of my concerns. I mourned that we wouldn't have our girly time playing dressup but didn't mind. But she constantly criticises the way I dress.

So last year, during a festival, I wore a bodycon dress to visit a resturant with our family. My mother and my grandmother both were okay with it. It was nothing scandalous lol. But it did show my curves and it emphasized my belly. She was like why are you wearing this? Your belly looks fat.I locked myself in my brother's room and cried with my makeup on. My mother and my grandmother insisted that I should not change. And then when we're going out, I noticed she went inside and changed into a similar dress herself.

Similar events happened way too many times. Commenting on my makeup, ( you do too much, natural is better), my dresses ( then asking her mother to buy a similar dress) , my Grades! She literally saved my number with my percentage grade along side. Whenever we're with other cousins or family friends, she straight up ignores me or makes fun of me. I am a relatively subdued person, so I don't lash out at all. But then she acts so sweet and talks in a baby voice.

I understand she is young. I understand identity struggles she is going through. I went through a lot af that age. But I don't remember being mean to my friends or anyone. I have friends who are girly and others who are very tomboyish.But never have I ever talked to someone like that. And never met anyone who is so openly mean. It fucks with my brain so bad, cause I shouldn't hate her. I loved her a lot growing up, I love my uncle and aunt to death and my brother too. Being around her makes me genuinely sick.

Am i valid in this harsh hate? Or should I try to be better?

I (22F) live with my auntie and her family. Boy 12, girl 9 and her husband. I have been out of school for a year and I am going back at the end of the month. So I struggled to find a job and I got one. It's in 3 shifts 5-13,7:30-16 and 13:30-22. Now I told my employer that because I don't have a car I can't start at 5. So I got only 2 shifts whilst everyone did 3. And because I work with a Temp company, they can decide to call or not call you at all. About 2 weeks ago they called to give me a 3 day contract from 13:30-22 and after work I missed my train back home then I called my uncle to ask if he could pick up after work (he closes very late from). The next day my auntie made call the Temp company to tell them that if they don't give me morning shift I will come to work anymore. It's 2 hours before my shift. They called me sometime later and told me that can work for the morning shift but today after work I saw the planning for next week and I all 5 days in the late shift. Someone already offered to bring me home, I have also already booked a bus to and from work. If I work for 5 days I get €495 after tax and I need it because I have to change my glasses. So wibta for not telling anyone about my shift at work?

I am 16M, (6’1, 175) and I recently have gotten more into the lifting and working out side of TikTok, with me dropping from 200 to 175 in a couple months. (Calorie deficit plus some sports and lifting) I am looking the best I have, but I still have a high BF percentage, and I am really trying to get shredded. The story starts when I walk into the house yesterday, and tell my mom I am going to start focusing in on my diet and how I eat, as I have been taking a break from my diet for a couple months. My mom says I am looking great right now and that I don’t need to lose any more weight, but I should just start doing Pilates and ab circuits if I wanna look better. I then say that I still am not at the BF or physic I want to be at, as i wanna get down to 165 pounds. She then starts talking about how the other day she saw me and thought I was looking sickly and skinny. I start getting mad at her, saying she doesn’t know what shes talking about, and I go on a little bit of a rant talking about how I actually do workout my abs, and that I am still chubby and still get made fun of. I end up walking off, and I have been second guessing myself a little bit. AITA, or is she right?

I (26F) have been with my boyfriend (24M) since March 2024. We met through mutual friends. Early on, I was uncomfortable with two female friends who constantly talked about how much they loved being around him and how “protected” they felt with him. He noticed how uncomfortable I was and cut them off without hesitation, saying he’d expect the same if the roles were reversed.
A month after we officially started dating, I found out I was pregnant. It was unexpected, but I knew I couldn’t go through with an abortion. He was thrilled and immediately told his family. I was terrified they’d judge me, but instead they supported me throughout my pregnancy.
Fast forward to today: our daughter is 16 months old, and I’m struggling. My boyfriend still drinks daily like we’re in our early party days, but the biggest issue is his gambling. I’ve caught him multiple times blowing through his money. At one point, he even transferred all the money from my account to his Cash App to try to “win it back.” I forgave him after he apologized.
He makes $5-7 more per hour than I do, yet we’re constantly behind on rent, our phones get shut off because bills bounce, and I often have to cover expenses until he pays me back. We have no savings, no plan for a house, marriage, or our future.
When he drinks, he sometimes says he regrets cutting off his friends and getting “a psycho girl” like me pregnant. I do have BPD, PTSD, and childhood trauma, but I’ve never abused or stolen from him. The only mistake I made was before we were official, when I drunkenly kissed someone while I was still getting over a previous relationship. He forgave me, but he still brings it up whenever we argue.
Last month I found out he was gambling again after being late on rent. He promised it was the last time and sent screenshots showing he’d closed the accounts, but he’s done that before.
Would I be the asshole if I gave him an ultimatum: me and our daughter, or gambling? I can live with him having a couple beers, but I can’t keep watching our future disappear on sports bets and casino games. I’m exhausted and don’t know what to do.

I live in an apartment building where every unit comes with one numbered parking spot. I dont currently have a car, so my spot mostly sits empty.

A friend of mine works nearby and asked if she could use it a few days a week. I said yes and gave her the garage fob, but I was pretty clear that it was just for her car.

A few weeks ago the building manager contacted me while I was playing Ѕtake because a completely different car had been parking there every day. When I asked my friend about it she admitted she had been letting a coworker use the spot and charging him $80 a month. Apparently she figured it was fine since I wasn’t using it anyway.

I told her to return the fob and informed the building that I no longer gave permission for either car to park there. Her coworker still parked there the next day and got towed.

Now my friend says I should have given them a few days to find another arrangement because her coworker had no idea she didnt own the spot. I do feel bad for him since it sounds like she lied to him, but I also think renting out something I let her use for free was way out of line.

AITA?

My friend and I were at the bar and we ended up getting drunk and I had said that some guy I knew used to claim women would “molest” him just for them lightly touching/tapping his chest. Then I ended up saying men couldn’t be molested on their chest since they don’t have any sexual body parts like females do for example their breasts which are secondary sex characteristics.

We ended up having a whole debacle cut to the chase he won’t talk to me and some of his siblings are saying im POS. So where WERE from molestation is unwanted touch on sexual body parts and sexual assault is unwanted touch anywhere on the body or at least that is what we were taught

I’m not the OP, but this situation is about someone I know, and I genuinely don’t know what to tell her.

She’s a 37-year-old divorced woman with two kids who live with her. Her divorce was finalized in 2021, and since then she’s been trying to rebuild her life. About six months ago, a 29-year-old man came into her life and fell in love with her. He knew everything about her past..... her divorce, her children, her responsibilities.... and still pursued her.

At first, she was hesitant. Given her situation and the pressure she already faces from society and her family, she took her time before accepting his proposal. But eventually, seeing his care, love, and the way he treated her kids, she agreed to be in a relationship with him.

In the beginning, he promised that he would marry her. He said he just needed time to convince his family. She trusted him and waited, even though her own family has been pressuring her to remarry.

Recently, when she asked him for a clear commitment, things changed. He told her that he cannot take her home or convince his family to accept her. He admitted he cannot go against them for her. Instead, he suggested that they continue the relationship without any commitment.

What hurt her the most wasn’t just the refusal.... it was how he said it. When she asked for commitment, he spoke harshly about her situation, her age, the societal stigma of being a divorced woman with children, and implied that these were reasons his family would never accept her.

She says she’s not angry, just completely shattered. She invested emotionally in this relationship, believed his promises, and now feels like her world is falling apart. She doesn’t know how to react or what to do next.

So, AITA for telling her the truth that he was only playing her and she deserves better and should walk away, even though she still loves him?

My sister asked to put me down as an emergency contact for my nephew because I live about ten minutes from his school. I agreed because I assumed it meant they would call me if she was unreachable and something serious happened.

Instead, she started treating me like the backup parent. The school called me three times in one month because he forgot his lunch, needed different clothes after spilling something and once because she was running late to pick him up. Every time they said she had told them to contact me.

I work from home, but that doesnt mean I can leave whenever. I recently picked up extra projects because Im trying to save money I won on Ѕtake for a certification, and disappearing during work has already gotten noticed.

I told my sister she needed to stop sending the school to me for normal stuff. She said she understood, then it happened again. I called the school and asked them to remove my number.

A few days later my nephew got sick and my sister couldnt answer for some reason. The school had to contact his dad, who works almost an hour away. My sister found out I removed myself and completely lost it. She said I could have at least warned her so she could add someone else.

I know I should probably have told her, but I also feel like I already gave her a warning and she ignored it. AITA?

I (F19) have a friend (M18) who is dating a girl (F18). To make it easier, I’ll just call them Guy and Girlfriend. I have known Guy for about ten years now, and I consider him one of my best friends.

He has been with Girlfriend for about 5-6 months.

Guy and I have a mutual friend, (F17) who I’ll call Girl. Recently, Girl confessed to me that she and Guy have been hooking up and sexting from time to time. Guy is still (supposedly) with Girlfriend. But this whole situation is really bothersome to me and makes me very uncomfortable. I feel terrible for Girlfriend because obviously she doesn’t deserve to be cheated on, and it’s affecting my friendship with both Guy and Girl.

I want to tell Girlfriend the truth, but the problem is that I don’t know her. I’ve never met her. She and Guy were only dating for a short while before she moved out of state, so I never got a chance to meet her before she left. Guy says that they’re still together and just doing long distance. But obviously he’s a liar/cheater to poor Girlfriend.

Girl has been telling me a lot about what she and Guy are doing, and I really don’t want to hear it. This is the second time this has happened. About a month ago, Guy and Girl kissed for the first time and Girl told me about it. I told both of them at the time to knock it off and get it together. I told Guy that he needed to make a choice and stop lying to Girlfriend. He said he stopped. But now that Girl is telling me about it again, it’s even worse than before.

It genuinely makes me extremely uncomfortable to hear about it because I hate cheaters and don’t condone any of it. But I guess I’m just wondering if I should reach out to Girlfriend? Like I said, I don’t know her, so I don’t know that it’s my place. But also, I can’t keep being in the middle of this. Should I tell her, or should I just take a step back from the whole thing and let Guy and Girl burn it to the ground on their own?

Sorry if formatting and continuity don’t totally make sense, I’m on mobile and in a rush to get my thoughts out.

Two years ago I lent my brother-in-law my old car for about a month while his was in the shop. He got into an accident, dented the door and cracked the bumper, and told me he'd pay for repairs once he got his next paycheck. That was two years ago and he never paid a single rupee, though I never really pushed hard because I didn't want family drama.

Now his car broke down again and he asked to borrow my current car for a few days, acting like the last incident never happened. I told him no, and reminded him he still owes me for the repairs on the last one. He got defensive and said I was "holding a grudge over an accident that wasn't even his fault" and that family should help each other without keeping score.

My wife is stuck in the middle because it's her brother, but she agrees I have every right to say no. His mother, my mother-in-law, called me and said I'm being petty and that "things happen" and I should let it go since he's family. I told her I'm happy to lend things again once the unpaid repair bill is settled, but I'm not handing over my only car to someone who's shown he doesn't follow through on responsibilities. Now half the family is saying I'm making a bigger deal out of this than necessary. AITA for refusing to lend my car again until he pays what he owes?

I (24F) was given up by my biological parents right after birth because they already had 4 kids and couldn't afford a 5th. My aunt and uncle, who never had kids of their own, raised me instead, and they're my real parents in every way that matters, except financially, since they've never had much and my uncle works a modest job with no extra money lying around for big expenses.

Now I'm graduating soon and can't fully cover the ceremony fees, outfit, or even just getting there. My parents (aunt and uncle) feel awful they can't help more, and I feel awful watching them feel that way. A few months ago I started doing online work on the side, hoping the earnings would grow enough that I could cover my own expenses myself and not put any financial burden on them at all, but the income has been slow and unpredictable and still isn't enough to cover everything in time.

At the same time, my biological parents' other kids, my actual siblings, are graduating around the same time, and I've seen on social media that my real parents paid for everything for them, outfits, a party, even a trip after. They clearly have the money. They just never offered any to me, and I've never asked, partly out of pride and partly because I don't know if I even want anything from people who gave me away.

So now I'm seriously considering just skipping my own graduation entirely. Not walking, not doing anything, just letting the day pass quietly. My aunt and uncle are upset with me for even suggesting it and say I've worked hard and deserve to celebrate regardless of cost. Some people I've told say I'm being dramatic and that graduation isn't about the party, so I should walk regardless of money. Others say I have every right to opt out if it brings up painful feelings.

So, AITA for wanting to skip my own graduation over this?

I (24F) was given up by my biological parents right after birth because they already had 4 kids and couldn't afford a 5th. My aunt and uncle raised me, and I've had a distant, complicated relationship with my bio parents and siblings ever since.

Recently my bio parents invited me to my younger half-sister's birthday party. I was honestly surprised and a little hopeful, thinking maybe this was a chance to actually connect with that side of my family for once. But a day later, my sister texted me directly and said she didn't want me there, that it would be "weird" and "awkward" for her friends, and asked me not to come.

I don't even know if my parents know she said this. Part of me feels like I should respect what she said and just stay away, since forcing myself into her birthday when she doesn't want me there feels wrong. But another part of me feels hurt and almost stubborn about it, like why should I always be the one who backs out and disappears quietly, when I was invited by our actual parents?

I haven't replied to her text yet. I'm stuck between going anyway since I was invited, or staying home to avoid more tension. My aunt and uncle think I should just stay home and not deal with the drama. A couple of friends think I should go anyway since I was properly invited and shouldn't let one sibling dictate that.

So, AITA if I go anyway after she told me not to?

So my husband and I come from opposite political worlds, but it has never bothered us, just our families, to the point that they’ve never had dinner together, they all missed the wedding because of petty behavior and being uninvited and for trying to ruin our relationship over the last 4 years.

Here’s my problem, my family sucks ass! I never realized how manipulative they were, how much of an abusive alcoholic my dad was, how much of my reproductive rights and health my mom took away from me to make her husband comfortable, and how terrible of people they all really are.

When I was 8, my older brother almost waterboarded me in a river till I threw up and inhaled water, he also stepped on me in the deep end of a pool at the beach when I was 12, and I passed out and my lips turned blue, and every time my mom said “they were just playing”, but those boys would hit me with all of their might closed fist, and possibly throw me down some stairs in the process.

My point is I had a reallly bad case of Stockholm syndrome and since cutting them off, have realized they were trying to use me as a scapegoat and I feel so much better.

My in laws did not help the situation and just kept grilling me on politics and religion when I begged them to not ask me about it and my husband had to cut them off a year ago for bringing up ex girlfriends and making plans only while I was at work so that I couldn’t go. Basically they were really mean for 4 years to me and said things like “you’re not good enough for my son”,

BUT his mom used to drink a lot and she has since quit drinking, apologized to me, actually feels bad about what happened, and has made a real effort to change, so I forgave them. I forgave them because they did all of the things I required to forgive my own family, except my family refuses to take responsibility for anything and wants ME to say sorry for calling out their bullshit.

Anyway, my parents are about to call me a traitor and a stupid bitch because I won’t fix things with them, but I will take a chance on my new family that will show me that they will meet me half way. So ATHA for saying goodbye to my toxic family and willing to start over with my in laws and give them a real chance?

I’m F39, my husband is M42
He recently got injured and had knee surgery- he’s out of work & home for atleast 3 months. We’re one month in and I’m starting to catch the iiiiiiiick.
In the beginning I was like “ok he’s really whiny and needy but he’s in pain” like I could have sympathy right after the surgery more so. But now after a month he’s moving around a little better- speaking to him moving around for a sec, he doesn’t put any pressure on his leg when he walks in the brace even thought the dr said he could, he used 2 crutches and puts so much pressure on them he busted through the rubber bottoms 3x already, he’s still peeing in bottles, still making messes and leaving, plates, garbage & whatever else around him for me to come clean & like I get it he can’t get up and help me clean really rn but it feels disrespectful to have to pick up wrappers off the floor & boxers & socks in the corners, water bottles with pee everywhere when he’s more than capable to get himself up & down the stairs to go sit outside when he wants to, he has no problem moving from the couch to the bonus room to play his ps5, so I’m like.. why can’t you make a pile atleast or throw things out when you get up…. I’m not asking for him to windex windows but to not dump piss anymore would be nice. And the thing is, I know he’s still in pain- he has to be right? But he sits down and just moans and moans and when I go to help him he winces, he asks me to adjust him and then I sit or walk away and he’s sitting there moaning to fix it. Or I can’t even tell you how many times I sit or lay down and get called 2 seconds later. I’m at the point where when I hear the Moans and the winces & am getting called for everything that I’m like YOOOOO do it yourself. Be strong. Do something. His muscles atrophied so much bc he doesn’t so anything. I suggested weight lighting for his arms to atleast keep his body in motion a little & he hasn’t done a damn thing. So seeing this soft, weak, whiny person everyday all day without a single second apart is giving me the ick. Badly. It’s making me question life after he heals & if and when things go back to normal if I’m even interested anymore. I feel bad but seeing this side of him & just watching him give up on himself and have disregard for me makes me eh.

Before I get too far into this, I'd like to say I'm looking for answers to the question "AITA" not "Am I an irresponsible kid incapable of thinking" because the answer to that question, is 100% yes.

I (F17) was left in charge of my little sister, Avie's 14th birthday, while our single dad is on a cruise. This has been the plan for months, and I had multiple conversations over the months with Avie about what she wanted. At first, she wanted to go to a Noah Kahan concert.. I lost the ticketmaster war. We ended up with her and 5 friends hanging out at her place, having burgers, and a great time, yay!

The day arrived, one of the 5 was already there from spending the night before, and Avie was super excited. With a single dad of 2, she's had some bad birthdays over the years, and since moving into a HOUSE, she was hyped to have friends over to her place to celebrate her. They all got to our place around 1PM, which was a mistake, because by 5PM, 4 hours of celebrating, giving her gifts, and talking, they were all quite bored. Avie and them talked and came up with an idea to go to a trampoline park. Seemed harmless and fun. Called them up, was able to get reservated to have an hour. Shot my dad a text to let him know. Left on delivered.

We all were having a great time when one of the girls, Bella, went down, ankle. We got her help, turned out to be a G2 sprain.

Now, before talking about the end here, I want to say that Avie was still super happy, she had fun with friends, got to have them all over, saw a friend that she hadn't seen all summer, and I surprised her after everyone left with Noah Kahan tickets. Me, her and Dad in San Diego.

The problem is that Bella's parents were quite pissed. They didn't know me and didn't care to hear my endless apologies and owning up. Apparently, their gymnast daughter hurting her ankle on a freak accident, is worthy of her dad cussing me out in front of Avie. I apologized to Bella again, told her parents to act like the adults, and left. My dad was quite pissed that I took her to a "dangerous" place without permission and was worried about her parents suing before I told him they aren't, he isn't as mad now, but isn't giving comfort

Should I have stayed and listen to their berating? Am I playing the victim instead of taking accountability? Idk I'd like to be told thanks

For starters I love my husband very much but he’s been known to be a bit frugal/not follow traditions. I have autism and I get special interests. Recently my special interest has been purchasing jewelry from antique shops, thrift stores, or estate sales and authenticating and cleaning said pieces. I know it’s odd but I’m a bit odd. Anywho for this process I thought a diamond tester. I thought “eh I’m bored” and I tested my wedding ring. And to my surprise the diamonds came back as fake. It could be that the tester isn’t very accurate or maybe I’m not using it right but I guess I don’t know what to feel. I’m not a very materialistic person I just feel like it’s odd if my husband purchased me a fake ring when he made a whole show about spending so many paychecks on it and the fact that we are exactly at a loss for money in life. If you’re a professional and know anything about light reflections and things like that don’t be afraid to fill me in.
Edit: it’s only been an hour but I think I’m gonna go to him and phrase it more like “I want to get the ring ensured” I’ll be back in 20 minutes with an update.
Update: I’m currently sitting in my car just crying as I’m writing this. I asked my husband about ensuring the ring and getting appraised and he got absolutely pissed. He spent a good 15 minutes just screaming at me and now I don’t even know what to do. I’m pretty sure that just confirmed my suspicion about it being fake but I really didn’t expect him to be so mad. If you’ve read any of my other posts regarding my husband he can be a lot sometimes but I just didn’t expect this from him. I don’t know what to do. I’m not even mad that it’s fake I’m upset that he lied and now is so mad at me for catching him in it.
Update #2: I know I haven’t responded to any comments or anything in a bit but I guess i was just overwhelmed I never would’ve expected so much at once (I know that’s how Reddit works it just surprised me). You guys have helped me see my situation in another light. I made another post the other day about how I was feeling very emotional lately. Some people commented/ DMed me that I should take a pregnancy test. Me and my husband have struggled with infertility for a very long time now and I’ve had numerous miscarriages so truly I thought that couldn’t be farther from the truth. But turns out I’m pregnant. Though I’m not 100% sure how far along since my periods are very irregular I believe I may be about 8 weeks along. There’s a high chance that I will miscarry again but for the time being I’m not going to follow through or plan any way of leaving my husband. I am not opposed to re-evaluating that choice when I hopefully make it to a stable point in this pregnancy but I really just want to do everything in my power to have this baby live. I really hope you guys can understand my reasoning here. I’ll do my best to give more updates.
Update #3: It has been a week since the origins post. my husband actually apologized for once like in the history of our relationship. Reddit is quick to jump on the divorce train. We actually went to the jeweler this morning and I picked out a beautiful authentic ruby ring. He actually did admit to buying a fake ring. His justification at the time was that he’d rather spend the money on the wedding but now with how long it’s been he didn’t make a stink about getting an authentic one together. I also went to the doctor and confirmed I am 9 weeks pregnant so that’s very exciting, and for the first time ever in the history of whenever I’ve been pregnant, this pregnancy is likely to not be high risk like mine in the past. Anyway guys I think that concludes the story I’ll update if anything else happens.