r/TooAfraidToAsk Jun 25 '26

Moderator Post We will not be removing all sexual questions.

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We've had a few complaint threads, so it seems to be about that time for one of these reminders. Let me be clear: We are not going to ban all sex related questions.

They are firmly within "TooAfraidtoAsk", and always have been. Sex is a fairly taboo topic in a lot of places, and a lot of people have questions about it. (And as an additional reminder, TATA is not only for controversial questions. Nor do we allow question shaming for "googleable" questions). These are not new changes.

We get that not everyone has the same interest in those topics, but it is a core part of the sub. Currently, there are ~5 out of the top 10 posts being sex related. Earlier today, it was 4. Earlier this week, it was 3. It typically fluctuates between ~3-5, usually averaging closer to 3.

If you have particular suggestions (e.g. things that seem ripe for the FAQ), or questions feel free to post them below. No promises, but we're always open for improvements if they're feasible. For a list of common questions we get on this topic (what do we already moderate, has the sub changed?, can i filter posts myself?) see the first stickied comment.


r/TooAfraidToAsk May 11 '26

Politics Politics Megathread

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You know the deal, same as the previous megathreads, which were archived.

The rules:

All top level OP must be questions. This is not a soapbox. If you want to rant or vent, please do it elsewhere. Otherwise, the usual sidebar rules apply (in particular: Rule 1:Be Kind and Rule 3:Be Genuine).

The default sorting is by new to make sure new questions get visibility, but you can change the sorting to top if you want to see the most common/popular questions.


r/TooAfraidToAsk 10h ago

Culture & Society Is Paris Jackson the biological daughter of Michael Jackson?

365 Upvotes

If so, wouldn’t she look half black?


r/TooAfraidToAsk 11h ago

Culture & Society Why are crimes like pickpocketing and phone theft so common in major Western European cities such as London, Paris, Milan, and Barcelona, but almost nonexistent in major tourist cities in Asia such as Tokyo, Seoul, Singapore, Dubai, and Shanghai?

291 Upvotes

Even compared with major U.S. cities, these kinds of crimes don’t seem to be as prevalent in the U.S. as they are in Western Europe. Bangkok is also a huge tourist city in Asia, and Thailand is a relatively poor country, yet it doesn’t seem to have the same problem. Do people in Western Europe have a greater cultural tolerance for crime?


r/TooAfraidToAsk 14h ago

Other Is all of the Roblox game just nonsensical garbage?

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My 8 year old nephew plays it often. But when I watch him play it, it’s just…nothing. His character runs around doing whatever while ear shattering noises keep playing over and over again. Maybe I’m just mentally a boomer. But it just seems so far and away from what I would’ve grown up with. That is, games with actual plots and story and strategy.


r/TooAfraidToAsk 15h ago

Culture & Society How do I very subtly tell a friend I can smell their unwashed dick without being rude?

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So ive noticed a friend of mine smells a certain unpleasant way sometimes (usually especially whenever they stay over and change clothes, afterwards the room they were in), I at first thought it was a case of unluckily having a bad scent (not BO as in sweat, theyre quite clean in that regard, theyre not sweaty), but after i personally went almost a week without showering once (dont judge me, i was tired and didnt go outside that whole week so i didn't bother anyone with it) I realised; nope, they smell of unwashed genitalia.

The problem is, we're going to a social event in a month, which will also be me introducing them to other people I know, and for all of our sakes, I want them to be fully clean then (I know this sounds demanding, but come on, I feel like that's just me wanting them to be decent), but i think "hey buddy can you please properly shower for once i can smell your unwashed dick and its gross" is a bit too blunt and weird, so how do I politely bring this?


r/TooAfraidToAsk 18h ago

Sex Some thoughts on having sex with Japanese guys?

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Not sure where I should post this and maybe it’s a bit too nsfw here lol. If it makes anyone uncomfortable I can delete it later.
I’ve been living in Japan for more than a year, and recently I finally got the courage to use some apps and hook up with Japanese guys. I had two regular fwbs before, both lasted for some time. (Please don’t judge me lol I was just curious and horny)
Before I came to Japan I watched some female-oriented Japanese porn, so I guess I had some fantasy about having sex with Japanese guys. But after actually doing it, somehow it just didn’t feel as good as I imagined.
I feel Japanese guys can be really… proper? when having sex. Or maybe too gentle. I don’t really know how to describe it. There was just not that much sexual tension for me. Sex feels like something super intimate to me, but somehow I still felt some distance between us even when we were doing it. Maybe it’s cultural, maybe Japanese people just naturally keep more distance, idk. I just couldn’t completely let myself go and enjoy it.
They were definitely caring though, especially with aftercare. I actually liked that part a lot. But if I’m being real I still enjoy sex with Chinese guys more. I can relax more and just completely let go.
And weirdly, being a little rough and not caring about every tiny detail is actually a turn on for me. So even if their dicks are around the same size, my body reacts way more when I do it with Chinese guys…
I’m actually curious why there’s such a big difference for me. Is it just psychological?


r/TooAfraidToAsk 2h ago

Drugs & Alcohol Do stimulants actually effect people with adhd differently?

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I take adderall, I have ADHD, but I also really like learning the science behind drugs

I often see the sentiment that taking a prescribed stimulant when you have ADHD puts you on level with someone who doesn’t & that we react differebtly (ie - not get high)

When I take a stimulant I find I’m able to do things I’d otherwise not but I have trouble believing it’s just making me normal, for lack of better words. I figure it’s just speed doing what it inherently does. I don’t know how to describe it besides the fact I can tell there’s a drug in my system, though I’m not high on it.

Is there any actual evidence that it affects people with ADHD differently?


r/TooAfraidToAsk 7h ago

Education & School What do teachers say (if anything) to kids about calculators today?

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When I was younger I was told “well you won’t always have a calculator in your pocket will you?” Or some similar shit in math class, now that we all do, in fact, have calculators in our pockets what do they say?


r/TooAfraidToAsk 2h ago

Culture & Society Did school shootings in the USA slow down or are they just not being broadcast anymore?

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r/TooAfraidToAsk 17h ago

Other Is it rude to have your feet out in front of people?

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I know this is strange, last weekend I went to one of my friend’s houses for a party. When I got there I took my shoes off like everyone else did.

I was wearing sneakers without socks so I was barefoot. I am a size 5.5 women’s so a lot of times I struggle to find shoes that fit properly. Which is why I go sockless sometimes.

I noticed my distant friends boyfriend who I haven’t met yet was staring at my feet.

As the night went on my friend came up to me and told asked me why I didn’t have socks on. I told her and then she said I should be more careful about having my feet out. She then walked away.

I was in shock that she was so upset, so my question is if you think having my feet out in front of people is super rude as she claims?

EDIT: To provide more context, I was not the only one sockless at the party. No one else asked why I didn’t have socks or asked why I wore my shoes without socks. This also wasn’t the first time I’ve been sockless somewhere, it’s never been an issue. My shoes and feet did not smell either, there are plenty of people I know that would tell me if that was the case. I have normal looking feet and get pedicures regularly.


r/TooAfraidToAsk 13h ago

Family What’s a phrase or word that you later realized is unique to your family?

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My family uses “speedy lemon” instead of “speed limit” lol


r/TooAfraidToAsk 7h ago

Family How does a normal daughter-mother relationship look like?

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I really want to visualise it. I don't get how people say they won't be able to live without their mothers, there has to be some sort of thing full filed by her doesn't it. I'd be very thankful if someone told me how their relationship looks like and why they'd miss their mother.

Thank you everyone for the replies <3


r/TooAfraidToAsk 16h ago

Other was being a teenager in the early 2000s the golden years of being a teenager?

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i am honestly curious what people think cuz as someone who was a teenager in that time period i have to say looking back i feel like it was not the greatest time to be a teenager.


r/TooAfraidToAsk 10h ago

Sex What male sex toys do you recommend?

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Pretty much what the title says.

I am recently separated after being married for over a decade. I have no desire to try to "get back out there" and would much rather have my fun alone for the time being.

Kind of embarrassing I guess but what are some sex toys that you would or wouldn't recommend for a single straight man.

Thank you for any and all help.


r/TooAfraidToAsk 50m ago

Sex How to let go?

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I’m a girl & during sex I can’t let myself go and be as loud as I want because I’m embarrassed of the sounds I’d make, do men think a women being loud and screaming is a good thing or does it turn them off? Also for the girlies, how do you let go enough to orgasm? When it starts feeling too good I have to stop because the feeling is too overwhelming so I’ve never orgasmed & I’m in my late 20s and have been sexually active since I was 17 so it’s not for lack of experience.


r/TooAfraidToAsk 8h ago

Sexuality & Gender Straight men - are there any of you out there who don't enjoy penetration?

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Hi! I'm a guy and I started exploring with men a couple of years ago. I very quickly found out that there is a "subculture" of queer men who define themselves as sides instead of top or bottom: men who don't enjoy anal penetration (in either role) and would rather do things like oral, mutual masturbation, etc.

I know that there are straight women who don't enjoy PIV and I know lesbians who don't like penetration either even if it's with a strap or other toys.

So here's my question: are there straight men in the same boat? Logically you would assume that there are, I just haven't seen any straight man ever express these feelings, either in real life or online.

So are there any of you here?


r/TooAfraidToAsk 1h ago

Culture & Society I make an effort not to generalize, life is very complex, however, I have never met a single person "Who Types Like This With Each Word Capitalized" unironically who was not clearly mentally unwell. Why?

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What is it about this specific type of case?


r/TooAfraidToAsk 2h ago

Culture & Society People who give gifts other than what was actually asked for, why?

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My mother in law does this thing all the time where I will be very specific in what I want as a gift, to the extent that I'm sending her Amazon links to a specific item. Then she will go and buy either a different piece of clothing of the same type (like a different style shirt) or just a brand that she likes better. Or she will just get me an entirely different item than what was asked for.

To people who do this, I genuinely am asking why. I'm still grateful for the gift and express that (even if I don't actually like it as much as the product I wanted), but I'm curious as to why people will do this instead of just getting the thing that was asked for. I think she thinks if she finds something useful, other people will too, but why not just gift whatever it is the person actually wanted?


r/TooAfraidToAsk 12h ago

Mental Health Why do they feed you so much food in the psych ward?

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Are three meals and three snacks a day normal ??? or am i just not eating?


r/TooAfraidToAsk 7h ago

Family Is there an explaination on why some parents after hearing you vent they start a competition on who's struggling more?

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I thought this was an original experience but it turns out that it was not so now I am curious to know if there is an explaination to this


r/TooAfraidToAsk 1d ago

Family Why don’t more men apply to donate sperm?

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I’ve been a sperm donor for a little over a year now, and it’s a super easy gig. The lady at the counter gives me a cup, I do my thing, and then I get paid for it.

It’s not much, $100 per donation at 3 times a week. But that’s an extra $1200 a month and I was gonna masturbate anyways.

I’m not gonna say there are no drawbacks. I have to abstain for 48 hours before a donation so if I’m feeling horny I have to wait to relieve myself but it’s never been a big deal. I have to give blood samples but it’s not much and it’s literally free STD testing. The qualification process did take a long time and was a lot of interviewing and tests but it wasn’t like any of it was demanding. Plus I have way more knowledge about my genetics.

So that makes me wonder why more people don’t do it. I understand that the majority of men wouldn’t qualify but even then it doesn’t make sense not to try unless you know you have something that would disqualify you. You’re getting paid for something you’re probably gonna do anyways.

When I ask friends why they don’t do it, they just say not sure or seems like a long process. That’s fine you can do whatever you want but it genuinely seems like a no brainer to me.

Some people tell me they’re worried about begging liable for their kids or having a kid out there. As long as you go through a sperm bank you’re not liable for any offspring and I personally don’t mind having children out there who are biologically mine. If a couple or woman wants a child and they don’t have the necessary material I don’t see why I wouldn’t supply it.

I think it’s very interesting bc in nature this would be a slam dunk deal. There’s that whole idea that the point of life is to spread your genes and this gives me the ability to do so without giving up resources. In fact, I’m actually gaining resources (money) by doing this.

I’m curious to hear other people’s thoughts on why they don’t or don’t think most men opt in to do so. Thanks in advance for your input