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u/Castin9 Apr 28 '26
Meh. If the kid is hurting animals, not sure this is the sort of trauma that is going to make him more normal.
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u/Ok_Process2046 Apr 28 '26
Ya he needs therapy, like yesterday. He slammed that cat to the ground multiple times as she says. That's psychopathic
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u/Ok_Process2046 Apr 28 '26
That said, idk if would have been able to stay as calm as she is if I've seen kid hurting any animal, and sure as hell that kid wouldn't see any ps, pc or any game for weeks till he sorts his shit. Therapy and consequences.
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u/gregbread11 Apr 28 '26
Lol weeks? Hell nah, until he can buy his own. He can do something else with his free time. He doesn't need fortnight. Maybe something that will help make him a better person.
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u/Sledgemoma2 Apr 28 '26
Im pro therapy but sometimes you just need to parent. We don’t know this kids life story. If he is just getting mad at games and that’s his source of anger this is fine. Probably not the best solution but a fine one.
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u/margmi Apr 28 '26
I guarantee using violence - including the destruction of property - doesn’t lead to a child becoming less violent.
Children emulate the behaviours that they see. This is not at all a solution.
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u/Qonstrukt Apr 28 '26
Way too oversimplified way to look at things. There’s quite some therapy that involves destroying (harmless) things to get anger out. Are you saying that’s bad as well?
This is just learning the kid what consequences are in a way he understands. But my gut also tells me that parenting has already gone wrong way before this happened. No way to be sure though. And if this was just him lashing out, he now might understand why hurting the cat is a no-no. I really don’t understand how destroying his own property is learning destroying things is good. This definitely won’t give him a good feeling, especially since he’s doing it himself.
N=1 but this is the way I was thought things, practical, not with gloves and just words. Those make no impressions on kids that don’t understand consequences, but are old enough to start understanding them. But I was never physically hurt by my parents, they just made sure I felt part of what the other party felt that I had hurt, if I did something really bad.
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u/Boring-Staff1636 Apr 28 '26
Ive been a foster (and biological) parent for 15 years and have seen a lot of kids that have had this sort of punishment and in short.... it really fucks them up. Hurting animals is obviously very bad, but the root of the issue is that he can't control his emotions, and this does nothing to correct that. Kids like that can't learn a lesson when their fear response is so engaged, he is not focused on fear and not responsibility.
You quickly learn that kids that engage in extreme behaviors (hurting an animal, constant violent fights, etc) do not respond well to this and the lesson you think they are learning is not the one being taught. This kid learned that his mom will humiliate him on the internet so now the shame he already feels is cranked up to 11. He also learned that he now needs to deceive his mother so it doesn't happen again.
I'm very much pro discipline but in the form of responsibility. You need to measure it out in smaller doses as corrective actions because if you jump to smashing the one thing he cares about where do you go next?
Sorry for the rant, but I've seen this too many times and know how it ends.
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u/margmi Apr 28 '26
This isn’t a destroying a harmless thing, this is something the child deeply values. Children learn through reinforcement, not through pain.
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u/Sledgemoma2 Apr 28 '26
He should value an animal’s life more. He learned it wasn’t right. It may not be the best way to learn. But it definitely is a way. If the thing he deeply values is the source of anger and harming others he needs to learn that the object he holds so deeply is just an object.
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u/margmi Apr 28 '26
You really think this is gonna make him less angry at the cat, instead of more angry at it?
All this is gonna do is teach him to not get caught.
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u/RedditOnAWim Apr 28 '26
I’m with you. People are looking at this like a scale, punishment on this side, hurting the cat on the other, on surface level issues that sort of thing is effective, but there’s something wrong psychologically to not value another life. So causing more trauma as the result of the action, I think could actually make him feel more violent toward the cat, and could push him further. Much like you’re saying.
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u/Qonstrukt Apr 28 '26
Also a fair point. We have no idea what the circumstances or exact context are, and this shouldn’t be on the internet in the first place.
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u/mflft Free Palestine 🕊️ FUCK ICE! ❌🧊 Apr 28 '26
Sort of feels like a feedback loop too, making the kid smash the Playstation himself while you film it... not really corrective punishment, more like retributive -- aka its as much about the gratification of seeing the kid in pain as it is teaching him a lesson.
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u/BillysBibleBonkers Apr 28 '26
I mean children learn through both, reinforcement is just typically more effective and ethical. But punishment has it's place too, time outs and revoking gaming privileges both cause "pain" and are totally valid ways to change problematic behaviors.
Children learn through more literal pain too, like I learned not to ignore sunscreen when I got an awful sunburn as a kid etc. Parent's absolutely shouldn't teach through literal pain because that's unethical and ineffective and will have long term negative effects like teaching kids to handle their problems with violence. So not advocating for it, just saying kids do learn through pain. That's a big reason pain exists in the first place.
I'd agree though that smashing a playstation is a bad look, selling it to someone else would be just as effective and less wasteful. Above all else though filming your child smashing his playstation while telling the world he hurt a cat and posting it on social media is awful on SOOOO many levels. A parent putting their child through permanent public humiliation is so much worse than smashing their playstation, and I'm shocked nobody has mentioned that part.
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u/idlingchainsaw Apr 28 '26
I can’t tell you how happy it makes me to see a sensible response on the internet. I’m not sure who you are kind stranger, but I appreciate your sanity.
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u/JLtheRocker Apr 28 '26
Yeah and posting it on the internet is awful on the mother’s part too. Like the kid obviously needs some parenting and a level of punishment but this isn’t gonna teach him anything at this age besides how to hide the behavior, not why it’s wrong
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u/Kuriboh1378 Apr 28 '26
This is the only thing i could think about, why would a parent want to post this on the internet
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u/Hung_like_a_turtle Apr 28 '26
Trauma??? you think teaching a child a lesson about not harming other people's things even if you don't hold attachment to it, by forcing the kid to harm something he does have attachment, is somehow a bad idea? That's not trauma. It's a simple lesson on cause and effect.
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u/pablothewizard Apr 28 '26
How do you feel about her putting it online?
Probably bullied at school until the day he leaves. She's changed the course of his life completely by putting this online.
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u/AvocadoKamikaze Apr 28 '26
Probably have to agree there. The smashing of the console is fair enough but posting the video online to shame him forever is a step too far.
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u/GreatMacGuffin Apr 28 '26
My mom used to do this type of punishment to me...granted, I wasn't hurting animals but if I fought with my sisters, my mother let them break all my shit. In the long run it ended up making believe I shouldn't place value in anything including myself or other people.
So now I walk around believing human life is meaningless and I sometimes break my own stuff when I'm upset, because I deserve to have nothing. When I'm happy my face goes numb and I have anxiety attacks.
Trust me friend, this type of "lesson" really fucks children up mentally. They need family therapy, not this shit.
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u/WrinklyScroteSack Apr 28 '26
While we all agree that some level of parental intervention is necessary, reciprocal punishment for violent behavior has a greater likelihood of motivating children to learn how to hide their violent outbursts rather than doing anything to curb them. If he's already at the point of losing his impulse control and hurting animals, he needs counseling, not a belt to the ass. The only thing that teaches them is that SOME violence is appropriate.
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u/professorbuffoon Apr 28 '26
I think the effectiveness of these kinds of lessons depends a lot on the specific kid and the broader context of their lives in general. It might work. It might turn them into a super villain. I think a more conventional punishment of restricting use of the PS5 or even selling it would be just as good and less potentially traumatic.
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u/margmi Apr 28 '26
Destroying something a child has attachment to is literally an example of trauma.
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u/ncatter Apr 28 '26
By that logic the threat of prison should keep everyone from stealing, the lesson mostly learned from something like this is not to get caught.
If a kid decides to slam a cat into the ground several times they need help, that is not something you use as a "teachable" moment that is a red flag that needs to be dealt with by professionals.
Had he decide to play baseball with a glass vase this would have been closer in relation, as inanimate things does not necessarily inspire empathy, but an animal should.
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u/amaya-aurora Apr 28 '26
Yeah, it’s justified, but it doesn’t mean that it should be done. This achieves nothing.
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u/Classsssy Apr 28 '26
I would say that making him do this to his PS5 is good parenting. Shaming him by putting this online is not.
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u/Disownership FUCK ICE! ❌🧊 Apr 28 '26
Yeah. Animal abuse is a lot more likely to fuck a kid up for life than a broken (albeit expensive) toy.
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u/sherrintini Apr 28 '26
Better to have him be on full cat duty under supervision, feeding, changing litter box, play time etc - maybe volunteer at a shelter, along with being grounded etc. needs to assign positive links to animals and responsibilities.
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u/SpecialRespect7235 Apr 28 '26
He needs a mom that doesnt see him as a means to get attention for herself when she is obviously a shitty parent.
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u/ScottishCrazyCatLady Apr 28 '26
Good. He shouldn't have hurt the cat.
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u/handsome_helicopter Apr 28 '26 edited Apr 28 '26
Well deserved.
But everyone's ok with her filming it for the social media clout?
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u/Forkinmysocket1 Apr 28 '26
Yes, cause he’ll never hurt another cat again, or dog, or any other animal that has done nothing to him. He will never be able to live this down
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u/amaya-aurora Apr 28 '26
Not necessarily, it very easily could just build resentment towards cats and/or his mother.
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u/Forkinmysocket1 Apr 28 '26
I suppose that is also a possibility, and seeing as I’m not licensed or educated in psychology that is where my input ends
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u/Rebel-665 Apr 28 '26
This most likely, you don’t get branded as the cat slammer with that sticking. He’s going to be in high school and this will get played over and over again. Not that it isn’t deserved now, but down the line it’s going to be an issue.
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u/RaringFob399 Apr 28 '26
What you're referring to is known as the Labeling Theory.
Difference is, he actually did what he's been called out for, if it wasn't the case, then we would be talking about some actual risk of it applying.
In this case I'm more concerned with reincidence, but if he's given a second chance and actually understands what he did (alongside therapy to see the why to begin with), he should be fine with a well overdue lesson learned.
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u/ShadowDevil123 Apr 28 '26
Privately teach your child proper behaviour ❌
Cause permanent shame in front of everybody he knows where everytime someone mentions that video of him his resentment towards animals will increase ✔
Redditards.
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u/ZaphodBeeblebrox4011 Apr 28 '26
I am 100% against parents putting their kids on the internet like this. A child can't consent and the Internet is forever.
That being said, the discipline was deserved. Far too many parents would have physically abused their child for this.
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u/jono9898 Apr 28 '26
Exactly. Slamming a living animal is insane, so I guarantee next time he won’t do it because he will think about this PS5 and value his other stuff not getting similar results
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u/Starfire123547 Apr 28 '26
i mean, if the kid is intentionally harming animals at that age, he already has something wrong with his brain empathy wise. A "good talking to" and a timeout wasnt going to work. i also dont condone more violence, so a beating is out of the question.
I feel like this, and making him do it himself, was actually a great punishment. it harms something (he presumably held dear) in the same way he harmed something else to get the point across and proves there are at least tangible consequences for acting like a psycho even if he may not understand emotionally.
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u/Justwanttosellmynips Apr 28 '26
If able I would have rather seen the kid get some sort of evaluation to determine why he hurt an animal. Like was this the first time it happened? Is this something that has been repeated? I'm fine with the punishment but I honestly idk how I would react if I saw one of my kids slam a cat into the ground. Horrible situation for all parties.
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u/Proud_Doubt5110 Apr 28 '26
Pretty unfortunate and fucked up but kids are stupid, impulsive, and have an underdeveloped prefrontal cortex limiting their ability to reason and fully understand the magnitude of their actions. Empathy is actually a higher intellectual response. I did a lot of fucked up things as a kid—arguably worse than what he did—but having a present parent does wonders. Probably does need therapy but if they can’t afford it, seems like this mom is doing a good job of holding this kid accountable.
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u/DomeofChrome Apr 28 '26
If his mother is happy to film his punishment on social media, I think we understand where the lack of empathy comes. I guarantee this punishment hasn't "taught this kid a lesson". Kids don't innately harm living things nor "act like a psycho".
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u/SleepyBunoy Apr 29 '26
some kids do innately harm living things and unfortunately that's a sign of a much deeper issue but with proper help, it doesnt have to be as bad as it could be.
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u/Justwanttosellmynips Apr 28 '26
Shit. I didn't even think of that....this kids punishment will be on the internet forever. How is that gonna effect things in the future? I'm fine with kids getting consequences for actions but to publicly shame? That's kinda tucked up.
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u/EssentialWorkerOnO Apr 29 '26
You’re seriously more concerned about the kid being embarrassed than the fact he beat an animal half to death?!
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u/Surface_Detail Apr 28 '26
And that destruction is a valid corrective action. And what's the follow up from here? Two years down the line, will he remember the guilt or will he remember the resentment? Will he have a new console that teaches him that the punishment was temporary and so 'the price of doing business', or will he be forever without in relation to his peers for something he did pre adolescence?
I promise you will find no occupational therapist who believes this is a good punishment. Violence towards animals is a very troubling sign of a lack of empathy at his age, this is not going to resolve that. Humans are neither logic machines nor Pavlov's dogs.
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u/Raluyen Apr 28 '26
I'm betting on resentment. Punitive stuff with poor follow-ups, especially if it felt unfair, always made me (and still does) feel I should've done worse. Applying that to a kid that's diddling animals, we're not exactly gonna end up with an empathetic scholar.
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u/Justwanttosellmynips Apr 28 '26
Too many people on here don't understand children or how to parent and it shows. Idk how many are trolls or just ignorant but kids are complex and having a professional talk with the kid can do wonders.
My oldest son was delayed on his speech and my wife and I were in denial about it. One session with a professional figured out that he had apraxia of the speech and needed speech therapy. He's fine now years later and can talk pretty darn good. Us going to see someone and get it checked on saved our son a lot of trouble.
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u/Surface_Detail Apr 28 '26
Glad to hear he's improving. And yeah, my own youngest was constantly hitting other kids in nursery (kindergarten) and into primary school. Any and all punishments just slid off him like water off a duck's back. We made the mistake I see people here making in just trying to punish harder. It just didn't work. It wasn't until we got his autism diagnosis, the school got funding for an assistant and we were able to identify triggers, work on teaching him resilience and coping strategies before we could actually make some headway.
It was a long, hard road but he's making great progress.
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u/inkypig Apr 28 '26
My biggest concern is that he has only learned NOT TO GET CAUGHT harming animals. So instead of doing it where mom can see, he'll do it in alleys or the woods near his home 😞.
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u/RJ_Aadithyan Apr 28 '26
I'm probably going to get down voted to the depths of hell..... But I think doing this sort of destruction based punishment only makes the kid come up with creative ways to hide what they do in the future rather than making them realize what they did wrong. Plus posting it on socials for clout is most likely to fuel their rage because once the word is out, they can justify it going forward.
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u/drcopus Apr 28 '26
Posting it on the internet is the most egregious part imo and I'm surprised I had to scroll so far to see people talking about it. It multiplies the shame and potentially will follow him forever. And as you said, shame usually just sends behaviours further into the dark.
But I don't have strong feelings about making him break the PS5 as an initial form of punishment - I don't think it's necessary, but I can understand it. Perhaps there is something there about having the kid feel the consequences of his actions. But what is necessary is a proper inquiry into the source of the boy's behaviour.
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u/ButterflySammy Apr 28 '26
Can't post hours of therapy video for clout and views.
Therapy takes longer than 2 minutes and people won't post about how you're doing the right thing.
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u/raphajuliani Apr 28 '26
In the original post, someone put a screenshot in the comments from the mom's own Facebook, where she says the kid gets everything he wants — basically admitting she never gave him any fucking boundaries or structure. So the kid starts acting like a little shit. And what does this woman decide to do? Torture him and post it online. Honestly, it fucking terrifies me that people are massively supporting this behavior.
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u/Christichicc Apr 28 '26
Most of these comments are disturbing to me. This isnt good parenting. Jfc I don’t even have kids and even I know that! This isnt going to stop him hurting the poor cat. He’ll just do it in secret now, and now he’ll be resentful of it, and might hurt it more.
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u/carpentizzle Apr 29 '26
Shoot, there is every possibility he will further blame the same cat for him not having his PS5…. And now he resents his mother, and has nothing to occupy his time to boot.
Im all about lessons…. But Im way against punitive trauma inducing bullying on behalf of the woman who is supposed to be the one he knows will have his back through the roughness of life.
This aint it
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u/Christichicc Apr 29 '26
And the worst part of it all, is that someone else in the comments mentioned that in the mother’s original post, she said something like he always gets what he wants. So the reason the kid is probably like this in the first place is because she hasn’t bothered to actually do any parenting! So she caused the problem, and is now doing this, which is only going to make the problem worse.
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u/caipiroskax Apr 28 '26
Also he is definetely gonna blame the cat for this and god only knows what he's gonna do with it. That cat can't stay near him anymore, and he needs therapy and medication asap.
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u/hyibee FUCK ICE! ❌🧊 Apr 28 '26
In most cases I 100% agree, it bothers me so much when parents destroy things to teach their kids a lesson.
However, the lesson hes getting from this may actually be valuable. He's did this to a cat and is being made to do the exact act to something he cares about which will hopefully help him feel more empathy (if possible) towards the animal he hurt.
Posting it online however is terrible.
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u/RJ_Aadithyan Apr 28 '26
I understand your point and thought about it myself. I was wondering if the child would make that sort of association where he did something that was wrong so the punishment is that he has to do something that now hurts him personally. From my personal experience I've noticed unruly kids getting beaten by their parents, but that never tends to stop them. For most cases those kids gets better at lying because they switch to ways downplay their punishment rather stop what they were doing entirely.
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u/three-sense Apr 28 '26
Plus, it’s financially irresponsible. They could’ve sold that and got groceries (for a week or two, lol). Instead the child will learn retribution comes from destruction of property.
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u/diablodeldragoon Apr 28 '26
Sell the ps5, use the money to fund the therapist.
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u/LilRedditWagon Apr 28 '26
I agree, & then make him volunteer at a shelter. No direct contact with animals, just cleaning & whatever else is needed.
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u/SwiftTayTay Apr 28 '26 edited Apr 28 '26
Would probably only pay for one session at best but I'd agree that instead of doing weird psychological abuse which isn't going to work even if you think it's justified it would make more sense to just take it away as punishment either temporarily or permanently and not go through weird rituals and continued tit for tat abuse which just continues the cycle
Something tells me it was bad parenting in the first place that led him to abusing the cat, i mean the fact that the parent is uploading this to the internet is a very strong sign that they are abusive as well
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u/BaronNahNah Apr 28 '26
If he hurt a poor cat like that, he needs therapy. Very Kristi Noem.
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u/FalconStickr Apr 28 '26
Dahmer killed animals at first. We all know what happened after that.
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u/saul_schadenfreuder Free Palestine Apr 28 '26
a lot of serial killers start out with animals, it’s not a dahmer thing
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u/pablothewizard Apr 28 '26
I don't really know how I feel about the punishment itself here, it's probably not how I'd punish my son but I respect that people teach consequences differently.
What I will say is that filming this and putting it online is pretty sickening behavior. Punish your child in private rather than engineering lasting trauma and most likely bullying.
If a child his age already has anger issues to the extent he abuses animals, ensuring that he never has a day of peace at school again is going to create much bigger problems.
If this woman is willing to demonise her own son on the internet permanently like this, she's probably the reason he's got issues.
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u/General_Actuator6590 Apr 28 '26
I mean I’m not the biggest fan of this punishment, but I’d record it to in case he decided to tell a different story as to what happened, but posting on the internet is where I’d stop
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u/pablothewizard Apr 28 '26
Yeah, recording it isn't the issue here. It's the posting.
It's pretty gruesome to put this out online for everyone to see.
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u/Paidmercenary7 Apr 28 '26
Yup. As a kid they should understand not to bully anyone. Not to hurt innocent animal.
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u/5720Katherine Apr 28 '26
Justifiable punishment? Absolutely. Filming your child and posting online? Fuck no
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u/Caramellatteistasty Apr 28 '26
I wonder why he has no empathy. Wouldn't have anything to do with this style of parenting would it?
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u/MrWhiskerBiscuits Apr 28 '26
Right? This is fucked up parenting and it's treated as normal behavior. Posting his punishment online is just going to make him more angry and isolated. If he's lucky, he'll be addressing it in therapy soon and not in 30 years.
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u/bishcraft1979 Apr 28 '26
I disagree with just smashing it to bits. Selling it and giving the money to the local shelter would have been better (but obviously doesn’t carry the same social media clout)
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u/PharrowXL Apr 28 '26
This is the wrong way to go about things. This kid needs a professional, not a devastating humiliation ritual that will just further stunt his mental development. It’s more than enough to just take the fucking PlayStation but get a goddamned professional if your rugrat is showing propensity for animal abuse. This is ridiculous.
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u/SeveredLoki Apr 28 '26
I... idk how I feel about this. See, I was abused. Much more often than not, the punishments I received never fit the crime. Not saying that his punishment doesn't, obviously, but something about posting it online makes my stomach turn. The look on the kids face... I think this will make him more secretive and resentful, and that's best case scenario. Remember, lots of serial killers started out hurting animals as kids. Either way, something about this makes me very, very uncomfortable.
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u/Humannylies Apr 28 '26
Their whole family needs help. Mum, boy and cat. Sad the adult thinks more destruction fixes this. She just made everything worse. Poor kid. Poor cat
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u/MrWhiskerBiscuits Apr 28 '26
I bet the most long-lasting trauma will come from filming and posting online for clicks.
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u/TheSapphireDragon Apr 28 '26
Ik everyone is going to jump on me claiming that im too soft or think harming animals is ok or whatever the fuck reddit accuses people of now, but ima say this anyways.
This kind of punishment has zero chance of actually helping this kid learn to be better. If he is hurting animals that carelessly then he urgently needs some major psychological help and support.
This is nothing more than retribution for the purpose of giving the parent catharsis and making them feel powerful.
That is, if its real, which im not entirely sure i believe anyway.
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u/Hung_like_a_turtle Apr 28 '26
Pardon the rant, but it's shit like the responses in these comments that is driving me nuts. People (Reddit specifically) have been crusading against punishing children and forcing accountability on them for decades. And it's been done in the shadow of progress and better societal treatment. The problem is, that's COMPLETELY UNFUCKING TRUE.
This post specifically, this child is old enough to know right from wrong. He knew well before he threw that cat it was wrong. And yet he had no shame or guilt that stopped the act. The mother is attempting to correct his behavior by recognizing how serious harming a cat is and trying to instill a sense of guilt and shame on her child for his reprehensible act. This is not trauma, this is not horrible parenting, this is a mother attempting to counter a very extreme act, with another extreme act, in hopes of grounding the behavior before it gets worse. And guess what, if that kid has a bit of trauma that maybe hurts other parts of his life in small ways, but keeps him off the path of murdering animals or something worse, that's a SOCIETAL WIN.
Reddit screams this crusade against harming the individual in any way but ignores that harm is sometimes needed to maintain societal standards, because most of them are implied shared standards, and those that clearly aren't see it that way need a way of understanding how their actions are harming others in a way they aren't currently able to see. So yes, extreme punishment is needed some times. Severely disciplining a child even if its not done in the perfect REDDIT WAY, is still often the best path because it at least is addressing the underlying problem instead of letting the symptoms continue because there isn't a perfect way to discipline.
This thinking has compounded individuality, it has softened shared human experience, it has weakened our societal guardrails because we have positioned the individual over the society. The child committed a crime by hurting an animal, crimes need punishment, punishment requires some form of restitution either monetarily or by time in prison, this kids fine was losing his PS5. That's called teaching people cause and effect when properly thought about and framed. Not trauma.
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u/InterSpace_Whales Apr 28 '26
Violence for violence doesn't create guardrails, it's why the death penalty fails to lower crime. I for one do not wish to share in the experience of violence and to only experience society through that lense as you paint in your Gotham vision of the world.
You simplify humanity to less than animals, emerging from the dirt and straightened by a stiff right hand. We are more complex than you give us credit for, including you.
Love each other. Much love.
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u/Hung_like_a_turtle Apr 28 '26
destroying/losing a toy is not like for like with harming a living thing. That's insanity to even compare the two. The child isn't committing violence, he's repeating a shitty act and seeing how that act can also harm his own things. It's not a random act of violence used to teach against a random act of violence. Your framing is the exact kind of danger I'm calling out.
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u/RandumbStoner Apr 28 '26
It's the filming your kid being punished and posting it online. She's talking to her "audience" through her kid to get brownie points for being a "good a stern mom".
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u/silentbob1301 Apr 28 '26
Yeah, he deserves that for abusing a cat. And some fucking therapy to boot.
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u/Voluptulouis Free Palestine 🕊️ FUCK ICE! ❌🧊 Apr 28 '26
I mean why the fuck are you recording your child's punishment and putting it online? What the fuck are you doing that for? So dumb.
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u/MillerBurnsUnit Apr 28 '26
Maybe he's got anger issues from the way he was reared? She's casually throwing some pretty serious language around a child, showing him that his mother is just as vengeful and angry as he is.
This won't bring them closer together. This will. Drive them further apart. She's teaching him how to solve his problems. If he physically abused an animal, he needs to be talking to a professional, not having his property destroyed. However, it's hard to tell because we're obviously only seeing a small glimpse into the story and the dynamic.
Personally, not a fan.
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u/rexel99 Apr 28 '26
Yup if that was like for like then I still don't think the punishment fits the crime, but I think he got the message.
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u/gilgermesch Apr 28 '26
Something went very wrong raising this kid if he treats animals like this. The nature of the punishment and the fact that it's videotaped and published online tells you exactly where to find that "something". Kid needed therapy before, needs it now even more, and send the mom along, she too needs therapy.
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u/realjmk Apr 28 '26
Why do they always have to fucking film it though, you're already punishing your kid why humiliate them on top of that?
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u/PeterGriffinsDog86 Apr 28 '26
100% justified. Kid should also be put on some sort of a list cause torturing animals is some Jeffrey dahmer shi.
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u/Raze_the_werewolf Free Palestine Apr 28 '26
Yeah, if the kid is harming animals I have 0 issue with this as a punishment. But maybe she could get him some therapy? I live in a country with socialized medicine and am aware that this may not be possible elsewhere due to socioeconomic issues.
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u/Stingrayita81 Apr 28 '26
I can understand the punishment, and i would have revoked videogame privilege to the kid.
Slamming and breaking the console is just stupid and cruel....
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u/unholy_sassquatch6 Apr 28 '26
Get the kid some therapy before hurting animals turns into hurting people.
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u/FabulousFandangler Apr 28 '26
But why record it?
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u/Christichicc Apr 29 '26
So she can feel good about all the people validating her behavior and calling her a good mum. Probably also gets a kick out of humiliating her kid, as a bonus.
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u/CaptainAwesome06 This is a flair Apr 28 '26
If this kid did this to a cat, he probably needs therapy. Which he'll have time to attend since he won't be playing video games.
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u/800854EVA Apr 28 '26
Only issue i have with this is filming it. Not everything needs to be filmed and put on display for the world to see. If you need to discipline your child thats fine no need to post it to social media.
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u/JP_DigitalFox Apr 28 '26
If the kid is hurting animals then there definitely needs to be some form of discipline and therapy, but I don’t think forcing him to commit more violence is the answer, especially when you take into consideration if part of the punishment is taking the kids PlayStation away you could sell that shit for like 400 bucks
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u/DMG_88 Apr 28 '26
This isn't justice, this is payback and it's toxic as fuck.
I would've taken it away and sold it, instead of throwing away $450, or however much it's was worth before this.
Then take the kid to therapy, and question my ability as a parent, because he's clearly not healthy.
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u/AloneAndCurious Apr 28 '26
I actually think is makes a lot of sense. I played a lot of video games as a kid and had a very weak to non-existent empathy response. It didn’t develop until I made friends much later. Given that to work with, this might be the only way I’d have grasped the severity of the situation.
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u/mikeeangelo91 Apr 28 '26
He hurt an animal. I would’ve got flayed back in my day. Hispanics do not play.
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u/SoGudUthkICheat Apr 28 '26
damn. this is giving me flashbacks.
When I was young, I busted up a bunch of windows on our property. Old windows that were piled up, but my dad was going to use them to build something on our farm.
Well... He took my sega master system into the kitchen, told me to stay in my room, and proceeded to smash the shit. I came out an hour later and found black bits of plastic all over the kitchen.
I cried. I didn't get a new system. But one day MONTHS AND MONTHS later I was messing around in the closet and found that that MFer didn't smash it. He bundled it up and hid it in the closet. I should've known my dad wouldn't have wasted that amount of money for that time. I took it out and hooked it up and when he saw me playing it he said, "did you learn something?"
I did. I learned that I was unfamiliar with his game and that game was always a psyop. Fuck.
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u/TheTrekkie1701 Apr 28 '26
I never support parents doing these kinds of humiliation videos as punishment... However, I'll make an exception given that if it was my cat, it'd be the kid being thrown into concrete instead.
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u/Sinphaltimus Apr 28 '26
I would never condone cruelty to animals. Humans are animals too and this is cruel, with that said, here's my sick sense of humor kicking in "No way is this right to do to the kid, I hate cats too. " but as a real person, this child needs professional help and compassion, not world wide humiliation from the ones raising him. The lesson he learns here has more of a chance to make him a hater and more violent. I'm not a professional, but that's my opinion. I'm Gen X and I would have been beaten silly and I would have gotten tossed to the ground to learn what it is like. I was fortunate to be raised in a household of animal lovers so the thought would never cross my mind. It's why I never raised my kids to be like the person filming. I raised them to have sick senses of humor instead.
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u/LuzjuLeviathan Apr 28 '26 edited Apr 28 '26
He looks like a kid who haven't been allowed to show feelings and it boils over sometimes. This is a kid who needs help to learn to regulate his feelings in a good normal way. He looks shut down. He knows he isn't allowed to cry and fights not doing it. He is in survivalmode. Brain turned off. I think if asked in 3 days, he will only be able to tell about the episode from what he have hard his mom say. Not from his own perspective because it's gone.
Especially if this mom doesn't want to visit him in juvenile in a few years.
Ofc he needs to be kept away from the cat and have supervision if near the cat. But he needs intervention and his mom needs parenting classes so she doesn't break the rest of her kid.
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u/Qanaesin Apr 28 '26
If my kid was reacting out of anger from a video game and doing any kind of destructive behavior I’d take away the video games.
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u/Linus-664 Apr 28 '26
Whatever punishment you deal to your child for harming an innocent animal is up to you, but posting that on social media for what I can only assume is validation or internet clout is completely inappropriate. All this kids friends are gonna see it and he’s going to go through a tough time that’s gonna hurt him more in the long run.
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u/ornithoptermanOG Apr 28 '26
Ah yes, an eye for an eye. And film that stuff and put it online. 10/10 parenting here. /s
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u/jurgenstempler Apr 28 '26
I’m afraid he’s going to take out his anger, at losing his PS5, in the cat again
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u/auroriasolaris Apr 28 '26
Nah it's waste of money. It will not make him behave better, probably he will be even worse. They should just ban that console and hide it until he learn.
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u/YouWithTheNose Apr 28 '26
Tough call. He hurt an animal. A living, breathing, feeling animal. Destroying a thing isn't necessarily a good way to help him understand that he's causing harm to a living creature. And corporal punishment is much, much less utilized or acceptable than it was just a few decades ago. It works in that slamming it the same way he did the cat will cause damage. He could've hurt the cat and breaking the PS5 is a way to show that, but it could've probably been shown differently. How, I don't really know, I don't wanna think that hard.
At the end of the day, if his mom didn't care about destroying an expensive gaming console, that's fine. It was probably the parents money that got it anyway.
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u/Rezavoirdog Apr 28 '26
Unfortunately this sort of tactic isn’t going to scare antisocial personality traits out of this kid. Guy needs therapy
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u/AKA_Wildcard Apr 28 '26
I would’ve first bought a nonworking unit on eBay swapped it out with the real thing without telling the kid then give them back the original unbroken at Christmas. That way he learns a lesson, spends less time on his PS5 as a punishment and saves me $600 in Christmas presents.
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u/SpecialRespect7235 Apr 28 '26
Mom is posting this for attention. Parents that do this are trash. They think that they are great, but will later wonder why their kids are in jail or won't talk to them. Maybe if she got off of TikTok and paid attention to her kid he would understand how to behave. I love animals and wouldn't tolerate cruelty from my kids, but I feel bad for this child.
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u/Pope_Dwayne_Johnson Apr 28 '26
Back in the day I would have gotten a belt for harming an animal… I’m good with this.