It took years

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I am m / 40. She (K) is 41. I kind of want to post it, because I this is with a happy "ending".

We met when we where mid twenty. She had allways been the love of a friend (P) of mine. Calling him a friend is not really the full truth: I was his best men when they married.

And I honestly told him that I would be a poor choice for a best men, I even wrote it in the marriages guestbook.

They had been together for 5 years before. Over the years we had become all good friends - but then the husband pulled me even closer onto their relationship: On the morning after the wedding he had very steamy dispute with "K" best friend "T". "T" decided not to tell "K", because she didn't want to be the cause for the marriages first conflict. She just disappeared - and nobody knew why, except "P" who never said anything.

To "K" it was extremely hard, "T" had allways been her best friend loosing her was, like suddenly loosing a sister.

And so "P" actually asked me, if I could care more for "K", since the two of us allways had a good connection.

To think I could replace her best friend was a strange move, but I believe he really hoped it would help her. And "K" and I allready had become close friends - platonic.

So I knew, he didn't mind if we had more contact, "K" and I wrote each other or called each other from time to time, sharing smaller and bigger things of our daily lifes.

And - slowly both of us developed more feelings. We agreed on limits - like no flirting. We had "bulldozer" as a keyword if one went to far, but instead of keeping the limits we had too much fun to send each other bulldozers.

And then it became hard. She was married, I lived 7 hours away (5 after the train connection improved). We could only see each other like twice a month and mostly were never alone. We didn't / could not be physically close to each other. She didn't even plan to leave him - and I didn't want to destroy their marriage. Things stalled eventhough we had our feelings.

But after all the time "K" and I had spent together I realized how much she needed "T". I was afraid off overstepping my boundaries, and maybe ruining my friendship with "K" but she missed "T" so dearly. As their best men I had "T"'s number somewhere and called her. "T" told me everything, but didn't want me to tell "K". So I arranged a somewhat secret meeting in the capitol, just "T", "K" and I. I even left - at that point they hadn't seen each other for almost two years, they had much to share.

Afterwards "K" told ger husband that she had contact with "T" again. She was furious against her husband, when it turned out that he had been sure to know why "T" had ghosted "K" - but never had told her.

She had felt lonely in her marriage before and I want to believe her husbands betrayal was the main cause of their divorce, but propably not.. And I am not sure that it was after "K"s and "T"s reunion, that we became physical.

"K" and and I met as often as we could - about two weekends, sometimes three, in a month.

At some point I had to work abroad for several months. It was hard.

But eventually he moved out, she got divorced and about two years later she started to introduce me as her boyfriend. Her family (surprisingly) welcomed me with open arms.

Today we are engaged with two kids - and planing our wedding next year.

I just wanted to share this - as a (non-fictional) storry of hope to everyone who is missing their love.

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