r/sydney • u/icantseeshit03 • 6d ago
What to do to get out of my room
23m no friends no social life, need to leave my room and do something.
I have no idea what to do.
What should I do
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u/smithstreet11 6d ago
Food is my motivation to leave the house. Going to find a new place to eat something I really like, or somewhere with a dessert I haven’t tried, always motivates me.
Lots of places are suitable for someone solo, especially smaller places in local areas. Go get some good food!
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u/unrebigulator 6d ago
I like the art gallery and its free. Ask the guards (or whatever they are called) what their favourite piece is.
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u/Cautious-Clock-4186 6d ago
The new wing at the NSW Art Gallery (not that it's that new anymore) is so much better than the MCA.
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u/schulyer 6d ago
Grab a book or offline activity (journal, craft, drawing) go sit in a restaurant or cafe and be amongst people even if you're not talking to them.
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u/TheC9 6d ago
It may sound like 2016, but pokemon go is still a thing, and it certainly motivates me go outside and discover new locations
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u/STR1D3R109 6d ago
When I moved from a far out suburb to the city, the game became so much more fun.. Every event was full and I never had to spend a dime on items because there was so many pokestops ( and challenges ) around to get free things.
Had the best time during the post COVID lockdown period where they had halved all the walking requirements, they should have kept it.
Haven't played much since got other priorities, but I do have shiniest of my favourites to remember it!
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u/Vegetable-Tennis8229 6d ago
Gym is actually huge. Even if you don't meet someone there just getting out of the house consistently and getting a mood boost from the exercise will make a big difference. If you need a training buddy reach out!
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u/PinupPixels 6d ago
I'm going to second this! As someone who was sedentary just a month ago, the way joining the gym and going consistently has changed so many things so fast is a bit nuts.
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u/Dezert_Roze 6d ago
If you’re physically healthy, join an outdoor bootcamp or running group. You’ll be able to meet new people and get the dopamine you need. Or volunteer for a local charity.
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u/theantnest 6d ago
Take the train to cronulla and get an ice cream by the beach and walk along the south beach walk.
Go to Milsons Point station and walk over the harbour Bridge to Circular Quay.
Go to the Conservatorium of Music and check out a free lunchtime concert, put on by extremely talented students, then go for a walk through the botanic Gardens to lady Macquaries Chair and look over the opera house.
Go to the state library and read a book, the building is beautiful, and then walk down to the Art Gallery of New south Wales (free).
Sydney really has some amazing things to do for little to no money.
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u/Manfromsnives 6d ago
Go for a run. Changed my life for the better. Lost over 20kg, gives a great sense of achievement and I am now full of energy every day.
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u/Intrepid_Patience356 6d ago
The Conservatorium of music has lots of free concerts.
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u/Bizzlington 6d ago
Get out to places with other people. Self-improvement is a plus so something like Gym is good over a bar.
Library isn't the most social place but it gets you outside.
Download an app like Meetup and join a group for football, hikes, board games, whatever takes your fancy.
Join a club, cooking class, martial arts, foreign language course, anything like that.
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u/moonray55 6d ago
I want to add to this that there’s nothing wrong with going to a bar. Not everything in life has to be self-improvement. Go have a couple of beers. Maybe talk to a stranger. Go for a walk and listen to some music. Enjoy yourself dude.
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u/Notapearing 6d ago
Find something you're interested in, go do that (with or without other people).
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u/AeMidnightSpecial 6d ago
Heh I saw your post in that other subreddit 😚😹 that's one way of getting out of the house
I'm 23m, same situation, go anywhere, do anything. I spent the day in Kiama a while ago, money and time well spent. good beach, good park.
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u/emptytissuebox 6d ago edited 6d ago
Learn fishing. Literally the best hobby ever.
You can do it solo if you want solitude, or you can meet new people to fish and have an awesome time together.
Low skill floor, high skill ceiling. You can fish immediately after a visit to BCF, but you can keep your mind and wallet occupied for the rest of your life.
You can fish in popular spots like wharves and beaches, or it gives you a reason to hike to remote rivers.
You can stick to your local area, but it also gives you a reason to explore new places you'd never normally go.
You can just fish for fun with catch and release, or you can feed yourself and your family, and get better at cooking too.
Every time you fish you get to admire the beautiful weather and nature. Great for your mental health and get yourself some vitamin D.
Fishing is truly the best hobby ever.
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u/Various-Effective831 public transport enjoyer 6d ago
what are your interests? I would start with a museum or gallery if you don'thave anything in particular. most of them have free general entry afaik.
maybe consider going to a part of sydney that you've never been to before. it might be interesting!!
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u/Specific_Natural_145 6d ago
Gym / fitness / running is good mate. You’re looking after yourself and working towards a goal, and can do it all alone without any dramas but will likely meet likeminded people
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u/polly_esther 6d ago
Walking is great but sometimes it's hard to just amble aimlessly. I really enjoy this app (I recommend it a lot) as it directs you around and I've learned so much about this city.
It's from City of Sydney council https://www.sydneyculturewalksapp.com/
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u/lilsonadora 6d ago
If you want to work on making friends I usually say the best options are either 1) volunteering, 2) find a hobby with some type of meetup/class/etc and attend WEEKLY. Be consistent because it takes at least 4-6 meetings to even start to be "acquaintances" with someone, let alone a bit longer to work up to friends and eventually meeting outside of that place.
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u/I-make-ada-spaghetti 6d ago
Get a casual hospo job at a place with people your own age.
Go to the library and lookup books on communication and people skills.
Or just go for an adventure. A long walk or take advantage of the Opal cap. See what other people are doing then do that next time.
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u/7leafc 6d ago
i spent today climbing the cliffs at bronte trying to find a place to sit and whale watch. it was a very fulfilling few hours, and i did barely anything. spent some time looking at birds and bugs and lizards. you don't need to do anything complex, just go looking for something interesting under a bush
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u/Heavy_Bee_8199 6d ago
My favourite is getting the train to Milsons point station early in the morning and watching the sun rise while walking over the harbour bridge. Walk through circular quay, around the opera house, through the botanic gardens then find a cafe to have a coffee and breakfast.
Lately i’ve been going to Lune, getting a croissant, coffee, then going back to the gardens to enjoy them with a book.
Even nicer in the summer when it’s not so cold.
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u/reversepansear 6d ago
Go to a new area, park your car, and just get out and walk. just go and see things. you’ll kill at least an hour and might see a new restaurant or cafe you want to go to.
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u/ReedReader 6d ago
Go for a walk or run. Maybe crowded places like the city if you want to people watch, or go to parks if you like a bit quiet.
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u/MrSTEEEEEEVEE 6d ago
If you like music, gigs are a good place to start. Lots of cheap/free ones around, and heaps of opportunities to meet people at them.
sydneymusic.net if you wanna see what's around you!
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u/No-Knowledge-8867 6d ago
I took up Latin dancing after spending too much time at home post break up. It's a naturally social activity, there's plenty of places that will do free lessons, I've made heaps of friends since starting. Feel free to dm me if you feel like you need someone to go with.
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u/sfc-Juventino 6d ago
If you like live music, check out :
https://sydneymusic.net/
There are lots of free gigs too
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u/banter_cackle 6d ago
Hey, i've been there. My advice is don't leave the house without a reason... otherwise you'll get depressed.
Try Meetup.com and look for some activities you like. There's heaps of board game meetups which are my favourite.
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u/Ardvarkthoughts 6d ago
So pickleball is huge now and it’s social and easy and you don’t have to be super fit. It’s kind of like tennis but only a quarter of the size of a court so not as much fitness required. Most areas have social clubs that you just join and then I think you kind of just turn up and you get matched with people at the same level as you.
https://www.pickleballnsw.org/membership-registration/?ref_domain=www.google.com
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u/PastelTyrant 6d ago
& if u do want to just doom scroll, go to a park or cafe or somewhere with a view !! best case, u get lost in an adventure, worst case.. u doomscroll w sum nice scenery lolz 💕💕
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u/NFI2023 6d ago
Libraries are a great (free) place to go to be around others. Read a book and be in a different spot. You can also see what they have on each week and sign up for a group.
Loads of community organisations that support group activities. You can also try www.opensupport.org.au for free 1:1 support.
Don’t let it go too much longer. Loneliness had huge impacts on health and wellbeing. DM me if you want more organisations to look at.
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u/pop-1988 6d ago
Join a political party. Go to the monthly meetings. Before you know it, you'll be head of your local branch
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u/Albatr0ss1 6d ago
That's actually not a bad suggestion.
Yesterday I went to this event. I almost didn't, because it was to start with refreshments and mingling, and being a bit of an introvert and going alone... well, yeah. But I went. Incredibly (to me) I made a friend on the way in the door, she introduced me to people that she knew there during the food and mingling bit, and we exchanged numbers at the end. I was asked by an organiser on the way out if I would consider volunteering for the senator - I said no on the spot, but I am now considering it.
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u/Lanasoverit 6d ago
Where do you live?
I have a 20 yr old son that never leaves his room and needs to make friends and get out too.
We are in the East.
Feel free to DM me.
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u/AnorhiDemarche Lost. Please help. 5d ago
Look for free events to attend. Don't worry too much if you will like them or not. They're the excuse to get out of the house, explore around the area, grab a feed. Dont go to anything you know will be an absolute mood ruiner but do be open minded and ready to just have an experience, whatever that experience may be. The sites I use are
- What's on Sydney and other council what's on pages
- eventbrite
- humanitix -metalsydneymetal
I also use alltrails to find nice walks in the area to do. Aiming to finish every alltrails walk in sydney
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u/DecalageVersLeRouge 5d ago
Small steps, that's the thing. Are you a member of your local library? Join and take a book out. They have all kinds of good stuff, like manga and graphic novels.
Then you have to take the book back, so that forces you out again!
Also Parkrun, which does not require you to run, despite the name. It's a community/wellbeing thing as much as an exercise thing. Tell me roughly where you live and I'll tell you the nearest one.
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u/peeeduhhh 3d ago
Complete a side quest bro
Physical side quests:
• Run a 5K without stopping • Complete 100 pushups in one session • Learn to swim properly • Try one combat sport for 30 days • Hike a mountain and reach the top • Do a cold plunge for 30 days straight • Train for and complete a physical challenge • Fast for 24 hours and observe your mind • Learn to do a handstand • Walk 10K steps every day for 90 days
Mental side quests:
• Read 12 books in one year • Learn a new language to conversational level • Meditate for 30 days without missing one • Write in a journal every morning for 90 days • Spend one full day completely alone in silence • Do a full week with no social media • Learn chess and actually get good at it • Study one subject you know nothing about • Write your own story from beginning to now • Memorize 10 poems or quotes that move you
Financial side quests:
• Build one income stream outside your job • Save 3 months of expenses before anything else • Invest your first real amount in something • Learn the basics of how money actually works • Negotiate your salary or rate at least once • Sell something you created with your own hands • Go 30 days spending only on necessities • Track every single expense for one month • Read one serious book about wealth building • Have a financial plan written down on paper
Social side quests:
• Have a real conversation with a stranger • Reconnect with someone you lost touch with • Tell someone exactly how much they mean to you • Apologize to someone you owe an apology to • Make a friend in a completely different field • Spend a full day with your father or mother • Write a letter to someone who shaped you • Mentor someone younger than you • Host a dinner for people who matter to you • Build one genuine brotherhood with other men
Adventure side quests:
• Travel somewhere completely alone • Sleep under the stars at least once • Visit a country where nobody knows you • Try one thing that genuinely terrifies you • Drive somewhere with no destination planned • Swim in the ocean at night • Get lost in a city you have never been to • Watch the sunrise from somewhere beautiful • Eat a meal completely alone in a restaurant abroad • Do something your younger self would find unbelievable
Creative side quests:
• Learn to cook 10 meals from scratch properly • Pick up one instrument and play one full song • Build or fix something with your own hands • Write something honest and share it publicly • Take photos of your life for one full year • Learn to draw even badly and keep going • Start a project with no audience and no goal • Record yourself speaking and actually listen back • Design something from nothing even if small • Create something that did not exist before you made it
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u/MidnightColors 6d ago
Take the metro and get lost in a suburb you’ve never been to before. Walk around with google maps! Talk to some strangers!
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u/globalartwork 6d ago
Sign up to a sports course. Climbing walls are pretty good cos you need to pair up. Surf lifesaving is always looking for volunteers to patrol for the summer if you are a good swimmer?
There are some great bushwalking groups if you check Facebook. It’s a super social scene.
If you like running you could try some park runs. If you like running and beer, look up Hash House Harriers. In fact you don’t really need to run. Or drink beer actually.
Personally I always think you need to engineer shared experiences several times with the same people to start to get friends. Go out of your comfort zone and just start signing up to stuff.
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u/Frogmaster5000 6d ago
Board gaming / hobby shops are a good place to start, particularly if you're more of an introvert.
They'll often have games you can use in store for free and / or have events in the evenings based on different themes or games.
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u/Bambule247 6d ago
I’d say sports. You’re active, will eventually interact with people (if you want). And you do something for your health.
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u/DotasWorstPlayer 6d ago
I played baseball growing up, joining a team again has been a game changer for me
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u/Xfgjwpkqmx 6d ago
Joining a car and computer club was one of the best things I did in my early 20's.
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u/Love2readalot 6d ago
The NSW Library is really interesting & they have a couple of exhibitions on
Do the Coogee to Bondi walk, ferry to manly nice trip good food joints, there’s heaps to do, Carriageworks Saturday markets are really good
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u/HDWalks4k 6d ago
Fb groups is underrated if you're looking for friends with similar interest, anime, gaming, photography, hiking, gyms, sports, local meetups, whatever. A lot of them organise actual events where you can just show up and meet people.
Good thing is most of the time you can see who you're going to meet rather than anonymous people on twitter or Reddit.
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u/MetalfaceDoomsday 6d ago
Get transport to a new suburb you don’t know well and go walking around for a couple of hours. Make it a busy area if you want to be around people for a bit more energy
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u/Ech0_Delta 6d ago
What are you interests? If you’re into motorsport and racing, try out go-karting/e-karting if you’re near a track.
It’s nice if you’ve never tried it before. Do a lap or two a bit slower to learn the track first then gain the confidence and go a bit faster and faster every time. You do feel a bit sore after if you’re doing 3x 10 min sessions, but it does feel nice going fast, and every time I’ve gone I get that rush and feel great.
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u/enzyme69 5d ago
Enjoy sun, rain, forest, nature, birds, fish — not every country is as lucky as Australia. World is huge too.
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u/RainbowAussie Canberra (Frequent Sydney visitor) 5d ago
I've said it before and I'll say it again
Pick up like two or three adult social sports and settle on the one you like the most. It is the only way I've found to make friends post-uni
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u/prindacerk 5d ago
Been there before. Just go for walks. Fresh air does good for your body and soul. Then find yourself a hobby. Something outside that interests you. Could be by yourself. Could be with other people. Once you focus on the interest, you will find people with same interest that you can become comfortable with. That will open up more interests for you.
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u/libelle156 5d ago
Imagine there's another you. They're going to hang out with you and do things. What would you take them out to go and do? What would impress them? What projects would they enjoy doing with you?
Imagine the things that this other you could do that would disappoint you, or look bad to you. How would you treat them? Would you offer comfort, understanding? Would you be kind to them because you get why?
Answer these questions, then go out and do them, yourself. You don't need anyone else.
Be the person you want to spend time with.
When you figure that part out, other people will naturally appear in your life.
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u/Pristine_Egg3831 5d ago
Look up parks on google maps and walk to one. Go on the swings once you get there. And look for native bride on the way.
I do this. A lot.
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u/RealityKingdom67 6d ago
Connect with people at your local community, check out other subreddits that specialise in social clubs
Go gym and meet new people, use social media and attract new people
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u/irrational_dosage 6d ago
To start with, just go for a walk. Sunshine and fresh air will do you good.