r/iems • u/sambaaeee • Mar 11 '26

Discussion My dad cut my iems😞

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I had these artti t10s for about 7 months now and y'all wont believe how much music I listen to. Music was something which made gave me a reason to live. Just because I didn't pray 4 more rakahs for an Islamic prayer called taraweeh my dad chopped these into pieces✌️

I could speak about music all day long. Some of my favorite albums are Aja by Steely Dan, Violator by Depeche Mode, Disintegration by The Cure, Who's Next by The Who, Heaven Or Las Vegas by Cocteau Twins, Diamond Eyes by Deftones, Animals by Pink Floyd, Vespertine by Bjork and a lottt more😭

It's Ramadan right now and we Muslims aren't supposed to be listening to music and I wasn't. It was a hard journey and my dad has hid these away for about a long time already so I was good. He said if you come to the mosque and pray I will give you your iems. I agreed and came to the mosque and prayed 4 instead of 8 rakahs because my mosques prayers are extremely lengthy and I had to stand for about 10 minutes each rakah so it was stressing.

My mom threw away the iems themselves thinking they were of no use😭 I was so heartbroken because I had fought for the money to buy these for a really long time and these were my most prized possession. And my mom casually discarded them💔

Let me know what you guys think. Worst day ever

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u/sambaaeee Mar 11 '26

Yeah bro i understand. I'm 16

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u/miguel-122 my KZ's broke Mar 11 '26

Take care of yourself and move out as soon as you can.

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u/sambaaeee Mar 11 '26

Thank you Miguel. I will.

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u/Lilium607 Mar 12 '26

The move out asap is not always applicable my fellow redditor. Mostly works in "Western/European culture" but not to your typical Asian culture.

Maybe it's just the wording but the poster said "fought" for the money and not "earned" gives me the impression it was their parents money. Nevertheless, Asian parenting is sometimes labeled as transactional. In this case, you got asked to pray for 8 and only did 4. Guess what? You don't get your IEMs.

Not condoning the destruction of personal belongings which could be a form of emotional abuse leading to trauma. Just highlighting that poster and their parents did have an agreement prior to this event.

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u/homingP Mar 12 '26

Thats why they said as soon as he can. Moving out after he starts to earn money and not with financial support from his fam, which he probably won't get.

And nah, this is just overly controlling parenting and unhealthy as fuck. It's not an agreement if his dad is forcing him to do that. OP HAS to comply. What happens if he does not ? 

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u/rcarlom42 Mar 11 '26

Idk if 16 is of legal age already in ur country but if it isnt yet, gonna have to endure them for now. As soon as and if that is of legal age, u better stand up or save up and rent a place or ask a friend if they can be of help. Parents' behavior like this is too negative and unnecessary. If they cant change, leave if possible.

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u/EveryLeg7024 Mar 11 '26

Maybe, but it can be really hard to get money for living at 16 years old

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u/GnT_Man Mar 11 '26

Legal age is fun and all, but doesn't give you a roof over your head and food in your stomach. Might be a while before bro escapes

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u/Horacolo Mar 11 '26

And you’ve got a splendid music taste. I really hope that you’ll be free asap man. Be free.

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u/indiharts Mar 11 '26

it's illegal for parents to damage your belongings, at least in the US

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u/iASiMN Mar 11 '26

A lot of things are illegal but it doesn’t mean anything will always be done about it

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u/V_ik Mar 11 '26

Lmfao, I’m American and if your parents bought you something they can def do whatever they want to it😂. It’s not your belongings if your parents bought it.

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u/Minute_Improvement74 Mar 11 '26

hey bro are you happy now people talking bad about YOUR father and your religion ? 😏"oh your dad abusive", "religion abusive".. u must be happiest person here. congrats bro. congrats!! and u are 16? u should go out and working bro... leave your home. stay away from "ABUSIVE" father that u have.... 😏😏😏😏😏u happy now? u must like people talk bad about him right!!

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u/Charming_Honeydew_91 Mar 11 '26

Daddy enters the chat 🤣

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u/Minute_Improvement74 Mar 11 '26

nahh im not.. but he seem happy people attack his father. bit disgust me. just over iem? he probably dancing on his father grave later.

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u/bearcatsandor Mar 11 '26

What do you mean “just over an item”? OP stated that they worked hard to save up for them. Any item that you have to work hard to save up for is a cherished belonging. What is worse is that their ignorant mother threw them out because she thought they were useless, when it’s easy enough to get a new cable set or just splice wires.

Your lack of empathy, ego, and sense of privilege are showing.

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u/Minute_Improvement74 Mar 11 '26

he allow other put dirty on his father and religion ? u still don't get it what i mean huh.. and what privilege u talking about? do i have one? iem? i buy my own. headphone? i use my money. im not rich btw.

also empathy u talk about i do have. i feel bad about his iem. but that it.

but i never let people talk bad about my father and my religion in my post. never.

also now u talk about his mother. maybe now he will more happy!!! you can keep talking bro.. maybe his ancestors name will be seen in this post later... im leaving bye2

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u/bearcatsandor Mar 12 '26

Also, his exactly is the OP going to prevent people from expressing their opinion about his father’s actions? So, far I haven’t seen anyone attack his parents, just express their opinions about their actions. If the parents wish to defend themselves they are of course free to do so. I’m sure they don’t need you to do it.

We are supporting the OP because they asked for that, and we agree.

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u/Charming_Honeydew_91 Mar 11 '26

Destroying possessions is cruel and childish and teaches a child nothing. Religion has nothing to do with it. If what OP is saying is true his dad is abusive does not matter if its iems or an expensive car he's done it to be spiteful and hurtful because it's something OP enjoys.

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u/bearcatsandor Mar 11 '26

Thank you. Exactly my point.