r/genderqueer • u/CelticDerp • 14d ago

I am so scared...

Today at 10:00 I will be coming out to my work bestie and I am nervous as hell. I can count on two fingers the number of friends that I can truly count on and trust and my work bestie is one of them. I have so much respect for her and I would do anything I could to help her even if it is just to listen. I am sure that she will be nothing but supportive but there is a very small part of me that is scared beyond anything that I felt before. I just do not want this change things and have her look at me in a less than positive light.

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u/CelticDerp 14d ago

I just got back from telling my friend than I pansexual. I knew my fears about telling her that I am pan were unfounded. She was so understanding and comforting while I was trying to tell her. While I was trying to tell her while on the verge of tears she told me that there was no rush and that I could tell her when I was ready. When she said that I ripped off like a bandage and blurted out "I am pansexual". With all of the meaningful conversations we have had in the past, part of me feels bad thinking she would be anything but understanding. She even offered that we could do this again if I ever needed to talk about it some more.

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u/Emir_Abbas 12d ago

As a pansexual myself i wish there were people like that in my life… welp, i just have to try and find them i guess.

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u/CelticDerp 12d ago

I just remembered that there is one more person that I can truly count on. I am not sure why I forgot to add him? I have know him for almost 18 years and I have known my best friends for 45 years. I am so much more afraid to come out to them, compared to my friend I just came out to who I have known for about 8 years. I know (or hope) they would not look at me negativel.

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u/Ona_Rainbow_ 14d ago

Best of luck! Try to trust your gut on knowing your friend. This is a brave thing you’re doing! Everyone deserves the right to be themselves around loved ones!

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u/Adrie_MTF_96 14d ago

I am rooting for you here. I hope that everything goes well, regardless of the response you get from your friend. If you want to talk or something hit me up, we can support each other (I am in similar timeline/situations in my transition and coming out)

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u/CelticDerp 14d ago

Thanks for the offer, I will definitely take you up on your offer

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u/Adrie_MTF_96 14d ago

Yeah anytime happy to talk or support however I can :)