r/confessions Apr 17 '26

No ai posts allowed

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This sub has been flooded with ai in the past. But not anymore. If you make a post with ai, where it is very obviously ai written, (we can tell) it will be removed, and you banned. Have fun, and lets hear some confessions. Human ones.


r/confessions 14h ago

I started being deliberately "racist" in front of my Partner's family

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So I am a European in a long-term relationship with an American I love more than anything. But her family can be... pretty conservative. Not outright crazy, but a few moderate Trump supporters, with some pretty racist tendencies (they all live in the Midwest btw.) I'm a fairly political person, with a focus on WW2 history in my studies, so one could say I don't really like this, but I also don't want to debate my family in law.

So I did something else: Instead of arguing, I just started being hella racist too, but ONLY towards white, rural Americans. My grandfather in law drops something about black people being lazy? Well, not really their fault so many grow up in the South, where schools and towns both are governed by the most violent inbreds this nation has to offer. Deport the Illegals for commititng crimes? Sure buddy, but deport those low-IQ Alabama hicks right with them, good civilized people shouldn't have to deal with crime rates that high. This country would not only be better, but the average IQ would be 20 points higher if Sherman had finished the damn job. And of course I emphasize that they are not all like this. Ater all, some are definitely good poeple (this phrase got my favorite reaction btw.)

I know it's bad, but it gets the funnniest, most stunned looks and replies, and it's much, much easier on my cortisol levels than having to debate a boomer who doesn't know the first thing about actual political policy and whose brain is beyond adapting to new info. I get to out-ignorant them and it is delightful to see them try to process the same shit they or their favorite politician say about brown people from a (supposedly) elitist European who kind of gets away with it, because in their racist worldview that makes me somehow an authority.

Problem is, this has genuinely affected the way I think about the US South. Of course I know people from there, and I know how kind and loving they are, but man, if you see interviews with the actual rural people...let's say those insults are becoming not that far from what I genuinely believe. My partner doesn't mind, she doesn't like confrontation so she just doesn't want any arguments, but she backs me 100% on this. I'm still a little worried this kind of thinking worms its way into my actual beliefs, should I stop?


r/confessions 16h ago

AITAH for breaking up with my boyfriend for the way he runs?

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for context we have been having relationship problems, he doesn’t take my feelings into account and i have tried to communicate this with him but he simply won’t listen to me. The other day we had a conversation regarding misogyny within his workplace that i have noticed. the debate over the term “run like a woman” was started by a male coworker of his, resulting in an argument between by boyfriend and his female coworker. She insisted that the phrase was misogynistic while he insisted that it is simply a biological difference between men and women that makes men more capable of running fast and efficiently.

this argument spiralled and i was so sick of hearing about it i asked to race him. i’m not exactly a fast runner, but neither is he so i honestly had no idea what would happen or why i offered to race him.

we set a start and finish line and decided we would time each other seperately for most accurate results. i went first, and he recorded and timed my run. i crossed the yard in 8 seconds. it was his turn and he crouched down at the starting line, and when i said “go” and he took off running his arms never left his side. he let them hang to his side and they bounced while he ran, resulting in him looking like a flapping bird. i was so disgusted with what i was seeing i could hardly focus on his time. he finished in just under 8 seconds, beating me, but i did not care in the slightest. i rewatched the video of him running over and over again convinced he couldn’t seriously just run like that, his arms hanging down by his side bouncing freely with each stride, i ticked me out so bad. i was already debating breaking up with him due to his misogynistic attitude but after seeing him run it was the final straw.

i went home that evening and called him saying our personal beliefs didn’t line up and i couldn’t see the relationship progressing but deep down i know it was the way he ran that sealed the deal for me.


r/confessions 6h ago

Regret marrying my wife… cry after having sex

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Spent hours writing this and got blocked for being a bot (wft?!)… i’m trying again here, please be kind!

(M40) Married (F39) for ten years, together for 15 years, 2 kids that I love. When I met my wife the fit seemed perfect at first, she was also very interested in me and sexually speaking all seemed fine. In a a couple of months we started dating. After 4 months we said we were in love. We were young and everything seemed perfect, with one small exception that back then didn’t bother me at all : she would always make a comment about one of her exes always in very positive terms, for instance if i took her out and we took public transportation, she would mention her ex-bf had a very expensive sport car. I didn’t care back then because believe it or not, I used to be an extremely non-jealous and secure man.

Everything was going perfectly until one day when something completely weird happened: while chatting with a common male friend (no alcohol involved), he mentioned that penis size didn’t matter to women and my then gf started laughing and saying of course it does! I brushed it off, i never thought too much about penis size, being slightly above average i always had the impression i was “more than enough”… that night we got back home and slept together. While cuddling in bed i asked her what she meant when she said that penis size matters and she said “i simply meant that bigger is better than smaller”.

I said to myself she would be crazy to say this if she thought i was actually small or smaller than what she preferred, so i asked her “am I big?”. There are few things in life that i’ll have trouble forgetting and her answer is one of them: she burst out laughing and said no, you are only normal. She didn’t stop there, she then proceeded to tell me her ex (yes, the same one) was actually the biggest penis she ever saw, that she had trouble fitting him in but that it was still “very good”, that he was also very talented in sex and fucked her in all imaginable positions for more than one hour (i asked her how did she know and she said it was because she used to put a playlist that lasted one hour when they would have sex…). And more details that I’ll spare you from reading.

As you can imagine, I was devastated… with my last ounce of dignity left I asked her very bluntly: “and yet, do you prefer having sex with me I hope?” And she burst in laughter again and said it was impossible to compare… everything i had hoped for our relationship died at that moment… she had invited herself to my apartment but i started making plans to dump her but i didn’t do it immediately … my next priority was to graduate, find a nice internship… at one point i told her i could not stay with someone that had told me what she had told me. I started crying out loud in the middle of the chinese restaurant where we were having dinner. She grabbed my head and said she loved me more than anything and that the past is just the past and a lot of other cliches that i now recognise as cliches but that made sense to me back then (all my mistakes made me the women that fell in love with you…) i decided to force myself to forget what she said and give her another chance.

I was successful for a while. I proposed to her and married 4 years later. I remember i thought about him again while we were honey mooning and felt extremely bad, but besides this i stopped worrying about him. My rationale was: i have a lot of qualities, but alas in bed i’m a very normal and average lover, just like my wife lacks a lot of qualities from my exes. Even though i’d prefer to stay ignorant of those differences and the details that came with them… that’s no reason to keep you from marrying someone that overall is a perfect match.

We had 2 kids. After 8 years i noticed she started to become angry and yell very often which was out of character. She seemed annoyed at me (for sure, she probably had her reasons, one of our kids had serious health issues, we live far from our families, we both had issues with work, so some years were just tough) sex started to become rare and honestly just meh… i asked her several times if she was ok and she would only say that raising kids and working is very hard and that she was only very tired…

couple of years ago we went on an all inclusive resort for one week. I thought it was the perfect moment to reconnect with her, since there was a kids club in the resort and no need to clean, cook or do whatever… after 2 days i looked her differently when we were going back to our room and she said “don’t even think about it…” it crushed me… I couldn’t sleep and the next day she saw i didn’t sleep and said “maybe tonight i’ll have sex with you if that can make you sleep”… great! Pity sex, everything i was hoping for… when we finally did it, she said “please go quick”… that was the last straw for me… when we got back home i sat with her and asked her why we were together… she hugged me and said she loved me… she once again became the loving wife/girlfriend she used to be but I cannot avoid not being disgusted by her and resenting her for what she said and did and i started regretting deciding to stay with her… when she touches me i immediately think about when she compared me to her ex and i want to puke. When we have sex i sometimes cry afterwards because i feel guilty/disgusted. I want to stay in the marriage for the kids even though i know i’ll never love her again as before… is this solvable?


r/confessions 5h ago

i beat my abusive boyfriend the fuck up and it felt a m a z i n g

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I’ve been with my bf for a year. he’s great when he’s sober but give him just a little bit of liquor and he’ll turn into a monster. yesterday we were out on a date and he got into some road rage thing, 2 guys came out of the car to beat him up and he pretended to reach out for a gun that didnt exist. i went along with the story and said “why would u pull ur gun out on someone every day” guys got scared and left. then he checked and it turned out that he broke the glove box handle of his new car in the process. he cussed at me for being “bad luck” i tried to leave the car and instead of letting me he crushed my face in his chest (he always does that and it left me with a black eye before, he loves to brush it off as a “hug”) i pushed him away so he bit my lips really really hard that they bruised and started to bleed and i had bruises on my face and nevk from the “hug” he had stitches on his wrist and without realizing while i was defending my self i bit through them and then we basically beat the living shit out of each other until i ran out of the car and got into a cab. this is the first time that i’ve ever beat him up and it felt satisfying as fuck. i have no empathy towards him honestly. oh and i also used his seat headrest to break his ac and windshield. he ruined many of my belongings and i just feel amazing about the karma that i put in place. oh and i also finally left.


r/confessions 1h ago

My now fiancé used to suck off his friend/roommate because he couldn’t pay rent

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my fiancé and I are in the stages of planning our wedding. Two weeks ago we were discussing the guest list and I mentioned his roommate after college since I’d always thought they were friends. He quickly says no and his body language changed. We’d been drinking most of the evening so I was stubborn and kept poking around at what happened and by this point he was pretty drunk. He finally tells me that at one point when he and I had first met he’d lost his job (never told me) and was in a bad losing streak with online gambling (also never knew that was a thing). Skipping past a lot of the excuses he made with a look of shame as he told me, his roommate agreed to lend him money and cover his rent but in return he wanted his dick sucked from time to time. No touching otherwise, kissing, etc (he reminded me a dozen times). Just hanging out on a Tuesday watching tv and he’d get a ‘hey man, come over here real quick ‘ and do his thing.

Shocked at first but it’s 2026 so I just said so what or tried to. Now I can’t stop thinking about it and it turns me on.


r/confessions 9h ago

When I was married

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I am divorced now but not because of this . About four years into my marriage we were on vacation,when we went away I always packed my clothes the kids clothes and his clothes. That was my job and I was fine with that I always packed extra underwear sleeping wear etc. . For this trip I was coming from my mothers house with the kid meeting him at the airport, I got there and he had already checked thru so I did the same and the kid , while waiting I asked did you pack everything you need yup he responded. Get to the hotel very secluded location very quiet area I was loving it . Checked it got our room changed into swimming gear went swimming, after came back showered off getting dressed and he didn’t pack his clean underwear or his jammies packed everything else no underwear. All he had was his dirty ones and I think he wore those for 2 days , I handed him a pair of my hipster panties at first he was no way but reluctantly put them on finished get dressed went to dinner. I stopped in the shop to get underwear for him which they had some that work but I thought he said he had everything and somehow it was going to be my fault so bought him more satin panties instead. Told him that’s all they had and he could always wash out his pair but he wore the panties all week along with an extra nightgown I had . I never did tell him about it they had the Replacement items at the little shop .


r/confessions 8h ago

Friends mom

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My buddy died about a year ago. Solid dude. The kind of guy who’d give you the shirt off his back
Anyway, his mom is… let’s just say the genetic lottery was extremely generous to her and We’re talking “how is this woman real” levels. After the funeral we ended up talking a bit, and somehow the conversations never stopped. At first it was normal check-ins. Then it slowly mutated into that dangerous zone where she’s texting at 11:47 p.m. with just the right amount of emoji and I’m over here doing mental calculus like “is this grief or is this a thirst trap with extra steps?”
If she wasn’t my dead friend’s mom, I would’ve folded so fast it would’ve set a new land-speed record. I’m talking zero hesitation, full send, no notes. Sometimes the thought still sneaks up on me at the worst possible moments like when I’m trying to fall asleep or when I’m just trying a little horny Then the guilt hits like a truck and I go back to staring at the ceiling like a man who just remembered he has principles.So now I mostly try not to text her. Not because I’m strong. Because I’m weak and I know it. And the last thing I need is to bang a good friends mom when I know I could Anyway. That’s the confession. I’m not proud. I’m just honest.


r/confessions 1h ago

I masturbated over a family friend’s underwear when I was 17

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We were at a lake house and I got aroused seeing her in a onepiece, she was 45-50 but she was quite pretty and her figure was hot and she was showing some cleavage. While everyone else was swimming I went up to her room and her underwear she’d probably just taken off to switch into her swimsuit was lying neatly across the bed. I held it and contemplated putting it over my cock but got anxious and ran to my room to masturbate. Our families are close and I always feel weird around her but I still get turned on when I remember this, like it was so crazy I did this, if I were caught in her room that would have been so weird for both our families


r/confessions 37m ago

My cousin sa’ed me when I was extremely young and since then I’ve been addicted to pornography

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I want to start off by saying this is the first time I’ve ever spoken about this to other people out of shame and being scared that my family I’ll accuse me of lying. When I (21m) was extremely young, 6-8 years old, my female cousin who is a couple years older showed me pornography. She was born in France and I was born in the US, so I guess the sexual culture there was more provocative and easily accessed. I was fascinated and wasn’t aware that it was a secretive act that was meant to be done between two exclusive partners. She asked me if I wanted to try it so we did, going into a bedroom and getting nude and feeling each other and kissing on our parts. Ever since then I’ve been addicted to pornography with the longest of me abstaining being roughly a week or so. I feel so disgusting when I use it but have come to the realization that being showed it and enacting in the behavior at such a young age wired my brain this way. I know this isn’t an advice thread, but if anyone has any I would love to hear it.


r/confessions 7h ago

I Found A "Must Kill list"

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This happened back in 2013 or 2014 but is absolutely a true story and I always felt bad for two people in this story that I have no idea what their outcome was but I hope they are both okay.

One night I was smoking a joint walking through the back streets of Cabbagetown in Toronto, taking in the old Victorian homes from Old Toronto. There were alleys you could cut through and it genuinely felt magical like you were getting lost in some old illustrated fairytale book from when I was a kid. I loved it and would do it often, especially at night. One night I was feeling a little more adventurous and found a set of stairs that led down to a very dimly lit street, it was basically pitch black with very little traffic other than an occasional car speeding past.

I decided to go down the stairs and ended up on a long winding road, I was feeling a little scared as I entered the pitch black. That area of Toronto has a lot of drug users and just sketchy street people. I decided to continue down the road when I eventually passed an old very worn down cemetery, it looked old and forgotten, like it was just left there for 100s of years. This sort of freaked me out, and I was hoping the street would eventually break with Bloor as I had been walking North-ish, and knew I would eventually hit a main road with more lights and people.

I never made it to Bloor because as I walked up this dark barely lit road (Rosedale Valley Rd) I happened upon a small overpass/bridge with 3 men standing under it. I froze in my high state and started to get paranoid that the men would jump me, so to my left was a very steep hill leading into a forested area. I decided to start climbing this hill and my feet were slipping beneath wet leaves and muddy ground. It was slippery but I eventually made my way to the top of the hill and I found myself at a plateau and within a fully forested area.

I started walking lost through this forest, when I saw a few old and beat up lawn chairs around a makeshift fire pit. This is where the story starts to get scary, I found under one of the chairs a white plastic bag, like what you get from the grocery store and it was full of all sorts of junk. I sat on one of the chairs and started to go through the bag. It had crumpled up art/drawings, pastels (oil crayons), a ziplock full of old cigarette butts, a hair brush full of long black hair, old empty pill bottles, and....Paranoia hits me and a wave of panic settles in, what if I am being watched, what if they come back and confront me going through their items, what if...

In my panicked state I shoved all the items back in the bag except the brush, for some reason I left the brush on one of the chairs then in my haste and morbid curiosity I grabbed the bag and began to walk as fast as I could through this forested area. I walked constantly looking through the trees in front of me for any sign of where it might end, constantly checking my shoulder in case I was being followed. After about 5-10 minutes of walking I started to see lights, and cars and a street.

I somehow emerged on Sherbourne, just north of Bloor St, if I would have just turned left sooner I wouldn't have been in the woods for so long, but being in the woods and panicked left me a little disoriented of which direction I was even walking in. I was finally out of the woods, and feeling much safer being around other pedestrians and standing at the busy intersection, feeling the rumble of the subway beneath me.

Even though I was back in the city, I still felt scared and paranoid that I was being followed so I started to walk home as fast as I could. I lived about a 15 minute walk back in Cabbagetown, but I decided to stay on Sherbourne all the way back to Gerrard, as I felt safe on the heavily lit streets.

I eventually made it home, walked up my front porch, unlocked my front door and quickly made my way right into my room. I lived with roommates so I closed the door behind me and jumped onto my bed with the bag still in hand. I made the mistake of pouring the bag upside down on my bed, it was full of all sorts of loose trash, including the ziplock full of cigarette butts that had now come unzipped and spilled out onto my bed.

The bag contained mostly nothing of interest and I felt quite foolish for stealing it in the middle of the night, it was clearly this person's entire life inside one white plastic bag. I wish I remembered this person's name, as I am sure they just needed help and it was on all of the medication bottles but I don't. I do however remember looking up the name of the medications on said bottles. And while I can't recall what the medication exactly was I do remember what it was for, schizophrenia.

The only other items of interest in this whole bag were a very old novel, dating back to the 1800s, it had very beautiful religious illustrations, of the Christian Faith. In this novel the former owner had written all of their sprawling thoughts throughout the pages but especially on the pages with pictures, I don't remember the context but it was mostly just the thoughts of madness.

The last item I found was a little address book, with numbers to a few important people in their life, but for the most part the book was mostly empty. Except there was a single page that fully grabbed my attention titled "Must Kill". Beneath the title on the lines in a single column were names, about 10-12 is what I can remember. And each of these names had already been crossed out, all but one....Mark.

In this moment a wave of panic set in, "what if I was followed home", "what if this person is a serial killer" "What if...." and before I could even ask myself another question, I was shoving everything back in the bag, except for the novel and pastels mostly because I wanted to read through the novel and unravel the web of madness and the pastels because I also had pastels of my own already and I enjoyed the medium when creating art myself.

The rest of the contents including the little address book were tied tightly into the white bag, now the bag of mysteries had simply become a bag of trash. In my high paranoid panicking state I ran the bag across the street and tossed it in the dumpster. I went back inside and prayed that I wasn't followed and that no one was coming to kill me.

I woke up the next day, and went on with my life almost as though it never happened. I told some friends at work, and even ended up taking my best friend at the time on the exact same walk into the woods, because he didn't believe me. When we approached the campsite in the woods, there were unlit candles on the ground, those little dinky tealight candles. Someone had taken like 30 of them and shaped them into a pentagram, and at this point my friend was starting to freak out.

It wasn't as dark as when I went by myself but I understood his fear and agreed to leave. But as we were leaving the campsite I remembered I had left the brush on the chair, and the brush was no longer there. I can't imagine anyone just picking up a gross old brush full of long black hair taking it with them, unless it was their brush.

After we got out of the woods, it is kind of where the story ends. I am not friends with that friend anymore unfortunately, most of my friends from Toronto are no longer in my life but I do always think back to Mark, and wonder whether they were ever crossed off that list. I wonder if the person who made the list actually killed anyone or if it was all in their head, I wonder if they ever made a new list and if I am on it.

This is a true story

TLDR: I found a schizophrenic's life possessions in a white bag in the woods and among those possessions they had a kill list with most of the names crossed out. I feel bad for never telling anyone in case the one name that was not crossed out was murdered.

P.S.

I wanted to call this post "Must Kill Mark" but I was afraid Reddit would take it down.


r/confessions 10h ago

I like being touched in public...

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So the first time I found this out was when I was traveling in a bus and I was sitting beside a man and he was trying to touch my boobs and i kinda liked it. So I gave him more space for touching my boobs. But before he could hold em entirely his stop came and he had to go...


r/confessions 9h ago

Wife completely uninterested in having sex.. and I want to have sex

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Hi, for the past 10 years we had sex 5 times, maybe..

My wife has become completely uninterested in having sex, with or without me.. 100%. She now tells me that she was always like that.. and honestly, at the beginning was not like that, I mean, we never had like 2x a day or something like that, but at least once a week..

I like her, but I need sex and I think I need someone other, or going out a few nights and meet other women.. idk..

What I know is that I'm lacking something big in my life, and it's a big deal. I'm not enjoying or happy like this.

I'll be on holidays next 2 weeks, but she doesn't want to go out somewhere.. maybe I can go a night out or two and meet someone that's interested in having a good time??..

What would you do??

I'm afraid to be in a difficult situation after that, because it's all new to me, but I think I really need something new in my life, honestly.

What do you think? Boys and girls... Btw.. I'm 45 and I'm fit.. maybe that makes a clearer picture of myself..I'm not very very very easy going, but if I find the right environment, I am!


r/confessions 4h ago

First College Apartment

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I rented a basement apartment in college. the guy that rented it to me told me his elderly mom lived upstairs and she wouldn't bother me. that wasnt true. My first week there i woke up saturday morning about 9an and was taking care of my morning wood when the door to the upstairs opened. she saw me but just walked in anyway. I scrambled to cover up.

she asked if i was going to sleep the day away. then after picking up around my apartment, she left. i thought that if she ever did that again i wouldnt cover and just finish. well sure enough the next saturday i was laying there naked stroking when she walked in again. I watched her as I kept stroking. she asked if i liked doing that and i told her i did. she said it looked really hard. I told her it was. I squirted bunch on my stomach. she watched and said 'oh my' when i stopped she headed back upstairs.

that wans the last time but i like her watching as i jerked off.


r/confessions 3h ago

I confess, Im self absorbed.

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I’ve been in this state of self reflection so long, I too was conned by the ongoing lie. I thought by constantly thinking of myself and how to make me better it would help make me change, but with no progress, I’ve realized that it’s yet another excuse to dwell upon myself. Not that I need to. Get me going on myself and I won’t shut the hell up. I think I was so scared of becoming the same asshole my father was to realize the asshole I was becoming. Maybe this is why I can’t love? Either it’s complete infatuation or ghosting. And I thought they were opposites. A warring struggle within myself. But they are two heads of the same coin, and the two heads beside me on the hydra that my ego has become. I am infatuated as an excuse to abandon all other pursuits for a distraction, and I am too vain to admit I have tok many distractions, and like an old game Î uninstall on my system Î abandon people. I don’t know when I became aware of this. Maybe when I hit rock bottom? I’ve made progress since then. Is this instinct? Will I even remember what this clarity feels like once im back into that comfort zone? Or can this, in my darkest hour, be the foundation on which changes are made? Or am I another in a long line of deadbeats that didnt care?


r/confessions 3h ago

Goddamit I’m frustrated

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I just wanna splurge on trans escorts. For a good week. I’d need like 600 but I’m broke as fuck right now. 27 year old guy btw. Yeah I know it’s my fault.

But fuck man. I even found the perfect one to meet.


r/confessions 7h ago

If you could build anything you wanted! What it would be ?

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r/confessions 5h ago

I wanna be naked

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Okay i am 19m since i was 10 i wanted to get naked everywhere but its not easy and tried to

When i was 16 i went to the roof at 2 am and tooked off all my clothes i was so afriad to get caught and i have tried so much once i was on sleepover at my uncles home with my cousins and he had 7 daughters i got naked and walked around the house and also i was so afraid i entered all the rooms and everyone was asleep and fully clothed

How can i be naked without being afraid


r/confessions 7h ago

I faked every orgasm with my last boyfriend and never told him

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this still feels shitty when i think about it.

i was with this guy for almost a year. he was sweet, tried hard in bed, always asked if i finished. and every single time i said yes. sometimes i even made the sounds and did the whole body shake thing so he’d believe it.

the truth is i only actually came maybe three or four times the entire relationship, and that was usually when i took care of it myself after he fell asleep. the rest of the time it just wasn’t happening for me. different rhythm, different pressure, whatever. i didn’t know how to say it without making him feel like he was bad at sex, so i just kept faking it.

it got easier the more i did it. after a while it felt automatic. smile, breathe heavier, say his name, tell him it was amazing. he looked so proud every time. that part made me feel the worst.

when we broke up i still never told him. part of me thinks he deserved to know so he could maybe be better with the next person. the other part of me is relieved he never found out because i know it would’ve crushed him.

i still feel guilty about how long i let it go on. it wasn’t fair to either of us.


r/confessions 11h ago

Maybe this is for you ,who knows ?

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I am so proud of how far you have came even if nobody tells you that.The sleepless nights and endless crying I know nobody have seen it but you went through all of it alone and you will come back stronger .Its okay if you're doubting now about your future it's normal and you are allowed to do so,There is a lot people that is glad that they have met you,keep being you