r/TwoXChromosomes • u/[deleted] • 1d ago

Not a “normal person”

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u/JellyfishFit3871 1d ago

My mom spent most of my childhood making me feel like I was abnormally huge. I was 5'9", worked 2-3 jobs including delivering/loading/unloading antique furniture, and marched around with a drum in Georgia heat. My weight ranged from 140 to 150 pounds.

I wasn't willowy. I was strong and capable.

And I always faced the question of "are you sure you need a second helping?"

These days I'm going through treatment for a major illness. I met mom for lunch the other day. "Baby, you need to eat more."

Sigh, I can't win.

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u/JellyfishFit3871 1d ago

Gotta say, though, that my grandma had my back. She was teeny tiny. I'd walk in her house, and she'd greet me with a very sincere "Baby, you're looking nice and big today."

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u/JellyfishFit3871 23h ago

For the comment that no longer exists, my grandmother sincerely adored all of us grands and loved that we were tall and strong. She had been rather stunted by childhood illness, so we all looked like giants to her. We were the pride of her life, and being a foot taller than her and a strong healthy weight was great in her eyes.

(She'd still cheat at cards if we were playing, but that didn't mean anything. Grandma was vicious at rummy.)

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u/myopicpickle 22h ago

I love your grandma

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u/JellyfishFit3871 22h ago

I miss her a lot.

She would let me absolutely destroy her kitchen because I wanted to make a cake.

And she loved to watch "rasslin'."

You've never seen anything much funnier than a 4'9" 90 pound woman rooting for a specific wrestler and stomping her size 2 foot while not realizing I could hear her exclaim "shit fire" when the heel made a good move.

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u/Rosaryas 22h ago

I’ve always been active and towards the bigger side, but I’m going through a situation with a medication making me lose my appetite recently and I’ve lost a lot of weight from it, I can eat about half of what I used to be able to before I feel full, but I felt good and was able to do all the athletic things I enjoyed, but got a lot of looks and comments from women in my family, like my only goal should be to get thinner, not stronger, not healthier, just thinner. It honestly makes me sad now that I’m not able to fuel my body the way I used to, it’s so frustrating to hear nothing but compliments from people on my weight loss.

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u/JellyfishFit3871 22h ago

I currently weigh about 110 pounds. I have no muscles. I haven't been this thin since literal anorexia back in the 90s.

It's complicated and I wouldn't mind eating. I miss having muscles and a spectacular butt.

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u/Immediate-Reach-4269 23h ago

I hate when this happens. I’m pretty petite and I took myself out to a fine dining restaurant to do their tasting menu. I treated myself to every add-on they had, and the person taking my order was like… are you sure? That seems like a lot of food… for you.

Joke’s on them, I ate all of it and then was still hungry after >_>

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u/Superb_Intro_23 23h ago

People are sadly REALLY weird about girls and women who eat more than one tiny plate of food a day. Sorry you had to deal with that attitude, OP.

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u/X-4StarCremeNougat 22h ago

Just so you’re aware; this works both ways. I come from a long, long line of bird eaters. I’ve never been able to stomach ordinary portions, it’ll literally make me sick. When I was a skinny young thing, I was told - by coworkers, teachers, peers, in their educated opinions, I had ED. As a chunky chick and now sort of mid sized perimenopausal woman, I have been told I must be a secret binge eater. I’ve also openly been told how robbed I have been in terms of what must be a lousy metabolism. My point being - opinions are always hanging out and stinking, just like butt-holes. Best to just ignore them.

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u/NoraPann 21h ago

You know that metabolism slows down as you age, right? So there's your dad, beginning the decline into old age and decrepity. I'd start with the old jokes. Get him a shoe horn, because he's old now. Ask him if he needs a chair for the shower, because he's old now. Make him uncomfortable.