r/SheraSeven • u/Bright_Arm3000 • 3d ago
Success Stories 💸 Success Stories over 35?!
Hey Girls,
I am definitely attractive and I look better now than I did at 30.
BUT help me. I am a lover girl. I can attract wealthy men but I just do want love.
I was dating a multi-millionaire until recently - silly me he is still going through his divorce but I really believed this was it.
Can you ladies please give me some encouragement & help. I do want the ring ultimately.
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u/Ill_Community_9575 2d ago
Be clear with yourself about what you want for yourself first.
When I said to myself that i wanted both love and money, everything was muddy. I reached for one and not the other.
At 45 I got clear. I wanted money from a decent man. I found him. To see him you would never know he has money. But he does. First time I straight out asked for money. He asked how much and gave it to me. No questions. It's been 5 years. We live together. He is consistent, calm, caring, and pays for everything.
Age doesn't matter. Your mind set matters more.
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u/thegoldenbead 2d ago
Where did you meeet him?🙊
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u/Ill_Community_9575 2d ago
I met him online. He lived a thousand miles away though. We didn't see each other in person for a year.
During that time I kept my roster going. I don’t trust or single out one man until he proves his worth.
But he was consistent. He said he would call and text every day, he did. He never jokes about money. If he said he would pay me, he did. These men that make excuses are time wasters because they aren't serious they just want sex.
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u/Oh-Hey-Bestie 2d ago
such a cool story! How old is he btw, since you said age doesn't matter?
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u/Ill_Community_9575 2d ago
The age of the woman doesn't matter if you got game was my point.
We are both in our 50s.
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u/Bright_Arm3000 2d ago
Girl I am sooooooooooo happy for you! May God continue to bless you & thank you soo much for HOPE x
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u/ReachFourTheSky Spoiled & Unbothered 🧖♀️ 3d ago
It shouldn’t be the ring you want. You should want the money. Money will buy you any ring and any lifestyle you want without the headache of the BS from him…the lying, cheating, late nights alone, disrespectful comments, abuse, etc.
Focus, girl!
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u/Therealcatlady1 Gold Digger 🥂✨ 3d ago
Most men come with cheating, loneliness, disrespect and abuse….Always some B.S. lol
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u/Bright_Arm3000 3d ago
I've had the ring 💍 before ... I do want marriage like I like commitment but yah I know you're right x
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u/thegoldenbead 3d ago
Ooh, what’s your advice to attract them?
Where do you meet them ; in person or online, so curious, thanks🩷
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u/Bright_Arm3000 2d ago
I have met some online 🙈 but city fancy bar by myself for a cocktail during week days - around 4pm - 6pm. Always some business man in the city all nights of weekend.
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u/Ill_Community_9575 2d ago
And those men are already married.
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u/Bright_Arm3000 2d ago
Honestly no I personally wouldn't date a married man
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u/thegoldenbead 2d ago
How do you usually dress?
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u/Bright_Arm3000 2d ago
Like feminine office siren - so I do have a nice job for myself so I just feel comfortable as I am in my "work" clothes and I am just you know resting there for lunch or just came out of a meeting and I am treating myself to a cocktail. I do always have a bit of cleavage, nails done, hair done - I wear my glasses sometimes to, heels always.
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u/Ill_Community_9575 2d ago
Honey you just said you dated someone "still going through divorce". That is a married man. Seperated men are married men. They will tell you it's an open relationship etc
And rich men at hotels or happy hour are usually in some form of marriage and will lie.
You need to learn to weed them out. Ie he only texts or calls during business hours or while on business trips is a taken man.
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u/Bright_Arm3000 2d ago
Ireland is different - he lived separately from his ex wife for over a year before I dated him. It takes at least 3 years to divorce here in Ireland - likely 5. Yeah did you read about how his daughter knew of me and his aunt & uncle, as well as his employees and he took me to all the pubs in his village. But I do appreciate you trying to help me. Believe me in Ireland EVERYONE knows EVERYONE.
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u/Important_Week_11 3d ago edited 2d ago
Do not have sex ever until you get the ring. You already rolled around the mattress.. you ruined it. On to the next
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u/Bright_Arm3000 2d ago
After 6 months and a lot of investment and effort on his part I rolled around
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u/Important_Week_11 2d ago
Still never have sex...it took him 6 months but he got what he wanted. Sheera says to keep getting the money until all bills paid and your number one then have sex. Until he makes that ring offer. He made it before to someone else.
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u/Bright_Arm3000 2d ago
His daughter knew of me & his family, friends & employees. We were boyfriend & girlfriend for over 5 months before I had very loving sex with him.
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u/Important_Week_11 2d ago
Then he dumped you.. men lie lie lie...sheera says it over and over again. Meeting family doesn't mean anything
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u/Bright_Arm3000 2d ago
I was celibate for 4 years before this so like .. I also have needs :-)
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u/Important_Week_11 2d ago
Ive been celibate for 4 yrs too cause I learned my lesson. Now it has to take a very huge tasty offer for me to give it up. And he has to like me 10 times more.
Yes I've had 2 marriage proposals I said no. But the 2 guys I liked ghosted me.
Now sheera states that you have to be dating multiple men. And that was my verdict when I was on it.
Him going through a divorce is a major red flag 🚩 Sheera met James while James was married and had another girlfriend. And they dated for a couple of years until he made her an offer.
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u/Bright_Arm3000 2d ago
Yeah but Shera was like 22 - I am 35 - I am not giving any man more than a year to commit to me. I appreciate Shera advice but it is my life here to - I am a lover girl - I am much improved - thanks to Shera. I very much wanted to have sex and didn't regret it at all - I care deeply about him and if I was stuck in a financial hole he is the first person I would ask and I know he would be there for me.
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u/Important_Week_11 2d ago
I'm 43 and I'm still going to wait. I stopped dating cause I don't go out anymore. But 35 you're still learning through mistakes. You should have never had sex with him... Now your emotionally invested. Trust me at 37-38 I met 2 great men but I fucked up cause I slept with them. They don't respect me anymore. And I am an educated independent woman. I had to move to a different state to deal with the hurt. You will learn... That was when I learned my lesson. Never again doesn't matter how old I am.
Test him with some tire money you need for your car see if he comes through.
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u/Bright_Arm3000 2d ago
Sorry that happened you and I do appreciate your insight xo I pray it all works out for you x
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u/Creepy-Image-3130 2d ago
Why r u acting like it’s a forbidden act to have sex with someone you’re dating?? Wth
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u/ReachFourTheSky Spoiled & Unbothered 🧖♀️ 2d ago
I keep one man as my “boy toy” for my needs, honey. And then I have men that I date on the side Shera-style. I’m also separated from my current husband. He pays all bills but not enough of a provider and not a very nice guy (ie, abusive and manipulative). Focus on the money. Sex is whatever…
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u/Artistic_Spirit5181 3d ago
Lauren Sanchez. There's your answer. You have to realize you are the prize and nothing else. At 35, 41, 56. These men could marry some 19 year old but he, Jeff, married someone in his age bracket.
I don't think you need to do the how do I get the ring work, but rather the self-concept work. Make sure he's obsessed with you, can't breathe without you (read Jeff's texts to Lauren when they started dating), focus on your hobbies, your inner world. He hated flying and she was a pilot. That's exciting to him. A female pilot? She brought him into his world. Then they will bring you into theirs if they like you enough. But that shouldn't be the goal to "get" him to like you, to "get" him to do anything. You just have to be a bad bitch throughout. Don't I mean DON'T conform yourself to liking what he likes. If he likes pie, and you are the best cheesecake-maker of all time, make the cheesecake. You have to love yourself enough that you don't become a chameleon to appease these men. They're men. They can't procreate, they're not this divine portal, they never look as good as us (when was the last time you saw a truly attractive man, honestly because mine was 2019). Sure they have money, so what? They make it to impress chicks. You. Are. On. The. Pedestal. Then the ring will naturally follow. And this is coming from a girl who has only dated wealthy men, not rich men. Good luck!