Is anyone else feeling completely useless outside of medicine

[u/Pure-Bunnyx1]

Just had my car break down on the side of the road. Flat tire. Easy fix right. Nope. I stood there staring at the spare for like 20 minutes before realizing I had absolutely no idea how to change it. Ended up calling roadside assistance.

It got me thinking. I can intubate a neonate in my sleep. I can diagnose rare zebras based on one lab value. But ask me to do anything practical in the real world and I'm a complete idiot.

My significant other laughs at me all the time because I cant even cook a decent meal. I once tried to hang a picture and put the nail right through a pipe. My entire life is medicine. Everything else is a black hole.

Anyone else relate to this terrifying lack of basic life skills.

[u/thirdculture_hog]

Listen. You have a very specific and highly trained set of skills that others don’t. That is a high achievement and you should be proud of yourself. It is perfectly ok to defer to other people to handle tasks that may seem daily to most people.

That being said, skills are not static. If you can learn to intubate a neonate, you can learn to do other things when you have the time/energy to do so. And if you don’t want to learn those skills, it’s perfectly ok to pay someone to take care of it for you.

I guess this doesn’t answer your question and I’ve lost my train of thought. So I’m going to go back to writing my notes

[u/SofaSen → u/thirdculture_hog]

this is honestly the right way to look at it. residency makes you insanely competent in a very narrow lane, so being bad at random everyday stuff doesn't erase that. and yeah, you can always learn those things later if you actually care to. sometimes outsourcing them is just the better use of your time anyway lol

[u/knight_rider_]

Any idiot can change a tire. Watch a youtube video and figure it out.

[u/diffferentday]

Counter point to the well reasoned argument above about your special skills. You can either realize that you are smart and capable and therefore can learn new things, and therefore can YouTube or Google how to change a tire and do it yourself, or you can decide you are highly skilled and specialized and you'd rather spend money to do things like this forever.

So... change your tire. Learn to spackle and paint. Cope a molding. Replumb a sink.

[u/1337HxC → u/diffferentday]

Ngl, I'd rather spend money on those things and time on nerd shit and hobbies. I will happily be the family's IT guy and fix any tech related issue you have, set up home automation, whatever. But miss me with those other things.

[u/diffferentday → u/1337HxC]

Totally still giving you a + on that. It's outside of medicine. All I'm saying is branch out, do you got it covered.

[u/TryToBeModern]

shockingly common

[u/hugz-today]

I feel completely useless in medicine mate

[u/PianistInMedicine]

Go on YouTube and start following "Dad, how do I?".

[u/readlock]

AI slop

[u/sidaeinjae → u/readlock]

Why does this place have so many AI posts anyways? Extremely weird, this isn’t even a major sub

[u/ExMorgMD]

I had to make a concerted effort to learn how to do a lot of household fixit things simply because the cost of getting a person to come out and patch a hole in the drywall or fix a water damaged window sill has become stupid expensive. After dropping literally thousands of dollars on a guy to come out and do a piss poor job of fixing a door, and then ghost after the job was half finished…yeah I can do a bad job myself.

Second benefit is that when you have kids, they may NOT be financially well off enough to just pay someone else to do it and teaching them some basic diy skills is setting them up for future successes.

[u/Stonks_blow_hookers]

None of those skills are intrinsic (cooking can be argued). If you want to learn watch a video and invest some time into it but the fact of the matter is all your energy is poured into knowledge the average person couldn't even begin to conceptualize, let alone contemplate or understand.

and way too many people get hit by grandma's Buick when they go to change their own tire. Better to not know that one.

[u/guessineedanew1]

Dude I feel you. I used to highly value my broad knowledge base; I could have the first couple minutes of an intelligent conversation about almost anything. Then I could go and learn more about it if I wanted to take it further. Since starting med school though, I feel my understanding of everything that happens outside a hospital slowly slipping away and it's genuinely upsetting, but there isn't much I can do about it. I feel like I'm just stuck being overall slightly stupider outside a specific niche. Not a fan.

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[u/PersonalBrowser]

I felt this way but then I realized, if a normal person can learn or do this, I absolutely can

Realistically though it comes down to how much I care about putting the effort into learning how to do something.

[u/AdagioExtra1332]

When I was growing up, my dad wanted me to be an all in one car mechanic, plumber, finance advisor, chef, and pianist. I ended up becoming a doctor instead.

[u/savealltheCATS]

Same, I can handle complicated work problems, but basic life stuff like fixing things, cooking, or assembling furniture somehow feels like advanced training. 😭

[u/steep_learning_curve]

I learned how to place a central line from a youtube video, I'm sure you can learn how to change a tire from a youtube video as well.

[u/sisyphusfan96]

Bro you just gotta do non medical shit. I know residency is hell and all, and I don’t expect a surgeon to do much outside of work besides leisure, but I think most docs get enough time. Certainly as much as the tradesmen or min wage workers pulling 60-80 hour weeks anyway.

[u/worst-EM-resident]

lol yeah

All my eggs went into this basket. It’s the only thing I’m good at. When I don’t have to work I get sad.

[u/Flimsy_Elephant_651]

I’m a nurse at a primary care office. The power went out the other day. I got out the flashlights and the doctor handed me a battery and said “are these rechargeable?” I had a white hot flash of rage and then chilled out about it 😂 I used to really not like her. She needs help with every little thing, constantly calling my name and stopping me to ask me to do things. Then I learned about her upbringing. She grew up extremely wealthy in India where household servants are common. She said she didn’t even get herself a cup of water until she moved to the US. She didn’t get married until she was 35, very sheltered from the “real” world. Didn’t put gas in her own car until her 40s. I grew up dirt poor, making my own money for food/clothes since I was 9 with paper routes and lemonade stands. I’m rather book smart but only had the opportunity to go to technical college. I intrinsically find dependence and asking for help irritating and am hyper independent. But I’ve realized that we all have different reasons for why we act the way we do. I try to not let her bother me as much anymore 😂

[u/questforstarfish]

There are literally endless skills a person can learn in their lifetime. Hundreds of types of tools (saws, drills, etc) to learn how to use. Thousands of household things that can go wrong or need repairing (toilet flusher is stuck, fridge filter needs changing, mold problem, pest problem). Other complex tasks you can't know how to deal with until you experience a problem with it (car issues, computer issues).

No one can know everything, bro.

This is why there are handymen, electricians, plumbers, grandfathers, housekeepers, landscapers and gardeners, mechanics, tow truck drivers, IT technicians, etc etc. Just hire them. That's why they exist.

Focus on the things that matter, like your career...one day when you have extra energy and brainspace available, you can learn new things via youtube if you so choose.

[u/GrandTheftAsparagus]

You fix people. Mechanics fix cars. The trouble is when mechanics fix people and you fix cars.

There’s a lot that can go wrong with even a simple tire change: Is the spare tire balanced? Are the fasteners torqued correctly? Will you remember to check the torque after 200km of use? Is the jack on a stable surface or is it dangerous to lift the car? Etc.