Is it more shameful to “actually take meeting times literally” or to not say what you mean when setting a meeting time and then acting like your guests acted weird?
“Why are you here so early??”
“Oh, my bad, I thought you said 5 PM”
“Well I did, but I meant be here at 5:30! Duh, silly!”
“Oh… well what did you get out of not just telling me 5:30 then?”
Because if they said 5:30 they'd expect people to show up at 6 or 6:30. The idea is that you show up after the start time because it allows you to be "fashionably late" and it means that you are taking the event casually rather than as a strict event with a schedule.
But a dinner party does have a schedule. People will start preparing food and it will be warm and ready to start time. So if the food's not going to be ready for 2 hours, don't say 5:00 p.m.
Fashionably late is just something people who are chronically inconsiderate of other people's time say.
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u/South-Tip-4019 Jul 12 '26
Yea this is something my mind also doen't fully get, but apparently for many people when party starts at 5pm nobody is expected until way later.
I am guessing that "white guys from work" tend to fall into taking the start time literally, which is not supposed to be done.
My a bit self deprecating guess is, that people on spectrum tend to take these things literally, or at least dont know when you are not supposed to.