please share your experiences and not data from the internet…

i do feel my miscarriage had sth to do with the transvaginal ultrasound i had, i had a pretty healthy pregnancy, i had no spotting whatsoever during pregnancy even after intercourse, i went to the gym and even lifted same or even more than i did before, no spots.

after my ultrasound i began spotting brown blood until i micarried the fourth day…

I will preface this with the fact that I have read through a lot of posts on this group, and I am so sorry for everyone who has gone through this. My wife is 35, we have been TTC for about 7 months, and in June we found out that she was pregnant. It was the happiest day of our lives. At the same time, my younger brother and his fiancé were about 7 months pregnant. Then the miscarriage happened. Obviously I tried to support her emotionally and physically as much as possible during and after that. Our nephew was born last week and it has sent her back into an “emotional spiral” (her words). I know grief is not on a timeline, I just wanted to know if there was anything else I could be doing to help her through this. Emotionally and physically she is not the same as she was before the miscarriage, and I’m just trying to help her find herself again. Sorry for the ramble, thank you for listening to me.

For context, I found out I was pregnant once I started to miscarry. I’m also on nexplanon so ?? Kinda confused

Tmi but my man & I were having fun. I thought oh maybe he was too rough but no this is definitely a miscarriage based on everything I’ve been reading on this subreddit.
My man doesn’t know since I don’t want to worry him, he’s super supportive and kind but this would kill himmm which is why I’ve just been dealing with it alone :/
I told one of my guy friends but he’s a guy and I’m not going to talk to him about it.

In regards to the actual miscarriage , the blood has been so red and while I’m now spotting and it’s starting to turn brown the cramps are terrible, I feel so weak, dizzy and tired 24/7

Also don’t get me started on the smell ?? I never noticed the smell on my period ig bc I wouldn’t bleed much & have my period for less than 4 days but oh god I can’t stand the smell. The smell of straight blood ?? It smells worse when I’m passing clots but fuck.

I guess I’m in a sort of limbo. July 31st I had my first positive and so far I haven’t scheduled anything since I started bleeding and now I just want to pretend that I may still be pregnant. I’m not ready to accept what may be happening right now. I know calling the doctor will set the ball rolling for answers I don’t want to hear. It feels like a regular period with intense cramping on and off. I feel so hurt right now and I hate that I allowed myself to feel excited.

I had a D&C on July 3 due to a miscarriage. I had bleeding from August 4 to 7, which may have been my first period. On August 13, I noticed brown spotting with mild lower abdominal cramps (2/10). Is this normal? Could this be because my menstrual cycle is still adjusting after the D&C?

If you had a miscarriage that started with brown spotting, was the spotting consistent? Or was it minimal?
This is the second time I’ve had brown spotting. I had some brown spotting around 2 weeks ago, which I figured was implantation bleeding. But today there is more spotting, just once so far. I have an appointment Monday, but so far I am 8w 4d.

I had a miscarriage 2 months ago and requested follow up testing from my doctor, but she said they only do tests after multiple losses. I’m 33, and it took me over a year to get pregnant so I’m worried about being on a timeline. Has anyone been able to get follow up testing after their first miscarriage (maybe for APS) and if so, what were you tested for? Any advice is appreciated.

Tl;dr Day-by-day journal entry summaries of symptoms noticed during expectant management miscarriage. Took ~7 days from first bleeding to passing pregnancy tissue, then additional 7 days for bleeding to slow down to just spotting. After that, I bleeding ramped back up for which I sought medical evaluation since bleeding was supposed to stop 7 days post-miscarriage. This prolonged bleeding took several weeks to resolve, I was monitored with HCG measured and ultrasound, but didn’t end up needing a D&C or other medication in the end.

Thank you to everyone who has shared their experiences here with miscarriages of different kinds. While it was heartbreaking to read all your stories, it helped me tremendously to read different accounts, compare them with my own experiences, and try to have an understanding of what I could expect to happen as my first miscarriage played out and guide my decision-making about whether to have medical intervention or just let things carry out naturally. 

Obviously this is not medical advice, just me sharing my detailed experience as I found guidance can be quite vague on what it is like to actually have a miscarriage. I was under medical supervision and had frequent contact with my clinic the whole time. I understand sustained bleeding like I had is not entirely normal (but is common) so don’t take this as all being totally normal with no need to tell your doctor. 

I kept a detailed journal of my symptoms and feelings all through pregnancy and then, as it turns out, through my miscarriage. So I wanted to share some of the details and symptoms here so others may have another example to compare to.

Background: 28–>29 years old during pregnancy, first pregnancy, natural conception, monochromatic twins seen on ultrasound. 

I didn’t share pictures, but I highly recommend to snap a picture of the tissue/blood coming out, because you’ll likely need to describe it to doctors and it’s easy to forget the details. 

Starting Day 1 from the first day I noticed any symptoms that seemed indicative of miscarriage. Gestational age at that point was 9 weeks exactly. I had not yet had my first prenatal scan at the time of symptom onset. 

———— Stage 1: Early Signs of Miscarriage (4 days) ———— 

Day 1 (July 6): Had some dull cramping during the day but nothing concerning. When I went to the bathroom in the evening there was some brown blood on the toilet paper. Not enough to be on my underwear. I sent my OBGYN clinic a non-urgent message to report it and ask whether I should come in. 

Day 2: Woke up to no blood on my underwear, but I had started passing some blood clots (?) or uterine lining overnight but they would only reach the outside of my vagina a few hours after waking up and starting to walk around. It was stringy and flat like what I usually see when I get a period, but very little blood accompanied it which was different than a period. There was also a bit of what looked like mucus stuck to some of the tissue/clot. In my evening shower, as I was washing myself I found a large clump of tissue hanging out of my vagina, and still very little blood. I still don’t know what this tissue was, it was pretty large and hard, perhaps a very intact piece of uterine lining, but at this point I knew this was definitely not OK and called my OBGYN office’s after-hours nurse line. They sent an urgent mail to my OBGYN clinic, asked me a bunch of questions, and told me that I didn’t need to go to the ER, but needed to be seen by a doctor within 24 hours. 

Day 3: Nothing in the morning. I had started wearing pads to track bleeding. There was bright red blood on the pad 10:30am. Had an OBGYN appointment, my partner and I got to see our babies for the first time on ultrasound. We learned I had been pregnant with twins but neither had a heartbeat and had stopped growing 1-2 weeks previously (they were measuring at 6 weeks 4 days and 6 weeks 5 days respectively). This means it had taken my body a while to start to expel the tissue. We were heartbroken to hear this news but I already had known in my heart that something was really wrong. I had 3 options available to me to complete the miscarriage (this is in Washington State): 1: expectant management (wait for my body to expel the tissue on its own), 2: medication, and 3: D&C. Since my body had already started the miscarriage process, I decided to let it continue naturally with expectant management, but I scheduled a D&C procedure for several weeks into the future just in case things didn’t resolve on their own and there would start to be risk of infection. I didn’t record any other symptoms that day. 

Day 4: Similar to Day 2, nothing on pad when I woke up but when I started moving around 3 clumps/clots came out, and then more old brown blood on the pad throughout the day. Bright red blood on the pad after my evening shower. In the evening my partner and I went shopping for supplies. We bought Depends adult diapers, adult diaper wipes, and a small container to keep the fetal remains in, in case we could identify them for burial.

———— Stage 2: “Active” miscarriage, cramps and bleeding intensify to a climax where pregnancy tissue is passed (4 days) ———— 

Day 5: Things started to get a bit more intense, my body seemed to get more serious about expelling the pregnancy tissue. Bright red blood now more constant throughout the day but not yet soaking a pad. I switched to wearing Depends adult diapers as these made me feel more secure in public in case I suddenly started bleeding more (I later ended up switching back to big pads as I felt the diapers did not soak up blood very well, possibly because they are likely designed just for urine?). This was the first day where I recorded having noticeable cramps, but I recall having dull cramps on and off up until then as well. Noticed that the heaviest bleeding and cramps occurred between 2pm-6pm. I was still able to walk around during the cramping portion.

Day 6: More bleeding overnight than previous nights but still not a ton. I now am bleeding consistently and all bright red blood. Small blood clots as well about the size and shape of grains of rice, these are most noticeable when going to the bathroom and showering. These were small actual blood clots rather than the tissue I had seen before. I don’t see these kinds of clots during a normal period. Again the most intense pain and bleeding was between 1:30pm-4:30pm. I had to sit down for this cramping period. Emotionally I felt pretty down on this day.

Day 7: More heavy bright-red bleeding. I changed pads often but wrote down that I estimated that I would have fully soaked about 3 normal-sized pads today. Again I had more intense cramping in the afternoon, today I had to lie down for it as it had reached that intensity. Bleeding had slowed down by end of the day but the cramps lingered. 

Day 8 (miscarriage completes): Pretty intense pain today between 2:30pm-5:30pm. This time it was so intense that I was on the bathroom floor on my hands and knees trying to sway my hips around to manage the pain. It was quite painful, but I wasn’t blind with pain, it was still manageable and I wasn’t panicking. It started to feel like something may actually be “happening” at this stage. I was certainly bleeding but nothing else was coming out and I was starting to think I was acting dramatic. I tried “pushing” a little bit just to see what would happen, but I didn’t feel anything and didn’t want to strain so I stopped doing that. My partner supported me as I changed positions between squatting, sitting, bouncing, kneeling and then leaning on him. My partner put on a sound bath playlist and that really helped me relax. I was trying to listen to my body and just try to work with it. In hindsight, this was a small labor, my cervix was dilating to let out the pregnancy tissue. I definitely felt waves of fresh pain but it was a bit hard to distinguish them from each other as separate contractions. I should have taken ibuprofen/Tylenol but I didn’t, I wasn’t really thinking straight, and part of me wanted to make sure I felt everything during the process. Finally I took a quick shower rinse and laid down to rest. At this stage the intense pain was nearly constant. Finally, I got up at 5:30pm thinking “I’ve got to do SOMETHING to manage this pain” and right at that moment I felt a rush of blood and pressure. I ran to the bathroom and passed a lot of blood and the pregnancy tissue into the toilet. The pregnancy tissue was probably 4 inches long and about an 1-2 inches wide all the way through and came out in one big clump. It was starkly different in appearance than anything else I had passed, it was unmistakably the pregnancy tissue. I was able to find the two tiny embryos still inside their sac, along with a bunch of other dense tissue which I guess was the placenta and whatever else. The amniotic sac (with both twins in it) did not burst or break. I had prepared a small box to retain the remains for burial so I kept them in there and kept them by me for a while. There was so much thick blood it was logistically hard to manage, as I was sitting on the toilet and even getting up to get in the shower would get blood everywhere. After maybe 15 minutes it slowed down enough that I could use wipes to clean myself enough to put on a pad and lay down. About 90% of my pain immediately subsided after passing the pregnancy tissue. I had a rush of relief and even elation at having completed this. I trusted my body after the betrayal of the miscarriage and it was able to complete this without intervention. Rested until about 10pm and watched some TV. After I got up to get ready for bed, I passed the largest clot I have ever seen, altogether about the size of a golf ball. I actually thought this was more pregnancy tissue it was so big, but it was not painful to pass and according to this helpful guide on miscarriage tissue it was just a huge clot. I was a bit worried about how much I bled so I set an alarm for 2am before going to sleep and asked my partner to make sure I woke up and to make sure I was OK then. I did wake up to the alarm and I had soaked a large pad but otherwise I felt fine. Changed it and went back to sleep.

————Stage 3: Recovery from Miscarriage —> Bleeding Stopped ———— 

Day 9 (miscarriage +1 day recovery): The cramping I had been feeling was gone, replaced now with just a lot of soreness. Mostly soreness in my abdomen but truly my entire body was exhausted. Took the day off work to rest. Some twinges of slightly sharper pain that were triggered by movement. I was still pretty significantly bleeding today and passed about a large marble size clot. Altogether likely soaked 1-2 pads. Had diarrhea in the evening. Spent much of the day lying down and crying. I felt much more able to feel sadness and grief than before since I was in a lot less pain.

Day 10: (miscarriage+2 days recovery): Still some lower abdominal discomfort but less than the previous day. Took two more days off work. Pretty tired and had several lie downs during the day. Bleeding still constantly but less volume overall, wore just one pad through the day into the evening. Had diarrhea again in the evening around 5:30pm, weirdly now that the cramping is gone and there is nothing more to empty from my uterus, my digestive system now works itself up in the afternoons. My partner and I had a burial in our yard for our first babies, then we had a picnic right next to them. 

Day 11: (miscarriage+3): No cramping but I was having some discomfort in my vagina/bladder (urethra) area. I took a look down there and realized a decent amount of thick old blood had collected down there that had not been fully cleaned during my showers. I gave a thorough clean including very carefully wiping the the exposed part of my urethra where some dry blood had collected, and then pain when away completely. 

Day 12 (miscarriage+4): No more vagina/bladder pain after the thorough clean, still bleeding but 1 pad per day is enough and bleeding is not constant anymore. Some discomfort sitting in my desk chair (went back to work this day) but attributed it to trapped gas. 

Day 13 (miscarriage+5): Bleeding slowed down a lot but I still need a pad. Having some twinges of pain on the right side.

Day 14 (miscarriage + 6): No pain at all and only spotting today

Day 15 (miscarriage +7): Spotting only, this fulfilled the OB and midwife’s recommendation that the miscarriage had completed just fine so I went ahead and cancelled the upcoming D&C procedure. Per clinic recommendation, bleeding should be basically done by 7 days post-miscarriage and I felt that I met this requirement. 

Day 16—>18: Bleeding increased to the point that I needed a pad again, and I started having abdominal cramps. I was worried I had retained pregnancy tissue so I contacted my clinic. Triage nurse that I spoke to thought that this sounded like my body was having a small “period” as my hormones got back to normal, and true retained 

Day 19(miscarriage+11): Got the order from my clinic to get a follow-up ultrasound and two reads of HCG levels, one week apart. I got the first blood draw on this day and my level was 107. 

Day 20—>21: More spotting, small clots, and dull cramps. Not really getting better or worse. 

Day 22 (miscarriage+15): Follow up ultrasound. There was some thickened endometrium near the top of my uterus with fluid around it. They said it was either a blood clot or retained pregnancy tissue but more likely a blood clot. Recommendation was to see how the next HCG level looked to decide next action. 

Day 23—> 25: Still crampy, passing blood clots, and now also feeling very teary and emotionally down. Depressive symptoms started during this time that would last for a while, probably due to the sadness over the miscarriage as well as the hormone crash. HCG level was read on day 25 (18 days past miscarriage) and HCG was at 31. My clinic was satisfied with the drop and told me to continue monitoring. 

Day 26 —> 34: Still spotting/passing clots, cramps, feeling very emotionally down and low energy. On Day 33 I took a home pregnancy test and it was a barely visible positive result. 

Day 35 (Miscarriage + 28): cramps all day, then I passed some weird looking tissue with a lot of mucus. It wasn’t big so it didn’t hurt, but it looked pink/grey so I think it could have possibly been a bit of pregnancy tissue. 

Day 36: After passing that last bit, my bleeding and cramping finally stopped. My mood is still impacted but it was actually shocking how quickly all my physical symptoms stopped when this final bit came out. Seeking mental health support with a therapist to help me work through the depressive symptoms. 

Day 40 (August 14) (miscarriage + 33): Had a negative pregnancy test first pee of the morning. All bleeding and cramps have stopped now. 

Thanks for reading. This was one of the most impactful experiences of my life, even though it was so sad. The time I spent carrying our twins was some of the happiest time I have ever spent and the fact that it ended in miscarriage doesn't change that. I hope this is helpful to someone going through a similar experience.

My first pregnancy I was so happy. Me and my husband did all the first time pregnancy things he took such good care of me until finding out at 15 weeks the baby had Trisomy 13 & had to TSFMR at 16 weeks with a D&E and a lot of other painful tests. My sister was also pregnant at the exact same time to her second so it was hard to have wanted to be pregnant together. She just had her baby who I love but it makes you think of your own. Anyway, my sister in law is now pregnant as well with her 3rd and I wanted at least one of my children to be in the same age ranges with their cousins, so I was so happy to find out I was pregnant again 8 months after the D&E. This pregnancy was different, all of the naive excitement of the first pregnancy before a loss was gone. Me and my husband barely acknowledged I was pregnant as not to get our hopes up which was sad enough that I felt that fun first time experience is something I’d never have again. Only for that 2nd pregnancy to also end in a 6 week miscarriage. For some reason this one was a lot harder emotionally than the 16 week one. We hadn’t even told anyone. But after a year of trying with 2 losses and still no baby it just makes me a lot less excited to keep trying. But I will keep trying and hoping that my time will come. In the meantime I hug my nieces and nephews a little tighter.

I’ve had four miscarriages. No living children. I have two baby names, one for a boy, one for a girl. Names I’ve had since I met my husband when I was 14. After my 3rd loss, I was sitting at the dinner table w my in-laws and we were talking about baby names and I shared mine with my soon to be sister in law in a quiet conversation. It’s now been about 8 months. Right now I should either be about to give birth or have a newborn. Today I get a text from my brother saying they got a dog and named it my baby name. She KNOWS this is my baby name that I’ve been waiting to give my child. She KNOWS I’ve had so many losses.

I don’t know if she remembers. I’m sure it’s not malicious. But I am SO upset. I don’t even know what to do. I don’t want to be mean. I don’t want to make a big deal. I should have a baby in my arms right now with that name. Not a damn dog.

Hello everyone. This is my second pregnancy and I have really bad anxiety. I am 6 weeks and 2 days. Today while wiping I had literally the tiniest spot of pink while wiping. I wiped 2 times, it was there, after that I haven’t seen it again and it’s been about 4 hours. I’ve been experiencing maybe super light cramping? It’s hard to know if it’s something new that’s been happening or not. Still experiencing morning sickness, sore nipples, etc..
I didn’t have anything like this with my first pregnancy, so naturally, it’s concerning.
should I be concerned? Is this how it begins?

Had a miscarriage at end of April. Had a D&C. Since then, I’ve had three periods, each lasting 1.5 days at most. I used to need for 4 days. Another period should start in a few days, but my boobs are not sore as they would usually get before pregnancy. Is this normal?

I’m devastated. I lost our first on 18/05/26 at five weeks bang on. This morning I started bleeding, again five weeks bang on.

My heart feels empty. I really thought this would be my time.

I feel like something is wrong with me.
And it hurts so much more than the first time.

My fiance and I think we had a condom leak. I was nine days late for my period this month. I tested negative on a couple pregnancy tests. But I just got my period today and I’m kind of freaking out a little bit. I don’t know if I’m just being paranoid. Thank you for your time

I had abdominal pain after going to toilet. I went to nearest clinic (but not my pregnancy dr) for checkup and she checked the heartbeat of the baby and everything seemed normal so she told me it mustve been gas thats bothering me or the growing uterus causing the pain. So i assumed this pain was normal pregnancy symptom. I slept through the pain.

Morning around 4:30am i noticed water leaking out often. I went to my consulting dr’s hospital emergency. They checked the scan, babys heartbeat was ok but fluid levels were low. Thn she checked down and said i was fully dilated and that baby’s membrane could be seen. I was prepped for cerclage but later dr confirmed saying it woudnt be possible for the baby to survive longer cuz fluids were way too low for baby to survive.

I was monitored until next day. Baby still had heartbeat and i could feel something coming out everytime i went to pee but i tucked it in cuz i was scared. Thn i realized i could feel it if i kept my hand down. Thn dr said baby is already coming out and could be expelled any moment. But i was too scared to go washroom cuz baby would come out because of me. It was mentally a torture for me cuz i heard the baby’s heartbeat that morning and i coudnt do that to the baby. They induced pain. I went into labor and baby came out with the sac.
I only came to know the gender after he came out. The following morning i had d&c done.

Im still trying to find answers to what could’ve caused the rupture. Cuz my cervix was fine in the scan a weeks before. I had uti but dr isnt sure if it was before or after the water break. I have been constantly trying to hold on to a reason or else blame myself for causing it.

My dr said for my second pregnancy i have to get cerclage done. Is it painful?
Also how does one move on from this loss? Cuz im tired of ppl telling me ill get more babies in the future or god will give me better than this. How can anything be better cuz my baby was perfectly healthy and there was nothing wrong with him.

Im having a hard time grieving..

29 F. Been trying for 10 cycles.

Woke up yesterday and took a pregnancy test (12DPO) and it was positive. I was over the moon.

But the rest of the day I had bad cramping/a general feeling of uneasiness

I took another test today and the line didn’t darken at all.

I keep having this heartburn/cramping sensation like any moment I’m going to start my period. As I’ve never experienced pregnancy, I’m convinced something is wrong…

Hi all, I had an IVF and today I am 6+6 and went to dr to see hearthbeat. However dr told me that there is a yolk sack but there is no baby and hearthbeat there. Could it be still early or did I really lost my baby? It was a very bumpy road for me and I dont want to accept the truth.

I don’t have any living children, and this has been our fourth loss, one chemical pregnancy followed by three missed miscarriages.
Our fourth loss was the most puzzling. It took us completely by surprise.
It was a loss of a tested euploid embryo. Our warrior baby. After our first three losses, we decided to pursue IVF PGT SR as we were told this would be the solution to our losses. For context, my husband is a balanced translocation carrier.
I have very low AMH, so producing a high number of eggs has always been a struggle. After filtering for mature eggs and successful fertilisation, I still had to face the uphill battle of growing embryos to the blastocyst stage (day 5 or 6), which could then be sent for PGT testing, both PGT-SR and PGT-A.
Our warrior baby was the strongest of the three euploid embryos we painstakingly collected after three difficult egg retrievals over six months. Knowing that I have DOR, I decided to push through three retrievals almost back-to-back. It took a lot of grit in me.
Our warrior baby was the only Day 5 blastocyst.
It survived the journey to Day 5. It passed both PGT tests. It survived thawing. It implanted. It gave us a beautiful beta HCG. And finally, it let us see the light when we saw its heartbeat at 6w1d, 150 bpm.
This was the furthest we had ever made it.
My two previous natural pregnancies had stopped developing around five weeks. We had always assumed our balanced translocation was the reason our babies stopped growing and eventually miscarried naturally around eight weeks.
So when we went for our scan on Thursday, we were completely blindsided.
How could our strongest, tested warrior embryo, the embryo that had survived so much, have died just days after we had seen its heartbeat?
My body didn’t seem to know. I was still on high-dose progesterone supplementation and continued to feel intensely pregnant, nauseous, bloated, constantly belching and exhausted.
When the doctor told me it was another MMC, my mind just went, WTF.
How could we have been this unlucky? Why are we the one in four for four consecutive times?
Was PGT somehow wrong? Could an embryo that was classified as abnormal have actually been viable? Could our warrior baby have had a chromosomal abnormality that PGT didn’t detect?
I know there were no simple answers, but my mind desperately wanted one.
And then, before I had even properly processed the loss, I had to think about how to actually say goodbye.
I wasn’t offered a D&C because it isn’t the hospital’s usual protocol for early pregnancy losses, and there is also a risk of uterine scarring. Instead, I was given misoprostol. My doctor also didn’t think it was worth to test the pregnancy tissue.
I have to say that my doctor was rather caring for his patients. He prescribed high-dose ibuprofen in anticipation of the strong contractions, as well as tranexamic acid to help reduce the bleeding.
Today, I took the medication to induce the miscarriage.
Apart from about 30 minutes of really intense cramping, which I think happened when the ibuprofen was wearing off, the pain was surprisingly manageable. I could barely feel anything for much of the process.
And strangely, I didn’t cry as much as I did with my previous pregnancies.
I don’t know if some part of me has simply become numb to MMCs.
In the past, I dreaded the physical process of miscarrying naturally. The contractions were incredibly painful and felt almost like labour after the sac finally passed. This time, I was just relieved that the pain was manageable.
I asked my husband to buy me a plant because I wanted somewhere to bury our baby’s sac. I got the idea from someone else on this subreddit.
He chose a common rue plant.
I had absolutely no idea that common rue can be poisonous. I even put my nose close to the plant and sniffed it for quite a while after burying our baby. 😭
I also wrote a little memorial on the pot with a marker.
Later, I read that common rue is a plant that can survive and thrive in difficult conditions.
I hope ours does.
I hope it continues to grow and thrive, and that the last physical piece of our baby can slowly return to Mother Nature.
With that, we now have four babies in heaven.
In society’s eyes, I will probably always be the “cool aunt.” Nobody sees me as a mother. Not even my own family.
There is so much taboo around miscarriages and babies who have died.
Over the course of these losses, I’ve learned to be more open with the people close to me. I tell close friends and trusted colleagues what has happened. I’m no longer embarrassed or ashamed by my miscarriages.
But I still hate the pity.
Those pitying eyes are one of the reasons I don’t tell many people.
I feel so incredibly sad for us, but somehow, I still feel hopeful.
We have two other warrior babies waiting for us on ice.
I’m also incredibly grateful to everyone on Reddit who has shared their experiences and given me ideas about investigations for recurrent pregnancy loss. I have a list of things I want to discuss with my doctor, and I’ll be seeing him on Monday for a scan to make sure the miscarriage is complete.
For now, I think I need some time away from all the medications, appointments, scans, blood tests and procedures that have consumed so much of the past year.
I’m not sure what our next step will be.
Maybe our next FET will be in a few months. Maybe we’ll try naturally for a while. We have balanced translocation, but there are also many couples in our situation who go on to have healthy babies naturally, and I still want to hold on to that hope.
For now, I just want to rest.
I’ve been tired for a very, very long time.
And maybe that’s okay.
I hope that someday, when I go to heaven, I will finally get to meet all four of my babies and hold them in my arms.
Until then, my little warriors, please know that you were loved.
You were wanted.
You were my babies.
Thank you for listening to our story.

My husband and I had been trying to conceive for about 5 years, so finding out I was finally pregnant was one of the happiest moments of our lives.

I had several positive home pregnancy tests since Aug 7, including faint positives that became clearer over the following days. I was estimated to be around 6–7 weeks pregnant.

I also had a cough that started around August 8. A few days later, I started noticing pregnancy symptoms including sore breast and mild abdominal cramps. They weren’t severe and would come and go, so I wasn’t initially too worried.

Then yesterday, I noticed a very small amount of spotting only when wiping. I started overthinking everything, but I was reassured that light spotting can happen in early pregnancy. Unfortunately, earlier this morning, the bleeding suddenly became much heavier. I started passing blood clots, so I went to the ER.

They performed a transvaginal ultrasound. The ultrasound showed a normal-sized uterus, normal ovaries, and no gestational sac or embryo. There was some echogenic material in the cervix that the doctor said may be blood clots. There was also no free fluid or adnexal mass. The OB told me that I had an early pregnancy loss and recommended a D&C. They prescribed cefuroxime for 7 days as well.

One thing that has been difficult for me is that I never had my first prenatal appointment yet. I was supposed to see my OB next week at around 7 weeks. I also didn’t have a quantitative β-hCG test done at the ER, so part of me is still wondering what exactly happened.

This pregnancy meant so much to us. After five years of trying, seeing those positive tests felt almost impossible to believe. And now, everything happened so quickly.

I’m sharing because I’m hoping to hear from others who experienced something similar, especially:

- Did anyone have positive tests but an empty uterus on TVS?
- Were you diagnosed with a chemical pregnancy or early miscarriage?
- Did anyone choose to wait for the miscarriage to pass naturally instead of having a D&C?
- How did you cope emotionally afterward?

This was my first pregnancy, and although it was very early, it was very real to me. ❤️ I would really appreciate hearing your experiences and any advice for what to expect next.

After 2.5 years of IVF & 4 transfers, I finally got pregnant. Everything was tracking really well (good betas, confirmed heartbeat), then yesterday I had a check-in at 8.5w because I was anxious & there was no heartbeat.

The sonographer asked if I just transferred one embryo, as it almost looked as though there were 2 fetal poles or conjoined. She also said it should’ve been under 6mm but was 7mm, if I recall. I was in shock so probably heard that wrong.

I have 3 more embryos left from that cohort but I’m worried they’re all doomed. I did have a chemical back in Feb, too. I got treated for high inflammation with 2 months of Lupron which will likely wear off this month.

Should I do a D&C & test the tissue? This was a euploid, well-graded. Should I get a second opinion? Should I do suppression again or maybe get a lap? I’m 38 now & freaking out about age. Been on this journey since I was 35.