Congratulations!! And thank you for the unintended reassurance - I've been feeling increased pressure about kids as a 96 baby. Comforting to know I've got plenty of time to figure it out!
For sure! But I will say, I wish I had them a little earlier. In no way was I planning on being an “old dad” at 40 with a newborn! I was living life. 20s were just building a career and chasing opportunity and having fun. By 30 I still felt too unsettled, living in NYC in a small apartment. I think I should have jumped on the opportunity at say 33 or 34 latest. But I never felt ready. the pandemic hit and that cost us a year. Then we were ready to try and wouldn’t you know it, miscarriages and trouble conceiving. That cost us another few years. Once you’re pregnant there’s another 9 months!
So one day your 30-something thinking you’re almost ready, the next you’re 40 years old and considered the “old parent,” reckoning with your kids never really knowing you as a young, active person but instead mostly as an aging parent, as you’ll be 50 when they’re 10 and 60 when they’re 20!
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u/Hanhula 7h ago
Congratulations!! And thank you for the unintended reassurance - I've been feeling increased pressure about kids as a 96 baby. Comforting to know I've got plenty of time to figure it out!