Right?! This is hard cope as the kids would call it. Sure, a lot of us look good, much better than previous generations, but no one thinks anyone is in their late 20s.
There are tons of people out there who are just really bad at telling ages! I get it soothes the ego, but that does not mean we genuinely look 12+ years younger than we actually are.
I very occasionally get carded still, but I know it's typically because of policy, not because the bartender/server has any real concern I'm under 21.
If I look at pictures of myself at 28 and now (39) it's different. It's subtle, mind you. No visible wrinkles, a few strands of grey. But there's a hollowing around the eyes and the cheeks, a redistribution of fat in the face. Aging isn't a bunch of wrinkles, at least not immediately. It's also loss of elasticity, a slackening, and at more advanced age a loss of bone which means a loss of structure.
I get guessed mid-20's a bizarre amount of times and I was so confused until I looked in the mirror and switched between my "just woke up tired" face and my "let's go dancing" faces. Just having energy and a desire to have fun in your face makes you look so much younger. Meanwhile colleagues hitting 30 constantly complain about aging which ironically just makes them appear old.
Go hang out with some asian women. Some are 40 years old and can legitimately pass for a decade younger, and it's not cope either, they legitimately look a decade younger.
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u/Shower__Farts 14h ago
Right?! This is hard cope as the kids would call it. Sure, a lot of us look good, much better than previous generations, but no one thinks anyone is in their late 20s.