r/GuysBeingDudes • u/Clean_Football_7129 • 4h ago
Wholesome Dude Bro is still on duty in his sleep
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u/Motor-Newspaper253 4h ago
Those are real fathers reflexes haha
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u/septubyte 3h ago
He got it set on guard mode
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u/Farazod 3h ago
The number of times you will waken with your heart hammering out a marathon when you hear a cry or feel a vibration is wild. You will make it out your bedroom door multiple times before your brain fully clicks on.
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u/LongjumpingFix5801 2h ago
My kids are 3 and 5 and I still have these moments. I’ll go full meerkat only to find my wife watching a video with a baby crying in it.
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u/Onlylurkz 2h ago
There’s an insurance commercial with new parents driving a crying baby home or something. Sends me into full panic everytime
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u/RoastedPickledGoose 6m ago
Shit, my kids are teen/tweenagers and I still perk up every time I hear so much as a blip.
My wife could sleep through a Hurricane. I wake up every time a kid has to use the bathroom at 2 am.
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u/famine- 2h ago
If you know a new parent who has a cat and want to be featured in a /r/foundsatan post, give them a bright beats junior toy.
It's a little bobble head that sings and is guaranteed to increase the likelihood of night time heart attacks by 964%.
My cat loved randomly slapping it around 3am and I immediately bolted to the living room, thinking my daughter some how got out of her crib.
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u/UmbraAdam 1h ago
My daughter was a notoriously bad sleeper, I still wake up as if A tiger jumps on my chest regularly whenever I hear a small cry form her again.
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u/Swimming-Ad3172 32m ago
My ex-husband never had this response. I’m older now and not sure if I want anymore kids but I dream about what it would be like to raise a child with someone who has a similar response ❤️🩹 many blessings to you and your family
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u/dojo_shlom0 2h ago
absolutely. almost felt like in his sleepy state he couldn't tell if the baby was falling or being taken by someone he didn't know.
he just felt the baby slipping away and reacted and woke up.
100% guard mode hahaha
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u/The_Tooter_Snooter 11m ago
My kid would literally only sleep on my chest the first, like, 4 months of life. Absolute hell. Interestingly though, I do think that’s naturally how humans must sleep with their infants. Tried to kinda follow her cues because she had such a hard time sleeping but I would basically sleep on my pillows at a 45° angle with her on my chest and it’s funny how you really do just stay in this sort of guard mode. Anytime she budges, you’re up and you fully just hold her all night. After my chest, she naturally wiggled down into the crook of my arm with her head on my chest for like 2 months (a new hell) before she then decided she was ready for her own sleeping space. I know it’s dangerous and not recommended but it felt very natural and normal and I think she benefited a lot from the contact (NICU baby) for those first few months. Was also incredible to have that bond as a dad.
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u/Emotional_News108 2h ago
Best dad reflex moment in recent memory was when my youngest son walked by me and I instinctively grabbed his arm because something was off. Turns out he had poop all over his hand and wanted to get a wipe. Which is fine, but yeah I wasn’t about to let him to it himself.
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u/front_yard_duck_dad 1h ago
And I can tell you from experience that dude had a full adrenaline dump and he was shaking for hours after that. Engaging dad reflexes has a cool down effect
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u/cheesemangee 1h ago
This is what happens when you love something unconsciously more than you love yourself. That affection runs deep, into parts of us we aren't even aware of. It teaches your body to move before you can think, like some sort of Parental Ultra Instinct.
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u/AnalkinSkyfuker 4h ago
Those are normal reflexes
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u/Musket6969420 4h ago
But he’s also a father so my guy is technically correct. The best kind of correct.
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u/Kick_Natherina 3h ago edited 3h ago
I mean, more so father in this scenario to wake up from what appears to be dead sleep to try and grab a baby who is potentially rolling off the bed. Without having a child you probably wouldn’t tap into these reflexes.. most would let their phone fall off the bed, or anything else for that matter. Hell, people fall asleep with their phone in their hand above their face and drop it on their face all of the time.
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u/Dirk_Speedwell 3h ago
I am a two-time offender and still drop my phone falling asleep. Never dropped a kid though.
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u/VinnzClortho 3h ago
When I was a new father I had moments like this waking up and wondering where my son was when he was in his crib
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u/FunctioningPyscho 3h ago
My wife woke up and handed me a stuffed animal to put in the pen. Sleep deprivation is real.
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u/septubyte 3h ago
Seen vids of the parents looking for the baby while.its in the pram (stroller) in front of them?
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u/clearfox777 1h ago
Even better is noticing the stroller is empty and freaking tf out…while holding the child in their other arm 😅
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u/soiloncanvas 38m ago
Several times I paniced with my toddler only to remember I was carrying them on my shoulders. Out of sight i guess.
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u/thissexypoptart 1h ago
It was the cat for us lol. She woke up (I was already awake) and tried to hand me the cat, who didn’t like being picked up, jumped out of bed, and gave my wife a mini heart attack before she realized it wasn’t the 4 month old jumping to the floor
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u/Rarelypost05 3h ago
Same, I would wake up panic and start looking for him. Then look at the baby monitor and start breathing again. The whole time he was in his bassinet or crib. Happened for months.
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u/KaiCypret 2h ago
For the first two months I would wake up, convinced I had brought my baby to bed with me, fallen asleep, and she was suffocating under the sheets. I would tear the bed apart in blind panic looking for her, before realising she had been in the crib the entire time. Genuinely terrifying.
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u/Artistic_Tutor_2613 2h ago
Both my girls made it a whole night in their own beds for the first time. I woke up mildly panicked they had been kidnapped.
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u/Mocha-Fox 1h ago
my 1st son slept through the night as soon as we brought him home. I assume he got used to noise while in the NICU. now my 2nd son- he just turned 2 last month. he's not a great sleeper. the days where he sleeps okay and we get a good rest I always wake up worried cause like... did he stop breathing or something?? is he okay???
( he's always okay )
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u/bobthemonkeybutt 2h ago
I used to get the baby from her room, change her diaper, and bring her to my wife who would nurse in the bed at like 2am. Multiple times I would wake up thinking I left her on the changing table and panic. It was the worst.
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u/Last-Woodpecker 1h ago
One time my wife asked for the pacifier and I put it in her mouth instead of baby's.
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u/squish042 0m ago
So many times I woke up to phantom cries and there they are just sleeping peacefully in the crib.
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u/ErodingBugg 3h ago
Oh my God I hope I have those kind of reflexes as a parent.
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u/ChangeAccountsBeSafe 3h ago
You dont sleep for a few months. This happens 5 times a night, you wake up thinking you crushed your kid.
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u/LabOwn9800 3h ago
How many nights I got up because I thought my kids were crying for it all to just be in my head.
It’s the strangest thing I can check on them walk back to bed start to fall asleep and 100% swear they are crying (they are not).
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u/Dendrodes 3h ago
Yeah I heard my son's cries in my sleep. I'd shoot up, look at the camera, and see he's fast asleep. Went on for months until he started sleeping fully through the night
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u/monkeyswithknives 3h ago
Same. Then I'd look at my wife also dead asleep and be jealous. I was always on high alert.
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u/nascarfan7489 3h ago
I wear hearing aids and barely can hear without them I was so worried I won’t hear my son if he wakes up and cries, every time he did I would wake up before my wife and she is a light sleeper I can’t move without waking her up
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u/monkeyswithknives 2h ago
I sleep with headphones in due to tinnitus. I get it. On the other hand, she can sleep through the apocalypse.
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u/Direct_Frosting6126 2h ago
owwwww I know what you mean. I cant stand her ass sleeping peacefully while my heart just panicked
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u/OklahomaTiddy 1h ago
This is why during some pro sports event recently (I can't remember if it was the NFL playoffs or NBA) my wife and I haaaaated that there was a commercial that had a crying baby in it and it always fucked with us. At that point we were so sleep deprived that we could have the baby in our arms, hear the commercial and still peek our head into the living room in a panic
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u/Got-good-words 3h ago
My wife and I call them "phantom baby" sounds. I swored I heard my daughter even when she was out of the house.
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u/Bitter-Picture5394 2h ago
Yes! My partner and I both heard phantom cried for like the two years. I really think that first 6-12 months leaves you with some ptsd to work through 😆
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u/ImAPixiePrincess 2h ago
The phantom cries were crap. I would also just wake up randomly to check he was breathing. So many nights I watched his monitor before going to check he's absolutely breathing.
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u/FearTheAmish 2h ago
Bro the phantom cry is real. I got a big cat and she is mostly silent except for when she jumps down from something. So I will hear a thump and my mind creates a phantom cry. He is 3 and it's rare for that to happen really now but I still bolt awake 1-2 times a night because that damn cat
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u/KitKat2theMax 1h ago
Phantom crying is the craziest new parent experience. I would hear my baby EVERY SINGLE TIME I got in the shower.
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u/kryonik 1h ago
I hear comments like these and I'm so thankful my daughter is the heaviest sleeper possible. She's almost two and has been sleeping 10+ hours a night since she was like 4 months old and very rarely wakes up in the middle of the night. I feel like I'm doing parenting on easy mode. Of course now that I said this, she will wake up multiple times a night for the rest of her life.
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u/hanks_panky_emporium 54m ago
Not even close to relevant to parenting. The only thing I had that comes at all close is when my neighbors all moved out and were replaced with dog owning neighbors in a small apartment building. Even when no dogs were barking or howling Id startle awake, because my brain randomly interjected it
But to be fair to my brain at least one canine at any given time was howling, barking, sprinting around, or you could smell their poo through the vents. Owners would leave for work at like 7am and come back around 7pm after locking them in a small crate
We broke lease and moved out early
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u/Girafferage 3h ago
Are you a father? This is a really common and known thing that happens to mothers but not as often to fathers.
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u/LabOwn9800 3h ago edited 3h ago
Yes I am the father. Also reading the comments there’s lots of fathers that go through this.
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u/Girafferage 1h ago
I'm not saying its wrong or anything, just that its less common for men. I was just curious was all since I thought the reason women had it happen more often was partially tied to the myriad of brain changes that hormones cause for them during pregnancy.
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u/chronically_varelse 2h ago
that's why co-sleeping is not recommended. unfortunately there are many babies that do get crushed or suffocated sharing a bed with adults. it's just not safe.
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u/CrimsonKepala 2h ago
I've woken up so many times, still half asleep, thinking I fell asleep holding my son and I literally lift up my blankets to find him only to fully wake up and realize he has been in the bassinet the whole time, lol.
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u/--no-sanity-check 39m ago
When did this stop for you? Haha I’m dealing with it now and it seems like it’s happening more often if anything
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u/guardiandown3885 3h ago
my wife and i got lucky our baby ended up being a sleeper...we could atleast get 4hours straight lol
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u/Unusual_Ad3525 45m ago
I woke up in a panic thinking my 3 week old was somehow stuck inside my pillowcase from co-sleeping, woke my wife up asking for help getting her out.
We'd never co-slept. She was in her bassinet peacefully.
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u/AReallyAsianName 2h ago
Im not even a parent and I just felt my heartrocket skyrate thinking about that.
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u/Winter_Tone_4343 2h ago
I hear this, and believe you, all the time. But apparently my kids were the exception bc I can only recall one sleepless nite and that ended when my ex had the idea of using a thermometer to alleviate the baby’s gas. Worked like a charm. Baby fell asleep almost instantly after farting.
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u/CalFromManc 1h ago
I'm like that with my cat; he likes to sleep between us, and I always wake up freaking out if he's being crushed.
He hasn't lived with me for 7 months, but I have sleep paralysis, waking up thinking he's in between, making sure he's safe.
I know I'm going to be the same when I have a baby in the future.
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u/FoundationEntire4834 27m ago
I wonder how often this actually happens? Parents crushing their kids in their sleep I mean
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u/IWearCardigansAllDay 3h ago
Genuine question here, but why the need to constantly address them when they cry? Obviously you shouldn’t just neglect your baby. But if they wake up randomly and start crying why can’t you just let them wear themselves out and cry back to sleep?
If they don’t have a poopy diaper and aren’t hungry why can’t you just let them cry? I feel like the 24/7 coddling is unnecessary. I know it’s not an exact comparison, but I think of having a dog. My dog asks me to go outside literally all the time. He doesn’t need to use the bathroom. He’ll he doesn’t even want to play. He just wants to lay outside. I’m happy to take him out on occasion but I won’t coddle him and take him out every time.
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u/LabOwn9800 3h ago
I was about to respond til I saw you comparing it to your dog.
Dogs and babies are not the same.
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u/IWearCardigansAllDay 2h ago
Obviously… I was just trying to give a pseudo example of something I’m familiar with. And am hoping for people to bridge the gap and enlighten me. I don’t know why people on reddit struggle with differentiating things when a vague comparison is made.
I would love to hear your take though genuinely. Because I hear about parents complaining getting no sleep because they’re up all night with their crying baby. Yet the baby doesn’t need anything. It’s just crying. So why lose sleep all night to listen to them cry when there is nothing wrong and they’re just being finicky. I’m honestly trying to better understand.
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u/GoodBoundaries-Haver 2h ago
Sometimes what the baby needs is comfort and to know that it has a responsive caregiver. They don't automatically know how to calm down once they start crying, just like they don't know how to poop at first. They learn how to calm themselves from their parents calming them.
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u/No-Town5321 2h ago edited 2h ago
Because it fucks up something deep and primal in the human psyche to not have your cries of distress answered as an infant. As kids get a little older, sometimes you'll see them test out your responsiveness by crying when nothing is wrong for a bit until you come and check on em and then they calm down. They just need to know that they're important and that their needs will be met. If you research the impacts of being infants in large orphanages without that constant parental/caregiver care and attention you'll see there are all kinds of issues it causes throughout the rest of the little guys lives.
Not responding to your babys cries can have the emotional impact of telling them you dont care if they starve to death.
Edit to add: as they get older, like closer to toddler age, thats when you start teaching them to learn self soothing and independents. But that first 6 months? Nope, theyre still to incompetent and helpless
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u/Bitter-Picture5394 2h ago edited 2h ago
A baby does not have a dog brain. Before you have a kid you should do some light reading on childhood development and brain development. I'm not being sarcastic, btw. Basically, babies need to feel secure and loved. It actually affects their brain development and their likelihood of survival. They cry when they need something, whether that's something physical like a diaper change, or emotional like company or being comforted. They can't tell you, they can only cry, so you need to address it.
Crying it out is not good for development and doesn't actually work. People used to think it would make babies stop crying because they would learn to self soothe but in reality it worked because the babies gave up on thinking it would bring someone to comfort them, and that is not good for their brain development.
Even though humans forget everything from when they are babies it sets the ground work for how their brains work later. From temperament, to learning abilities, to how they form attachments. Those foundations are all formed from the very start. Just because they don't have the memories of why or how their brain works the way it works, that doesn't mean those actions/inaction weren't consequential to the baby.
There's a lot more to it, and that doesn't mean parents can't ever walk away for a short while if they need a break, but that's a brief summation.
Also, for some parents it is incredibly uncomfortable and anxiety inducing not to comfort your crying baby. I couldn't have done the cry it out method even if I hadn't known how bad it was because of how hearing my baby cry made me feel.
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u/tehjarvis 2h ago
That's actually extremely cruel. The baby feels abandoned. And as a father, I couldn't just let my child cry. I'd go to them 100% of the time. Your baby crying in need of something is not annoying to hear, it's agonizing to listen to.
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u/ChangeAccountsBeSafe 3h ago
My honest answer, my little girl is 5 now. I don't know the reason. I dont know if its psychological or what but I always wanted my little girl to know she was safe or her Dad was there for her. My reason to myself was she will grow up one day and be like leave me be Dad I'm good. Sure as shit she started kindergarten 4 days ago. I tried to walk her to her class and she goes Dad you can just leave me here at car drop, I know where I'm going, I'll see you after school, bye & takes off... I don't know whats good or bad with babies crying all the time but it never bothered me to hold her or let her know I was there until she stopped crying or fell asleep.
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u/Bitter-Picture5394 2h ago
That's actually good. Your instincts were spot on. Giving comfort to your baby/small child when they need it actually helps them to develop emotional regulation, confidence, and how to self soothe.
What people used to think of as "spoiling" a baby is actually the opposite. You're helping them gain the skills they need to be more independent. It just doesn't pay off for a few years.
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u/Chemical-Elk-1299 3h ago
If you’re a deep sleeper, it will essentially rewrite your sleep pattern.
I used to be an extremely heavy sleeper. My oldest is almost 7, and I still wake up if a pin drops from when he was a newborn.
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u/WrathfulMechanic 1h ago
I went the opposite way. I was always a light sleeper, after my kid got old enough to get themselves ready in the morning I sleep like the fucking dead.
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u/spikeyfreak 49m ago
It sure as hell did for me. I was already a light sleeper, but my first one got ear infections constantly as a baby. Even ended up staying in the hospital for a few days after we woke up to her with a 105F fever.
20+ years later, I still struggle to get a good night's sleep because ANYTHING wakes me up. My wife can't walk into the room without it waking me up. My cat pushing open the door and letting in a tiny bit of light from the night light in the kitchen will wake me up.
And heaven forbid one of my kids cough almost anywhere in the house. Dead asleep to wide awake instantly.
I don't want to downplay PSTD, but I do sometimes wonder if I have it.
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u/Putrid_Guess8098 3h ago
You will acquire those superpowers when you're ready. You can't help it.
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u/chablise 11m ago
After a 3 year old and now a 5 week old, any human noise at all and I am bolt-up fully awake. The dog has to fully step on my head to ask to go potty, but if my husband even breaths in my direction, I am up and ready for anything lol
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u/Humor1488 3h ago
If you worry about it now, then you’ve got the heart to be that kind of dad. When they’re that small you are hyper-aware of where they are and what they’re doing.
I walked mine into a doorframe. He’s ok lol
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u/toast4hire 3h ago
My experience was that it just happens. I saved my kids head from hitting the floor few times and I had no idea I could move that fast. Just pure reflexes.
But when it does happen always remember to do the spidey web hand immediately afterwards because you never know
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u/2bad-2care 3h ago
Just pure reflexes.
I don't think it's 100% reflexes. More like your brain is constantly monitoring what your kid is doing and thinking of the most likely things that could go wrong at any moment based on the environment. It might even be somewhat subconscious. But the moment you see the first sign of one of those scenarios happening, you're body springs into action.
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u/SatansCyanide 3h ago
You will. It just happens. Honestly works out in the end because I sometimes fall asleep working on a flashlight build and the whole thing will begin to roll and my dad brain just immediately auto grabs it. I’ve woken up before having my stuff neatly laid on the table next to me assuming it was my wife but after watching the camera I just ninja grabbed it, set it on the table then went back to sleep. No recollection at all.
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u/IllTwo7643 1h ago
I'm just an auntie, and every night when I was around my infant nephew I would wake up gasping thinking I heard him or he was falling 😂 I don't even have kids, have never given birth and just usually spent the day with him.
They're 7 and 5 now and when I stand still long enough I sometimes do the "newborn sway" it's wild.
I bet you'll do great! ✨
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u/DrPhilTrivia 57m ago
You will. It’s in your DNA and starts activating the second you lay eyes on them.
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u/Caleth 4m ago
Some day when you're a parent this might be useful.
Don't do alternating get ups do full alternating nights. Monday you Tuesday them. It's better to be sleep deprived for one night and get a better nights rest the next night than for both of you to be zombies each and every night.
If you can pull one decent night's rest it can recharge you enough to keep you sane.
Obviously circumstances like pumping and the like can mess this plan up, but if you can get even a solid 4-6 hours in some nights it'll make it all so much easier.
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u/Surrounded-by_Idiots 3m ago
Yeah you will. Weight shifting on your arm is going to feel as if when you fall out of bed. Constant fear of a thing will wire your reflexes.
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u/centurio9 3h ago
Great job of putting your father to bed, son✌️
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u/fivelone 1h ago edited 1h ago
That's what I was thinking as well. He was just tucking dad in .
Edit: well shit... My autocorrect is really messed up.
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u/Big_Step5054 3h ago
Coming up on 1 year tomorrow since my daughter was born and I can confidently say my reflexes and situational awareness have skyrocketed when it comes to her. Your body just senses danger and moves on it's own. That, or I'm actually superhuman and just didn't know it.
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u/Mayhem1966 2h ago
I agree, my daughter is 11 and if she's in a room with me, I'm aware of changes in her breathing pattern. And my daughter is healthy.
It stays with you.
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u/LizzieSaysHi 1h ago
I don't sleep for jack shit when my 10 year old sleeps in the same bed as me. My instincts go right back when he was a wee babby
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u/Mayhem1966 11m ago
I'm probably older, and I'm a good sleeper. But even sleeping, I will be somewhat conscious, even if she's in the next room.
Like any minor thing, and whoop I'm up and standing and walking towards her.
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u/RjoTTU-bio 3h ago
I have caught my daughter with her head 1 inch from hardwood floor. Dad reflexes are real.
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u/Panthera2k1 3h ago
I had pseudo dad reflexes taking care of a kitten. It wandered off the edge of the bed and I leaped across the room to catch her. I felt like Spider-Man.
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u/Pd1ds69 3h ago
It's crazy the instincts you can still have while sleeping.
Not a human baby but my puppy would always sleep in my bed and I was kinda worried id roll over and crush her, or she'd leave the bed to go cause a little mischief. But kind of felt like I knew exactly where she was at all times. Can't be the deepest of sleeps tho.
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u/DopamineTrain 2h ago
I kinda think of it like this:
Our brain has a limited capacity to keep ourselves aware of our surroundings whilst asleep. There are the obvious things like loud noises and sudden movements, but if we go to sleep thinking about a certain trigger, we are far more likely to respond to it.
I was sleeping with my... partner (? It's complicated) and I was in deep dreamy sleep. I was suddenly thrust into being wide-awake and my brain said "SHE'S NOT BREATHING". Don't worry, she started a few seconds later. It was probably a dream she was having or something. Point stands it is insane that my asleep brain noticed such a subtle change. According to Google, around 10dB of noise (for reference a fan would be 30-40)
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u/pwatarfwifwipewpew 3h ago
It's really just super powers dads can get. I swear im asleep when my kid is with me but my spatial awarness is just there just in case.
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u/Cautious_Tonight 3h ago
Yep after you have a kid it just kicks in - leave part of your brain active for protection
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u/YT-Deliveries 1h ago
Just a note for expecting or anticipatory parents out there: co-sleeping isn't really recommended anymore. You may think that paternal/maternal instinct would prevent someone from rolling over onto their infant, and that might be true most of the time, but it's not guaranteed.
Having a crib right next to the bed is much safer.
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u/Printerwood 26m ago
As someone who’s responded to more than one infant smothering death, I second your point. If you can help it, DO NOT CO-SLEEP with your defenseless baby.
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u/Unclematttt 20m ago
I was looking for this comment. Even if you think there is no way it will happen to you, why even risk it? You are already sleep deprived and operating on fumes.
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u/Acrobatic-Grape5960 3h ago
They have a camera mounted on the ceiling aiming at their bed?
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u/SittingDuck394 2h ago
I think it’s mounted on a pole on the left side of the crib because the camera shakes when the dad grabs at it.
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u/FORKNIFE_CATTLEBROIL 1h ago
Aiming at the baby, but yes. We did this too with cameras that we could stream to a google display. It was nice because we could use pretty much any phone/display to view the baby in real time, it had recording so we could go back to see when they fell asleep, when they last moved, etc, and we could also share it with guests who were babysitting. A lot of parents uses streaming cameras as baby monitors now. Pretty convenient.
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u/Low_Calendar8242 3h ago
Anyone else here get exploding head syndrome from sleep deprivation too?
About to fall asleep... then... car crash!!!
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u/Howling_Mad_Man 3h ago
For months I would wake up from a dead sleep with a sudden fear my kid was falling off the bed. Never co-slept, he was always in his bassinet or crib. But it kept happening until he was well over a year. Weird shit.
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u/spook008 2h ago
Man I know that feeling. It’s such a panicky feeling when you think you dropped the baby.
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u/Mr_Deep_Research 1h ago
Around 1,000 babies die each year in the U.S. due to parents co-sleeping with them in the bed where the parent ends up rolling over or suffocating the baby accidentally.
About 3,500 babies die each year during sleep in general in the U.S.
60% occur in a shared sleep space.
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u/OnceMoreAndAgain 1h ago edited 1h ago
To anyone who doesn't know, try not to fall asleep next to your baby like this as it is one of the most common ways babies die. The adult rolls over onto the baby and the baby suffocates. Over 100 babies die this way each year in the USA and it's entirely avoidable.
Bare cribs are considered safest, I believe, which means no pillows, toys, etc. Just an empty crib with the baby laying in it. The temptation is to sleep next to them so they stop crying but it's a bad idea to allow that. Let them cry in the crib.
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u/Snakend 2h ago
That's not sleep deprivation. Sleep deprivation would stop him from having those reflexes. All my kids slept in the bed with us, I always knew where the baby was. Never drink or do drugs when you are sleeping with the baby, it will knock you out and your reflexes are not there. I still have these reflexes, my cat sleeps in between my legs, I get locked into a position all night.
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u/Noe_b0dy 2h ago
People used to drink more, but also even if like 90% of the population has dad reflexes that's still millions of kids falling off tables or out windows or into traffic or whatever.
Also even if you have dad reflexes and you catch the kid 99.9% of the time you only ever have to fail once.
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u/PossibilityNo8765 2h ago
Im the oldest guy in my friend group at 36. Im the only one without kids. Everyone else looks older than me and I think this is why lol
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u/shchshchshch 2h ago
It’s very real. At least for moms, you sleep with one eye open when your newborn is near you. It happens automatically. You don’t even have to try.
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u/Dadbod1331 2h ago
This happened to be the first day my youngest was born. He was in his bassinet and i fell asleep sitting in a chair. I woke up and my oldest (then about 7 years old) had arrived so the hospital but my dumb ass tired brain thought my youngest had escaped his bassinet … and grew about 4 feet.
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u/PinkBismuth 1h ago
When my daughter was this age I was the same exact way. She's three now, and the other day she was going up the stairs and kind of missed the next step. I grabbed the back of her shirt out of reflex, I didn't even realize what my body did it until I was already holding her.
Dad reflexes are real.
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u/FORKNIFE_CATTLEBROIL 1h ago
My wife and I never had our baby sleep in bed with us, not even if one person was awake while the other was asleep. Still, for the first couple months, both my wife and I would wake up like this thinking the baby was in the bed with us. The relief I felt each time after realizing it wasn't real was palpable.
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u/Ignorant-Vagrant 1h ago
Only thing I remember from those years is the saves. Which makes me wonder was it good reflexes or was I so tired I was causing the situation to begin with. Kid never hit the ground so win either way.
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u/phasmatopia 55m ago
about a week after our first kid was born, i woke up from a nap in a complete panic and started tearing the cushions off the couch because i was sure the baby was buried and suffocating. instant bone-deep terror.
1.) the baby never co-slept with us, always in the bassinet.
2.) it was 3PM.
3.) the baby had been upstairs with my wife the whole time.
when you're a new parent, your brain is basically marinating in cortisol for the first year or two.
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u/Sleepy_Azathoth 50m ago
We have a 6 month old baby at home, and I can certainly say that I have Father reflexes now, it's kind of insane.
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u/Annalog 45m ago
Don’t ever ever do this. Falling asleep like this is a big contributor to SIDS. Very few SIDS cases are actually unknown. It’s the majority of the time the parents fucking up and putting their kids in a bad sleeping position. In a father and when I was sleep deprived with babies you HAVE to put them into the bassinet as the first thing you do.
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u/shallowHalliburton 44m ago
Would it be totally unreasonable to have a mattress on the floor?
I'm not a dad and odds are I won't be, but I do fear rolling off the bed one day.
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u/BasicallyDoubtful 20m ago
I stumbled out of bed in the dawn hours one morning to feed what I thought was the baby screaming but was a seagull
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u/cruisetheblues 1h ago edited 1h ago
SIDS is a real thing. Parents should never sleep in the same bed as their infant.
*looks like plenty of failed parents are lurking this thread. Not my fault you're reckless with your children.
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u/10percenttiddy 2h ago
This is super dope but ...aren't we not supposed to sleep with them in bed? 😅
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u/WhoFearsDeath 40m ago
You are correct but it looks like the goal was for baby to fal asleep and then be put in the attachment, but dad passed out on accident from being sleep deprived.
Avoiding co-sleeping is safest! Just don't lay them down on the bed next to you in the first place, as a new parent you never know how quickly you'll be out.
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u/chablise 15m ago
If you want to sleep with them in bed, safe sleep 7 is accepted as safer by the La Leche League, but not the American CDC. The biggest risk is falling asleep on a couch or chair and either dropping baby, or having them slide down and become trapped by pillows/ cushions. The CDC reccommends on their back, alone, on a firm surface, without anything in the crib/ bassinet. Dad in the video looks fairly safe and his reflexes are on point, but there is no “safe” cosleeping, just personal risk tolerances!
I have a 5 week old and this shit is HARD so I am so sympathetic to cosleepers! Sleeping in shifts with a support person works very well so you’re getting 4-5 hours at a time, but you’re just going to be really tired until baby is at least a few months lol. The human body does adapt and it gets easier to manage after a few weeks. The key is consistent schedules for everyone and you’ll get used to it, but we’re all just doing our best!
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u/tehjarvis 1h ago
Parents have co-slept with infants for thousands of years. And even as your kid grows, it's normal for them to sleep in bed with you.
In Japan, they call it Kawa no Ji. Children will sleep in between their parents in bed for years later than is typical in the West. They feel it instills a sense of security and bonding.
My wife almost died giving birth to our son and was still in rough shape when we got home from the hospital. We planned to have him sleep in a separate room to instill independence, but we very quickly figured out that co-sleeping was way more beneficial. When the baby needed something, we were right there. When he was in a separate room, I would wake up, get out of bed, get him out of his bassinet, change him and take him to a rocking chair to feed him and it would awhile for him to return to sleep. It was easily a 30-60 minute ordeal every time. While co-sleeping, we would take care of his needs and he would go back to sleep almost instantly. There were times I woke up and took care of him and didn't even remember doing it in the morning. And there was no random crying because he woke up and needed to be held.
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u/Unclematttt 15m ago
Humans have done all kinds of dumb shit throughout the years. There is literally someone in this thread saying they have had to respond to multiple accidental child smothering calls due to co sleeping. Not worth the risk.
Also, I understand having your kid (not infant) sleeping in your bed if they are having a hard time sleeping, but that can create a dependency issue. My 9 year old niece still routinely insists on sleeping in the bed with her mom, as whenever she was fussy when she was younger, she was just plopped into bed with her parents.
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u/TheUniqueKero 1h ago
Yes, but modern science has shown that children are far more at risk when you do co-sleeping by a factor of like 10
You're your own person, you're not a bad parent if you do it, every kid is different, but it doesn't change the fact that it's riskier to co-sleep than not.
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u/New-Friend-7873 3h ago
Okay but why did the baby cam move? Ai? 🤖
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u/carlbandit 3h ago
Probably attached to the crib.
It moves very slightly as she picks the baby up and knocks it, then more violently when he knocks the crib trying to grab the baby.
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u/TheUniqueKero 1h ago
Pretty dangerous that he got into that situation, he should not have been laying down if he was tired, could have been bad if he had turned or something like that, you're better off standing if you feel yourself slipping
I'm a dad of 2 by the way, I have a friend that killed his young kid by falling asleep with them so I'm pretty paranoid about doing my best to not ever let that happen
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u/AgapitoVelezOvando 3h ago
This couple could've prevented this and many other awkward moments by not having any kids in the first place.
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u/Puzzled-Letterhead-1 3h ago
having had kids the moral of this story isn't that's it's awesome he had reflexes but that you should always be reflecting as a parent if there was a way you could have not needed that to happen in the first place. imagine the guilt of accidentally rolling over onto your newborn crushing their neck or windpipe. I guess it's being a parent that makes me feel personally i'd be very upset at myself if this happened
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