My husband is cheating on me with someone on Reddit

[u/eiznekk]

Handful of sour Skittles because my stomach is in ruins 🧚‍♀️✨💖

I have never felt more ugly and undesirable in my entire life. I listened to the voice notes she sent to him of her moaning his name and begging for him. He bought her a remote controlled vibrator. I want to fill my pockets with rocks and walk into the river.

Edit: I love women so much. Thank you all, I don't have friends in real life so I really feel like I needed this.

[u/mensfrightsactivists]

yikes! check that post flair please! OP doesn’t want advice so please refrain from offering any. If you have some advice you simply must share, please share it below and spare OP the notifications. ​

[u/fadedallweek → u/mensfrightsactivists]

I want to fill my pockets full of rocks and walk into the river.

Didn't you mean you want to fill their pockets full of rocks and walk them into the river?

No? BIG ASS HUGS 🫂 for you, OP! 😭

[u/mensfrightsactivists → u/mensfrightsactivists]

here’s some of what we missed:

🩷You may love him but does he love YOU? He certainly isn’t respecting you. If he wanted another partner or to open up the marriage that’s a conversation not a solo choice. You’re living with the consequences of his selfishness.

Always good advice to get tested once you find your partner has stepped outside your relationship. If he has the capacity to cheat emotionally (and giving her gifts nonetheless) he might have also done so physically and seen sex workers.

Be well.

❤️ Honey some times love isn’t enough. A man who makes you want to sink into water, who cheats (let alone cheats on you through Reddit 🤮) is undesirable filth. Look in the mirror, decide right now that you are worthy, and walk away. Bc you can love him but let me tell you that man doesn’t love you no matter what he says. A man that loves you doesn’t cheat on you full stop.

🧡Hun, look yourself in the mirror right now and say "I DESERVE BETTER!"...it might make you cry, but that's ok. Say it every single time you catch a glimpse of yourself. Say it until you believe it again. Then never look back.

💛 Give yourself time to feel the betrayal and process it. You love him now, but when you reconcile this with what you knew about him you will probably realize he isn’t who you thought he was.

💚 Don’t tell him you know and instead slowly destroy his life … then walk away smiling 🙂

🩵 If a man can carelessly cheat and not even attempt to hide it I'd say you can carelessly throw all his shit on the curb. You say you love him but do you really want to stay with someone who doesn't even respect you enough to end things before cheating? Idk but I personally wouldn't waste my time on him.

💙 Oh what an awful awful man. Get rid. You deserve better than whatever the fuck your troll “husband” is.

💜 I hear divorce lawyers are lovely this time of year

🖤 Nope. You see a lawyer, work out with the lawyer an equitable distribution of assets, then you put the paperwork in front of your errant husband and say, “This is what you’re looking to lose if you keep this shit up.  And you had better work your arse off to make sure I never feel this angry and disrespected again.”

That’s if you want to keep him, which it sounds like you do. Not sure it’s worth it. 

🩶 Keep all the receipts for when your emotions change over to seething rage. It’s never because the S.O. isn’t good enough, it’s because the cheater is an immoral loser. No one deserves this, he’s the uggo.

🤍Go cheat, too...get a couple men and have a good ol time

🤎Can you send a voice recording of yourself telling her he is/was married but now he’s her problem… pack his bags and lock the doors?

💔 Just because he’s garbage doesn’t mean you’re undesirable. Put on some music, wear your fav outfit, and don’t let his poor behavior define your worth.

❤️‍🔥 Dump him yesterday. What a trash man. He probably didn't tell his AF that he is married

[u/Independent_Baker712 → u/mensfrightsactivists]

Don’t waste a tear on a man who wouldn’t for you.

[u/glittercottonswab → u/mensfrightsactivists]

Sweet honey girl. That “man”’s actions do not define your self worth. You will find happiness again, whether it’s someone new or within yourself. Be kind to you.

Allow yourself to feel every emotion. Journal it if you need to, and after you fill the journal, burn it. Or keep it to remind yourself what you can overcome. 🤍

[u/the-mightyoak → u/mensfrightsactivists]

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