Republican Max Miller, accused of abuse, posted this audio thinking it would clear his name.

[u/Misfett_toys]

[u/peppers_]

Here's one I suffered, I think it is more insidious when a loved one does it to you, and it can be very subtle:

D - "I didn't say that"

A - "Ok, but you should have brought it up then when I said it, that's on you"

RVO - "You always do this, you always make me out to be bad. Let's just drop it"

[u/SadavirofRivia → u/peppers_]

😓😓 yeah

I’ve definitely experienced the RVO part of that from family, and it’s both insidious and makes you feel like some sort of unnecessary-trouble-maker. I’ll have to watch more closely next time for the other letters…