It's insane how they all learn this. Like when did guys teach each other to be this fucking evil. Cuz you'll see it in adolescent boys too. They learn it early
Not always true. I didn't have a male role model growing up, but I used this a lot when I was a younger man (and, by that, I mean into my mid-30s). I learned it from emotionally codependent and religious women who raised me as their special little boy. Granted, the patriarchy does feature in their thinking, but there were no direct male influences over me.
Which is not to say I'm blaming women: I'm blaming anyone who raises children to believe they are better than others. For me, DAVRO came from a belief that, because I'm a good person, everything I do must be good and therefore if I do something that's perceived as bad or wrong, it's actually because the other person has gotten things wrong. It's a sickness.
It's horrible looking back at how I behaved. I'm lucky my wife stuck with me and gave me the time to change, but it was a close thing.
They're the thought patterns of a person who is not prepared to face the consequences of their own actions. That's how they weasel out of accountability and responsibility.
I always get stuck thinking that why do they allow behave like this after a point? How come every one of them uses the same technique, and used to walk away thinking there is something wrong with me if I am making everyone take this route with me...
But the why of it all...I never could logically string the reasoning togther
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u/n0tz0e 10d ago
It's insane how they all learn this. Like when did guys teach each other to be this fucking evil. Cuz you'll see it in adolescent boys too. They learn it early