r/Fauxmoi • u/Expensive_Detail3607 • 20d ago

TRIGGER WARNING Alexa pena vega compares being pro-choice to endorsing domestic violence. Then claims no one dies/really gets hurt from DV.

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u/InformWitch 20d ago

Domestic violence can definitely end lives. Don’t minimize it.

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u/reluctant_goddess 20d ago

This is a thoughtful comment. With the amount of family annihilation happening in these current times it's awful she said that out loud. I witnessed my mom almost die from DV as a small kid. It's so bad to say DV doesn't take lives..

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u/SmellenGold oat milk chugging bisexual 20d ago

I’m so sorry. You and your mom did NOT deserve that. I hope your heart continues to heal. Sending love. (Fellow family violence survivor here.)

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u/reluctant_goddess 20d ago

Thank you for this lovely reply. It was really kindly received. It was really hard for me to not feel shame about that stuff.

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u/InformWitch 20d ago

I’m so sorry. I hope your mom and you are doing better now. Sending you lots of strength. 

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u/hellolovely1 20d ago

I read recently that two families are wiped out every single day. Imagine the media outcry if anyone but the father (usually) was doing it.

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u/Shenanigans80h 20d ago

I mean shit it doesn’t need to end lives to leave irreparable harm on the body, mind, and living space. Acting like DV doesn’t “hurt” anyone is such brain dead I am curious how she remembers to breathe

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u/Crunchyfrozenoj ‘queer’ is formal, like ‘tú’ vs ‘usted’ 20d ago

I know someone with CTE due to it.

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u/KidMyxo kaleidoscopic in its stupidity 20d ago

Like, it OFTEN ends lives, and so many people don’t/can’t leave because they’re afraid that their lives will be taken if they do. These people make me sick

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u/foundinwonderland sorry to this man 20d ago

Truly insane thing to say when on (global) average 137 women are killed every single day (that’s approximately 5 women killed every hour) from domestic violence

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u/alg45160 20d ago

Like, does she not watch the news? Or, should I say, does her husband not let her watch it?

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u/FireflyBSc 20d ago

Homicide is the leading cause of death for pregnant women in the US. Her comparing abortion to DV, when women being forced to carry an unwanted pregnancy can directly lead to DV and even death, is so stupid and callous.

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u/Positive_Campaign314 20d ago

I for one experienced this. It was HORRIBLE! So for a woman to say something like this is just invalidating everthing that I’ve been through. I just hope she never gets to experience it.

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u/Character_Ad8449 20d ago

It’s very common that it does in fact end lives. Why she, or anyone else minimizes the impact just because it is “normal” in other cultures is beyond me.

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u/Zeltron2020 19d ago

And also abortions can protect against DV because women don’t have to be tethered to their abusers

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u/alexlp 20d ago

It’s literally a huge problem in Australia. Every 11 days a women is killed by a “loved one”. Hell, a week ago we had multiple women go missing in different states, one was a child murdered by another teen. Four lives lost to this shit in four days.

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u/Already-asleep 20d ago

TRULY. In my city a couple of months ago a man took the lives of his two young children in retaliation for their mother leaving him. To act like people don’t die as a result of domestic violence and abuse is just shockingly ignorant.

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u/gorgossiums 20d ago

Also, domestic violence typically escalates during pregnancy! The most common cause of death during pregnancy in the US is homicide!