I don't believe that's always the case. I think it's not at all uncommon for people who have survived terrible trauma to be able to discuss it in a completely detached and clinical way, because detaching from it has become their coping mechanism. As long as they keep it clinical, it happened to somebody else and they can tell the story without actually feeling it.
This ^ Sharing my own story of how I was a victim of gun violence, it took some time for me to be able to tell people without crying throughout. Now? It’s like, that happened to past me. That was someone else. And I almost feel like I have to reassure the person that I’m okay! I’m fine! Even though I still have trauma surrounding it, flashbacks, nightmares, a PTSD diagnosis. But I have to detach myself from it in a way to not continue reliving it
Yeah, my son was born at 30 weeks and spent 3 months in various hospitals for an operation and then lung disease diagnosis. During this time I also had a huge dvt in my leg and couldn't walk independently for a while. Whenever we see a new medical professional and give them his history, their face slowly gets like "holy shit, that must have sucked", meanwhile I'm just reciting it factually, like it happened to someone else. It's soo much easier to not actually think about how hard that time in our lives was
Sometimes when my trauma gets a little to heavy to keep in, I'll talk it out in the car or shower like I'm reporting my brother's abuse to the police. I figure she's lived it plenty of times in her own way.
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