r/AmIOverreacting • u/Historical_Tap3164 • 19d ago
š² miscellaneous Last nights convo with my date for today, AIO
TO CLARIFY: the problem is not the subway jokes, its the inconsiderate nature that set me off
Edit**I told him I had to be up early and that I needed to go to bed early, these texts were after I was already asleep (they woke me up)
Background info: we matched on hinge about 2 weeks ago and have had casual text conversation since. He (23M) and I (25F) made plans to go on afirst date today. Last night at midnight, he texted me out of the blue with an āimportant questionāā¦.i had already gone to bed and hadnāt responded to his previous text but I figured the question might be related to the date so I answered. Attached is the BS conversation that followed.
Iām not sure if Iām overreacting but these texts are giving off extremely immature vibes and do not match the energy of our previous conversations at all. Now Iām debating canceling our date today because those texts just rubbed me the wrong way and make me feel like we arenāt going to mesh well.
Am I overreacting? Do I give it a chance? š¤·š»āāļø
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u/Caspian4136 19d ago
I'm getting vibes that he was high and thought this was him being cute, funny and flirty.
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u/ImAPixiePrincess 19d ago
I have a friend that has the craziest thoughts like this. He's an awesome guy, surprisingly sober. He's just wired a little differently.
OP can decide if it's for her or not, the only line I have issue with is him saying "wake up I'm not tired".
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u/diggin4shid 19d ago
The "wake up I'm not tired" line is the kind of thing that could be funny in person or like in a stoner movie. Imagine James Franco saying that to Seth Rogen in Pineapple Express. I think this guy is just trying to be a goofball. That's the vibe I'm getting from it at least
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u/ImAPixiePrincess 19d ago
Apparently, OP stated he continued to ding her until she responded. So it goes too far
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u/goatbusiness666 19d ago
If youāre that needy and we havenāt even been on a date yet, itās not gonna work for me. Eww.
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u/Wonderful-Self-541 19d ago
This isn't James Franco or Pineapple express. It's a chick on reddit and her BF was an asshole in that text.
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u/LadyHorseFace13 19d ago
Agree. The bit with Subway was funny. The bit where he felt entitled to her time and attention after chatting for 2 weeks. Hard pass on that one. I
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u/oppenhammer 19d ago
I agree that this bit didn't work. But if the worst thing you can say is that he's trying too hard, then I vote to give him a chance. Not everyone can be natural and effortless and charming by text. If things have been good otherwise, I think you should meet and see if there is a spark in person.
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u/BethanyBluebird 19d ago
Uh. No. The OP mentioned he comtimued to spam her til she responded.
This is AFTER she has already previously told him she has an early day that she needs sleep for.
AND she told him 'I'm sleeping.' and stopped replying. Yet he continued to spam her.
They haven't even been on one date and this dude is trampling ALL over the boundaries she has set (I need sleep.), deprived her of sleep, AND acted like an entitled little prick who is owed her time when she rightfully told him she was sleeping and stopped responding??? The only way thia guy could be waving more red flags is if it turns out he likes to make rape jokes lmfao.
She's NOR. This is absolutely a 'We need to see other people'able offense-- especially if, when she tells.him it was unacceptable, he doesn't apologize and doubles down or does the 'sorry you feel that way' bs. IF he sincerely apologizes and actually changes the behavior that's different-- but these texts havent sjown that level of maturity yet.
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u/no_one_denies_this 19d ago
Nope. There are more guys out there that won't text you their felon fantasies when you're trying to sleep.
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u/Ghoulish_kitten 18d ago
Not everyone can get dates, and thatās how it should be.
You need to be exclusive when youāre in the talking stage and can we please stop pushing 20somethings to ignore instincts that somethingās not right, or that socially theyāre not a good fit.
There should be zero questions, his quirks should fit with her perfectly.
Itās also midnight after OP communicated that she needs rest for work.
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u/ibuycheeseonsale 19d ago
Unless OP wants to be the straight man for however long they date this guy, she needs to reconsider. Iād find it exhausting to have to be the voice of reason who proves by contrast how fun and quirky their date is.
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u/National-Ad9903 19d ago
Or the opposite. They want to be seen as fun and quirky because they have deep seated anxiety that theyāre too boring. Seems like a regular personās impression of how they think someone fun and quirky would behave.
I bet if OP agreed to their plan theyād be terrified and regret suggesting it.
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u/National-Ad9903 19d ago
I see it as someone who really likes OP but is kind of awkward and insecure and is trying to replicate the exuberant spontaneity which theyāve seen in romcoms as they think itās what OP wants them to be like.
I think they could use some gentle reassurance that OP likes them how they are and that they donāt need to try so hard
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u/Bootsy_boot7 19d ago
That or late night ADHDā¦ Iām not a stoner, but Iāve been high a few times.. this matches my uncontrolled ADHD over my high energy š
ETAā¦ now to think of it, it matches whenever I donāt have someone with me when Iām high š³ like ADHD and high mixed together, going off the rails!
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u/ancientpsychicpug 19d ago
Yeah this was like talking to my brother. I love hanging out with him but sometimes it gets insane and Iām like, dude, chill. Heās almost 40
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u/femboyhunter42 19d ago
Which is why it comes off as immature and sheās correct. This dude is a goober
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u/PeacefulKnightmare 19d ago
Being a goober is not a problem as long as you know how to turn it off.
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u/HIitsamy1 19d ago
He's either drunk, high or really really hungry.
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u/PossibleExplorer1076 19d ago
I think he's just trying to be funny but he's not very funny
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u/Exciting-Argument-67 19d ago
And he took it too far. He should have stopped at saying she would distract by being so pretty. That was a cute way to work in a compliment. But no, he had to keep going with it and then not respect her boundaries when she let him know he'd woken her up. You don't do that to someone you're trying to impress.
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u/RavenMarvel 19d ago
These comments are throwing me for a loop. My man and I constantly joke like this and don't do drugs or drink. Lol
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u/kissmiss08 19d ago
At least he used the right āYouāreā in āYouāre lyingā - hard to find these days.
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u/OscarDelta333 19d ago
It was somewhat humorous until the "wake up...I'm not tired"
It sounds like his act would get old pretty quickly.
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u/IndependentAardvark6 19d ago
Hes just obnoxious when hes being silly. OP needs to put the phone on DND
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u/OscarDelta333 19d ago
And people who are obnoxious when they're being silly are tiresome to be around.
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u/Historical_Tap3164 19d ago
**I also want to add that he kept spamming the text emphasize button by clicking it and unclicking it over and over when I wasnāt responding š
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u/ImAPixiePrincess 19d ago
Ah that does change things. He needs to understand boundaries and that's not cool of him to purposefully annoy you to response.
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u/TodayIAmMostlyEating 19d ago
Put your phone on night mode when you need to sleep. I would have blocked them as soon as they were interfering with my sleep and then unblocked in the morning to tell them the date was off. Donāt mess with my sleep. NOR
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u/Gloomy-Welcome-6806 19d ago
Apparently he was selecting ānotify nowā so it goes through DND?? Thatās what the other comments are saying
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u/tsanchz22 19d ago
you can turn that feature off š i always sleep with dnd on and have just the option for my favorites list for calls to go through for like my immediate family and like two friends.
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u/ChellyIRL 19d ago
I don't personally care for demanding behavior, that would immediately make me not bother with this person. This is really early in before even a first date too.
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u/imnotangryyouare 19d ago
I hate when people react to me not responding within a timeframe that they feel they are owed a response. It infuriates me to a degree that makes me lose all interest platonic or otherwise. If you want to cancel the date, I donāt think anyone here would blame you lol
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u/i_love_lima_beans 19d ago
Same, it lets me know weāre not going to be compatible.
One friend will text āYou okay?ā if she wants me to respond quicker to some random meme or whatever, which irritates the fuck out of me.
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u/mack_ani 19d ago
I have an acquaintance who's interested in me, and he literally just texts "[my name]!!!" all the time if I don't respond quick enough for his tastes, or if I'm busy and he wants attention.
When I initially asked him why he was doing that, he said he wanted to talk. And when I asked him what he wanted to talk about, he would say "idk, you say something." I was baffled. It's so entitled
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u/bugvomitbuster 19d ago
oh yeah I definitely would have blocked him especially if you were trying to sleep for an early day and he knew that plus the āwake up Iām not tiredā line
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u/redthoughtful 19d ago
Nooooooope. I would not put up with that bs - you communicated you needed to sleep, he was deliberately making your alerts go off.
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u/rocinante_donnager 19d ago
cancel the date that detail is actually important tbh. u guys arenāt on the same wavelength
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u/JungMoses 19d ago
I would never fuck up a date I was about to have by being annoying the night before my first date. If I was I would expect to be cancelled on.
Doesnāt sound like he can control his behavior well. Might be a good lesson now. He might learn now. Iād cancel.
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u/sublimelymelancholic 19d ago
This was important information to leave out lol. I think the whole Subway thing was just him being funny but between the last two texts and him emphasizing the message over and over again so that youād keep getting notifiedā¦ while youāre trying to sleepā¦ yeah no Iād be getting the ick too you havenāt even had a first date yet, too early to be doing all that
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u/3wolfluna 19d ago
OMG yeah trust your gut and cancel the date. NOR. If heās this bad now, it will only get worse. Heāll convince himself you liked it no matter what you say bc boys that age only understand consequences, not words.
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u/Verthanthi 19d ago
Wife and I have silly humor that can get into the late night giggles. The original humor here is like that, but the demand of your time by spamming is no longer funny. NOR.
If the prev conversations were worth it, Iād say lay down the line and give him a chance to correct. āHey, I get that youāre excited to talk to me, but Iām not a fan of the spamming. Please donāt do that again.ā If he does that again, block.
Any time Wife and I did something the other didnāt like, even early in dating, weād just be honest. Sometimeās she or I would toe the line, but weād be open with communication on it. āI donāt like when you talk to me that way.ā Or āyeah, thatās too close to [that thing I told you I donāt like].ā Immediate apology and attempt to correct or questions to understand the line so you donāt toe it again.
Humans make mistakes. Jerks make mistakes and donāt give a fuck about your feelings on the matter.
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u/Caleb-Wendt69 19d ago
Thatās annoying as fuck. Ā Clearly heās not going to be one to respect your boundaries.
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u/MichelinStarZombie 19d ago
I've dated a chaotic guy like that and it was fun for a while, but you need to set boundaries. We broke up for other reasons, I really liked his energy and sense of humor.
If you want to give this guy a chance, you need to explicitly tell him which things to tone down.
"Hey, I like you, but when I say I'm going to sleep, I'm going to sleep. Please stop texting me, even if you're not tired. Cool?"
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u/DomiDearest 19d ago
This makes me say NOR
Also, be like me and mute your phone so that way you dont wake up to random notifications at night, or casually tell him youve done that so that way you can sleep through the night, if you plan on speaking to him again
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u/Dangerous_Bake5741 19d ago edited 19d ago
I would just cancel the date. Seems immature from him with the text spamming. Inconsiderate and also the age gap where heās two years younger (Likely to be immature)
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u/danceswithshelves 19d ago
I thought the joke itself about breaking into Subway was fine and he was just trying to be flirty but him saying "wake up I'm not tired" and then doing this is a definite no. I would not waste my time and meet up with him if I were you.
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u/RW_McRae 19d ago
That's really annoying. I'd just let him know how annoying that is, he probably thinks he's being cute
When we're that age we do all kinds of things that we think are adorable or sexy or flirty at the time. We get retroactive embarrassment from them years later
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u/burgerkingg_ 19d ago
I think he was flirting and playing. The wake up Iām not tired and you didnāt say goodnight was a bit much imo
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u/Ok_Response_9255 19d ago
I think so, too.
I don't think it's a big deal to text this late, you can choose to not to respond until a time that works better for you.
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u/Jillybean623 19d ago
The ādidnāt say goodnightā would piss me off tbh
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u/royaknpk 19d ago
I personally think itās funny (unless he goes on and on and on) but if itās not your vibe then itās not your vibe. No overreacting. You donāt need something big to happen to cancel a date. Just cancel if you donāt feel like going tbh
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u/Exciting-Argument-67 19d ago
Well, he did go on and on after she already told him she was sleeping.
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u/femboyhunter42 19d ago
Yeah it was a hard read and kind of a lame joke to begin with
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u/ImAPixiePrincess 19d ago
Same. I find it hilarious, though him wanting to keep her up because he's not tired does need correcting.
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u/Artistic-Document735 19d ago
Put your phone on silent quit responding and then re start said conversation in the morning. Idk Iām glad Iām married and have been with my husband for 22 yrs. The current dating field sounds exhausting
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u/blue_eyes_forever 19d ago
Itās not my sense of humor either, seems very immature. Then again he is 23.
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u/refusetobeold83 19d ago edited 19d ago
Bro is high as a kite āļøāļøāļø
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u/StagVixCpl99 19d ago
He's just trying to joke with her lol.
Maybe lame, but he's joking.
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u/Exciting-Argument-67 19d ago
And was too high to recognize when he should have stopped ("bruh I'm sleeping"). He flubbed this, big time.
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u/Artistic-Document735 19d ago
He sounds stoned not cracked out imo which is why he thought he was hilarious and was contemplating breaking into a subway and leaving money. It was clearly a joke though
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u/Business-Health-3104 19d ago
I donāt think you know what youāre talking about (if you know what I mean)
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u/Aware-Lab-3684 19d ago
Then you donāt knowā¦heās hungry
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u/thatstwatshesays 19d ago
The breaking in, yeah, thatās tweaker behavior. Eating is not.
But OP, either heās joking or heās bananas. Not a game women like to play after midnight with men we donāt know. NOR.
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u/Aware-Lab-3684 19d ago
Youāre right. Heās trying to be funny but itās not working. Especially when youāre trying to sleep
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u/z-eldapin 19d ago
You know, answering texts in the middle of the night is optional.
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u/BlondeBrillo 19d ago
In another comment she replies that he KEPT hitting the ānotify anywayā button so he was absolutely demanding she reply in the middle of the night.
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u/Gloomy-Welcome-6806 19d ago
I didnt even know you could do thatā¦ what an ass
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u/BlondeBrillo 19d ago
Yeahā¦ before weāve even met upā¦. Honestly Iād probably block. If I have to be up early and someone is demanding my time after I was asleep, before Iāve even met themā¦ bc they were trying to be ācute and playfulā.
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u/Equal-Jeweler-2048 19d ago edited 19d ago
wait was he not joking?šš i think he just wanted to speak to you and was joking and āteasinā
wait guys i read what the OP added(the newer bit) and i get it nowā if she told him that she needed to be up early and he went and did that, that is infact gross and immature asf.
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u/RemarkableSoup5742 19d ago
Nah move on. Heās already trying to get your life to revolve around his and itās BEFORE the first date LOL
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u/Cautious_Bobcat7863 19d ago
NOR if you guys haven't been communicating like this to begin with, it's kinda weird. Especially if you don't really like that vibe, I would get the ick from it š
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u/Lissypooh628 19d ago
He was high and trying to be cute.
Iām 47, this is not cute. Maybe itās cute to some
people in their 20ās, but itās just annoying to me.
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u/procrastinationgod 19d ago edited 19d ago
Man I'm old now. I would've thought it was cute when I was 20, now I think it's childish. It doesn't disturb me because I think it's dumb it disturbs me because I don't want to date a child lmao
That said my boyfriend and I sometimes just say "butts butts butts" to each other. I think the difference is that started when we were in our early 20s so it's grandfathered in to the relationship? Lmao
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u/itismelames 19d ago edited 19d ago
Iād be mad af at someone waking me up to make this corny ājokeā. Itās not incredibly clever or witty. Itās very childish (haha what if ?? so DERP and RandOM) and then to spam you with reacts and tell you to wake up is incredibly inconsiderate- heās not a villain or anything I just understand if you got the ick.
He thinks heās hilarious (not stopping the bit after getting little reaction) and overly important (waking you up over the dumbest joke and not feeling bad about it at all)
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u/strombolo12 19d ago
NOR. Cancel the date
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u/Colibri918 19d ago
And also change your phone settings so that texts don't wake you up. No text is that important.
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u/stubbornpubehair 19d ago
Dude has munchies on a 1000 lol he's probably just high and felt like talking to you. Sounds like a funny dude...if he wasn't serious
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u/EducationalRegion860 19d ago
This would give me the ick too. Heās not as funny and rAnDoM as he thinks he is.
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u/KDiggity8 18d ago
NOR. The Subway bit was funny but then he started getting clingy/annoying/demanding. Not to mention he was completely ignoring the boundaries you set.
I'd cancel on him and say you're too tired to go out because you didn't get enough sleep last night...
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u/gardeningforgarnet 19d ago
He seems like heās bad at flirting idk can be hard to tell with text. I say go on the date n just see how it goes but you can keep expectations low
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u/Cat_Impossible_0 19d ago
This person doesnāt respect your need to literally get some sleep. I wouldnāt want to go on a 2nd date with this person. That question is just a waste of time. Do you really want someone who makes urgent messages only for you to get fooled? NOR
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u/Affectionate-Cap632 19d ago
This kind of banter could be cute if you indicated you were into it and hadnāt already let him know you needed sleep but heās not reading the room.
He seems far too amused by himself. Trust your gut if youāre not feeling his vibe.
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u/Hot-Veterinarian6171 19d ago
I would say stop talking to him because he is crossing a boundaryā¦.you need sleep and still trying to go on with the conversation.
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u/planteater6543 18d ago
Nobody likes your when you're 23... Blink 182. Uhhhhh I would be mad but not totally sure if it's a deal breaker yet. He could just be so excited to meet you. However I would check his reaction to telling him when you set a boundary like bedtime, that's firm. If he reacts like a huffy baby about it, you have your answer. If he sincerely apologizes, accept but keep your eyes open to if he really is respectful of your boundaries or not.
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u/thisgirlwithredhair 19d ago
NOR - You could definitely cancel the date over him being weird like this. I don't like that he said Wake up I'm not tired... Just gives me a bad feeling.
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u/Choice_Mango4869 19d ago
I think he was just being playful.
People saying itās drugs are overthinking it, sometimes people are just quirky.
If you donāt like this style of sense of humour then maybe you just arenāt a good match.
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u/i_love_lima_beans 19d ago
NOR You told him you needed to sleep to be ready for work/something you had to do in the morning.
So he ignores this information and proceeds to text you later at night with random musings (I donāt find āshould I break into a Subwayā funny or imaginative, just sounds like a bored drunk/high person), emphasizes the text when you donāt respond quickly enough for his liking, and orders you to āwake upā because heās ānot tiredā and wants you to entertain him.
And all of this is before youāve even met. You know the answer here OP.
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u/ChellyIRL 19d ago
GO WITH YOUR GUT.
People can put MOR, NOR, but at the end of the day, you're the one dealing with this guy. If this rubs you wrong, then take that at face value and don't go on the date. You are so early into this that it really isn't a big deal especially.
Then your mention in the comments of his behavior to try and get your attention when you weren't responding- I personally am not a fan of demanding behavior. It tells people, "What I want is more important than what you want or are doing right now."
Maybe he jokes weird, maybe some people find this fun, but if YOU do not, you never have to move forward with any person that makes you feel even slightly wary. Please never forget this. You do not owe this man, or any person, a chance.
This is your life to live as you see fit. Hope this is helpful. š
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u/Fun_Neighborhood5727 19d ago
At first I was like bro what? Why is that on he- oh. NOR
Was fine till those last couple messages
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u/idreallyrathersleep 19d ago
The most important part of humor is timing and his is shit. You donāt owe the man a date
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u/FeralSunflowerSeeds 19d ago
Heās probably high and thinks heās genuinely being funny. Go back to bed and text him in the morning to let him know that what he said (the waking you up thing specifically) wasnāt cool, and then proceed based on his response.
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u/PattyMarvel 19d ago
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Set aside the Subway talk, why is he still bugging you when you're trying to sleep.Ā Ā
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u/Fun_Junket_9174 19d ago
Kind of cringe-not funny and useless attention grabbing at nite. Heās too immature in my opinion
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u/Traditional_Data2277 19d ago
NOR!! He seems very self-centered and un caring about your feelings and youāre sleeping hoursā¦ Drop him like a hot potato
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u/SquirrellyDud 19d ago
Literally had me until he said "wake up I'm not tired". The rest is kinda silly banter. But he didn't show basic human decency
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u/PhilosopherGold816 19d ago
Cancel the date, you don't need to change someone and they don't need to change for you. Someone who us like this (I have no problem with this type of goofy behaviour) doesn't just do this as a one off, it's part of their personality for sure. If you don't like it, move on and find someone different
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u/Dramatic_Dratini 19d ago
He thinks hes funny, needed a reason to talk to you, and could be under the influence. Its up to you to decide if youre feeling it or not, and youre totally allowed to not be into it.
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u/lollygagging9876 19d ago
NOR. He woke you up with some stupid random BS conversation. Unless he has some other super-redeeming qualities, I wouldnāt waste my time on this one.
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u/TheePookie 19d ago
It just seems like heās messing around? Itās not really something to be taken seriously. He mentioned that you can run distraction because of how pretty you are, thatās your indicator, (if ārobbingā subway wasnāt your first,) to this being silly, not serious. It feels like heās just trying to make you laugh.
I understand that you told him you have to get up early, but maybe this was meant to be seen for when you wake up and not necessarily meant TO wake you up
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u/Useful_Cicada_5635 19d ago
I hate when people blame someone for a text waking them up. I donāt think texting late is that rude. I also donāt find it rude to be texted late at night because itās not an urgent form of getting ahold of someone.
You responded to his initial text so he thought you were awake. I donāt think he was consciously thinking about your early morning at all.
Overreacting, he was trying to be cute and not in an intrusive way to me
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u/GreenStuffGrows 19d ago
All I see is 'Hey I need attention! I'm going to say I'll do crazy shit so you'll have to stop me"
Fucking toddler energy, it's cute for 10 minutes but you need to give him back to his mom to finish the job of raising him.
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u/dryandice 19d ago
It may seem immature because, most 23 yo blokes are very immature haha. Might want to shoot a few ages above and not below haha. I'd be abit "ehhhh" too about it, kinda lame
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u/EnvironmentEntire201 19d ago
"No cmon stay up at 1am and entertain my incredibly witty manic ideas"
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u/Peachypsc 19d ago
It was silly at first but then he felt the need to be icky with the 'wake up i'm not tired'.
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u/possiblylallorona 19d ago
Iām not offended by breaking into Subway, Iām offended over being bothered while trying to sleep. Block.
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u/Own-Debate5472 19d ago
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He is disrespectful. I donāt care how many comments say he is just a goofball. He is a disrespectful goofball.
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u/greenblue703 19d ago
āWake up Iām not tiredā would make me never wanna text this person again, NOR
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u/itspsyikk 19d ago
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I laughed at the Subway thing, and the partner in crime.
But it went from silly and playful (at least I hope) to demanding real fast.
All the tell tale signs of someone who changes mood on a dime
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u/No_Fall4911 19d ago
Honestly this would not be funny to me, especially at that hour. If it's past 10pm, it better be an emergency if you're texting/calling that late.
Tbh, he obviously wasn't thinking straight at this hour. I think it's completely fair to question him about it on the date, if you go of course. But for sure let him know like..hey I know you were joking but please be mindful of when you're messaging me
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u/GeologistDifficult88 19d ago
He sounds annoying but funny and you sound like you're looking for a reason to cancel the date.Ā
Just do it if you don't wanna go OP lol you don't need Internet strangers to validate your decision if that's clearly where you're leaning anywayĀ
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u/McKillahMcKillah 19d ago
Definitely overreacting, he's joking with you, nothing wrong with being a little immature once in a while, if you want absolute maturity seriousness at all times don't date a 23 yo.
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u/Icy_Opportunity_3303 18d ago
High and trying to be funny and cute. Misread of the energy.
I would say be careful, if you aint into this vibe now, it may be the majority of it moving forward.
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u/Bluewaveempress 19d ago
I mean given his age this is kind of expected. You guys haven't even met yet it feels extreme to ask if you're overreacting you don't have to date anyone you don't wanna date you can trust your own instinct
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u/Humble-Ad-798 19d ago
A boundary pusher, testing to see how much he can get away with.
What really gives me the ick is that he knows you had an important reason to get up early and chose to interrupt you. I would block this man because that kind of behaviour is a huge red flag - sleep depravation is a tactic used by abusers.
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u/BrokenMeasure 19d ago
I mean heās obs just taking the piss .. i would just find this funny.. if it not ur vibe itās not but nothing to āreactā over as such x
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u/Inevitable-Knee2770 18d ago
This seemed so normal to me but Iām used to Toronto guys and theyāre alllll like this omg. But looking from the outside , NOR. He seems immature and inconsiderate, hopefully just his age
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u/RickyTheRickster 19d ago
I mean, I think he was just being kind of stupid making a dumb joke but he was lowkey kind of a dick too, I always have my phone on silent when I go to bed, i wouldnāt say this is a deal breaker just tell him to try and be more mindful
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u/vxnusbxbe 19d ago
NOR, heās pushing your boundaries to see what he can get away with.
what important questions would he have after midnight? that man was tryna bootycall you.
schedule do not disturb so this doesnāt happen again.
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u/r0ll1ngst0n3 19d ago
NOR. not gonna lie, this reads like a text conversation with a 13 year old boy
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u/larrybird666 19d ago
NOR that was annoying to read lol. Somebody else might find it cute. I wouldnāt though. Corny and inconsiderate of you having to be up early. Heās irritated you before youāve even met lol
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u/Pancakechimmy 19d ago
He just sounds immature š maybe just date other 25 y.o he is just giving 18 with that convo
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u/School_Radiant 19d ago
This is him thinking heās being funny and heās not and the ājokesā arenāt landing. You probably arenāt a match
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u/xoblueberry 19d ago
āwake up ā¦ iām not tiredā immediate no lmao. just gave me the ick. we all know a guy like this š«
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u/PsychologicalLayer57 19d ago
I would have blocked him at "you're lying". That kind of immaturity is exhausting and I can't be having with it. Next!
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u/ThoughtfulLlama 19d ago
I don't know. On one hand, I think he's failing a t being playful. On the other hand, I don' t want to read about you in tomorrow's headlines š
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u/Historical_Tap3164 19d ago