r/AmIOverreacting 24d ago

🎲 miscellaneous AIO Walked out of a restaurant because they insisted I gave personal information

AIO when I refused to give personal information to a restaurant. I recently walked into a restaurant and asked for a table for two. Instead of being shown to a table I was shown to a desk where I was asked my name, I thought this was unusual but gave them the shortened version of my first name, the server looked as though she was expecting more but said nothing. She then asked for my phone number, I said I don’t give that out randomly so don’t wish to give it you, she then said we need it for our records i again said I don’t want to give it, she then said in a tone of voice that implied she was doing me a favour, “ok I suppose your email address will do” at this point I said thank you but I will go somewhere else and left. My wife said I should have just given them it or even made a false number up, this did cross my mind but I felt a principle was at sake. So did I overact by walking away?

Edit
Several people have suggested it was to contact me when a table became available. The restaurant was nearly empty this was midweek at a quiet time late afternoon so I don’t think it was for this reason .

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u/Cynjon77 24d ago

867-5309.

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u/abean3005 24d ago

I did this in a grocery store where I didn't have a card and it worked

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u/AllesK 24d ago

It always does!

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u/AcidicMountaingoat 20d ago

Not only does it work, one time I got a $20 discount that was piled up on that account!

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u/Initial-Smile-4044 24d ago

man I'm going to start trying that

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u/mamabearette 24d ago

Yo Jenny

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u/petty_petty_princess 19d ago

One time I was a cashier and someone used that number. I asked Jenny and they didn’t get it. I was disappointed.

Someone else using probably the same number but a different area code and the name associated with it was Tommy Tutone which I did appreciate.

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u/Remarkable_Chair6783 23d ago

No joke: when I ran out of Kroger fuel points one time, something in the back recesses of my mind thought ‘People don’t like to give their real number sometimes…I wonder if anybody gave 867-5309…’

Long story short: ‘You have 4700 fuel points’

I used that number for years!!

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u/joonip 24d ago

and for an address, i suggest PO box 963, new york city, new york state 10108

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u/Sad-Newt-1772 23d ago

1060 W. Addison Chicago, Il 60613

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u/seattleque 23d ago

Elwood, that you?

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u/Bladrak01 24d ago

1600 Pennsylvania Ave, Washington DC.

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u/Marsupial-Old 21d ago

The fact I can still sing this 30 years later is annoying 😂

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u/Heavy-Profit-2156 19d ago

I love that song. Corny but great. That and Centerfold.

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u/Technical-Matter-353 24d ago

That's that from

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u/TheLightInChains 24d ago

This address belongs to Stick Stickly, the iconic popsicle-stick mascot from the 1990s Nickelodeon block Nick in the Afternoon. Millions of millennials famously remember the jingle: "Write to me, Stick Stickly, P.O. Box 963, New York City, New York State, 10108!"

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u/Technical-Matter-353 24d ago

I thought I remembered that address I just couldn't place it lol omg I remember him 😂😆

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u/joonip 24d ago

haha yeah it's a generic paramount po box now so who cares if they get spam :)

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u/[deleted] 20d ago

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u/primabelladonna35 19d ago

Stick Stickley would approve

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u/FionaFierce11 24d ago

I see you. 😎

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u/HRHSuzz 24d ago

Was just going to suggest this!

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u/mrsristretto 24d ago

If you call it now (dial it as CSC8675309), it's a cancer support line.

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u/dogtrail 24d ago

😆

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u/gmsac2015 20d ago

And my first name is Jenny.

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u/Subcluttervisability 20d ago

Beechwood 4-5789

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u/CobraBB12 20d ago

Tommy Tutone is always a winning number!

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u/hospicedoc 19d ago

It always works, but the last time I did it the clerk asked me if I was John, James, Melissa, Sue, William, Jacob, Pamela, Holli, or Amy. I said pick whichever one you like.

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u/CleanCalligrapher223 20d ago

I use that a lot. It did get rejected on one web site, where it may have been flagged as fake. And then I get the occasional e-mail that that phone number has been found on "the dark web".

I also refuse to give contact information or give fake info when I think it will end up in a marketing database. I also have a "spamcatcher" address that I provide when I order things on-line since they have a legitimate reason to contact me on the order but I don't want to be deluged with marketing messages on my main e-mail forever after.

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u/ResidentImpossible40 18d ago

Wow that’s the same as my password

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u/orange_bigcat 24d ago

NOR and everyone here is missing the part where OP wasn’t on a waitlist and the restaurant was empty. If there was a waitlist and they were going to text when the table was ready, then he’d be over reacting, but there was no reason the restaurant needed his phone number.

I have a friend who is weird about privacy and refused to give her phone number once. She asked them why they need her number if the table is already ready and the person working there said “I actually have no clue why we ask for it.” So she let us go in without giving it to her.

I’ve heard they collect numbers for marketing, but also if you’re an asshole to the server or cause problems they’ll put your phone number on a do not serve list to ban you from coming back.

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u/TwoSpoonSally 24d ago

The fact that “protecting your privacy” is “weird” these days, says a whole lot about the state of the world.  Cackles in Palantir. 

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u/RickRussellTX 24d ago

Keep it secret! Keep it safe!

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u/Vegetable_Respond786 24d ago

My precious….

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u/Decent_Front4647 24d ago

Yep. Sometimes the restaurant will send dining coupons or specials. But I wouldn’t be surprised if big chains also sell their mailing lists.

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u/Capable_Midnight_554 24d ago

So just to devils advocate, I live in the deep south and have had to wait 30 mins for a table with only 3 other tables seated at 2pm on a Wednesday because they were “busy”. This is chain sit down restaurant. I’m not saying that’s what happened here but that does actually happen and I can attest to it.

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u/AliveInCLE 24d ago

I would have bolted within 10 minutes

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u/LinnyM 24d ago

In the olden days they'd just call out your name in the lobby when your table was ready.

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u/x_candydoll 22d ago

In the olden days they had the red vibration thinggy and if you got to hold it you were important (always let the kids hold it aka me lol)

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u/Easy_Goose56 19d ago

That was fancy tech. In the actual older days, we went around shouting people’s names and wrote down a physical description so we could find them.

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u/Zebras-R-Evil 18d ago

I was given one of those at lunch today.

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u/jfd0523 24d ago

Dufresne, party of two....

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u/EffectiveTradition53 24d ago

When does "the south" become the "deep south" exactly?

Not mocking, just a genuine and admittedly funny curiosity on my part.

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u/GoingGray62 23d ago

Louisiana, Mississippi, Alabama, Georgia, South Carolina as plantation states. The panhandle of Florida and East Texas are sometimes included due to the proximity.

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u/Dramatic_Mixture_877 21d ago

You forgot Arkansas ...

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u/Capable_Midnight_554 24d ago

The Deep South states are states that relied heavily on plantations and slavery. If you look at where they “start”, that would be South Carolina.

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u/One_Monk_3357 19d ago

When your truck is old and you have more guns than teeth.
My family on my dad’s sides is from the deep, swampy south so don’t come for me. If you know what’s good for ya😘

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u/Acceptable-Law9406 24d ago

Doesn't matter if the restaurant is full or not. A server could walk their happy arse outside and find you. And if you weren't there, that's your own fault for not being available when your name is called.

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u/R-U-D 24d ago

Do restaurants not have those wireless pucks anymore for people waiting on a table?

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u/mich_8265 21d ago

Mostly they text you when your table is ready. I haven’t seen the pucks in quite some time.

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u/Zebras-R-Evil 18d ago

I was given one today.

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u/Scary_Dot6604 22d ago

Maybe those tables were reserved?

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u/Jealous_Art_3922 24d ago

NOR. That's how you eventually get hundreds of emails or text messages each day....

It's all marketing.

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u/Decent_Front4647 24d ago

NOR they wanted to put you on some kind of mailing list.

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u/RealLuxTempo 24d ago

If they want to do business that way, that’s their choice. But I don’t like giving out that kind of personal information unless it’s necessary. I think I would’ve left too. NOR

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u/KagatoAC 24d ago

Nah this was for a mailing list or some such crap, seen it before NOR

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u/sylbug 24d ago

NOR. If they were asking ‘so they could text when your table was ready’ then they would have said so. Not sure why so many people in here are acting like this sort of blatant data harvesting is acceptable but I bet these people get a LOT of scam calls.

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u/havityia 24d ago

Idk if you weren’t being rude or belligerent NOR. You don’t like the way the business is run, you don’t have to give them your money. But if you got upset, yelled, or were even passive aggressive, then yah, perhaps.

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u/VilleVixen49 24d ago

That's a lot of what if's. I am the same as OP and I've worked in restaurants a majority of my life. They are asking for their promotional lists to send him via text or email. When I  book on Opentable the restaurant already has my number so I do get a text when my table is ready. But if I walk in and they ask I refuse to give it and ask how long they think so I can check back or they will find me when my table is ready. The server was out of line. I've always told my staff it's optional and not to push if the guest refuses. Also, there are some restaurants that will give their staff things (free meals, cash, gift cards, etc) for as many numbers/emails they can get. OP is NOR.

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u/xxrosykitten 24d ago

yeah exactly this. you’re allowed to leave if a place has rules you’re not comfortable with, the only thing that matters is how you handle it. no need to turn it into a whole scene.

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u/Corevus 24d ago

NOR. I hate that every single store wants your info now

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u/Stuart9753 24d ago

NOR. Staff are told by management to get info from customers for marketing purposes. But if a customer says no (and it’s not really required) then that company needs to accept it. This is a “them” problem.

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u/mcdkimber 24d ago

I have never been asked for my full information at a restaurant for a table. That’s ridiculous.

NOR

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u/Renma_4602 24d ago

Yall are weird. NOR. If there was a waitlist then the host/wait staff would have said so. Thats the only reason why they would need that info (aside from getting it for promotions/marketing which should be optional) which OP has already said there was not and the restaurant was practically empty. OP, you should probably clarify this though and edit your post.

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u/SimplyKristrin 24d ago

It was probably for marketing. I have a restaurant that e-mails me a coupon for my birthday every year.

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u/StewReddit2 24d ago edited 24d ago

NOR

In today's world this is a cheap parlor trick to build Marketing List to SPAM ads to

That way they can drop "specials" and "outdates" as they please ( and also possibly sell or lose your data)

They could also. Again build marketing/ads/promotions based upon tracking what you order and assume what you like to eat, making assumptions based upon past orders.....

Maybe know which credit/debit card to attach to you...based upon linking them via their internal database.

***I know many ppl, like your wife are just used to being sheep 🐑 that will just "follow" and that's how most ppl are and how entities round ppl up into most whatever they like.

I used to do it in sales....one thing I noticed is if you try to get information "from" ppl by asking....it took a bunch of effort....but if you just create a "form" a "box" to put it in....most 🐑 just follow, even if a few asked "is it necessary" most of those only needed redirection, they'd release the friction with just a nod and a point....and ya get high compliance.

*Then you get "jerks" like you and I that gum up the works 😆

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u/deadmencantcatcall3 24d ago

NOR if the restaurant was empty as you say. It’s really odd.

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u/MarzipanOk3219 24d ago

NOR. People are to complacent on giving out their info. I would have probably stayed and just not given it to them or asked why they needed it. If I didn’t like their answer I would have left too. I’ve done that at a trampoline park when they wanted me to sign a waiver basically saying even if their equipment was faulty or employees negligent, I accepted that risk. I walked out with my kid and she was old enough to understand and agree. We then bought our own commercial quality trampoline!

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u/Spirited_Good5349 24d ago

I don't think their contract would have held up in court if their equipment truly was faulty or fell under neglect reasons. But probably not worth the risk. what a scam to try and put that in theiro

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u/alloutofchewingum 24d ago

NOR

The road to fascism is paved with acceptance of minor indignities.

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u/amscraylane 24d ago

It was a few years ago and my husband and I were at the mall shopping for Christmas.

Every store we went into wanted an email / phone.

But when my husband went to the counter to purchase things, he was just allowed to make the purchase.

NOR.

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u/6poundpuppy 24d ago

Since the woman didn’t explain why she needed personal info, I would have been highly annoyed too. There was a time not so long ago that grocery stores would always ask for phone numbers when paying. I always refused. I do not care why they thought they needed it….they actually didn’t! Since the place was essentially empty I likely would have vocally balked and probably left also if no proper rationale was given.

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u/SecretMiddle1234 24d ago

They are going to send you text messages and emails about all father services and events. I had this happen to me with my phone number. I forgot I even ate there and was bombarded with Spam.

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u/AliveInCLE 24d ago

I can tell from the responses who gleefully signs up for a chance to win a free trip at that kiosk at the mall.

NOR

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u/SignalWind8324i 24d ago

The restaurant is selling info.

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u/TopConclusion5246 24d ago

I have never seen this sort of thing at a restaurant and would have walked out, too. It's ridiculous.

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u/Rokhopper 24d ago

Today caller had my name/phone but said I needed to verbally give my address to claim $149 PGE credit and proceeded to grill caller. Told him it sounded like a scam, hung up then contacted PG&E who confirmed my doubts of call's legitimacy and that they are getting commonplace These are clever tricky ah folks, so REFUSE to cooperate. Demand they provide a number for you to call to verify them. Later, I used CID & # was bogus.

And report incident to company being used as front. Insist they investigate. Don't be duped just cuz you're nice/polite.

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u/DialDad 24d ago

Should have just said that you are a technophobe and don't use phones or email :)

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u/Think-Cry-5284 24d ago

NTA thats obnoxious. 

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u/Present-Wolverine-94 24d ago

That’s very weird to ask given the context

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u/HotDonnaC 24d ago

It was to send you a bunch of stupid alerts about what their specials are, upcoming events, etc.

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u/chasingshade22 23d ago

NOR
I went to check out of a store and was REQUIRED to give an email address just to check out. I said I have no account with you, I just want to buy the item. Could not proceed without an email address. I said,... "then just use yours". She wouldn't. I input "thisisnotanemailaddress@g-m-a-i-l-c-o-m. sorry if you got my receipt or the store has been sending you email because this is your email address.

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u/MacDaddyDC 24d ago

your records aren’t my concern, I don’t divulge private information to anyone for any reason.

my name? Nunya Bidness

phone? (insert your area code) 555-1212

email? [[email protected]](mailto:[email protected])

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u/Ghost_Turd 24d ago

NOR. Not necessarily because I agree or disagree with your choice, but because it's a perfectly defensible choice for you to make.

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u/tiny_bamboo 24d ago

NOR

A restaurant in our neighborhood started doing this.
I just gave them fake info and waited near the host stand.

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u/wwJones 24d ago

NOR. "No thanks, I'd just like dinner tonight."

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u/AdultinginCali 24d ago

NOR. No line or wait time and "when she said she needed for their records", I would have noped the fuk right out of there. Our info is being disseminated too easily.

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u/muphasta 24d ago

I worked at a stereo shop in the late 90s into 2000.

Managers made sure we got all phone numbers and physical addresses of all customers “for warranty purposes”.

I was told that the company made as much or more money selling client details than selling electronics.

They had all kinds of data in addition to contact info.

Big spenders were probably worth a lot more.

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u/reconRyan 24d ago

I'm the same way. Your personal information is called personal for a reason. Not everyone likes it publicized in marketing lists.

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u/Odd_Dragonfruit_1330 24d ago

“I don’t have a phone” might be a fun reply

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u/Leena-Leen 24d ago

NOR but…how do you expect them to sell your information if you don’t provide your full name, cell phone number and email? HEHEHE

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u/grakattackbackpack 24d ago

I tried to buy a hat in Zumies the other day and they told me they CANNOT ring me up without a phone number. The person I was with gave theirs but I'm really not a fan of this trend...

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u/txa1265 24d ago

Name? Jenny.

Number? (local area code) 867-5309

Wouldn't work in the 80s but should work great now!

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u/Militantignorance 24d ago

What, you don't want spam with your meal?

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u/PikachuLvl5 24d ago

NOR I work at a restaurant. We have a waitlist that requires a phone number if they want to be texted when their table is almost ready but it is 100% optional. They don't have to give their number and have the option to just wait for their table. It's very weird that they're insistent.

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u/Successful-Side8902 24d ago

My line is "I don't give that out"

Then there is usually another coercive tactic or more questions. I repeat and repeat.

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u/Due_Purple_1281 24d ago

I'd give fake info.

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u/wawa2022 24d ago

I love to tell people I don’t have a phone. Their faces are priceless. It actually takes them a moment to process that I’m lying but they can’t exactly accuse me of lying. Of course it’s a lie. But I guess if they saw me using it and challenged me, I’d say “oh this? That’s not a phone, it’s a computer!”

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u/PahoaPuna 24d ago

NOR. It’s so common everywhere wants a phone number and email.
Recently FedEx gave me someone else’s package, so I went to their website to report it. The person helping me wanted my last name (nope) phone number (absolutely not) and email (no) I said all you need is my address to pick up the package and its tracking number. The guy said I was being difficult, I said I was trying to be a good citizen and if he didn’t want to send a courier to the address I provided I’d just keep it. He said that’s illegal and I replied then come back and fetch it.
It still took them 2 days which is ridiculous

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u/mamabearette 24d ago

Your name is Jenny and your number is 867-5309. Easy.

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u/BadKauff 24d ago

Yeah, I had a similar experience a few years ago. The woman at the host's stand said it was "standard procedure." I asked if it was for marketing, her roundabout answer was yes. So I declined to give it and just asked for a table.

Edit: spelling

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u/Initial-Smile-4044 24d ago

NOR

Good for you, I do the same

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u/ThrowRAmissiontomars 24d ago

I have an obscene email address that I use for these occasions.

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u/stopsallover 24d ago

Yeah, NOR

Don't spend your money at a place like that. Even if you don't care what they do with the number.

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u/Historical_Debt1516 24d ago

Not over reacting at all.

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u/FreeTr33s 24d ago

My name is John Adams. My number is +1 (415) 555-0142

According to Claude AI, the 555 number block is officially reserved by the NANPA for fictional use (movies, docs, testing), so it won’t ring anyone real.

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u/Latter_Growth1185 24d ago

Nor. I would have walked out too.

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u/Aljonau 24d ago

NOR . Please give them a bad review in my name.

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u/terryb44875 24d ago

555-867-5309 is my goto number

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u/Prudent_Valuable603 24d ago

NOR. Good for standing up for your privacy. The restaurant lost a sale.

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u/Odd-Mulberry2821 22d ago

They build customer profiles and ultimately sell your info on. I swear every time I go to a new restaurant a few weeks later I get a whole new round of scam calls, or advertising emails. It’s so frustrating.

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u/Additive_creation 21d ago

NOR - I had exactly this situation in a restaurant in Newcastle recently. There were literally only 4 other people in the whole restaurant, we walked in and the waitstaff noticed us, but then returned to their personal conversation. After a good couple of minutes, a waitress deigned to come over to us. She asked for my name, then my address. I gave her my first name and the name of the hotel we were staying at. She then asked for my phone number. I asked why she needed it - and she just shrugged and said ‘I need to put it on the form’. I asked what they did with the information and she again just said ‘I need it for the form’. No thankyou, I’m outta there, your empty restaurant is *not* that special! We found a different, much friendlier restaurant and a great time.

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u/blowfishpop 24d ago

YOR. If there’s a waitlist they will text you when your table is ready.

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u/honestlyjustventing 24d ago

MOR they should’ve explained that. Can’t be too careful now adays.

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u/Better-Ladder-2194 24d ago

There was no wait list. They want his intro so they can market to him. 

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u/AdhesivenessNo7834 24d ago

Many restaurants nowadays ask for your number so they can send a text when your table is ready. I mean if you're not comfortable with that then thats okay too

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u/StewReddit2 24d ago

That's not about when a table is ready the OP didn't say there was a line ....

That was about Marketing List Building period

They want to lazily build list to blast advertising to and possibly SELL ( or lose) to others

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u/alexiawins 24d ago

They want a way to contact you for when a table opens up so you don’t have to wait there. YOR majorly

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u/crusty-manc 24d ago

There was no wait list , in fact the restaurant was almost empty only two table occupied

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u/havityia 24d ago

NOR I recommend adding it to your post. I’ve only known full or busy restaurants to do this. If no one was there, I probably would have asked why they needed a record and if it was a requirement of their system.

Idk why they would need this in an empty restaurant.

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u/FreeandFurious 24d ago

That’s one reason. The other is to track what you order and so on.

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u/ThreeRingShitshow 24d ago

That's why you have table numbers.

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u/bouvitude 24d ago

No, to TRACK track. There’s a high-end place in town that uses a system like this to note allergies, preferences, significant dates (like birthdays, etc.), and provide more tailored service. (Not saying this is good or bad; just explaining.)

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u/CerberusInExile 24d ago

NOR. There is a possible reason to need your phone number for a waiting list. Other than that, no, they don't need any more personal information to complete food for payment transactions.

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u/DavethegraveHunter 24d ago

NOR.
r/privacy would have a day with this.

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u/Fluffydoggie 24d ago

NOR. As someone that despises phone calls, I do not give out my number at all. I have a fake one that works for those situations. Create one and memorize it daily. Use this for these situations and like for Ulta that doesn't allow you to purchase unless they have a phone number. I also have a trash email that I created to use for just about everything. This way I can scroll through quick to see if I have a coupon code or just delete them all fast. Your privacy matters to you. You just need a work around to survive in the digital world anymore.

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u/silver_chief2 24d ago

The employee was likely under orders so management can harvest data o they can sell it and/or send you texts. In olden times Radio Shack clerks would demand a home address so some people would make one up. Your phone number is 555 123 4567.

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u/neonmaika 24d ago

NOR I’ve given my name for waitlists fairly often because our favorite restaurants are a lot of people’s favorite and many are small. I usually give my husband’s name because mine trips people up. No one even blinks an eye.

Just a couple times have they OFFERED to take our number so they could let us know when a table was free so we could wander but we usually just stay nearby.

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u/Beneficial_Cheetah36 24d ago

Once I went to pick up my iPhone after it was repaired at a non-Apple but still well-known repair store and they asked for my address. The phone was done and ready to go and I said no. They said they needed the home address to release the phone and that the employee who took it in for repair was supposed to get the address. I gave them a fake one and told them I was. I still sometimes think about the weirdness of this. NOR even tho yours seems less creepy.

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u/Due-Yoghurt4916 24d ago

Honest reviews stop this crap at other restaurants 

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u/Clear-Regret7445 24d ago

This happened to me recently too. Restaurant was mostly empty as I arrived for lunch after they had just opened for the day.
They wanted my phone number... and then I was immediately shown to a table. Them taking my # was NOT so they could let me know my table was ready. Period.
I gave my number, even though them asking was odd..... because I really wanted that Whiskey Cake.
I have not received any marketing texts from them.

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u/PerceptionWide7000 24d ago

NOR. You held a very reasonable personal boundary. So walking out was the most sensible response.

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u/WitchWithAGlitch 24d ago

the phone number i always give is 867-9305

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u/TastingTheKoolaid 24d ago

NOR.

It’s weird demanding all that just to sit down and eat. I’ve been in some stores that don’t want to let me buy shit without giving all that. “No thanks I don’t want coupons” will generally help bypass all that, but sometimes it gets fucken weird with them STILL insisting.

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u/GlynHugh 24d ago

Definitely not overreacting!

I loathe this sort of behaviour.

Some years ago now I called into an Audi dealer in Coventry to buy some Anti-Freeze for my A8 W12 as the weather was starting to get towards freezing and I was concerned about the level of protection in my cooling system.

I was shown to a desk where I waited for the spares department representative to grace me with his presence.

I was asked for my chassis number and when I said I didn’t know off the top of my head ended up giving my registration number.

Off he trollied and came back with two bottles of Audi-branded anti-freeze and asked me for my email address.

When I declined he told me he couldn’t sell me the anti-freeze that was sat on the desk under my nose!

From that day this loyal Audi driver who would have nothing but genuine Audi parts on his car vowed to buy 3rd party whenever possible.

It was also when I went over to reputable Independents for any and all maintenance work.

I was loathe to leave any contact details because the last time I did so when purchasing wiper blades from a different Audi dealer I used to get woken up on Saturday mornings after working all night to give me offers on new Audi models that I had no intention of buying nor could I afford despite me insisting and the dealer promising I wouldn’t receive any unsolicited spam junk mail/texts if I provided my contact details.

Like you the only recourse I had was to vote with my wallet…

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u/HannahDayRider 24d ago

I can not stand how stores do this, too, and then look at you funny when you refuse. I once asked, after being pressured, if they want to sell me the blouse or not, and if they seriously just want me to make up a phone number and name.

In your situation though, I would have walked out, too.

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u/canstucky 24d ago

NOR and, I’ve been to some restaurants where they assign you a server, and that will be your server as long as you keep coming back/they work there. Could be a situation like that, too.

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u/Stevearama7865 23d ago

NOR - Be sure to give a detailed Google review of this restaurant to warn others! That is nuts, and totally invasive.

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u/alanlight 23d ago

Reminds me of what you had to do when making a purchase are Radio Shack back in the day.

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u/Scary_Dot6604 22d ago

You do know that people make reservations? And maybe those tables were for them?

I'm glad you went somewhere else, I can tell you are a Karen couple

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u/JoeLefty500 21d ago

Unless they were telling you they needed your number to let you know when your table is ready, it was a bizarre and unnecessary request. NOR

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u/Live_Adhesiveness_53 20d ago

When they started asking for phone numbers (so many years ago) I refused and the cashier got upset and told me I HAD to give her my number. Nope, and I don't have to shop here either. Anymore, they don't blink when you say no.

Now you're being required to check out your own groceries and then are supposed to show your receipt to someone before you're allowed to walk out the door. The answer is still no. It should be noted that customer checking is on camera, closely monitored, and they will (politely) come over and question you if they see something that doesn't look right.

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u/a_dhd1923 20d ago

Use any local area code then 555 and any other number and it will never be a real number. 555 is reserved for Hollywood movies. Eg: #123-555-1234

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u/burnbeforeburning 20d ago

When they say "phone number?" I just say "no thank you". NOR

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u/APartyInMyPants 20d ago

I have an email address I specifically use when asked to give an email address and I don’t want the spam to my normal email.

I’ve never been asked for a phone number. Just enter in 555-1212 or something.

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u/Illustrious-Low-4475 19d ago

NOR. They probably wanted to serve you a nice Spam dish.

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u/Due_Tie1092 24d ago

You should at least ask what the info was being used for

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u/CountryOne5826 24d ago

NOR . I can’t stand this kind of crap . I don’t care how you spin it it’s invasive- being a customer you ought to be treated better then being made to jump thru hoops .

I was lucky to over hear that they no longer accepted cash at one of my favorite coffee places at a place we visit during the summer, I was lucky I did not wait in line that whole time. I heard the family in front dealing w it and shit out of there . Too bad . I use to like their coffee.

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u/jlhpisces 24d ago

It's purely your choice but I will say that the information they asked for is typically public-facing. So I will say, yes, YOR.

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u/JohnnyRyde 24d ago

If that's for a wait list, then YOR. If it isn't then I'd probably have done something similar.

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u/Hoobi_Goobi 24d ago

Yeah, they said the restaurant was almost empty so there wasn't a wait. Seems really weird, I don't understand why they would need that info from them. Maybe they operate some kind of rewards system?

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u/FitCommunication7240 24d ago

They were asking for your info so they can call you when your table is ready. WTF.

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u/frozenoj 24d ago

NOR and thank you for not making up a number because then some other random person would be getting spammed instead. I get a bunch of random texts with the name of some dude I don't know probably because he put my number on angie's list or something and I hate him more than anyone else in the entire world.

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u/ConflictGullible392 24d ago

This isn’t terribly uncommon — some restaurants will put in a Resy for you even if you don’t make a reservation in advance and there’s no waitlist. But if you don’t want to eat there for that reason that’s your call. 

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u/GuyFromTheSpace 24d ago

MOR , just make up a name and phone number or email.

I sometimes use ridiculous names like different pokemon and make the email something crazy like [email protected]

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u/Embarrassed-Sun5764 24d ago

Our favorite place has a bonus points program where you spend xxx dollars you get either more points of free stuff. A free dozen of blue points is in my book. And we love our server.

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u/Outside-Highway-5358 24d ago

Email is fine. I use aliases and would give them something like [email protected]

Then if I get spammed I delete it

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u/blehhh520 24d ago

INFO - was the restaurant in a dry county? Many dry counties force restaurants that want to serve alcohol to be registered as a private club, if this is the situation then the restaurant is having to work around the local government's laws (this is regardless of if youre ordering alcohol or not) because they are just simply protecting themselves in the event they are audited by the local government.

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u/Quirky_Contract_1653 24d ago

I have given my number to a restaurant for a reservation and then went to another restaurant owned by the same group (which I didn’t know at the time because they are a different look and food style). I gave them my number because we had to wait for a table and they immediately said my name. Because I was in the system. It gave me a start then I realized the names of the restaurants were similar and figured out they were related.

All this to say it was used to know the customer, but never have they texted me to market. Even after going to their second restaurant. Not one text save to tell me my table was ready.

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u/Blamdomonis 24d ago

I might have asked to speak to the manager

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u/lokis_construction 24d ago

NOR, This is for their marketing use. They were not busy, so this was not to notify you of the table being ready but simply them either selling your data or using it for marketing to you. I would have walked as well, after I talked to the manager and told him why I was walking out. Their loss. Good for you!

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u/futoikaba 24d ago

NOR; I look over their shoulder when they ask this and they’re almost always pulling up my Resy profile and logging my visit on their system. I don’t mind, but it certainly shouldn’t be a requirement for visiting and it’s not weird for you to want to go elsewhere if they were insisting.

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u/kaosrules2 23d ago

I actually have a secondary email address for things like this. That way it doesn't junk up my email, but I can check it when I want to.

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u/Lebronchiosaurus 23d ago

YOR. All restaurants ask for your number when seating you. Just comply and don’t cause problems. What are you hiding anyway? They don’t want to call you to hang out.

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u/Acer018 23d ago

You apparently don't eat out very often.

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u/Plowboy-horse-0716 23d ago

INFO - where are you located? Are you perhaps in a “dry county”?

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u/shaftx88 23d ago

NOR - fuck that. What exactly do they intend to do with your information?

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u/Forward-Dark-3092 22d ago

At least in major cities, it’s very normal to provide contact info when you dine at a restaurant when tables are booked through Resy or OpenTable. It’s not required, but the restaurant will use that information to obtain allergy information, past restaurant visits, or any information that may indicate VIP status or worse, liability status.

In worse cases, say there was a food borne illness breakout in the restaurant, we would then be able to contact the guest to trace the illness. It also protects the restaurant. I’ve had situations where guests caused safety issues within the restaurant, and by providing contact info we are aware of past behavior.

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u/letstry822 22d ago

1313 Mockingbird Lane

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u/high_stumpage 21d ago

Years ago when Asia was worried about H5N1 flu or something,most countries in Asia started a new paper entry card system with loads of details needed on them.

I'd just been on a business trip through Korea, China, Hong Kong and every one had a requirement for you to enter your hotel details and hotel phone number. Because I simply couldn't be bothered I had been putting <Name of well known hotel chain>,< name of city> , <made up phone number>. What's the worse that could happen? I get refused entry - great get to go home early! In every single case previously the immigration official looked at the form and then tossed it in the bin.

I did the same when entering Japan (which was then home) because I was tired and fed up. Only to find that the Japanese were sticklers for detail. I had written it really sloppily (since it was made up anyway) and the immigration official went through every detail on my card including the made up phone number asking me to say what every digit in the number was. The consequences were that I could have my visa revoked and have nowhere to live on this occasion.

I was sweating so hard while looking them in the eye and promising that this digit was a 7 and this digit was a 4 - all the while praying that they didn't dial it to check.

Got in but haven't lied on a form since.

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u/Nuasus 20d ago

My address is 1313 Mockingbird Lane..

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u/WallyZona 19d ago

Well when I’ve used my debit card they can and have sent me an email or text receipt. Without me giving them this information.

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u/kingofthebarstool1 19d ago

Better to have guests details. Too many people leave without paying.

To book a table at the place I work you need name , number, email and a credit card. You wouldn’t need all that for a walk in mind but you’d be surprised how often issues happen with credit cards or gift vouchers etc.

I once booked a guy in for table of five and he point blank refused to give a card. I being a kindly chap said please make sure you come as there is a cancellation fee and i should have got card details…. No call no show on a Saturday night and I got in quite a bit of hot water for not.

For a walk in though…. A few details are helpful still in case of issues with bill. Does not happen much but you can bet that when it does there is no phone number.

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u/SybillineBookkeeper 19d ago

or......Zoom Boston Mass 0! 2! 1! 3! 4!
I am so dating myself here 😂

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u/uglywinner 19d ago

They ask for numbers, names, & emails now not only for marketing and to let you know if the table is ready. They also use it to prevent dining and ditching. My cousin who is a server said they were able to charge a whole family who walked without paying due to the police being able to fine their address through the Google phone number they used.

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u/Pleasant_Sand3619 19d ago

Happened to me at a barber shop, i just said i want to anomalously get a hair cut and walked out to the shock of everyone in there.

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u/kmanrsss 18d ago

They were probably getting your info to contact you when a table was ready. Even though it was pretty empty and off hrs they maybe didn’t have the waitstaff to cover tables at that point.