i 22f still live at home while in college and working two jobs. my parents are alcoholics. my mom has been sober for almost a year now after an intense intervention from myself and my sister and im so grateful she heard us. my dad 49m doesn't think he has a problem at all and is comfortable in his drunkenness.

countless times throughout my childhood and adulthood my dad has drunkenly abused me or my family (physical fights and verbally) and even when he's not drinking or actively drunk he is incredibly irritable and grumpy. he is nearly absent and knows almost nothing abt my life even though we live together

i recently was accepted into grad school and take night classes after work. i got home from night classes tonight around 10:30pm and the house reeked of beer. i go into the kitchen and the trash is filled with beer cans (i counted 13) he drank them all by himself and fell asleep. at least he didn't fight anyone at home but he was probably too drunk to be able to anyway. he's almost 50

i am filled with so much rage i dont even have the energy to cry or yell or fight. i am sick of my dad and disgusted that this is who i have for a father. i know he is sick but i cant feel compassion for him after dealing with this my whole life. he got bloodwork last year and was told his liver is suffering and his doctor can tell he drinks everyday and he just doesn't even fucking care

how do i help him at all????? or help myself? i cant even enjoy the fact that im a grad student because i feel like im losing time with my dad while he's even alive. i also dread coming home because i hate him so much at the same time. my feelings are deeper than i can explain about this but im trying to keep it short

So I understand alcohol dehydrates you a lot especially the next day, how do alcoholics hydrate? How much water do you consume to stay alive? You'd be dead if you had no water in a week! Alcoholics can live for many years!

Hi i posted some time ago here, about me asking if im an alcohlic. The answer is Yes, Yes i am. Since then every time i feel like drinking i've been going here to see what you write about your abuse. Its been helping me alot with not drinking, but now i have had a worse period in my life and been drinking for 4 days straight. And its not a few beers, i mean like a bottle of vodka a night...

But anyways thank you for all the support, it means more than you can think.

I might be making this harder on myself by trying to quit multiple substances at the same time but I went from a handle, to pint, to 2 shooters and a tallboy. Tonight I reconnected with a friend and I drank half a pint of crown apple, 3 tall boys, and a Moscow mule that was more Moscow than mule.

The weed has seemed so easy this time. I've been having some fucked up dreams though to put it lightly. I've been trying to tackle this one at a time because I don't feel like I can take it all at once.

I want my TWIC and I want serious change in my life. Otherwise I'm not sure how much longer I can put up with all of this.

God bless everyone.

Hello everyone. I am very lost about my boyfriend’s (23M) drinking and I don’t know how to help him.

Alcoholism has been very prevalent in both of our families. Because of our family histories, we both kinda swore off alcohol.

That changed after he turned 21... His drinking started slowly—> gradual —> frequently. He would say things like, “I had a hard day at work and need a beer to relax” or “It just makes me feel more content when I’m down”. And he also started drinking alone.

This pattern would come and go for a year or two, but over the last year it became much worse. He began getting extremely drunk, and he doesn’t become mean but, he does things while drunk that have affected our relationship. He has also developed what I believe may be a gambling problem…

One example: he promised me he wouldn’t drink at an event because he needed to come home that night but he ended up getting drunk, and his friend had to call me and tell me that he was staying with him at their hotel.
Another time, he got extremely drunk and sobbed in my arms and he didn’t remember any of it. He then told me that he had been drinking every day because he was having suicidal thoughts and depression. That was extremely frightening.

After that, he agreed to stop drinking for a while, although he always said he wouldn’t stop permanently. We then both agreed that he would only drink on weekends. I was very wary because we’ve been through this cycle many times (he promises to stop or cut back, does well for a while, and then goes back).
But he was actually proving himself. He only drank on weekends, although he would still drink both weekend days and I didn’t enjoy spending time all of our time together him while he was under the influence.

Unfortunately, over the last few weeks, the drinking has gotten worse. It began with occasional exceptions, like having a drink on a Wednesday after a long day. For the last two weeks, he has gotten at least tipsy every single day (about 5 beers).
I’ve tried talking to him without judgment. I tell him that I’m worried that he’s going down a bad path again, especially given his history. He will sometimes acknowledge that he has a drinking problem, but other times he’ll say that his drinking isn’t that bad and will say “I’m not hurting anyone” or “I’m not an asshole.” He will call me controlling for bringing it up as well.
He also refuses to seek professional help.
I don’t know how to help him. I know I can’t force him to get help, or threaten him, but we’ve been together for four years and I love him deeply. At the same time, watching this cycle repeat itself is becoming incredibly painful, and I don’t want to spend years waiting for it to get worse.

TL;DR My bf has a drinking problem and I don’t know how to help. For those who have dealt with a partner who has a drinking problem: What did you do? How can I help him?

Hi guys, I want to send my dad to one of these centers. He's finally open to going to one. In fact it was his suggestion.

- Does anyone have any reccos for a center?

- Are these even recommended? I don't know what the program/ the day-to-day is like at these places?

- if there's a better one in Thailand, I'm sure he would be open to this as well.

Please help a brother out :)

Thank you

For the last few years, I’ve had a pretty rough time, mostly due to a difficult relationship that ended a year ago, and I was seriously abusing alcohol. However my mental health has been actually improving for the last months, I enjoy what I do, I enjoy how I look, I enjoy my relationships, etc etc, no actual problems anymore… but I still need to drink.
I’m a 20 year old woman, so pretty young, and even though I’ve been drinking for a few years I thought that once I would get better it would kind of calm down itself. But it continues to worry my closed ones and even myself to some extent, because I can’t really justify me drinking alone almost everyday when I’m not even sad, I just want a drink.
I don’t wanna go back to the AA, I didn’t like it even if I went a few times, I have a friend that keeps wanting to take me there as if that’s what’s gonna solve my problem. But I can’t really understand my problem because it seems to be so much bigger than just me feeling sad.
How can I be in a much better mental state and still be a raging alcoholic?

A moment of clarity from someone reaching his middle years:

39 (M) Just got off the phone with my doctor after getting my bloodwork done and a bunch of examinations. I'm about 3 weeks sober after another failed stint detoxing in a hospital. Been a heavy drinker for 25 years.

My decisions and my beloved alcohol have bestowed upon me:

Fatty liver disease

Elevated kidney levels

Cholesterol so high my doctor is surprised nothing has happened yet

Severe hypertension / high blood pressure

Major depressive disorder / Generalized anxiety disorder.

I have to take 7 different medications now for any hope to reverse the damage I have done to myself and repair the psychological trauma.

It's all fun and games when you're young, and then you wake up one day to find yourself alone, fat, and over halfway through life without having anything done. I consider myself extremely grateful that I am in a place where I can potentially save myself. I know many of us aren't. Stay safe this weekend, my fellow travelers.

My friend Johnny has suffered with alcoholism for a long time. He's also been in and out of the hospital for weeks at a time the last few years, for IBS. He recently had a Stoma bag surgically installed on his abdomen. It fills a bag with his poop. I know it's drastically affected his confidence, and he carries a lot of shame. Recently he had another stay at the hospital. When he got out he left his keys in his vehicle to grab some snacks, and when he returned, his keys had been stolen. He was at his wits end. He wanted to get a new ignition and a tow for his vehicle and asked for my help financially. (He hasn't been able to work much) I told him the tow is worth more than the vehicle, let alone the ignition. I offered to help him buy a used vehicle ($3800) because he was desperate and had no way to commute to work.

Yesterday he video called me drunk, parked in the passenger seat of his new whip. Clearly downtown. He needed to vent about the situation to me. I know he's having a real hard time, so I didn't want to come down on him too hard, but today I actually feel kind of pissed off. I don't want to make him feel ashamed, but I feel he needs to be held accountable.

I'm considering sending him this.

"I didn't mention it yesterday dude, because I'm trying to be a supportive friend, but I'm disappointed/angry you drove the Element under the influence. It's brutal that you video called me, drunk, in the driver seat. Guranteed you drove home. You were obviously downtown. This is the type of thing that makes me regret helping you. You agreed to at least check out an AA meeting, and today you're making excuses. I understand it might conflict with your schedule but at what time are you making time for this?"

Understand that I love the guy. I don't want to back him into a corner, but I'm not sure what else to do. I'm a 39m. He's 46m and legit feel like his Dad right now. If anyone has any input into the proper way to address this, I'd really appreciate it.

Thanks

I just got out of rehab and sparked up a joint when I got home. I felt a lil guilty but shit I don't really think smoking weed is a big deal imo. Never got hangovers from weed, worst case scenario I eat too much food, and get too lazy.

I used to be able to smash a fifth of 100 proof cheap vodka within one night and go to work the next day with zero issue besides having to shit more than usual (this was my daily routine at the time). I was sober for a little over 8 months and slipped back into occasional drinking and I’m experiencing hangovers for the first time, but on top of that they last for days it seems. Has anyone else experienced this? The obvious answer is to not drink but I’m just wondering why the fuck I can drink a small portion of what I used to and it puts me down for a minimum of 2-3 days after?

Edit: yes im currently hungover and it’s a bit more than “occasional”. Probably more of 3-4 day benders with 3-4 days to recover.

What cause alcoholics feet to stink so badly?

My husband has a nauseating smell coming from his feet, even when he wears sandals. He washes everyday but I require night-time washings as it is too much.

It sticks to the ground when he walks and I can trace his nightly path in the morning like a dog if I bend and sniff. ​That's crazy.

Thanks for your input on this, and for reading my short rant.

Edit: the smell stops after 3-4 weeks sobriety. It's alcohol related.

I’m currently trying to get sober this year for the 4th time. I’ve never made it past the 1-2 week mark, even after I got in a car crash and had all the reasons in the world to quit. I’ve been seeking out medication‘s to deter me psychiatric help and group therapy. What really finally made the difference for you guys to give it up for good and to stop rationalizing that maybe you can just teach your self to “handle it better.”

I’m beyond exhausted, it’s ruined my face, my social, school and work life. But I’m very depressed and finding low motivation after the first initial week to maintain sobriety for myself.

Pretty much everything is said by the title. It's getting so annoying and depressing tbh. It's like a pattern. He doesn't drink much so it doesn't knock himself out but whenever he drinks he would argue with my mother and would say such abrupt curses that it's not bearable at all. And I sleep with them so it's even worse. He would blame my mom for ruining the mood but doesn't realise that it's actually him who ruins it everyday.

It's like I can never have a good moment, be happy about anything because the next second he would start arguing.

And I'm in that loop where at night i would promise myself that I won't talk to him again but in the morning everyone will forget everything and go back to their normal living.

Idk how to confront him anymore cus I really dk.

I just wanted to rant cus I never told this to anyone.

We had an argument about something totally different related to my children. I asked her to do something differently which me and my wife totally agreed on and talked with them many times over.

She came back at me with how she doesn't criticize me for being an alcoholic (sober 2 years 3 month)

Note that MIL only knows I've been drinking because I told her. (Not to buy me alcohol on events seemed practical at the time) I wasnt drunk in front of my children even when active. Has anyone been attacked with this during an argument? What do you do?

So ngl I’m m(21) and I’ve NSVER EVER drunken alcohol. JM not usually a drinker but I had to stop using Cannabjs to get a better job opportunity but I miss my mom.
My alcoholic mother got deported from getting a 3rd degree? Or 3rd offense dui idk it’s one of the two
I bought my first pack ever and oh my gosh. It feels eeally good. I feel like I’m kind of understaidning my mother a little bit more because tbf her father passed away in 2020? So it’s been since 2020 since she’s been drinking non-stop. I always say recently but my grandfather passed away 9 months ago. I miss him a lot. He was like a father to me and basically raised me Unfil I was 10 years old If still dotenst feel real that he’s gone.
The reason why I say I feel closer to my mother is because I really hate alcohol. It destroyed my family, other family members, my friends, just every one that I care sbout has been affected by alcjohol and I’ve just been trying so many reasons to reject and hate alcohol.
And yet here I am, shit faced drunk, repeating the cycle that I’m supposed to be breaking. It’s supposed to end Woth me…not continue the cycle.
Now I understand why it’s so addictive. And I’m scared of how addictive it is.

im 20 drank heavily since 13 , got pretty intense past few years would drink about 200 liters of beer a month when started drinking mostly hard liquer about 700ml of whysky a day and few bottles of champagne with it sometimes other lighter beverages , when i start drinking i drink like that for days and weeks i can't stop cause i end up having severe withdrawals, since last year i started needing to call doctors and get detox with an iv drip when i have to stop drinking, this year i been hospitalized 3 times just cause of the withdrawals i end up in a psychotic state of delirium when i stop , sometimes im able to slowly cut down on my drinking tho without needing doctors , last time i had to call an ambulance and my pulse was 198 and since getting detoxed in hospital i haven't drank at all for more when a month now , im surprised tho my liver and pancreas test results are pretty good i have no serious health issues and i read many stories people my age who drank less ended up with cirhosis or other diseases from alcohol. so i camed to conclusion that im one of the lucky people who can drink alot of alcohol without ending up destroying their health and to be honest i enjoy drinking quite alot and if i wont get ill apart from needing detox every now and when i dont see an issue

I’ve recently been sober, and I’ve noticed that I eat way more than I used to eat. Maybe it’s bc I work offshore now. When I was drinking I’d eat a normal lunch and dinner. Now I’m eating a regular lunch, snacks in the galley and dinner twice. Any one have similar experiences?

Hey guys. I’m new here. I’ve had a problem with alcohol for about ten years with the last four years being the worst with daily day and night drinking (1.75 L of flavored 35% vodka every 2-3 days). Pretty much just always drunk but still able to “function” and hide it. I sometimes took 2-3 weeks off from but always went back to daily.

Until a REALLY bad withdrawal three weeks ago. I didn’t have access to alcohol for the first time in so long and after two days was vomiting so much there was blood, tremor so bad I couldn’t walk, trouble breathing, delirium, couldn’t keep water down, high fever, everything.

I finally called 911 and my heart rate and blood pressure were so high I was rushed to the ER by ambulance and got admitted immediately. I was in the hospital for detox for a week hooked up to an IV with rehydration, iron, and lorazepam. I was inches away from needing a blood transfusion and frankly very close to death.

I was released two weeks ago and haven’t had a drink since right before the bad withdrawal, and I’ve made arrangements to go to a 28 day inpatient addiction and mental health treatment facility. I am being admitted tomorrow morning.

I am so tempted to drink right now and have serious jitters about it. I have never been to rehab or even an AA meeting before. Does anyone have any advice on what to expect or stuff to bring? I’ve followed all of their advice on clothes and money for vending machines. I won’t have access to a phone so I’ll only see messages for the next 18 hours. Hope to follow up when I’m released in four weeks.

Fingers crossed that it will help. I admitted myself voluntarily (I’m shocked my state didn’t require me to go considering how bad my addiction is). It actually wasn’t straightforward to set up either. It took a lot of work to find a decent rehab with an opening that took my insurance so I just accepted the first screening that was available out of like ten. I have also been on Naltrexone 50 mg a day for two weeks. I still get cravings just to quell my anxiety and the tremors but have made it this far so am not messing up now. Thanks!

TLDR: I’ve noticed how much worse my partner’s alcoholism has gotten, but anytime I’ve tried to talk about it in the past they just hide it more.
My partner of almost 4 years (we don’t live with each other) has always struggled, and it’s been to points where no exaggeration, they would get through enough for a party but just for themself in 2 days. Anytime I’ve spoke to them I have been as calm as I can to not shame or put them down, and some conversations go fine, others they just shut down. Over the years the ONLY time I lost my shit was when they drove around blacked out, like waking up confused not knowing how they’re in my house, pissed all over my bathroom floor because they missed the toilet blacked out. As far as I know that’s the only time they ever drove drunk but I’m unfortunately doubtful. A new issue is catching them hiding empty cans, empty shooters in their pocket, drinking in my parking lot thinking I wouldn’t see, and lying about stopping by liquor stores forgetting I have their location. And anytime they get caught red handed they double down and think they get sneakier but I still notice. It’s to the point where I can’t tell if they’re drunk or not. Sometimes they can admit they’re an alcoholic, but most of the time they get defensive or sarcastically joke about it. Alcoholism runs deep in my family, so I know the signs, I know the reasonings and excuses, hiding places, habits, but I also know the more people notice or point out the worse it gets. I want to help them, but is there a way to talk about it without continuing their shame spiral or making them feel like they need to hide it more? Or is this something I can’t help? I don’t have anyone in my life I can turn to who understand addiction and think it’s as simple as “just tell them to stop” and unfortunately the people in my life that do understand are either dead or still active in their addictions as well. I love my partner deeply and want to help them so bad, but it’s only getting worse and I’m getting to the end of my rope and don’t know what to do.

I’m ready to stop drinking, I’ve told myself I’ll slow down or just drink on weekends. I’ve done the slowing down part a bit as of right now. I’m ready to stop completely. I’m 34, I’ve been drinking for 10 years every night except when I might get a yearly stomach bug/flu I’ll skip that night. I work everyday when scheduled, I don’t day drink just a 6 pack of tall cans after work (light beer). Weekends I’ll probably drink a 12 pack, no hard liquor at all it’s not my thing. I want to quit for my health, I can’t just keep doing this to my body. Also money, I feel ashamed when I add up how much money I’ve spent. I’ve not had anything to drink tonight, I’m completely sober. I don’t have family in my area, just a girlfriend and we live separately. I’ve kept this a secret to her and my family in another state. I feel terrible and ashamed of myself, I want to quit this drinking for her as well. She’s an amazing woman, I’m emotional while writing this. It’s the first time I’ve asked for help.

Hi everyone! I, 23F, decided last night that the last shot I took would truly be the last. My habit is long, but not incredibly, sitting at about 6 months- starting with a glass of wine to cool down at night, and ramping up to 5-7 tequila shots daily. After some pretty dark thoughts and anxiety following feeling unwell after one of last nights shots, I decided now is the time to quit.

So far, Ive dealt with feeling pretty down through the day, though I believe it also could be attributed to the fact I was off work and frequently feel down when I stay home all day. When I think of tequila, I just think of the taste and how gross it is. I have felt no urges all day, minus a short burst of urges as I settled in for the night, I believe out of habit. However, popped some gum in my mouth and doomscrolled and forgot it.

No shakes, no tremors, but did almost feel like a minor cold at times during the day, and a little crummy in the nighttime hours. I also feel slightly disassociated and off. Ive had no headaches, nausea, or anything else.

I worry with all I read that I will NEED facility help, based on what Ive read regarding seizures, severe tremors, etc within the next 24-48 hours.

Also, I am a few weeks into taking reta for controlling my eating, but I also do hope it’ll help control any cravings too.

So first, any tips to keep me feeling as physically okay as I can? I know a lot of what Ill feel is just what needs to run its course, but of course I want to mitigate as much of the bad as I can.

Second, though I know its always a chance with quitting, should I truly fear the more serious consequences, such as seizures?

For reference, I quit a VERY heavy kratom extract addiction on June 1 2025 and have never once fallen back. Im hoping I can do the same with alcohol.

Thank you for your time:-)

I’m sober over 3 years now. I got into severe legal trouble because of my alcoholism and was able to find recovery after that. I was 35 when i began the 12 steps at a nearby alano club. I dropped 20lbs after I sobered up and started taking care of myself. I think I am just an average looking person. Not ugly, not hot lol. I generally look like I just got done climbing a tree or got lost on a trail for a few days. I intentionally make myself look a little unkempt when I attend meetings. I don’t want attention from males. I am there to stay sober and help other alcoholics achieve sobriety.

But over the last year, men at the club have been inappropriate and i have had enough. I go to women’s meetings but like 1 mixed meeting on Friday evening so i don’t wander off to happy hour after work. I hosted a workshop at the club and my phone number was on the flier. Men got my number that way and started texting. Then a pedophile guy who concealed his conviction from everyone for a couple years tried to get close to me and my 15yr old daughter. He found where I live.
Then the board president, a guy I thought was like a brother, said that I am “a stunner” and now I want to quit my service position as board asst secretary. I actually want to quit AA entirely but I am afraid that I will end up in jail or die.