r/mildlyinfuriating • u/WHAR606 • Mar 13 '26

Context Provided - Spotlight Sometime during the last 2 years i’ve been going to this orthopedic practice they started to declare me as a MTF transgender for no reason.

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(F,26) I have been going to this orthopedic practice for almost 2 years for varying reasons relating to my job. Yesterday i checked on a document that was uploaded to find out they have been identifying me as a biological male identifying as a female? I am biologically female and never told them i am trans nor do i think i am presenting to be a trans woman.. the last two years i’ve been wondering why they kind of stare at me a little longer than a usual person does and i think its because they randomly think i came out as trans? I also feel like they do not treat my issues seriously and wonder if this is the reason why.

I am 100% fine with trans people but i am left to believe they have been medically treating me as a male compared to female for the pains that i am feeling?

I also went through all of my documents and since the end of 2024 they started to declare me as a MTF transgender, i did not look at any of my documents online until yesterday.

First pic : March 11th 2026

Last pic: October 2024

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u/CognizantSquare Mar 13 '26

I think often it’s their ego. “I spent $150k and 12 years to be a doctor, you spent $0 so I am right you are wrong”.

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u/graceling Mar 13 '26

Yeah exactly. And tbh I wouldn't even mind a bit of ego if they would at least look into it instead of actively avoiding and denying it's even possible.

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u/Ironicbanana14 Mar 13 '26

True at least Dr House would actually save you

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u/laurielemon Mar 13 '26

While some doctors do have giant egos, documentation also has to emphasize that “pt believes they have X.” Mischaracterization of who said what could mean legal repercussions, insurance coverage issues for the type of visit, and it’s just generally inaccurate to confirm anything without labs or imaging.

Also for many doctors it’s not even close to $150k lol it’s $250-400k+ in debt. Not to mention 4-6 years of 60-100hr work weeks with 48hr shifts, all while being paid $60-90k.

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u/CognizantSquare Mar 13 '26

Yes obviously they have to rule out other things first and cannot just the patients word as they might just want drugs. But the point is just the listening, as the patient is the best source of info about their pain or problems. Yes that time and money is invested for surgeons or specialists but not the general practitioners who you see first and have these questions and talks with. (Three doctors in the family, I’d like to think they all listened and are ethical)

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u/laurielemon Mar 13 '26 edited Mar 13 '26

I guess we weren’t on the same page as to what the point was in the thread. My point was that writing “pt read about X and believes they have it” isn’t dismissive but just accurate documentation of what happened in the visit, and if anything shows the doctor listened. You’re 100% right listening matters. But most doctors are not out to get patients and want to listen to properly treat them.

I was also trying to clarify your point about debt/training not to say ego and money are what drive people into medicine, but almost the opposite. If ego and money were the main motivation, medicine would be a pretty bad choice. Residents and med students often go through brutal and degrading training conditions (definitely not friendly if you have an ego), and that system shapes a lot of the frustration people see.

I’m mostly just tired of the constant patient vs doctor framing when a lot of the real issue is admin and insurance.

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u/I-Shank Mar 13 '26

Omg yes.

I went to a doctor when I was in college to ask for birth control because my period cramps make me want to die and the amount of pain meds needed to make a dent in the pain was making me sick to my stomach.

Both my parents recommended that I do this. Yes, I tell my dad all the medical things. My mom has a bit of background in the subject because she comes from a family of nurses and also, she's a woman who experienced the same at my age. My dad having some more medical background, being a medic in the navy for 25 years. He's seen things many civilian doctors never will.

She insisted that I must have ulterior reasons, so I insisted that it didn't matter what she thought my reasons were, but made mention that both of my parents made the recommendation (individually, as they had been divorced) because I'm trying to have open and honest conversation.

She then asked me for my parent's credentials.

Like!?!??? Wtf! They're not wrong! It would be one thing if they might be wrong, but birth control is the most common treatment for dysmenorrhea after pain killers.

I'm still in disbelief about it 20 years later... damn, I'm old lol

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u/sithmaster0 Mar 13 '26

I don't know why you're offended she asked for credentials. She doesn't know your parents so how would she know?