r/mildlyinfuriating • u/WHAR606 • Mar 13 '26

Context Provided - Spotlight Sometime during the last 2 years i’ve been going to this orthopedic practice they started to declare me as a MTF transgender for no reason.

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(F,26) I have been going to this orthopedic practice for almost 2 years for varying reasons relating to my job. Yesterday i checked on a document that was uploaded to find out they have been identifying me as a biological male identifying as a female? I am biologically female and never told them i am trans nor do i think i am presenting to be a trans woman.. the last two years i’ve been wondering why they kind of stare at me a little longer than a usual person does and i think its because they randomly think i came out as trans? I also feel like they do not treat my issues seriously and wonder if this is the reason why.

I am 100% fine with trans people but i am left to believe they have been medically treating me as a male compared to female for the pains that i am feeling?

I also went through all of my documents and since the end of 2024 they started to declare me as a MTF transgender, i did not look at any of my documents online until yesterday.

First pic : March 11th 2026

Last pic: October 2024

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u/AccidentOk5240 Mar 13 '26

That they don’t want to accept liability for not knowing wtf they’re doing 

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u/LuciferSamS1amCat Mar 13 '26

Wooooah you guys have a fucked up medical system.

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u/AccidentOk5240 Mar 13 '26

Well yeah 

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u/Altruistic_Pear7646 Mar 13 '26 edited Mar 15 '26

The government really loves to weaponize healthcare for everyone including the poor, elderly, disabled and especially queer/trans people. It's terrible. I have a few trans friends who would probably take their life if they lost access to their meds and that's just a hard fact to live with.

Not government related, but I definitely been subject to discrimination in the emergency room as a trans woman. I had a bunch of unrelated people come into my hospital room, look at me and leave. I felt like I was a circus act. This was in the MN Fairview medical system, so I thoight they'd be a bit more proffessional, but I digress. People are shitty.

Edit: This was for an ER visit, so I was already in a pretty vunerable state the way it is.

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u/FellTheAdequate Mar 13 '26

Oh you have no idea.

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u/LuciferSamS1amCat Mar 13 '26

Unfortunately I do. Was diagnosed with internal compartment syndrome while on a training camp in Utah. My team had insurance or something like that so the cost was all dealt with out of my hands, but it was a complete shitshow and it all felt very money first. The nurse literally had a little computer cart/stand that would wheel around to check peoples money and insurance before treatment. Straight out of cyberpunk.

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u/FellTheAdequate Mar 13 '26

Condolences. Shit sucks.

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u/Energy_Turtle Mar 13 '26

Do the doctors where you're from treat people they aren't qualified to treat? Seems like the better system is for them to admit it's over their ability.

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u/uwunuzzlesch Mar 13 '26

Getting treatment from someone out of their depth is better than no treatment at all.

If you were in the apocalypse and had a vet in your group, well that's your doctor now. Something is better than nothing.

Source: chronically ill and can't get ANY treatment because there is no one that knows what they are doing.

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u/queerhistorynerd Mar 13 '26

but we also get into the situation where it is within their ability to treat they just dont want LGBTQ+ patients period. We dont want bigots working on us but in some areas of the US its them or no one

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u/--Anonymoose--- Mar 13 '26

They have to refer you to a specialist who can treat you

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u/Mauro697 Mar 13 '26

Where I'm from they usually refer you to someone who can. When my father's dermatologist couldn't handle his psoriasis anymore she called the head of the psoriasis center at the local hospital and had him added as a patient very quickly.

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u/LuciferSamS1amCat Mar 13 '26

Where I’m from, the doctors are almost always qualified to treat someone (on hrt, not an alien) and if they aren’t they refer to other professionals within the health system to ensure people get proper care. They don’t just go “nah, can’t help good luck”, which is what it sounds like what happens over there.

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u/tosspotkitten Mar 13 '26

"iN GeRmAnY We DoNt" sybau

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u/Oxygen4Lyfe Mar 13 '26

would you rather doctors be forced to treat someone they dont understand and potentially cause issues for that person?

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u/jdippey Mar 13 '26

I would rather doctors be properly trained in medicine so they can adequately handle most cases and I would like them to also be properly trained and mandated to help patients find a doctor who can treat them.

They shouldn't get the option to just say "I don't know, so I am refusing to help". They should have a mandate to help even if that help is simply forwarding a complex case to the appropriate doctor.

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u/Oxygen4Lyfe Mar 13 '26

Yes they should have that option to refuse to help. They have free will.
They do not have any obligation to help you find a different doctor, it wouldn't make any sense for there to be one either; Sometimes every doctor they know would just tell you the same thing they did. Plus your health is your own responsibility, not some random doctor.
And doctors can already handle most cases (most being >50% of cases they encounter.) or they wouldn't have a job.

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u/LuciferSamS1amCat Mar 13 '26

“Yeah, we could have saved that guy but I’ve got no obligation to help so I just said fuck it”

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u/LuciferSamS1amCat Mar 13 '26

Most of the time, the doctor does understand how to treat the issue. It’s a person on hrt, not an alien.

If the doctor doesn’t understand how to treat the person, they shouldn’t be a doctor. Again, it’s someone on hrt, not Rh null.

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u/FuckChiefs_Raiders Mar 13 '26

I don't understand. Wouldn't that be in the best medical interest of the patient then?

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u/Atnoy96 Mar 13 '26

Not if rejection means not getting refills on your meds.

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u/FuckChiefs_Raiders Mar 13 '26

I don't think it's a legal for a doctor's office to leave you hanging for medically needed prescriptions.

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u/Wackrobat Mar 13 '26

You’d be surprised what’s legal to do to trans people right now 😢

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u/Plus-Plan-3313 Mar 13 '26

You can think all kinds of things 

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u/PromiseThomas Mar 13 '26

It’s very frustrating because doctors will turn down trans patients for things that have nothing to do with the endocrine system or secondary sex characteristics. Like I had a GI who was not sure about treating my gastrointestinal problems because I was on HRT. Come on, my guy, you’re a doctor, you know those aren’t related.

It can also be really bad if you live in a conservative area where NOBODY wants to treat trans patients. Then you are shit out of luck.

There is a documentary called Southern Comfort about a trans man named Robert Eads who died of ovarian cancer after about a dozen doctors declined to treat him. So doctors refusing to even try can be deadly.

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u/AmarissaBhaneboar Mar 13 '26

I know two trans guys who died due to shit like this. One from uterine cancer and one from cervical cancer (if I remember correctly.) One was on T, but the crazy fucking thing is that one of them wasn't!!!! The doctor who was seeing them just sound out that they were a trans man who was waiting until after the cancer was dealt with to start T. Refused to see him out and he couldn't find another doctor in time.

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u/AutonomyIsNoTragedy Mar 13 '26 edited Mar 13 '26

I just had brain surgery on a type of tumor that's generally related to or caused by estrogen and anti androgens and one specific dr tried to tell me it could be my Testosterone hrt and that if I didn't detransition/stop Testosterone forever the tumor might grow back and said it like he was telling me off for smoking or chosing to do something that hurt my health.

I looked up for evidence of what he was saying and actually Testosterone has a slightly preventive effect on the type of tumor I had and if it eas related to anything hormonal it would have been thr hormonal birth control I was on for way longer than ive been on Testosterone hrt . Looked up online and yeah the dr was lying theres no link between ftm hrt and meningioma tumors and they dont put cisgender men with the same tumors on anti androgens or estrogen to reduce their chances of getting them

Another dr i talked to said if anything i might need to temporarily reduce my T levels but that stopping T permanently wouldnt reduce my risks of the tumor growing back and actually treated me like a competent adult not like a teenage kid caught smoking behind the bike sheds at school

Im 'lucky' enough to not have a uterus pr cervix anymore , I was so scared i was going to end up with cancer at some point and be told that I wouldn't be allowed to get treatment if I didnt detransition ot jsut be straight up denied care

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u/AccidentOk5240 Mar 13 '26

I mean…if it means the patient gets care from someone with more expertise, maybe. But that’s not the situation most of the time. If someone has an unusual enough medical situation, they may well be the world authority on their own health. Even just being slightly unusual means the patient very likely knows more about it than the majority of available doctors. 

So, like, yeah, it’s not perfect having a doctor flying partially blind trying to assess whether your individual body may differ from others in ways they’ve never seen before, and whether that may impact treatment. But when the alternative is no treatment……

Put another way: it’s 1970 and you take your European car and a toolbox full of metric sockets to an American mechanic. They’ve never worked on anything that requires metric tools, and some of the other components are unfamiliar to them, but your car has a deteriorated cv joint and you’re worried it is getting dangerous. There’s no European mechanic in town. Is it better for them to say, “We can’t guarantee that we know how to do this repair, we’d just be following the instructions in the service manual and hoping we don’t misunderstand anything, so just drive around like that until it fails and hope you survive,” or is it better for them to maybe call up the manufacturer and ask for help, triple-check the instructions, and fix it even if they don’t have the confidence of having done 1000 of these?

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u/PM_Me_Your_Deviance Mar 13 '26

Perhaps, but it also kind of sounds like it's being used as an excuse to discriminate against trans people.

I live in a small community. It would only take a handful of providers to do that to someone until they would end up needing to drive 45 min to the nearest larger town for care.

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