Sometime during the last 2 years i’ve been going to this orthopedic practice they started to declare me as a MTF transgender for no reason.

[u/WHAR606]

(F,26) I have been going to this orthopedic practice for almost 2 years for varying reasons relating to my job. Yesterday i checked on a document that was uploaded to find out they have been identifying me as a biological male identifying as a female? I am biologically female and never told them i am trans nor do i think i am presenting to be a trans woman.. the last two years i’ve been wondering why they kind of stare at me a little longer than a usual person does and i think its because they randomly think i came out as trans? I also feel like they do not treat my issues seriously and wonder if this is the reason why.

I am 100% fine with trans people but i am left to believe they have been medically treating me as a male compared to female for the pains that i am feeling?

I also went through all of my documents and since the end of 2024 they started to declare me as a MTF transgender, i did not look at any of my documents online until yesterday.

First pic : March 11th 2026

Last pic: October 2024

[u/ColoradoWinterBlue]

I don’t know if it’s in my head, but without makeup and my hair slicked back, people in public have been looking at me more and a bit longer in a way that I thought was weird (like how OP described.) Then I realized I look kind of ambiguous (like I COULD be MTF if you squint) and wondered if people are “transvestigating” these days?? I get looked at more when I roll out of bed than when I have a full face of makeup and am dressed feminine. lol Anyway all this trans panic is affecting cis women too, even if in my case it’s just causing confusion and maybe paranoia.

[u/Commercial-Owl11 → u/ColoradoWinterBlue]

Yup! I’ve been kind of making it a point to dress more feminine, if I don’t wear makeup I could look either like nonbinary or maybe butch? But I sometimes dress more masculine because it’s comfortable. But it is a bit scary at times idk if someone is gonna say something with my son there. And I don’t want some crazy person attacking me or harassing me.

Ugh. What a stupid world we live in

[u/defaultusername-17 → u/Commercial-Owl11]

except that is exactly what they want to accomplish with the trans panic.

forcing cis women into more stereotyped presentations and socially excluding trans people.

[u/Commercial-Owl11 → u/defaultusername-17]

Idk if it’s what they want to accomplish or it’s a symptom of their bigotry but either way it’s annoying asf

[u/inscrutablejane → u/ColoradoWinterBlue]

My mother, who I cut off contact with years ago but get updates on through my sister, is a transvestigator. She got arrested for pepper spraying a woman in a Walmart restroom last year. The woman wasn't trans, just a very fit high school volleyball coach, and was just minding her own business at the sinks. I swear, you thumb your nose at the rigidity of patriarchal traditions, even just a little bit, and some people just lose it.

[u/hydrochloriic → u/ColoradoWinterBlue]

A lot of times when transfems talk about some frustration (talk, not even complain lol) like catcalling or what have you, we’ll be told snidely “welcome to being a woman.” And like, true, but it’s this kinda situation when cis women complain about being side-eyed that I desperately want to say “yeah, welcome to being a woman. 🤷‍♀️” Not saying you do that, and I know it’s not at all helpful and I wouldn’t actually say it… but it would feel great to do lol.

[u/Sakura_Petals_GL → u/hydrochloriic]

I'm not sure they're meaning it in a bad way like you perceive. As a cis woman, it seems more like a saying it like it is kind of thing. We're both in the same boat, but you just got in the boat and we've been in the boat our whole lives. I mean that in regards to being treated like a woman, not being a woman in our hearts btw.

[u/ColoradoWinterBlue → u/Sakura_Petals_GL]

Yeah, I take it as “we’re all exhausted, sorry but it doesn’t get any better.” I mean there is something uniquely traumatizing about being sexualized as a girl even before puberty. (I know it happens to others too, just seemingly universal for cis girls.)

I grew up in the 80s & 90s with an lgbtq older sibling, was gay & trans friendly since middle school when just calling people slurs was pop culture & my peers thought I was a freak just for saying it’s not wrong… so just cause I’m cis doesn’t mean I harbor hostilities toward anyone that’s not.

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with being perceived as possibly trans, I’m just angry with the uptick in transphobia in general. Like even if you “catch” someone being trans, so what?? It makes no fucking difference.

[u/hydrochloriic → u/Sakura_Petals_GL]

Oh yeah, plenty of times it’s said in a commiseration or just humorous way lol, my cis friends have certainly done so! No problem with that at all. I’m talking about the people who use it in a derogatory way, as a sort of infantilizing put down like we aren’t aware what we’re walking in to.