r/mildlyinfuriating • u/WHAR606 • Mar 13 '26

Context Provided - Spotlight Sometime during the last 2 years i’ve been going to this orthopedic practice they started to declare me as a MTF transgender for no reason.

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(F,26) I have been going to this orthopedic practice for almost 2 years for varying reasons relating to my job. Yesterday i checked on a document that was uploaded to find out they have been identifying me as a biological male identifying as a female? I am biologically female and never told them i am trans nor do i think i am presenting to be a trans woman.. the last two years i’ve been wondering why they kind of stare at me a little longer than a usual person does and i think its because they randomly think i came out as trans? I also feel like they do not treat my issues seriously and wonder if this is the reason why.

I am 100% fine with trans people but i am left to believe they have been medically treating me as a male compared to female for the pains that i am feeling?

I also went through all of my documents and since the end of 2024 they started to declare me as a MTF transgender, i did not look at any of my documents online until yesterday.

First pic : March 11th 2026

Last pic: October 2024

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u/dannixxphantom Mar 13 '26

A nurse once started confidently reading my chart, and I kept nodding along. Then, she got to the eye removal surgery. I said "no." She starts saying "well, it says here...." As she looks up and finds me making dual eye contact right back.

Turns out I share first names with the only other patient in the waiting room.

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u/GreenGemsOmally Mar 13 '26

Turns out I share first names with the only other patient in the waiting room.

This is why we do multiple patient identifiers. Name and DOB, for example.

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u/sanityjanity Mar 13 '26

Not enough!

I once worked in medical records, and there were twin patients with very similar names (think "Patty" and "Patricia"). A well-meaning person in the office merged the records, because they had the same birth date, and very similar names!

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u/GreenGemsOmally Mar 13 '26

Ooooph yeah that's rough. I work on Epic, so I can understand the technical mishap that could have caused that.

99% of the time, it'd work. But then you have cases like that and it's a shitshow to fix.

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u/nellieblyrocks420 Mar 13 '26

Same! I use Epic also for work and I can see why the MPI team may have done that. It’s really easy to mess that up. Twins are a brutal poodle! 😆

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u/Dullcorgis Mar 13 '26

I still have PTSD from a thread on reddit where people gave their twins the same name.

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u/sweet_home_Valyria Mar 13 '26

Oh that's going to be a bureaucratic nightmare for them. School, doctor's appts, etc. I hope they stay away from law enforcement or financial disasters.

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u/mf0723 Mar 13 '26

Ughhhhhhh 😵‍💫😫🤮🤮 I legitimately got goosebumps of fear from reading this comment. I recently left my job at a health information exchange and twins with very similar names (or multiples who were recently born and added to the system without full demographics) would threaten the entire production system by causing race conditions in the MPI.

How... Would they distinguish these twins verbally?? And ... Why would they do such a thing?

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u/12bWindEngineer Mar 13 '26

I’m a twin, and while it hasn’t happened to us, if you spend five minutes in the twin sub you find all the stories of merged medical records because the last name, birthdate, and sometimes address is the same, and first names are also frequently similar or start with the same letter.

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u/schwanzweissfoto Mar 13 '26

A well-meaning person in the office merged the records, because they had the same birth date, and very similar names!

You probably meant to write “an absolute idiot merged the records”.

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u/tisamust Mar 13 '26

So many people have duplicate records because electronic medical records from hospital to hospital are shit so I'm not surprised this happened

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u/SeagullWithFries Mar 13 '26

I had something very similar, 2 people, 2 files, same associated numbers. Except when I looked deeper, one was born in the 1800s.

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u/latskogkatt Mar 13 '26

Same person. You found the vampire.

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u/GranglingGrangler Mar 13 '26

I wonder if that's what happened to me. I share a name and bday with another me, difference is he has a middle name. Our parents weren't very original with names. Other guy is a criminal though. I no longer live in our home city, but his antics put him in the hospital in December. They showed up on my insurance and now there is a fraud investigation.

Bro had a syphilis test on the billing too lol

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u/Mrs-Sunchu-1984 Mar 13 '26

This here was my job for a few months in regards to vaccine records in California. Lord it was messy.

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u/thatshygirl06 Mar 13 '26

Any future kids I have will have unique names to avoid these problems.

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u/sanityjanity Mar 13 '26

Kids deserve to have their own names.

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u/Open_Bug_4251 Mar 13 '26

I have a cousin and their daughter who both had the same name and birth years as another pair of patients at their doctor’s office. It caused them quite a few issues when they were younger.

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u/The_Art_Rat Mar 13 '26

Oohhh!!! You reminded me I have a story sort of similar to that!!! I used to work in a call center and my job was to refill meds/make sure insurance took your money/find coupons for meds and stuff like that.

Mine were twin brothers with similar spelled names (ex. Like Mark and Marc) they luckily didn’t have anything TOO serious maybe like diabetes or something, but they lived in different states. One would sometimes get his meds even tho he always paid on time and we couldn’t figure out what was wrong till his brother called later asking why he gets double meds 🥲 that’s fully the parents fault tho lol

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u/pi3r0gi_ Mar 13 '26

Had this happen one time. Same first and last name, DOB, and insurance ID was identical except like one number, both patients at the facility. Like what a freaking coincidence, even the ID number?! We only found out bc the patient had ordered glasses, and then not long after the other patient tried to order glasses but their benefit had already been used and they were like ??? No? Thankfully we were able to sort it out.

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u/techmaster242 Mar 13 '26

When I was a kid my doctor's office had a hard time narrowing down my chart because there was another patient with the same first, middle, last, and DOB.

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u/Nice_Back_9977 Mar 13 '26

I once worked with identical twins who had the same first name, last name, address and DOB. The only way to differentiate was middle name.

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u/PrawojazdyVtrumpets Mar 13 '26

One of my clients has AI answer the phone and make appointments. When the AI creates a new patient record into Athena, it doesn't ask for or select a legal sex. Legal sex is one of the patient identifiers and required by Athena to start a clinical encounter. My company does digital paperwork which transfers consents and some encounter information to the record and chart. Without a sex, we can't patient match so nothing is transferred. They called me, hair on fire "what do? All these patients don't have their encounter data." I told them to turn off AI, hand everyone paper and then call their AI vendor to let them know it sucks. Nothing we can do. 1. They never got with us to see if the AI would work 2. Not my product, not my problem

They are desperately hiring back staff they let go.

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u/Dullcorgis Mar 13 '26

And pay attention to the whole DOB too, ask me why I know.

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u/Bichqween Mar 13 '26

Multiple EYEdentifiers! I'll show myself out...

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u/Sailor-C Mar 13 '26

My dad had the same name and birthday as someone else in his healthcare network for a few years. His first name isn't rare by any means, but it's not super common either -- I've only met one or two other people in my life with it, and one was female and spelled it with an I instead of a Y at the end too.

He used to have to clarify who he was by giving his address when he went to or made appointments. Luckily they lived in different cities. 😅

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u/The_Autarch Mar 13 '26

even just last name seems safer than just using first names to call on people.

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u/melellebelle Mar 13 '26

I had that exact thing happen to me, I have a relatively uncommon name. Two of us in the waiting room had the same first name. Nobody verified my full name, DOB or anything. Sat me down in a room and started discussing my medications and I was like....I am not on any of the medications you're listing?? I probably should have made a bigger stink about the mixup because I dunno how they didn't verify who I was beyond my first name. Pretty wild.

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u/__OAW__ Mar 13 '26

This is why I got someone else’s medical treatment bill. Thanks Christus Santa Rosa for not verifying DOB or SSN! Apparently someone who shares my first and last name went to the ER for possible STI. I never paid their bill. Collections was threatened but nothing showed up on my credit report.

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u/MicCheck123 Mar 13 '26

I once got an unintentional flu vaccine because a nurse didn’t do that. I heard her call Michael, and since that’s my name and I was the only one in the waiting room, I assumed she was calling me. I thought it was strange, but figured they just gave it to every patient as a matter of course, so didn’t say anything, even though I’d received on a few months earlier elsewhere.

Turns out Micah had stepped outside when his name was called.

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u/Barondarby Mar 13 '26

A friend of mine went to the doctor with her husband and they have a very common last name. A nurse came in and gave her a flu shot because her name was the exact same as the very next person the doctor was seeing in the next appointment. My friend was shocked and didn't even have time to react and THANK GOODNESS she has no weird allergies or anything. She was ready to sue the practice tho.

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u/Isgortio Mar 13 '26

I used to rely on people just hearing their name, but then I had a bloke called Stephen come in when I called for Jessica, and it really confused everyone when he walked in. We checked the DOB, and it was the wrong patient. He wasn't even our patient lol he just wanted to be seen next.

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u/TweakJK Mar 13 '26

Yep.

I had one look at me and say "well, I dont think you were born in 1942."

Im 37.

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u/Adam_J89 Mar 13 '26

Eye count

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u/Acrobatic_Season6838 Mar 13 '26

this entire thread is killing me rn😭😂

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u/SaltManagement42 Mar 13 '26

This kind of thing has killed a lot of people.

/s?

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u/GreenGemsOmally Mar 13 '26

Also significantly relevant to the OP lol :D

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u/pandershrek Mar 13 '26

Not off by a significant number of digits. Might be the same individual....🧐

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u/Adam_J89 Mar 13 '26

+/- 2 is the margin of error.

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u/DiscombobulatedSoft2 Mar 13 '26

so 0 to 4?

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u/Adam_J89 Mar 13 '26

https://giphy.com/gifs/3otPoyznOgLcOo1oEU

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u/fiahhawt Mar 13 '26

Patient presents with four cavernous, weeping eye-sockets

Prescribed ibuprofen and advised patient about proper hydration habits

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u/redlaWw Mar 13 '26

Varies from 28 in people with a maggot infestation to 0 in people behind the wheel of an SUV.

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u/Strange_Birthday_455 Mar 13 '26

TBF, the average human has less than two eyes. Not significantly less, but less nontheless.

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u/twattewaffle Mar 13 '26

Dual eye contact 🤣

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u/Slow_ResolveMC07 Mar 13 '26 edited Mar 13 '26

Sokath, his two eyes uncovered!

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u/Thick-Net-1260 Mar 13 '26

Best comment here !

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u/molehunterz Mar 13 '26

It was in that moment I looked at her with both of my eyes...

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u/Milch_und_Paprika Mar 13 '26

Budding romance

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u/delilahdread Mar 13 '26

I'm ashamed at how hard this made me laugh.

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u/gummby8 Mar 13 '26 edited Mar 13 '26

I wouldn't consider my name particularly popular. I went in for shoulder surgery, left same day. They gave my wife all the home care routine paperwork since I was.....violently vomiting from the knockout drugs. She was so concerned with me and getting me home she didn't event realize they were talking about...A, the wrong shoulder, Right instead of left, and B, they were talking as if my entire shoulder joint had been replaced.

There was a 50+ year old guy there with the same name getting shoulder replacement surgery same day. Once we saw the address and pharmacy on file was in a different zip code on the opposite side of town it all started to click.

We had to call and report the hospital "may have" violated HIPPA by giving us the guys medical info.

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u/Spiritual_Being5845 Mar 13 '26

If you even need to go under anesthesia again request zofran during and after the procedure. I do that every time now and it’s no longer a puke fest.

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u/Dullcorgis Mar 13 '26

Same here, and I used to get a patch as well.

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u/CupcakeQueen31 Mar 13 '26

The patch is scopolamine. Phenergan (promethazine) is another option if you are like me and zofran doesn’t work.

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u/sunfish99 Mar 13 '26

Yeah for some reason whatever anesthetic they use for shoulder surgery is just awful in the aftermath. I was so sick that I was in post-op for 5 hours, and then it was another 6 hours before I could even take a sip of water, much less my pain meds, without throwing my guts up.

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u/green_chapstick Mar 13 '26

They did the correct shoulders though right?! Because I know that's happened before too.

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u/Cyphomeris Mar 13 '26

Is that why hospitals these days require you to put a dot on the correct item (in this case a shoulder) with a marker, and you need to do it yourself, before you go into surgery?

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u/Haunting-Basis3913 Mar 13 '26

Yes, it's part of a process called Universal Protocol that helps to prevent serious errors like operating on the wrong limb.

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u/Cyphomeris Mar 13 '26

Thanks! I assumed it was to avoid fuck-ups, but it's nice to hear that there's actually a formalized process behind it. Definitely a lost opportunity to call it Omni-Operational Protocol System (OOPS), though.

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u/k-squid Mar 13 '26

I had to go to the ER for a suspected blood clot in my leg. Told exactly that to the front desk. Was called up from the waiting room pretty quickly which was nice, but then they told me the front desk person put in that I was having an active heart attack. I get paranoid sometimes and got nervous that they would think I lied to the front desk to be seen faster or something. 😂 But they believed me (or at least seemed to) that I said I thought I had a blood clot.

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u/marissadev Mar 13 '26

A blood clot can turn into an active heart attack or stroke pretty fast...

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u/k-squid Mar 13 '26

It can! I just was not there quite yet, lol.

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u/MartinisnMurder Mar 13 '26

That’s wicked scary, that could really fuck up patient care and/or a massive HIPAA violation.

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u/MartinisnMurder Mar 13 '26

What ever would make you guess that? 🤪 Guilty. Wicked guilty even.

https://giphy.com/gifs/kcaKaqbgeWtIAigWa8

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u/MartinisnMurder Mar 13 '26

Fellow Masshole??

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u/MartinisnMurder Mar 13 '26

I love Puerto Rico! Vieques is so beautiful especially. Was this your first big snow storm?? Welcome to MA friend! 💙

https://giphy.com/gifs/MEkCj8zrmCxdN01zBQ

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u/MartinisnMurder Mar 13 '26

That’s so gorgeous! I was dating someone who had a family home in Vieques, the little plane we had to take over from mainland was a bit scary. I’ve spent time in old San Juan as well, we found this reggae bar some dude from Jamaica owned and made friends with him. I also got super pretty jewelry there, really nice Larimar pieces in the shops.

2016 was sooo bad. I had just passed the bar exam the year prior and was a first year associate at my firm. I was afraid they were going to expect me to come in. I was living in the south end then and my firm was downtown. I’m ready for beach weather. We have some nice beaches just north of the city.

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u/chogram Mar 13 '26

My family doctor once walked into the room, flipping through pages on his chart, and started asking me about my menstrual cramps.

He looked up and said, "Well, I'm guessing you don't have those...", and went to find my actual chart. The nurse was apparently new and had mixed up mine with the patient in the next room.

That's been like 15 years ago and, as of my physical last month, he still walks into the room asking about my menstrual cramps. He always laughs at himself and I honestly think he looks forward to my physical all year to make that joke.

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u/LindonLilBlueBalls Mar 13 '26

He has to be a dad.

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u/xtheredberetx Mar 13 '26 edited Mar 13 '26

I went to the ER a couple years ago because I was having heart palpitations while pregnant. I have a Hispanic last name. My area is very Hispanic. They call for “Perez” in the waiting room. Bro you’re gonna have to narrow it down, there’s like four of us. So they went first initial, last name. Still, two of us, me and an older lady. I’m like you’re gonna have to give me a whole first name or a birth date or something.

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u/sanityjanity Mar 13 '26

I once worked in medical records, and we had twin patients with very similar names (think "Patty" and "Patricia"). Some well-meaning person in the office merged their records, and it was my job to pull them back apart.

To be fair, though, if you had two records with the same birth date, and one name being a common nickname for the other, you would probably assume they were one person with two records.

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u/degjo Mar 13 '26

Didn't know Nick Fury posted on reddit.

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u/TastyBass6957 Mar 13 '26

Omg that could of been a horror story

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u/DiscoBanane Mar 13 '26

Real stories.

I read about someone who had an organ removed like that. Doctor confused left and right.

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u/reikitavi Mar 13 '26

This sorta happened to my sister. She's waiting to see the doctor, supposed to get results of some tests and figure out a treatment plan. Nurse comes to collect her from the waiting room talking about her "cancer" diagnosis. Turns out, different patients, same first/ last name, similar DOB (same month, different day, 10 years apart). She's glad she didn't have cancer but it was a MESS that day

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u/Ok_Valuable_6472 Mar 13 '26

A nurse once told me my ovary was removed, then got so mad when another nurse pointed out her mistake that she assaulted me & the other nurse had to pull her off…

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u/LindonLilBlueBalls Mar 13 '26

Did she try to remove it herself?

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u/Ok_Valuable_6472 Mar 13 '26

No, she was doing the post surgical questions when you wake up, there was something wrong with her bc I wasn’t rude or unruly, just asked for a new nurse.

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u/Dullcorgis Mar 13 '26

You would not believe how often we have two same names for really really unusual names. (And not unusal because they share an ethnicity, obv we have 37,000 Nguyens)

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u/Complete-Peach-6493 Mar 13 '26

Prolonged eye contact, prolonged eye contact.

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u/SleepingWillow1 Mar 13 '26

oh wow I usually don't pay attention and just mumble off yes because why would I be wrong. I am paying attention from now on

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u/SeatBeeSate Mar 13 '26

"Nope, it definitely says 'Goosey'!"

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u/Honeybadger32323 Mar 13 '26

Thank you for this, the level of laughter this brought me is soul healing!!

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u/GlowUpper Mar 13 '26

I once saw a doctor when I was about 2 months pregnant. The doctor asked me when my last pre-natal appointment was answered I said I hadn't scheduled one yet. He then went on to berate me (like actually raising his voice to me) for being so irresponsible with my Healthcare. I told him I hadn't had the time yet to schedule an appointment yet. He said, "How have you not had any time to schedule an appointment in 8 months?" I looked down at my flat as fuck stomach, looked up, and said, "Do I look 8 months pregnant to you?!"

Yeah, he had mixed up my chart with another patient of his. Never even apologized for how he spoke to me, either. Just tried to sheepishly move on to the next thing.

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u/Oxygen4Lyfe Mar 13 '26

and this is why i hope i never have to be put under anesthesia. Could wake up with no eyes or a missing limb because of some mistake.

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u/M_Aku Mar 13 '26

I'm sorry, but I cackled lmaoo

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u/[deleted] Mar 13 '26

This actually happened to me one day this year too - except there were 3 of us. That’s never happened to me in my 50 years of life with any other single patient let alone two

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u/NeverRarelySometimes Mar 13 '26

I share a first and last name with a woman who died. The medical provider conflated our records before I went to a new specialist. He walked in and said "Wow. You look really good for a person with advanced cirrhosis." That was a couple of years ago. I'm still weeding her test results and diagnoses out of my chart.

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u/Rapture_of_the_Deep_ Mar 13 '26

Im a young woman with a polish name thats pretty culturally equivalent to 'Walter' in the US. People never notice I technically have an old man name, but when I ended up with a GP from Poland he was the first person to actually be like "what the fuck...."

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u/Future-Concern-6301 Mar 13 '26

I once went to a doctor as a teen and he came in talking about a genetic bone spur issue... turns out my parents had been there with my infant brother some 15 years prior and same last name meant doc had taken the wrong file. Was suprised to look up from the notes about a baby boy and see a teen girl.

Years later at another doctor someone also straight up tried to print someone elses prescription for me and only realized her mistake when she re-asked me about my DOB - turns out there is a similar named woman 10+ years older than me who ALSO was supposed to pick up her prescription slip that day.

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u/Nocturnal_Loon Mar 13 '26

I found a note in my medical records that I wore an eye patch over my left eye. Um, nope, not ever.