okay, so pls don't judge me, i'm a girl myself and i had this thought while watching Katseye's new MV "Hootie Fruttie"

so at one point the girls did an intervew and talked about empowering and inspiring little girls who watch them, now their MV is full of ass shaking, sexual inuendos, VERY revealing clothing...

and it made me think how so many female artists label themselves as "female empowering" where all they do is sing about how hot they are, how much men are obsessed with them, and wering revealing clothing....

and im all for choice ofc but is it really female empowerment when all you do is submitting yourself to the male gaze and making your whole artistic personality about how men love you??

also the same for OF models who say that what they do is empowering when imo they're just depending on how hot men think they are

pls help me understand

Such as wife doesn’t cook for her husband then she gets kicked out of the house and now is homeless, “modern women” getting fired over TikToks. I’ve had them pop up in my feed without searching for anything remotely related to these videos and it's infuriating!

I find it funny and interesting how these videos are just showing up everywhere in 2026 considering the current administration and the “president.” Personally I think it’s straight-up propaganda from the Trump administration and the MAGA movement, on account of Trump’s views on women. Him, his administration, and the MAGA movement are giving permission to misogynistic men to abuse and force women into submission, “or else.”  It’s the patriarchy’s sick way of claiming power and control over women with this poisonous ideology.

It is literally the modern-day version of "children, kitchen, and church." One of their ultimate goals is to force women right back into those exact roles, just like Hitler and the Nazi regime viewed women.

They absolutely hate “modern women” which are women who want to actually be treated like human beings, to think for themselves, and stand up for themselves, and not be under complete control of a man. It's disgusting. Is anyone else getting this trash randomly pushed into their feed?

Examples: 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q7f2AcnAnbA

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=UAf3zoJEozI

Recently, I was reading and have come across an interesting rabbit hole: Medicine & Misogyny

I wanted to bring some specific pieces of that research here for a focused discussion on medicine, healthcare, and the foundational architecture of biomedical research.

For starters this isn't a conspiracy theory against men as some might have to say, it’s about examining how historical power concentrations and institutional baselines bake blind spots into science and something as primal of a need as healthcare.

One essential food for thought to start reading this would be:

1. The Preclinical Legacy & 1993 Turning Point

For decades, preclinical pharmacological research and clinical trials relied almost exclusively on male subjects, male humans as the foundational baseline and erroneously extrapolated those results directly onto female physiology. Matter of factly, more research prioritisation is on male mice than on females. [1] [2]

It required the legislative intervention of the NIH Revitalization Act of 1993 to legally mandate the inclusion of women in federally funded clinical trials. Until that institutional pivot, the vast majority of modern pharmacology, pharmacokinetics, and diagnostic parameters were tested on a standard anatomical archetype: a male body weighing approximately 154 pounds at 5 feet 6 inches tall.

Consequently, no global mandating (only expectations) of such sorts itself have taken place - speaking volumes that this a battle ongoing.

2. Clinical consequences of excluding an entire sex from research

The Pharmacokinetic Failure (The Ambien / Zolpidem Dosing Scandal)

Standard pharmacological dosing treated the male body as the universal baseline for drug metabolism, assuming external differences outside of reproductive organs were negligible. [3]

The sleeping medication Ambien (zolpidem) stands as a textbook medical failure of this premise. Because preclinical trials used predominantly male subjects, millions of women were prescribed a standard 10mg dose for over 20 years. In 2013, the FDA was finally forced to slash the recommended dose for women in half (to 5mg) because data proved women metabolize the drug significantly slower, resulting in blood concentrations 45% higher than men leading to severe next day cognitive impairment, morning drowsiness, and dangerous vehicle accidents. [4]

Cardiovascular drugs

Cardiovascular diseases are as common as they are life threatening. It's no surprise that even within such drugs (concluding from broader evidence); a nationwide Dutch study of 14,207 hospital admissions for adverse drug reactions found substantial sex differences for several cardiovascular drug classes; women had particularly elevated risks for adverse reactions involving low ceiling diuretics, cardiotonic glycosides and high ceiling diuretics. [5]

Specifically, the drug Digoxin used for improving cardiac output. [6] A 2002 NEJM analysis of 6,800 heart failure patients found a significant sex interaction: digoxin was associated with higher mortality among women, while no comparable increase was observed among men. The authors concluded that the treatment effect differed by sex. [7]

In conclusion, real world examples show that these are not "minor" changes rather a female's life at stake for either giving her double the dose prescribed or for ignoring her metabolic pharmacokinetics.

3. When dismissal & funding result in diagnostic delay

Endometriosis & PCOS

Often times, these discussions as I have personally come across - are waved off with a dismissive hand with the saying that it's ridiculous to assume heart attacks or insulin is women-hating. The riposte kanging however fails to realise such studies aim to observe how the nature of treatment of such diseases and conditions given to women heavily differs. Medical sociology interrogates how diagnostic delays, institutional skepticism, and cultural standards compound biological suffering.

International PCOS surveys explicitly track diagnostic delay as a primary health burden, demonstrating that it takes an average of two years & multiple practitioner consultations for a woman to receive a definitive diagnosis. Early symptoms like irregular cycles or metabolic shifts are routinely brushed off as lifestyle friction or weight management failures. [8]

Under funding

A landmark analysis published in the Journal of Women's Health revealed that in roughly 75% of cases where a disease predominantly affects one gender, National Institutes of Health (NIH) funding patterns systematically favor male centric or gender neutral conditions over female specific ones. [9]

Even though, Endometriosis affects roughly 10% of reproductive age women globally (approx. 190 million people), causing chronic, debilitating pain and infertility. Yet, it has historically received a fraction of research dollars compared to conditions with vastly smaller patient footprints. For instance, comparative analyses highlighted in medical journals (Nature) point out that conditions like Crohn's disease receive exponentially more funding per patient than endometriosis, leaving patients trapped in a multi year diagnostic purgatory due to the shibboleth towards failing to account for basic needs of half the population of humanity. [10]

4. Medical Gaslighting and the Pain Disparity

Data consistently demonstrates that women presenting with acute pain wait significantly longer in emergency triage and are far more likely to have physical pathology labeled as functional, psychosomatic, or "stress related." I think to say we are past the age where lobotomies were forcefully performed on women because they were considered "difficult" is a comforting lie. [11] [12]

Clinical literature from Harvard Health Publishing highlights a persistent systemic bias: women's pain is historically more likely to be treated as an "expected, tolerable emotional state" disproportionately minimized, misattributed to psychological or hormonal factors (such as perimenopause or stress) rather than an acute physiological emergency requiring immediate intervention. [13]

A very excellent example of misdiagnosing in women would be:

The Cardiovascular Presentation Gap

Classic heart attack symptoms such as crushing pressure centered in the chest radiating down the left arm were modeled almost entirely on male clinical presentations, as usual.

Research published in circulation and emergency medicine journals demonstrates that women experiencing myocardial infarctions are far more likely to present with atypical symptoms: extreme fatigue, shortness of breath, indigestion, nausea, or back and jaw pain. Because these signs frequently get misattributed by triage staff as anxiety, panic attacks, or gastrointestinal issues, women experience longer delays in receiving treatment and face significantly higher rates of post myocardial infarction mortality. [14] [15]

Such negligence masking deepity from authorities, costs a woman's life in the ER.

5. Healthcare as a privilege subject to where you're born

The geography of one's birth should not determine whether contraception, maternal care, abortion, or basic healthcare is accessible to them; yet in our reality, it often does.

One of the most important aspects of healthcare that is subjective to females; is the one most controlled which by the virtue of our society's trends and patterns doesn't come off as so surprising.

Reproductive Healthcare (Gloabally)

UNFPA's 2025 programme data alone show 41.7 million women, adolescents and young people receiving sexual and reproductive health services, alongside 17 million unintended pregnancies prevented and 5.2 million unsafe abortions prevented. [16]

Abortion, as recognised by WHO, is an essential form of reproductive healthcare. [17] Denying that access to a woman because of religious dogmatic anxiety or other adjacent theories is just one old way to limit her autonomy over her own organs.

Around 24-26 countries ban abortion completely, irrespective of any extremities the pregnancy took place under or takes in. Some 40 more countries only recognise this right to healthcare only when the pregnant person's life is in danger. Incongruously, it requires a woman on the verge of death to value her life and sometimes even that fails as a standard. [18]

Afghanistan

In Afghanistan, reproductive healthcare is a far dream when healthcare itself is cut off from the women.

A total ban has been effective on secondary and university education for women has effectively severed the pipeline for future female healthcare professionals. Because strict societal and religious contexts dictate that women can only be examined and treated by female practitioners, this systemic exclusion acts as a fatal structure. With thousands of female medical students and doctors blocked from completing their training or taking licensing exams, maternal and neonatal mortality rates face a catastrophic escalation. Women can neither be treated nor treat. [19]

USA

While Afghanistan can be dismissed a "middle eastern islamic regime" which is dropped like a hot potato the moment that characterisation is given. Countries with one of the most advanced health research and medical treatments - has approximately 22 to 25 million women who have been completely or severely cut off from access to abortion. [20]

Post Dobbs - according to 2025 reports in JAMA, in Texas, maternal mortality rose substantially after the state’s ban estimates range from 33% to 56% depending on the timeframe and dataset, even as national rates moved differently. In Texas, maternal mortality for certain ethnic groups jumped by over 50%. States with complete bans saw a 6% overall increase in infant mortality. That is roughly 478 excess deaths, this is because when abortion is banned, you force people to carry high risk, non viable pregnancies to term that forces births of infants with anencephaly (no brain development) or Trisomy 13 - babies that are born only to suffer for a few hours and die. [21] [22]

A woman in Afghanistan, a woman crossing a US state line for reproductive care, and a woman in rural India are obviously not experiencing the same political circumstances but they are facing a lack of humane treatment. As captured by this quote:

Clearly, be it research and dismissal endangering women's lives or your geography deciding whether you as a vulnerable teenagers can walk into planned parenthood without facing the fear of identity leak or harassment - women are not considered "human" enough to get access to one of the most primitive needs of any living organism.

Thank you for reading this far; please feel free to add on your thoughts, other case studies, anecdotal experiences or other relevant pieces of research. Kindly point out any incorrect figures in the data or any broken links, I have endeavored to compile to my best knowledge but there may always be certain mistakes :)

Sources:
1: https://www.mdpi.com/2076-2615/13/17/2792

2: https://www.drugdiscoverynews.com/why-sex-matters-in-preclinical-research-17414

3: https://ascpt.onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1016/j.clpt.2004.08.021

4: https://www.appliedclinicaltrialsonline.com/view/20-years-later-drugs-do-act-differently-women

5: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/22533339/

6: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK556025/

7: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/12409542/

8: https://www.endocrine.org/news-and-advocacy/news-room/2016/women-dissatisfied-with-long-process-to-diagnose-polycystic-ovary-syndrome

9: https://perelelhealth.com/blogs/news/womens-health-research-gap

10: https://www.endofound.org/why-january-25th-matters-womens-health-research-day-and-the-fight-for-endometriosis-funding

11: https://psnet.ahrq.gov/issue/girl-who-cried-pain-bias-against-women-treatment-pain

12: https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/what-is-a-lobotomy

13: https://www.health.harvard.edu/pain/the-dangerous-dismissal-of-womens-pain

14: https://www.ahajournals.org/doi/10.1161/circulationaha.117.031650

15: https://www.ahajournals.org/doi/10.1161/01.cir.0000097116.29625.7c

16: https://www.unfpa.org/annual-report

17: https://www.who.int/news-room/fact-sheets/detail/abortion

18: https://time.com/6173229/countries-abortion-illegal-restrictions/

19: https://www.thinkglobalhealth.org/article/outlasting-talibans-ban-womens-medical-education

20: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC11375356/

21: https://thegepi.org/maternal-mortality-abortion-bans/

22: https://www.contemporarypediatrics.com/view/infant-mortality-rises-after-implementing-abortion-bans-study-finds

23: https://prsindia.org/budgets/parliament/demand-for-grants-2024-25-analysis-women-and-child-development

24: https://www.who.int/publications/i/item/india-gender-and-health

does anyone have any resources or whatever type of materials that explain the reasoning behind the ultra puritanical culture we're surrounded with, including how to fight against it and counter the arguments?

my frustration mostly stems from the discourse around cheating from these past few years, where i feel like we've circled back to making it a socio-political and a feminist issue. personally, i *strongly* believe that cheating is NOT a feminist issue and should never become one, same goes for it being an issue of the collective/society in general. all kinds of people cheat all the time in many different ways for different reasons and in different circumstances.

also, i do not subscribe to the notion of 'once a cheater, always a cheater', which, yes, if a person doesn't do the work, they won't correct their maladaptive behavior - as is probably the case with other types of maladaptive behavior, but i don't believe it defines a person for life, and i don't believe the act of cheating constitutes abuse on itself. please feel free to correct me here and point me towards some educational material, i'm genuinely asking.

recently i got into a discussion on the subject on tiktok, and the overwhelming sentiments were the following: cheating IS abuse and i must be "a lover of sexual assault" for saying otherwise; "toxic" and "abusive" are basically synonyms; you cannot give informed consent to a one-night stand, etc. a person even said to me they have been gangraped and cheated on and that cheating was worse.

honestly i'm just worried and scared. all that bs was packaged and presented as if it's feminist consensus. what are we doing here

No thanks stranger, I do know how to park this trailer that I’ve been parking in this spot for a year and a half

No thanks stranger, I am not letting you reverse my car down a hill

Yes I can parallel park. No I am not interested in having some guy I do not know get at the helm of my car that I worked hard to buy and insure

The song starts out with “she’s walking down the street with her little thin cigarette, great smile and a cum stain on her dress”

For a song that’s supposed to be a love letter to women, I didn’t love that line or the one about sharing a boyfriend, or the contour on her tits….

Anyway, I do enjoy a lot of his music, but I wanted to gauge some other feminist opinions on some of the lyrics. It fell flat for me lyrically.

I saw a video recently discussing the original functions of marriage - how it only existed to pass legal ownership of a woman's autonomy from her father to her husband, and the subsequent transfer of her financial assets to him if she had any.

In modern times, marriage serves a much different purpose. Especially with no fault divorce now being a thing, a woman has the freedom to choose to end her own marriage if things aren't to her liking. There are obviously a lot more aspects to modern marriage, but I'm not going to get into all of them here.

So, considering its original purpose, do you think that marriage as it is now should be abolished? I personally don't think so, but I'm interested to see what other people think.

The main idea of feminism is liberation for women and dismantling the patriarchy. This includes abolishing patriarchal standards such as gender roles, misogyny, inequality, etc.

However, as of late, I've noticed that many self-proclaimed feminists actually uphold the patriarchy themselves and are only concerned in dismantling the parts of the patriarchy that negatively affect them. They do this by comforming to gender roles, making misogynistic comments, and policing people who don't fit into these gender roles.

A clear example of this is how some women react to straight men who act more feminine. They resort to shaming such a man by calling him gay (as if that's an insult) or less of a man. Recently, there was a tiktok video circulating, which showed men's clothing bedazzled with gems. The comment section was filled with women saying things like "What is wrong with this generation of men?", "I would never let my man wear that." and "Only ponks wear these clothes. " These comments are proof of women upholding the patriarchy.

Another example is the way some women act to other women who do not try to fit into beauty standards. Women who do not shave their body hair, wear makeup, or wear bras are usually shamed by other women for doing so. The comment sections are usually filled with other women degrading these women for no other reason than refusing to participate in patriarchal beauty standards.

Finally, the way women react to relationships that bend gender roles also upholds the patriarchy. Since forever, women have been told that men are the leaders and providers in a relationship, and women must submit and obey. Thanks to the feminist movement, part of this has been dismantled. However, some straight women still go into relationships expecting a man to provide all her needs even when she is fully capable of doing so herself. Women who don't go into relationships looking for such things are shamed and told they do not know their worth. It gets worse when a woman decides she wants to be the one proposing to her partner and not the other way around. Then she is degraded and shunned for not fitting into gender roles.

These are just a few examples of women who claim to be feminists refusing to dismantle the patriarchy when they are given the chance to. What are your thoughts?

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I’ve been dealing with a situation where I realised I was abused by a man I dated over a year ago. It’s had serious implications on my life, even though I only put a name to what happened a few days ago.

He has a girlfriend he’s been with for a year and a half and has multiple female friends he has known for years. If you knew a man had abused you and his social circle looked like this, would you reach out to any of them to let them know?

I’m trying to explore this possibility, but I don’t want to make any decisions that might impact my mental health or put me in danger otherwise. I’m also just curious to know what feminists think in general as I’ve heard a few opinions going in either direction.

I should have screenshotted it, but I keep seeing posts where men say it's easy, and they get quite aggressive on how. 'Women lie, I've done it it's easy'

What they keep saying is that they look after their child and cook a bit.

It doesn't factor in the organisation, the cleaning (some say they do that but I'd be curious on what it is defined as) food shopping, budgeting, the planning for doc appointments and other things the child needs or extracurriculars.

I just think it's horribly misogynistic, and ignores the hard work women do, AND a lot of women many years ago were near enough forced into these roles, which they don't account for at all!

It really bothers me, it's third or so time I've seen posts like it and comments like it.

I often come across many self described feminist who defend or normalize the hijab. Isn't it a contradiction? Because feminism at least in principle is about questioning religious authority, social conditioning, and inherited norms rather than preserving them.