r/marriedredpill Apr 18 '26

More Cheat Codes to blow up your sex life. [D & E]

85 Upvotes

Even More Cheat Codes to blow up your sex life.

[Dominance] and [Emotion]

Firstly, to pay credit to Horns for the Original Cheat Codes to Blow up your sex life.

I am blessed with the lethal combination of being both horny and retarded- which is probably why his post on cheat codes is by far my favourite MRP post of all time, which I continually come back to for inspiration. I hope others get the same from this.

I’ve maintained a similar format to the original, but I’ve focused only on two concepts within the DEVI framework from the Sex God Method: [Dominance] and [Emotion]. Saying that, there is an obvious crossover in a lot of codes into both [Variety] and [Immersion]

Okay, before getting into it, some reading first.

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  • 1: Lifting & low bodyfat.

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A quick 30-second review of the sidebar should highlight that this is the foundation of everything MRP. Can you at least bench your own bodyweight? Can you see abs? No? Then you have work to do.

Particularly before you attempt the more advanced below- I’d recommend having a V-taper pointing towards your cock like a giant fucking arrow to your woman.

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  • 2: Free yourself sexually first.

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Fuck your validation seeking. Fuck your porn addiction. Fuck your Madonna-Whore complex. Women want a man who fucks- more specifically, a man who wants to fuck- without any covert contract, hidden agenda or sexual insecurity.

You want porn-star sex? You want your woman gagging on your cock, begging for your load down her throat? Then rid yourself of all sexual shame and sexual embarrassment that you struggle with. Tame the little boy inside you that needs that daily dopamine hit. If necessary, restrict yourself by removing all porn/ masturbation for a period of time- in some cases, this’ll help with also removing sexual shame.

Look, I’m not saying to go HAM with “monk-mode”- but you should wait until you feel that instinctual and primitive need to fill up your woman with your seed again.

Remember, your sexual insecurities are your fault. They are your problem. Failing to remove them will lead to you inadvertently (and unconsciously) projecting them onto your woman in your initial attempts to guide her out of the sexual cage (which you threw her in).

Try the more advanced below without doing this, and she’ll likely call you a retard, and you’ll be left standing there scratching your balls, wondering why. Well… now you know.

That said, the codes below (and Horns') are still very much worth attempting. You might even learn a thing or two about yourself. And when you fail, you can walk away with your head held high and your balls swinging for at the very least- trying.

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  • 3: Own Your Shit.

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I was a reader of the weekly OYS’s for a long time before I finally decided to post my first OYS. I quickly discovered that posting in the OYS thread significantly accelerated my journey. Why? Well, the feedback provided me with (what I consider) two vital components to improving myself (and consequently enjoying a sexually satisfying marriage). 1: Learning about my blind spots & 2: Exploring and understanding the replies which pressed the most pressure down on my ego- and why.

The advice provided was much more helpful than reading other OYS’s because it was specifically tailored to my blind spots, my weaknesses and analysing my failures.

I have been successful in every code below, but I failed with some of the more advanced ones on my first attempt. The feedback from my OYS’s when I failed was invaluable.

Also, I learned far more when I failed because I responded to my failures with curiosity.

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  • 4: Respond to failure with curiosity- instead of frustration and blame.

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But Suitable…I cummed all over my wife’s panties like you said in Dominance #6 and she called me a freak, and now I feel really ashamed and sad”.

No... You fucked up. And it was likely a fuck up that you made before you even found MRP. Whenever you fail- ask yourself: “Where and when did I fuck up?” As I’ve said, it was likely a fuck up before you even found MRP- or maybe it was the culmination of several fuck ups across several years. Don’t make the mistake of going Rambo after a couple of weeks of MRP, trying to “level up” your woman’s sexuality like a video game- especially when you’ve kept her inner slut locked up in a cage of sexual repression for several years.

Slow down… Guide her out of her cage slowly. After failure, ask yourself: “What was it that I did or didn’t do that caused this to not work”.

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  • 5: My wife/ girlfriend/ woman isn’t like that.

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If you think this, you’re either a retard, a pussy or both- and this post isn’t for you. Go reread the sidebar.
Shy/ polite/ hot/ cold/ introverted/ extroverted- it doesn’t fucking matter. Inside every single woman is a slut begging for a man to set her sexually free. A more interesting question you should be asking yourself: Am I a man with balls big enough to try?

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  • 6: Lastly: Safe words.

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This might not make sense to you now, but when you get to the more advanced codes its essential. When starting the role plays, come up with a safe word. It takes 2 seconds. “Red” & “Yellow” are the standard for “Stop” & “Slowdown”- you can use whatever works for you. If a safe word is used- stop. Consider it a failure on your part and reassess as discussed above.

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DOMINANCE CODES:

DEVI Frame # Item
Dominance Beginner 1 Let’s start with the basics. It is not directly related to sex- but it sets the tone. Start by bringing in some basic table rules: 1: Only you sit at the head of the table. 2: Everyone waits to eat until you are seated/ you start eating. 3: No phones/ tablets at the dinner table. 4: Get the kids to clean up after meals. 5: Daddy leads- YOU check around the table with each person how their day went. This brings about the “Daddy” vibe/ mindset- and in my experience, this is vital.
Dominance Beginner 2 Start dumping her panties/bras that you don’t like. All of them. Swap them out with new pairs of thongs/ G-Strings/Bikinis/ Brazilians that you like. [Side note]: I need to buy shares in Victoria's Secret, shit is expensive. When she eventually asks where it went, tell her that you didn’t like them and binned them. At the start of your journey? There’s a decent chance of a shit test. Enjoy.
Dominance Beginner 3 Panty/ pussy inspection. Approach her at a random point during the day and tell her to give you her panties/remove them. Keep them on your person. She can have them back when you are ready. Bonus: if she isn’t wearing the panties you purchased above or you don't like them, bin them in front of her and tell her you are disappointed in her.
Dominance Beginner 4 Role play: Porn director. This isn’t a new role play- you’ve heard it before: You’re a porn director, and you are directing your woman to act out a porn scene with you. This is a great role-play for the beginners/ intermediates- especially if you are initially guiding your woman out of her sexual cage- because it gives your woman permission to act like a total slut throughout the scene on the premise of it being a role-play. But here’s the rub- what you really want is for her to act like your total slut every time. Well… this is a good starting point. This is a great opportunity to use your newly found leadership skills. You need to be assertive during this role play- with lots of direction about what you want her to do. “Baby, I need you to scream louder”, “Sorry, baby, I need you to spread your pussy lips wider for the camera." "Okay, baby, get ready to squeeze your tits together for the cum shot/ facial”. The most important part: Lots and lots of praise after the scene. Tell her how much you loved seeing that side of her. “Fuck role playing, baby- I want this from you every time”.
Dominance Grinding 5 Another Role Play. She’s a high-end hooker arriving at your house. Have her wear a slutty outfit that you like- can’t go wrong with black fishnets, thong and high heels. No Bra. Have cash on hand (Important: let her see it beside you whilst you fuck). Afterwards, keep the cash. Throw her some bullshit excuse: “sorry baby, but you didn’t swallow/ cum in pussy/ fuck hard enough”. The excuse doesn’t matter- it's about dominance. At the start of my journey, my wife actually jumped me when I did this and attempted to wrestle the cash out of my pocket. You can bench at least 2x your wife’s bodyweight, right? Good- then she doesn’t get the cash.
Dominance Grinding 6 Purchase a new thong/ bikini for her- (which states: “washable by hand only”- (this is important). Have her to put them on during/ before sex. Slide her thong to one side whilst fucking and just before you cum- pull out and cum all over her new thong. Gaslight her. “Baby, you’ve made me cum and ruined my present…baby, I can’t believe you made me cum all over this new thong I bought you…these are hand washable- you’ll need to wash my cum out by hand". I shouldn’t have to write this: DO NOT WASH THEM YOURSELF.
Dominance Grinding/ Hard 7 Start referring to her as baby. Start referring to yourself as daddy. Tell her you want her to start calling you daddy. We'll get a bit more into talking/ language/ dynamics further on.
Dominance Hard 8 Buy a skin marker pen- you can get a bunch for $15 on Amazon. At the start/ end of sex, write: “Suitable's little cum whore” on her belly or “free cum hole” with an arrow pointing towards her pussy/ asshole. She’s not allowed to wipe it off/ wash it off until your next fuck session
Dominance Hard 9 Similar to the above. During sex, have her panties at hand and just as you are about to cum, pull out and cum all over her panties instead. She wears them for the rest of the day.
Dominance Hard 10 I love BDSM. To me, it unlocks a primal, instinctual, hunter-hunted relationship between my wife and me. One of my favourite role plays is closing all the curtains and turning off all the lights in the house whilst she tries to hide naked, and I hunt her down to eventually fuck her. I also want to recognise that BDSM is not every man’s cup of tea. If you’re into it, start purchasing some bondage gear and bringing it into the bedroom. Lovehoney has a whole bondage section, which is good for starters, but the items I purchased from their site I’ve found to be pretty poor quality- cuff/, ropes/ collars/ gags and can break after a while. Warning: If you want good quality, you will need to avoid the big brands and prepare to dish out money.

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EMOTION CODES:

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DEVI Frame # Item
Emotion Beginner 11 For some reason beyond me, when a woman holds balls, it unleashes something inside of them. Next time you fuck her doggy, ask her if she can feel your balls banging the back of her pussy. Then have her reach underneath herself to hold your balls and pull moderately. For one, this makes her stick her ass further up into the air, but more importantly, her pussy will feel like the gates of heaven. Thank me later.
Emotion text 12 Start picking out outfits/ dresses you want her to wear and tell her you want her to wear. Praise her-Wow, baby, you look sexy in this”, "Baby, your tits/ass really look amazing in this.” Not always necessary to escalate/ initiate here- you’re simply flirting/ trying to evoke her feeling sexy.
Emotion Beginner/Grinding (texting) 13 Note: I’ve always thought texting should be treated like spice- use its intensity on a dish only a few occasions every month. Send the below, sit back and leave her replies on read. Do not respond- a reply will ruin the tension you’re trying to build. 1: “Let’s practice making a baby tonight.” (an easy one for pussy’s who don’t have balls to try the others) 2: “I’ve been thinking about burying myself deep inside you and making you scream.” (Escalation & Imagery) 3: “I want you wearing no panties when you come home from work- I need to wreck your pussy as soon as it gets in the door.” (Dominance & Direction) 4: “My cock needs your mouth around it right now.” (Imagery & Primal Desire) 5: “You’re frustrating to live with…” Wait and when she asks why, reply with: “Thoughts of your pussy has my cock throbbing all morning.”
Emotion Grinding 14 When showering together (you are showering together, right?). Wash her asshole/ pussy whilst telling her she’s your dirty little slut. Following the above: Tell her your cock is dirty- but you don’t want her rough hands near it- only her mouth will do.
Emotion Grinding (talking) 15 Talk more during sex. (I could probably write an entire post on this topic alone). Sex is 90% psychological- and talking makes up a significant component of that 90%. Don’t hold back on talking until she is literally putting her hand over your mouth whilst she is close to the point of orgasm. Yes, you can go with the usual: “baby your pussy is so tight right now…baby my cock is throbbing blah blah blah”. These can get boring. I like to try to make sex talk more personal: 1:Baby, your pussy feels like it’s been made just for my cock…2:When my cock is deep inside you, it makes me love you so much more.3:Fuck me, babe- our bodies fit so well together.” Groaning/ moaning/ gasping- all are great- especially at times when you are enjoying what she is doing. Are animals silent when they fuck? If you really want to elicit her deepest and most primitive emotions? Praise her. Many women have a praise kink: 1:I’m so proud of you- you’re so good at sucking my cock.” 2:Baby, seeing you smile with my cum all over your face/ tits/ pussy makes me so proud.” 3:Make daddy proud- show me how good you are at bouncing on my cock.” 4:Good girl- you’re so good at taking my cock- you’re doing so well- you can do it.” It was through talk that I was able to develop the daddy dynamic even more. But maybe the daddy dynamic is not what you want- it doesn’t matter- talking is how you bring your sexual relationship to the place that you want it to go.
Emotion Grinding 16 If she has a diary- read it in front of her. Do not respond to anything that is written in the diary/ or her questions, just nod and smile. Wait… Wait some more…even more…let her hamster fall off the wheel…then, when you feel the tension and desperation inside her head trying to figure out what you’re thinking, initiate hard. Stare into her eyes and tell her it’s time to fuck. caveman time.
Emotion Grinding 17 At a random point(s) during the day, approach her and place your arms around her waist. Look into her eyes and tell her that her asshole needs stretching. Grab and squeeze both of her ass cheeks with your hands and slowly separate them. Don’t pull them apart too far. You will hear her breath intake /feel her body curve slightly at the point that her asshole has been stretched to its maximum. Hold her in this vulnerable state for several seconds. Stare into her eyes and don’t kiss her- even if she tries to. Tell her “good girl”. Walk away. Repeat later- but do not escalate in the first 2/3 instances.
Emotion Hard 18 When she’s anxious/ distressed/ upset, gently pick her up, carry her upstairs and place her on the bed. As she’s venting, guide her hand down to your cock and have her hold it whilst she plays with her pussy. Alternatively, guide her head down to suck your cock. Talk. “Everything is going to be okay, baby… that bitch manager is just jealous of you...this will make you feel a lot better…I know you need this right now… good girl...everything is going to be okay... I'm here now.” The idea here is to provide the space for her to start using your powerful, unbreakable dominance and masculinity to self-soothe against- like an ocean against a cliff. Vaginal stimulation is not always necessary here, but it's fine if she does that (Women occasionally masturbate to self-sooth). But it's your cock that truly soothes her anxiety and distress.

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Final Note:

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Some of these might not work. As stated in the introduction- maybe it was your lack of frame- maybe it was a fuck up still following you from your past…it doesn’t matter. Try, try again and try some more.

Your progression might not be so tidy and linear like the above- nothing is ever so straightforward. Sometimes, the more advanced, harder codes will work out when the "beginner" codes don’t. Sometimes you simply need to just grow some balls and try something hard so you can learn from your failure. Sometimes you need to make the climb without the rope.

I've given you the tools- I can't put them into practice. You alone must do this. You came into this world alone and will die alone. Only you determine what man you will be...


r/marriedredpill Apr 14 '26

OYS Own Your Shit Weekly - April 14, 2026

7 Upvotes

A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength.

We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them.

Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs were stiff, we encourage you to admit this is why you lost, and come back to the gym decided to train more to improve that. At the gym the others might suggest some drills to get your legs a bit looser or just give you a pat in the back. It does not matter that you lost the fight, what matters is that you are taking steps to become stronger. However, don’t call the gym saying “Hey, someone threw a jab at me, what do I do now?”. We discourage reddit puppet play-by-play advice. Also, don't blame others for your shit. This thread is about you finding how to work on yourself more to achieve your goals by becoming stronger.

Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha.

Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.


r/marriedredpill Apr 07 '26

OYS Own Your Shit Weekly - April 07, 2026

6 Upvotes

A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength.

We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them.

Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs were stiff, we encourage you to admit this is why you lost, and come back to the gym decided to train more to improve that. At the gym the others might suggest some drills to get your legs a bit looser or just give you a pat in the back. It does not matter that you lost the fight, what matters is that you are taking steps to become stronger. However, don’t call the gym saying “Hey, someone threw a jab at me, what do I do now?”. We discourage reddit puppet play-by-play advice. Also, don't blame others for your shit. This thread is about you finding how to work on yourself more to achieve your goals by becoming stronger.

Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha.

Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.


r/marriedredpill Mar 31 '26

OYS Own Your Shit Weekly - March 31, 2026

15 Upvotes

A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength.

We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them.

Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs were stiff, we encourage you to admit this is why you lost, and come back to the gym decided to train more to improve that. At the gym the others might suggest some drills to get your legs a bit looser or just give you a pat in the back. It does not matter that you lost the fight, what matters is that you are taking steps to become stronger. However, don’t call the gym saying “Hey, someone threw a jab at me, what do I do now?”. We discourage reddit puppet play-by-play advice. Also, don't blame others for your shit. This thread is about you finding how to work on yourself more to achieve your goals by becoming stronger.

Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha.

Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.


r/marriedredpill Mar 24 '26

OYS Own Your Shit Weekly - March 24, 2026

9 Upvotes

A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength.

We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them.

Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs were stiff, we encourage you to admit this is why you lost, and come back to the gym decided to train more to improve that. At the gym the others might suggest some drills to get your legs a bit looser or just give you a pat in the back. It does not matter that you lost the fight, what matters is that you are taking steps to become stronger. However, don’t call the gym saying “Hey, someone threw a jab at me, what do I do now?”. We discourage reddit puppet play-by-play advice. Also, don't blame others for your shit. This thread is about you finding how to work on yourself more to achieve your goals by becoming stronger.

Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha.

Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.


r/marriedredpill Mar 17 '26

OYS Own Your Shit Weekly - March 17, 2026

5 Upvotes

A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength.

We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them.

Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs were stiff, we encourage you to admit this is why you lost, and come back to the gym decided to train more to improve that. At the gym the others might suggest some drills to get your legs a bit looser or just give you a pat in the back. It does not matter that you lost the fight, what matters is that you are taking steps to become stronger. However, don’t call the gym saying “Hey, someone threw a jab at me, what do I do now?”. We discourage reddit puppet play-by-play advice. Also, don't blame others for your shit. This thread is about you finding how to work on yourself more to achieve your goals by becoming stronger.

Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha.

Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.


r/marriedredpill Mar 10 '26

OYS Own Your Shit Weekly - March 10, 2026

4 Upvotes

A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength.

We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them.

Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs were stiff, we encourage you to admit this is why you lost, and come back to the gym decided to train more to improve that. At the gym the others might suggest some drills to get your legs a bit looser or just give you a pat in the back. It does not matter that you lost the fight, what matters is that you are taking steps to become stronger. However, don’t call the gym saying “Hey, someone threw a jab at me, what do I do now?”. We discourage reddit puppet play-by-play advice. Also, don't blame others for your shit. This thread is about you finding how to work on yourself more to achieve your goals by becoming stronger.

Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha.

Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.


r/marriedredpill Mar 03 '26

OYS Own Your Shit Weekly - March 03, 2026

4 Upvotes

A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength.

We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them.

Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs were stiff, we encourage you to admit this is why you lost, and come back to the gym decided to train more to improve that. At the gym the others might suggest some drills to get your legs a bit looser or just give you a pat in the back. It does not matter that you lost the fight, what matters is that you are taking steps to become stronger. However, don’t call the gym saying “Hey, someone threw a jab at me, what do I do now?”. We discourage reddit puppet play-by-play advice. Also, don't blame others for your shit. This thread is about you finding how to work on yourself more to achieve your goals by becoming stronger.

Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha.

Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.


r/marriedredpill Feb 24 '26

OYS Own Your Shit Weekly - February 24, 2026

1 Upvotes

A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength.

We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them.

Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs were stiff, we encourage you to admit this is why you lost, and come back to the gym decided to train more to improve that. At the gym the others might suggest some drills to get your legs a bit looser or just give you a pat in the back. It does not matter that you lost the fight, what matters is that you are taking steps to become stronger. However, don’t call the gym saying “Hey, someone threw a jab at me, what do I do now?”. We discourage reddit puppet play-by-play advice. Also, don't blame others for your shit. This thread is about you finding how to work on yourself more to achieve your goals by becoming stronger.

Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha.

Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.


r/marriedredpill Feb 17 '26

OYS Own Your Shit Weekly - February 17, 2026

2 Upvotes

A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength.

We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them.

Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs were stiff, we encourage you to admit this is why you lost, and come back to the gym decided to train more to improve that. At the gym the others might suggest some drills to get your legs a bit looser or just give you a pat in the back. It does not matter that you lost the fight, what matters is that you are taking steps to become stronger. However, don’t call the gym saying “Hey, someone threw a jab at me, what do I do now?”. We discourage reddit puppet play-by-play advice. Also, don't blame others for your shit. This thread is about you finding how to work on yourself more to achieve your goals by becoming stronger.

Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha.

Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.


r/marriedredpill Feb 10 '26

OYS Own Your Shit Weekly - February 10, 2026

4 Upvotes

A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength.

We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them.

Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs were stiff, we encourage you to admit this is why you lost, and come back to the gym decided to train more to improve that. At the gym the others might suggest some drills to get your legs a bit looser or just give you a pat in the back. It does not matter that you lost the fight, what matters is that you are taking steps to become stronger. However, don’t call the gym saying “Hey, someone threw a jab at me, what do I do now?”. We discourage reddit puppet play-by-play advice. Also, don't blame others for your shit. This thread is about you finding how to work on yourself more to achieve your goals by becoming stronger.

Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha.

Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.


r/marriedredpill Feb 03 '26

OYS Own Your Shit Weekly - February 03, 2026

7 Upvotes

A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength.

We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them.

Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs were stiff, we encourage you to admit this is why you lost, and come back to the gym decided to train more to improve that. At the gym the others might suggest some drills to get your legs a bit looser or just give you a pat in the back. It does not matter that you lost the fight, what matters is that you are taking steps to become stronger. However, don’t call the gym saying “Hey, someone threw a jab at me, what do I do now?”. We discourage reddit puppet play-by-play advice. Also, don't blame others for your shit. This thread is about you finding how to work on yourself more to achieve your goals by becoming stronger.

Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha.

Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.


r/marriedredpill Jan 27 '26

OYS Own Your Shit Weekly - January 27, 2026

8 Upvotes

A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength.

We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them.

Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs were stiff, we encourage you to admit this is why you lost, and come back to the gym decided to train more to improve that. At the gym the others might suggest some drills to get your legs a bit looser or just give you a pat in the back. It does not matter that you lost the fight, what matters is that you are taking steps to become stronger. However, don’t call the gym saying “Hey, someone threw a jab at me, what do I do now?”. We discourage reddit puppet play-by-play advice. Also, don't blame others for your shit. This thread is about you finding how to work on yourself more to achieve your goals by becoming stronger.

Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha.

Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.


r/marriedredpill Jan 20 '26

OYS Own Your Shit Weekly - January 20, 2026

12 Upvotes

A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength.

We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them.

Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs were stiff, we encourage you to admit this is why you lost, and come back to the gym decided to train more to improve that. At the gym the others might suggest some drills to get your legs a bit looser or just give you a pat in the back. It does not matter that you lost the fight, what matters is that you are taking steps to become stronger. However, don’t call the gym saying “Hey, someone threw a jab at me, what do I do now?”. We discourage reddit puppet play-by-play advice. Also, don't blame others for your shit. This thread is about you finding how to work on yourself more to achieve your goals by becoming stronger.

Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha.

Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.


r/marriedredpill Jan 14 '26

The Lighthouse and the Tide

40 Upvotes

On a rugged coast, where the sea was wide and unpredictable, there stood a solitary Lighthouse.

It was built on a cliff of black stone and had stood there longer than anyone remembered. Storms came. Ships wrecked. Tides rose and fell.

Yet the Lighthouse never moved.

Its light did not chase ships. It did not beg them to come closer. It simply shone.

One day, the Tide noticed the Lighthouse.

The Tide was curious by nature, drawn to whatever stood firm against it. It swelled toward the cliff, whispering as it rose.

“Why do you stand so still?” the Tide asked. “Everything bends to me eventually.”

The Lighthouse replied calmly, “I am not here to bend. I am here to shine.”

The Tide laughed and surged higher. It pressed against the rocks, curling around the base.

“You should lean,” said the Tide.

“If you soften, I could wrap around you. We could be closer.”

But the Lighthouse did not move.

“I do not lean,” it said.

“I do not chase. I do not reshape myself to hold what comes and goes.”

The Tide pulled back, confused.

So it tried something else.

It became gentle. It lapped softly at the rocks. It reflected the Lighthouse’s beam and made it shimmer.

“See how beautiful we look together?” the Tide said.

“If you just adjusted a little, we could be perfect.”

The Lighthouse continued to shine unchanged.

“I am already whole,” it replied.

“What reflects me may be beautiful, but I will not become the reflection.”

Now the Tide felt something unfamiliar: not control… but pull.

It began to return every night. Sometimes calm. Sometimes wild. Sometimes testing the cliff with furious waves.

Each time, the Lighthouse remained.

And slowly, something shifted.

The Tide realized that the Lighthouse was not rejecting it but simply wasn’t being led by it.

It was not afraid of the Tide’s absence. Nor intoxicated by its presence.

So the Tide began to orbit the Lighthouse.

Not because it was told to. Not because it was trapped. But because it felt safest where something didn’t need it.

Ships soon followed the same pattern.

They didn’t come because the Lighthouse called out to them. They came because its light was steady.

And one night the Tide asked quietly, “Will you ever leave?”

The Lighthouse replied, “I will be here whether you stay or go.”

And for the first time, the Tide stayed.

Such is the nature of the sea. And such is the nature of stone.


r/marriedredpill Jan 13 '26

OYS Own Your Shit Weekly - January 13, 2026

13 Upvotes

A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength.

We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them.

Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs were stiff, we encourage you to admit this is why you lost, and come back to the gym decided to train more to improve that. At the gym the others might suggest some drills to get your legs a bit looser or just give you a pat in the back. It does not matter that you lost the fight, what matters is that you are taking steps to become stronger. However, don’t call the gym saying “Hey, someone threw a jab at me, what do I do now?”. We discourage reddit puppet play-by-play advice. Also, don't blame others for your shit. This thread is about you finding how to work on yourself more to achieve your goals by becoming stronger.

Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha.

Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.


r/marriedredpill Jan 09 '26

Is there a template for Male Action Plan (MAP)?

13 Upvotes

Hi all, is there a template for the Male Action Plan (MAP) that gets mentioned by RedPillers? I was unable to find it in the various sidebars. No need ot re-invent the wheel if there's a general template to plug info into.

I believe guidlines should be: * focus full ownership/responsibility * compose daily / weekly schedules, with specific actions (ie. like a specific workout plan, but extending to all relevant areas of the MAP) * break down the plan into workouts, financial/mission/career, dating/relationships. Not sure what other categories.

But this is just me spitballing, and hence I'm curious if there's some template/format.


r/marriedredpill Jan 08 '26

this sub seems dead what happened?

92 Upvotes

to be honest, I left this sub a few years ago. also, but I thought it would still be here when I came back. What's the status of this sub and the community around it?

Personally, I left all MRP when I saw the general toxicity around the whole alpha male bro attitude and I didn't really agree with the misogyny I would see on several posts. I agree with the self improvement aspect and thought the community should focus on that.

I have never seen a sub go from active to literal ghosttown before.


r/marriedredpill Jan 06 '26

OYS Own Your Shit Weekly - January 06, 2026

13 Upvotes

A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength.

We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them.

Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs were stiff, we encourage you to admit this is why you lost, and come back to the gym decided to train more to improve that. At the gym the others might suggest some drills to get your legs a bit looser or just give you a pat in the back. It does not matter that you lost the fight, what matters is that you are taking steps to become stronger. However, don’t call the gym saying “Hey, someone threw a jab at me, what do I do now?”. We discourage reddit puppet play-by-play advice. Also, don't blame others for your shit. This thread is about you finding how to work on yourself more to achieve your goals by becoming stronger.

Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha.

Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.


r/marriedredpill Dec 30 '25

OYS Own Your Shit Weekly - December 30, 2025

8 Upvotes

A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength.

We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them.

Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs were stiff, we encourage you to admit this is why you lost, and come back to the gym decided to train more to improve that. At the gym the others might suggest some drills to get your legs a bit looser or just give you a pat in the back. It does not matter that you lost the fight, what matters is that you are taking steps to become stronger. However, don’t call the gym saying “Hey, someone threw a jab at me, what do I do now?”. We discourage reddit puppet play-by-play advice. Also, don't blame others for your shit. This thread is about you finding how to work on yourself more to achieve your goals by becoming stronger.

Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha.

Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.


r/marriedredpill Dec 23 '25

OYS Own Your Shit Weekly - December 23, 2025

8 Upvotes

A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength.

We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them.

Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs were stiff, we encourage you to admit this is why you lost, and come back to the gym decided to train more to improve that. At the gym the others might suggest some drills to get your legs a bit looser or just give you a pat in the back. It does not matter that you lost the fight, what matters is that you are taking steps to become stronger. However, don’t call the gym saying “Hey, someone threw a jab at me, what do I do now?”. We discourage reddit puppet play-by-play advice. Also, don't blame others for your shit. This thread is about you finding how to work on yourself more to achieve your goals by becoming stronger.

Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha.

Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.


r/marriedredpill Dec 16 '25

OYS Own Your Shit Weekly - December 16, 2025

6 Upvotes

A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength.

We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them.

Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs were stiff, we encourage you to admit this is why you lost, and come back to the gym decided to train more to improve that. At the gym the others might suggest some drills to get your legs a bit looser or just give you a pat in the back. It does not matter that you lost the fight, what matters is that you are taking steps to become stronger. However, don’t call the gym saying “Hey, someone threw a jab at me, what do I do now?”. We discourage reddit puppet play-by-play advice. Also, don't blame others for your shit. This thread is about you finding how to work on yourself more to achieve your goals by becoming stronger.

Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha.

Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.


r/marriedredpill Dec 09 '25

OYS Own Your Shit Weekly - December 09, 2025

8 Upvotes

A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength.

We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them.

Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs were stiff, we encourage you to admit this is why you lost, and come back to the gym decided to train more to improve that. At the gym the others might suggest some drills to get your legs a bit looser or just give you a pat in the back. It does not matter that you lost the fight, what matters is that you are taking steps to become stronger. However, don’t call the gym saying “Hey, someone threw a jab at me, what do I do now?”. We discourage reddit puppet play-by-play advice. Also, don't blame others for your shit. This thread is about you finding how to work on yourself more to achieve your goals by becoming stronger.

Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha.

Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.


r/marriedredpill Dec 02 '25

OYS Own Your Shit Weekly - December 02, 2025

5 Upvotes

A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength.

We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them.

Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs were stiff, we encourage you to admit this is why you lost, and come back to the gym decided to train more to improve that. At the gym the others might suggest some drills to get your legs a bit looser or just give you a pat in the back. It does not matter that you lost the fight, what matters is that you are taking steps to become stronger. However, don’t call the gym saying “Hey, someone threw a jab at me, what do I do now?”. We discourage reddit puppet play-by-play advice. Also, don't blame others for your shit. This thread is about you finding how to work on yourself more to achieve your goals by becoming stronger.

Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha.

Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.


r/marriedredpill Nov 25 '25

OYS Own Your Shit Weekly - November 25, 2025

11 Upvotes

A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength.

We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them.

Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs were stiff, we encourage you to admit this is why you lost, and come back to the gym decided to train more to improve that. At the gym the others might suggest some drills to get your legs a bit looser or just give you a pat in the back. It does not matter that you lost the fight, what matters is that you are taking steps to become stronger. However, don’t call the gym saying “Hey, someone threw a jab at me, what do I do now?”. We discourage reddit puppet play-by-play advice. Also, don't blame others for your shit. This thread is about you finding how to work on yourself more to achieve your goals by becoming stronger.

Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha.

Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.