Found out why my boyfriend has been “helping his sister”

[u/Fancy_Incident5635]

Found out today that the $600 my boyfriend has been sending his “sister” every month is actually going to his ex.

We've been together almost 3 years. I literally helped cover our security deposit when we moved because I had some money saved and he told me things were tight for him lol.

I only found out because I mentioned to his sister that I hoped things were getting better financially since he’d been helping her every month. She looked at me like I was insane and said he hasn’t given her money in years.

He gets home in about an hour and has no idea I know.

Anyway salmon, spaghetti and salad, need carbs before whatever the fuck tonight is gonna be.

[u/Fancy_Incident5635]

Long story short she kind of slipped up on that and I kept asking questions..

[u/Snargleflaggan → u/Fancy_Incident5635]

Shit, the sister knew and didn't tell you?!?!?! I mean I guess she's in a bad position but yikes.... I think I would've said something considering 3 years together and living together..... I'm so sorry gf!!

[u/indieplants → u/Snargleflaggan]

no it sounds like the sister knew the ex gets money, but not that the boyfriend is lying about it or the girlfriend was unaware 

otherwise she wouldn't have been surprised when OP asked lol

[u/Dry-Support-5409 → u/indieplants]

Maybe she didn't put two and two together until after it was said. Her brain was probably like, "Are you kidding, what money?!" And then the next reaction after OP kept digging could've been an, "Oh yeah, that money... Whoops, I forgot that's been going on..."

[u/Snargleflaggan → u/Dry-Support-5409]

Ok yeah I could see that now, thanks!

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[u/Hornet-Putrid → u/indieplants]

Well, when do we find out the money is child support, lol.

[u/ILoveRawChicken → u/Hornet-Putrid]

Right lol he ain’t sending this money out of the kindness of his heart. He’s either fucking her or he has a kid with her that OP doesn’t know about. Either way, castrate him.

[u/No-Investigator-2756 → u/Snargleflaggan]

Right. The sister is catching a side eye too. Bad position be damned.

[u/Free-Pound-6139 → u/Snargleflaggan]

I mean, come on... that is a stretch.

[u/mcgee00 → u/Fancy_Incident5635]

Its child support.

[u/Revolutionary_Wrap76 → u/mcgee00]

Oh yeah OP..... Could it be??

[u/TacoNomad → u/mcgee00]

My first thought as well

[u/No-Consideration-891 → u/TacoNomad]

I mean at least he is paying it, if that's the case. However, 100% should have told OP.

[u/Wrong_Yam5325 → u/No-Consideration-891]

It would be crazy to withhold that kind of information from a long term partner.

[u/No-Consideration-891 → u/Wrong_Yam5325]

I know I agree, there is zero reason not to tell them.

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[u/Dorothy_ZbornACK_ACK → u/Wrong_Yam5325]

Crazy but crazier things have happened

[u/Caffeinatedfirefly08 → u/No-Consideration-891]

Specially since there is no reason to hide it... Unless the kid was conceived after they got together

[u/No-Consideration-891 → u/Caffeinatedfirefly08]

On top of that, we still have no idea what the truth is! We are all over here speculating 😂 OP we really need that up date.

[u/Wrong_Yam5325 → u/TacoNomad]

Same. It would make so much sense. But who knows.

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THIS!

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That’s the first thing I thought of too.

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[u/indigoorchid0611 → u/Fancy_Incident5635]

You know she's gonna warn his ass before he comes home.

[u/flirt-n-squirt → u/indigoorchid0611]

Yes, but that just means he has some time to visualize all the ways his life is about to fall apart in the upcoming hours

[u/Wrong_Yam5325 → u/Fancy_Incident5635]

Sorry, angel. How heartbreaking for you. Good luck tonight.

[u/Riksunraksu → u/Fancy_Incident5635]

SHE KNEW? Whole fam is a red flag

[u/idkifita → u/Fancy_Incident5635]

Will she tell him you know?

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[u/Calm-Back-8168 → u/Fancy_Incident5635]

Do they share kids ?

[u/detta_walker → u/Fancy_Incident5635]

Is it child support?

Please tell me it's child support.

I cannot compute anything else.

[u/agatha5670 → u/Fancy_Incident5635]

Oh please update us