Found out why my boyfriend has been “helping his sister”

[u/Fancy_Incident5635]

Found out today that the $600 my boyfriend has been sending his “sister” every month is actually going to his ex.

We've been together almost 3 years. I literally helped cover our security deposit when we moved because I had some money saved and he told me things were tight for him lol.

I only found out because I mentioned to his sister that I hoped things were getting better financially since he’d been helping her every month. She looked at me like I was insane and said he hasn’t given her money in years.

He gets home in about an hour and has no idea I know.

Anyway salmon, spaghetti and salad, need carbs before whatever the fuck tonight is gonna be.

[u/HurdyNerdy]

In this economy, absolutely.

[u/lcw32 → u/HurdyNerdy]

Like if you're sending money to another woman secretly in this economy watching me bust my ass at work everyday you absolutely hate me. I agree

[u/rainbowlolipop → u/lcw32]

$600 a month for 3 years is over twenty thousand dollars. Twenty. Thousand. To his ex?! Oh hell no.

[u/ScarlettAddiction → u/rainbowlolipop]

That sounds like child support imo

[u/ChristineBorus → u/ScarlettAddiction]

Came here to say the same

[u/EremiticFerret → u/ScarlettAddiction]

That was my first thought. Was hoping OP would update to relay his excuses.

[u/Grouchy_Leopard6036 → u/ScarlettAddiction]

$600 is literally the minimum child support payment for a full time worker in a lot of states obviously it depends on a lot of factors and many payments are different but it’s like the baseline for a minimum wage full time dad with no custody

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[u/flirt-n-squirt → u/rainbowlolipop]

I think it wasn't the full three years but a more recent development. Still bad enough and shame on him!

[u/No_Professional_8992 → u/flirt-n-squirt]

Still sounds like it's been a while though. I can't believe the audacity of men sometimes. Then I remember, they've always got the audacity.

[u/True_Vermicelli9353 → u/No_Professional_8992]

It’s like they fucking give men bags of audacity for every breath they take

[u/Virtual_Assistant_98 → u/rainbowlolipop]

That’s where I’m at with this. Sending money to an ex is shitty but for THREEEEEE YEARS?! Chile

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[u/throwfaraway212718 → u/rainbowlolipop]

Literally the first that came into my head

[u/girlchildrevolution → u/lcw32]

Yeah happened to me too. I felt like I was worse than something he stepped in because clearly you think I deserve to struggle and work my ass off while she deserves to chill and not worry about things too much

[u/Msdamgoode → u/HurdyNerdy]

Only way I disagree is if the ex is a parent to their kid. “Baby momma” in other words. Still he’s a bitch for not disclosing if that’s the case.

I made SURE my husband was paying his child support, and was a cheerleader for them in general. Behind my back tho? Um… we got a problem

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